Are you trying to get your ex girlfriend back but it seems like everything that you do just backfires on you? Have you tried talking to her but she winds up twisting your words around? You’ve tried being nice but that just seems to make her angry? Have you told her you still love her but she doesn’t seem to care? Does it seem like you’re never going to be able to get your ex girlfriend back and you are just about ready to give up?

The problem with all the normal things that you might think would work to get your ex girlfriend back is that basically you’re being too much of a nice guy. Sure, women say that they’re looking for nice guys and being nice is good and helpful when you’re in a relationship but when you’re on the downhill part of a breakup a woman loses respect for a guy that is overly nice and accommodating. There will come a day when being nice will be appreciated but if she just broke up with you it is abnormal for you to be nice to her. After all, who’s nice to someone that’s basically mean to them? Being nice at this stage is just ridiculous.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not telling you to be nasty to her or mean to her. That could definitely drive her away for good. Being mean to your ex will only give her further ammunition to prove her point and make her solidify her decision to break up with you. At least for the moment you should try to be like Switzerland… be neutral. While things are turned upside down you should try to show little or no emotion and keep contact with your ex girlfriend to a minimum. Avoid her at all costs until you have your head back together and resist that urge to call her, text her, email her and definitely don’t show up at her door to try to talk to her.

Once you have your head screwed back on it’s time to get down to business. If you are serious about getting your ex girlfriend back it’s going to take being a bit of a sneak. It’s going to require you to keep what you’re up to a secret. That includes telling your friends and family that you are determined to get your ex girlfriend back or how you plan on doing it. People talk and all it would take is for one of your buddies to share with his girlfriend the fact that you are still in love with your ex and she tells two friend and so on and so on. Next thing you know, your ex knows that you’re up to something. So keep this stuff to yourself.

In order to get your ex girlfriend back you’re going to have to beat her at her own game. You’re going to have to learn what motivates women to change their mind and what emotions you can leverage to bring her around. No amount of talking or convincing is going to change your ex girlfriend’s mind. It is going to have to be an emotional choice on her part. You have heard that women are ruled by their emotions, right? So, logic has no part in this plan and shouldn’t even be considered when you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back.

Talking and being nice should be saved for another day when you actually do have her back. In most cases though, if you can hit the right emotional triggers with a woman she will come back to you with such passion that all the issues from the past that were supposedly the reasons for her dumping you in the first place go right out the window. Most of the time the relationship is started with a clean slate and the really cool part is that you will actually have the upper hand because she is the one that will be coming back to you!

In the end, motivating your ex girlfriend emotionally is the best way to get her to come back to you. It is the quickest and most effective way to bring about that necessary change in your ex and get her to change her mind about your breakup.

Many guys want to know how to succeed with women by being a jerk, not because they themselves are actually jerks, but because they are sick of being the “nice guy” that gets walked all over and never gets to date the type of women that the so-called jerks do. If this sounds familiar to you, then you’ve got to read this.

The trick isn’t actually so much being a jerk as it is eliminating some of your habits that you may perceive as being nice, but women pretty much just see as boring or weak.

Unfortunately, nice guys who play by the rules and do everything as society tells them to do it aren’t very interesting. Think about it; would you want to hang out with a guy that seemed like he was straight off the set of Leave it to Beaver? No!

So why would you expect a woman to be any different? No matter what your mother taught you, you cannot bore a woman into liking you. I know that’s not what you’re trying to do, but the sooner you realize how you’re coming across to women, the better.

To succeed with women by being a jerk is to realize that crossing the line isn’t actually a bad thing. It’s not being a jerk. To a woman, a man who tip toes around her and worships her is not a nice guy. He is just a wimp.

The jerk on the other hand is a guy that tends to excite women. He doesn’t perceive himself to be a bad guy; he’s just honest with what he wants and can be a little blunt, never putting a woman on a pedestal. This is a refreshing change for a woman who is used to having guys suck up to her all day in an obvious ploy to get into her pants.

Do I encourage being a blatant jerk to get with women? No, not really. What I do encourage is that you free your mind. Society and our mothers have taught us all to mislabel things. You are not a jerk for being interesting. And you are not a nice guy for being a boring square.

Shed these misconceptions, and the women will love you for it. Nothing is more refreshing to a woman than a jerk who isn’t afraid to speak his mind around her.

Have you ever wondered why this girl you have a crush on goes out with a selfish and abusive jerk? You would treat her so much better of course but still…she completely ignores you. Why?

This mystery bugs the hell out of almost every guy out there. Most men just can’t figure out what it is that makes women fall for the wrong guys…the bad boys!

So the question is: Why are so many beautiful women attracted to arrogant, abusive and selfish jerks?

It took me many years until I figured this out but now I’ll let you in on this secret.

If you want an answer to why and how bad boys attract so many beautiful women, you have to look through the looking-glass the other way and ask yourself…

Why are those women NOT dating the nice guys who treat them like real princesses?

Obviously, they are dating the arrogant jerks and bad boys … and NOT the guys who are nice to her, pay her lots of compliments, bring flowers and want to take them out on a dinner date.

The first thing you have to realize now is that ‘being BAD’ gets you 10 times more women than ‘being GOOD’. Look around you and have a look at some couples where the woman is really beautiful and attractive.

Her man definitely isn’t the nicey-nice type of guy.

So how do these bad boys do it? What makes them so attractive and sexy to women?

It’s because women want to be with guys who are a challenge and not easy to get. Bad boys and jerks don’t give a damn if a woman likes them or not, whereas the nicey-nice guy is needy, clingy and desperately wants to take her out on a date.

Bad boys are wild, brake rules and do what they want. Women get automatically attracted to such behavior because it is exciting and unpredictable.

Nice guys ALWAYS do the expected and predictable, therefore making themselves boring in the eyes of any woman.

Bad boys are always superior when it comes to attracting and dating the most beautiful women out there. Have a look at some of the female celebrities out there. They can literally choose any guy they want…and who do they end up with?

It’s either an alcoholic rock star, bad boy actor or abusive jerk with tattoos all over his body.

But what attracts women to these guys isn’t their abusive attitude, their arrogant behavior and wife beating tendencies…hell no.

You see, if you were a woman and you had to choose between a nice guy who has nothing else to offer than the classic dates such as going to a restaurant where he pays for everything or a movie where he brings chocolate and flowers … then the woman wants THE OTHER guy there is.

And that, sadly enough, is the bad boys on the block.

You hear so many people say that those kind of guys are the ‘wrong men’ but what else is there?

As a woman, you always choose the man who is wild, rebellious and in love with himself over the nice-nice wimpy guy who would do anything for you.

Think about what class you fall into.

People have been arguing for a long time now about what type of guys girls happen to prefer. Although many people think that girls would rather be with nice guys, that isn’t actually the truth. The majority of nice guys in today’s day and age actually usually fail in trying to attract the girls that they like.

This piece of fact confirms that girls actually prefer bad guys. Keep reading if you want to know why they do and how you can use this piece of knowledge to your ultimate advantage. Read on to discover the killer formula to be a “Bad Boy” and seduce women like there’s no tomorrow…

How To Use The Bad Boy Formula To Seduce Women Like A True Player – 3 Characteristics You Must Emulate Today

Characteristic #1: They exude confidence. Girls tend to prefer bad guys due to the confidence that they exude and due to their cocksure nature. When it comes to self-esteem, bad guys are exceptional and therefore stand out a lot, especially when in comparison with other guys in today’s day and age.

You should already know by now that self-esteem is a highly desirable trait in guys in the eyes of girls. Bad guys happen to exude the kind of self-esteem that girls genuinely love and this is the reason why girls turn into mush next to them in practically no time.

Characteristic #2: They are challenges. Since girls see a challenge in every bad guy that they meet, they end up falling for him because girls love challenges. Nice guys may always be there when a girl is in need of something, but there is no challenge anywhere in their personalities. This is why nice guys never get a girl’s attraction – at least not as quickly as a bad guy can.

To turn into the ultimate bad guy, you have to pose as a challenge for female pleasure. Stop listening to their requests or, if you do listen, reject them straight away. Soon, girls will end up eating out of the palms of your hands.

Characteristic #3: They are forms of interest. Bad guys are entertaining by nature and can make use of this innate entertaining personality to keep girls happy for a long time. Nice guys, on the other hand, are nothing but boring.

Boredom happens to be the number one killer of attraction when it comes to seducing girls. Girls who get bored with what guys are offering them will instantly lose interest in those guys and try to find someone else to focus on for a change.

I bet you are sick of getting rolled over while you see great women end up with what you consider to be “jerks.”

Am I right in assuming you want to know how to stop being the nice guy to women?

On the dating women radio show I co-host, we have a couple strategies for you to end the “nice guy syndrome.”

Before we get into these, let me emphasize that women should be treated with respect, affection and romance over the long haul. This article is NOT a guide for you to learn how to be a jerk to women. However, many “nice guys” suffer from the “too happy to be there” attitude with women and they give up too much of themselves too soon.

It is awesome to be “nice” to your girlfriend, fiance or wife (as long as she is being “nice” to you) but too many guys want to give a complete stranger respect, affection and romance.

I am all about giving respect early on (as long as I get respect back) but she must earn the affection and romance part of the equation.

Which brings me to my first strategy.

ONE: She must earn your affection and romance

So, you are attracted to her. Does that mean that you should fawn all over her with affection, compliments and gifts? How has that worked out for you?

We teach guys on the radio show to be GENTLEMEN. You will hold the door for her, walk on the outside, open the car door, pull out her chair and treat her with respect (as long as she is respecting you back).

You will not, however, tell her how beautiful she is 100 times, you will not give her a gift (candy, flowers and other presents are OUT for the first 10 dates), and you will not tell her how lucky you feel that she is out with you. Ever.

Remember, she is a STRANGER (and yes, that includes a girl that has been your “friend” for awhile, because things change when you date).

Just because you are into her physically, that does not mean you have to give up the farm to her.

Let her earn your affection and romance. You must adopt the attitude that you have a lot to offer.

I bet a lot of people are mystified that you do not have a significant other. They tell you all the time that you would be a great guy for any woman and that the women you are seeing must be “idiots.”

Is that true? I bet you have dated your share of idiots but as you look back at the man in the mirror, did he do too much, too soon, via gifts, compliments and attention before a woman really earned it?

TWO: Slow and steady

Dovetailing on strategy 1, slow and steady will allow you to make her earn you as a boyfriend.

What do I mean by that?

Specifically you are to employ mystery/challenge, let her think you are dating other women, and make her wonder about you when you are not there.

Too many times the “nice guy” is perceived that way because he charges in, announces how beautiful she is, showers her with gifts and attention, and wants to hang out with her all the time.

The woman has no doubt that you want her and you are ready to be her guy.

Problem? They DO NOT respond well to this (as you well know).

“Gee, I really thought this is what I wanted. I have never had a guy treat me this way before but (insert the guy she is dumping you for here) just makes me feel a certain way. I know I am crazy for letting you go. I guess I am crazy.”

Ever hear a variation of the quote above from a woman?

You see, she responds a lot of the times to the “jerk” because he represents a challenge to her. The “jerk” is often a negative challenge in that he does not employ respect, affection or romance and does not last very well over the long term, but he beats your nice guy routine nonetheless.

She does not want to know she has you by date 2.

The key is to be a POSITIVE challenge to her. You will not give her too many compliments (you are allowed 2 per date. You can tell her she looks nice when you pick her up and then tell her you had a fun time when dropping her off).

You will not give gifts. You will not tell her how happy you are to be there. The key is to make her laugh by keeping things light and funny and you will not reveal yourself or your feelings to her.

In fact, you want her to do most of the talking.

The sense that she should have at the end of a date is that she had a great time and laughed a lot but she does not know much about you. She also should have NO idea that you want her for a relationship. Yes, you will be a virtual mystery to her!

In fact, you should be evaluating her for a relationship. Is she worth it? Too many times a guy gets so into a woman physically that he forgets to check if she has integrity, a flexible personality, a giving spirit, a kind nature and is clinically sane (this is the only type of woman to have a long term relationship with).

As you evaluate HER long term potential, let her wonder about you.

You will do that by calling her every 5-9 days per date with NO contact in between. You will end dates while they are still going great. In other words, if you are having a great time, and you are 3 hours in, then end it. Let her anticipate the next date. If you hang out too long with her in the early stages then she becomes to familiar with you. You have to let her get to know you SLOWLY.

You will not go out with her on a Friday or a Saturday night until she asks to go out on those days.

Basically, you want her to think you are seeing other women. If she is the long term type I described above, she will respond positively to competing for you.

Listen, even the nicest girl in the world will EAT YOU ALIVE if she thinks she has you all figured out early on.

As a POSITIVE CHALLENGE, you need to provide her with, well, a CHALLENGE.

Yes, as she “earns” your affection and romance, you will be NICE to her but you will never be a pushover as you probably are now.

If you want to know how to stop being the nice guy to women, then employ the 2 strategies above and you will be well on your way.

Remember guys, she wants you to be nice to her only after she has earned it.

You have probably heard the old adage that nice guys finish last, but this is not true. In my opinion, I think this saying does not really take into account what that moniker actually is. Guys that are easy going are not pushovers or cowards. Being a decent guy does not mean you have to give a girl never-ending compliments or give her flowers every time you celebrate the anniversary of the first time you did something together.

Being a Mr. nice guy does not mean always putting up with her moods and fits. Being a respectable guy does not mean you can never argue with her. And “NO! it does not mean you have to worship her at all times. A lot of people think that these statements make up “the nice guy” mantra, but these more accurately describe pushovers and cowards. Pushovers and cowards never win because these traits are not very appealing.

Take a second and consider a man you are aware of who you would describe as nice and you also think a lot of. Would you say he is a pushover? I would bet that he is not a pushover because people normally do not think much of pushovers. The nice guys we think a lot of– usually share a lot of characteristics people find appealing.

The most important characteristic is that they have self-respect. They stand up for themselves and do not back down if someone is pushing them. They believe in the “golden rule” and will treat people the way they are treated. They have a lot of self-assurance and treat people kindly. They know what they believe in, but they will give others a chance to state what they believe in too. I can honestly say that girls find these characteristics in a man extremely alluring more than any other trait.

My thought is, men who are confident are above and beyond the most alluring men of all. Men who express such confidence are nice guys through and through. Guys who push others around do not have any confidence at all. They might appear to be self-assured; however it is commonly known that guys who are mean do not have any self-respect.

Of course, these kind of guys will attract certain ladies; however most women are looking for quality guys, not jerks. All of us know a gorgeous woman who has fallen for a mean guy and we want to let her know there are better guys out  there for her. However, do we really know this for a fact?

The fact is she chose to be with him, didn’t she? If a girl chooses to be with a man who is mean, or gets angry easily or has another issue that attracts her to him, she must have some issues of her own that she is unable to deal with. Nice guys are desirable to nice girls. There is nothing more to say about the subject.

Keep this in mind… if your are going thru a break up or the next time you are looking for someone to date. If you are a nice guy, claim the title with confidence and pride. If a girl chooses to date one of those bad boys instead of you, be happy that she didn’t choose you.

Do you want women to perceive you as a nice guy or a bad boy? The common notion behind nice guys is that they only end up as friends with women while the bad boys get the woman that they desire and end up treating them badly. You should know that being a nice guy isn't always a bad thing.

If you've heard the phrase "nice guys finish last" and are afraid of being a nice guy, then you should know that you can still have success with women even if you are a nice guy. Being a nice guy doesn't necessarily mean that you are a wuss. A wuss is a man who lets a woman walk all over them and does whatever they want with you.

Do you need approval from a woman whenever you do something for them? If so, then you are probably a wuss. You have to get out of the mind state that women want you to do things for them. Women are fully capable of doing a lot of things and you don't have to always kiss up to them and in front of them for their approval.

Men who are thought of as bad boys really don't need approval from women. They do whatever they want and they set their own rules on their own terms. Some men are able to pull this off but if you're someone who doesn't do things on their own terms, you shouldn't try to do it because you may not come off as being genuine with it.

One thing that you should know about dating is that you don't have to be "bad" in order to attract women. All you need to do is learn what turns women on and what they like. You can have success with women if you know what turns them on – and you should know that you don't have to be "bad" or anything to do so.

Attracting women and being "bad" are 2 totally different things. Women like a strong men and a man who doesn't need to be told what to do. So if you can learn these things, you'll be able to have success with women also.

One great way to learn how to be successful with women is by practicing in front of a mirror. Get out a mirror and practice saying your lines in it. Take a good look at yourself and ask yourself some questions that you would ask a woman. Analyze how you look in the mirror and know that this is how you are going to look also when you speak to a woman.

Know that you don't have to be a bad boy in order to attract women. The mirror technique is very useful and will allow you to get comfortable with yourself. If you can get comfortable with yourself, then more than likely a woman will be able to get comfortable with you also. Keep this in mind when dating.

Good luck with dating and attracting women.

Don’t get me wrong — nice guys are nice but they aren’t really the luckiest guys in the world. When you’re nice, you’re more like a friend material. It’s harsh but true. The nicer you are, the more girls would think that you’re just trying to be friendly, or that you have a weaker personality or worse you’re probably gay — you lack excitement, mystery and intrigue — and these are the top things that totally attracts a girl big time. So before you start trying to have an image make-over, remember that it all starts with a right mindset and proper attitude. Below are the top things that can help you on how to be more than just a nice guy — and start flirting like a babe magnet in no time:

• Practice how to flirt. Knowing how to flirt is a basic necessity if you want to survive the world of dating and seduction. There are about another hundred guys out there who are also vying to get lucky with a hot babe tonight so it’s a vital point if you stand out from the rest and make a good impression.
• Always be surrounded with women. May they may be your girl friends or relatives or co workers or neighbors — just get yourself surrounded with women as much as you can. You can pick up a lot of pointers from there alone — how they speak, how they react and how you can be able to handle it.
• Go ahead and say hi. Is your hot neighbor happen to be walking down the street towards you? Aside from her usual sweet hello and your polite nod, why not say hi right back and try to strike a conversation — she would definitely find it different of you but at least she will start to notice.
• Look and smell your best. Whether you’re just going out to pick up some groceries or the laundry, a quick trip to the salon or renting a few DVDs right down the street, it’s important that you take responsibility about proper grooming. Women look at the physical attributes of a man first of all that’s why you should start valuing hygiene.
• Build self-confidence. Well, let’s get technical — you are literally going to get lost in the world of flirting and seduction if you don’t have confidence. Confidence can bring you a long way and you will be more attractive and appealing if you appear at ease and comfortable about being yourself. Start practicing on that soon.

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Coming home from a night out on the town alone is just not all that fun. You went to several different bars, each of them a great place to meet a girl, dance, and then take her back to your place. You met and talked to several good looking women and one was even a stunner. They seemed to be in to you, so why are you coming home alone?

If this keeps up, you will be waking up alone most mornings. You really don’t understand why this happens. I mean, after all you are a nice guy and you should be able to get a nice, or not so nice, girl to come back over to your place. Instead you see all the bad boys treating girls like dirt and then taking them home. It would be nice if you could talk your way into a girl’s bed like they can. What do they know that you don’t?

The list of ways to get a girl in bed with you is long. Here are three secrets you need to know and use. If you can use these three techniques correctly, you will have women eating out of your hand and begging you to take them home. These are the ways the “bad boys” get the girl while you as the nice guy don’t.

Treat her Bad

Now I don’t mean really treat her bad. You have to understand that deep down inside women are emotional creatures. You have to learn to give her lots of emotions. This is where “nice guys” mess up. You can’t just make her feel good. You need to do more than make her laugh. You have to run her through the entire range of emotions. You need to make feel happy, sad, and angry. She needs to feel intrigued and connected to you.

It is good when she laughs, but don’t stop there. Make fun of her. Call her names, nothing too bad though. You want her to get heated up. That is when she starts touching you. When she does, push her away, gently of course. When she starts calling you names, you know it is working. Whatever you do, do not give in. Do not say “I was joking.” Just let it be and don’t feel sorry. You are now one-third of the way in.

Don’t Get Logical

If you have done what you are supposed to do, by now she is very emotional. She is probably going from happy and laughing to upset and hitting you. This is good. Now comes the tricky part. She is going to test you. She is going to try to get logical on you. She is going to try to find out what your game is. You will hear questions like “Are you a player?” or “I bet you say this to all the girls.”

Do not give in a try to give a logical answer. When you try to answer logically, women will be turned off. It sounds ridiculous, but it’s the truth. They get logical, but if you try to answer them seriously, they lose interest.

20 Questions

This is the final stage. Once you pass this one she is yours. She is going to ask you questions. I have never met a woman that did not do this. I think it is built in to their psyche. She is attracted to you but she knows nothing about you. Questions are her way to find out more about you. You have to open up here and try to form a connection. The great news is that you can do the same thing. Ask her questions and look for things you have in common. This will help her form a deeper bond to you. She needs to feel this is real so through in ways that you are vulnerable. Make it up if you have to. A woman wants to know that you are not perfect.

Don’t be a nice guy. This is obvious. Girls hate nice guys. You know this. Yet, some guys can’t help but be nice. But what is the root of this behavior? Is this the best way if you want to know how to impress a girl?

No.

Why?

Because being a nice guy really isn’t being a nice guy. It’s being an afraid guy. A nice guy only says “safe” things. Not because he’s worried about her feelings, but because he’s terrified of being rejected. This guy is always walking on eggshells, because getting rejected is the absolute worse thing that can happen.

The next step up is the jerk. This guy is also terrified of being rejected. But he pushes out instead of pulls back. He steps on other peoples toes to scare them away, so they don’t step on his. He’s the bully that runs away crying as soon as he meets somebody bigger than him.

Now, just like there’s a few girls that like softies, there’s a few girls that like jerks. Not really “like” them, but somehow feel attracted to them.

Why? They make them feel safe. As jerky as they are, they can at least protect her. If she goes out with a more sensitive guy, she still may feel in danger. That guy may not fight for her.

But that jerk certainly will. Trouble with him is that he’s not kind.

Enter the Kind Guy.

Kindness is not niceness. Kindness is when you are comfortable in your own skin. You don’t need to push people around.

In evolutionary psychology, they call this the “dove-hawk” strategy. Friendly and passive until they’re in danger, then they destroy everything in their path.

Nice guys are always doves. Easy to walk all over. Safe, but not exciting.

Jerks are hawks. Always fighting, always getting in people’s faces, always ending up in jail.

But kind guys are first doves, so long as everybody is polite. But they quickly turn into hawks if they need to. Speak softly and carry a big stick. Iron fist in a velvet glove.

Girls absolutely LOVE guys like this. They are kind, they have an ultra strong frame, and they can throw down when they need to.

It’s kind of a paradox. When you develop the “kind guy” attitude, people will sense that under that calm exterior is a warrior underneath. And if they awaken that warrior, it will spell certain doom.

On the other hand, having a “kind guy” on your side is the best of both possible worlds.

That’s why if you want to impress a girl, developing a “kind guy” attitude is the surest way to her heart, and in between her sheets.