You have probably heard the old adage that nice guys finish last, but this is not true. In my opinion, I think this saying does not really take into account what that moniker actually is. Guys that are easy going are not pushovers or cowards. Being a decent guy does not mean you have to give a girl never-ending compliments or give her flowers every time you celebrate the anniversary of the first time you did something together.
Being a Mr. nice guy does not mean always putting up with her moods and fits. Being a respectable guy does not mean you can never argue with her. And “NO! it does not mean you have to worship her at all times. A lot of people think that these statements make up “the nice guy” mantra, but these more accurately describe pushovers and cowards. Pushovers and cowards never win because these traits are not very appealing.
Take a second and consider a man you are aware of who you would describe as nice and you also think a lot of. Would you say he is a pushover? I would bet that he is not a pushover because people normally do not think much of pushovers. The nice guys we think a lot of– usually share a lot of characteristics people find appealing.
The most important characteristic is that they have self-respect. They stand up for themselves and do not back down if someone is pushing them. They believe in the “golden rule” and will treat people the way they are treated. They have a lot of self-assurance and treat people kindly. They know what they believe in, but they will give others a chance to state what they believe in too. I can honestly say that girls find these characteristics in a man extremely alluring more than any other trait.
My thought is, men who are confident are above and beyond the most alluring men of all. Men who express such confidence are nice guys through and through. Guys who push others around do not have any confidence at all. They might appear to be self-assured; however it is commonly known that guys who are mean do not have any self-respect.
Of course, these kind of guys will attract certain ladies; however most women are looking for quality guys, not jerks. All of us know a gorgeous woman who has fallen for a mean guy and we want to let her know there are better guys out there for her. However, do we really know this for a fact?
The fact is she chose to be with him, didn’t she? If a girl chooses to be with a man who is mean, or gets angry easily or has another issue that attracts her to him, she must have some issues of her own that she is unable to deal with. Nice guys are desirable to nice girls. There is nothing more to say about the subject.
Keep this in mind… if your are going thru a break up or the next time you are looking for someone to date. If you are a nice guy, claim the title with confidence and pride. If a girl chooses to date one of those bad boys instead of you, be happy that she didn’t choose you.
