Things Narcissist Say

Below is a list of things a narcissist might say to anyone – Friends, Family or even their own Children.

“After all the money I have lent you”

To change the subject of the argument, this is to make you feel guilty and put the ball back in their court. How can you argue with this wonderful person who lends you money. When in this situation, remember what the original argument was about and do not get side tracked from it. Say “No, you’re going off the point now, I’m talking about….”

“After everything I have done for you”

Again, if the narcissist feels like they are losing the argument they will change the subject to a time when you needed them… “After all I have done for you, when you needed a place to stay, when you needed a lift, when you needed that favour” This will be completely off the subject but if you let them you will end up arguing about it and ultimately apologising for your disrespectful behaviour.

“You don’t RESPECT me”

This is a very common one, narcissist’s think they deserve respect regardless to how they behave. If you answer them back, If you don’t do as your told, If you look at them the wrong way, If you are disrespectful! A narcissist will even start an argument and when you try and defend yourself they will always throw in the ‘RESPECT’ card. Just remember, nobody can demand respect, respect has to be earned!

“You never say thank you / They never say thank you”

Chances are you say thank you all the time, more so than most people. The thing is narcissist’s expect recognition for everything they do, and I mean everything. Don’t think for one minute that they are doing it out of the goodness of their hearts. You had better say “Thank You” – or else!

“You will regret doing/saying that one day”

Another guilt trip, you probably didn’t say anything bad at all. Just remember though, unless they are talking about murder, bank robbery or drinking a bottle of vodka a day, chances are you WON’T regret doing it one day.

“You will be sorry once I am gone”

This is an awful guilt trip, often used on siblings to get in the final word. If the narcissist is losing the argument or feels like they are backed into a corner (usually from their own doing) they will go to any length to get out of it. Reminding you of the fact that one day they will die and you will remember all the horrible things you did to them. These tactics are often used on young siblings, that is when they have the most impact and are the most upsetting. I mean why would any normal person want to say that to a 13 year old!

“Stop being so serious / You can’t take a joke”

Usually when a narcissist has insulted you and you have taken offence, NO it really wasn’t meant as a joke, it was meant to hurt your feelings, but when you get upset about it you can’t take a joke. It is actually narcissist’s who can’t take a joke. When it happens, bite your tongue, do not give them the satisfaction of letting them know you are bothered. After all, an argument is what they are really after!

“What will people say? / What will people think?”

Most narcissist’s are obsessed with the image they portray of themselves and their family to other people. As a narcissist’s child you had better watch what you say or do that could tarnish that image! This is called ‘False Self’. The real narcissist (how you know them), and the ‘False Self’ (how everyone else knows them). Because everyone thinks this person is kind, loving and caring and takes such good care of their children whenever you try to say otherwise nobody believes you!

“You can’t do that… You can’t wear that… Because I said so… That’s why”

Narcissist’s are very controlling. Whenever questioned as to why you can’t do what they are telling you you can’t do, you will get answers like “Because I said so”, “That’s Why”,”Because I’m the Mother!” Normal people will give reasons why they are not allowing you to do something, but when the reason is to enforce power or be awkward, these are the answers you can get. Try using reverse psychology, if you want to wear the red coat, say you want to wear the white one. If you want them to visit on Saturday say, “you can come round any day except Saturday” chances are on Saturday they will be knocking on your door.

“This is my house”

This is simply showing you who is boss! You might be their child, and live in the house but let’s make it clear, this is not your house. “Do you pay the mortgage, the bills, the phone bill, TV licence, Council tax? NO! So this is my house, when you do you can call it your house!” But mum, I’m only 11 years old.

“They’re just jealous”

Narcissist’s are very jealous people, they are jealous of people who are better looking, people with more money, better car, better house. So in turn they think everyone else is like them… Not true, most people couldn’t care less and are happy for other peoples hard work or good fortune. They certainly aren’t jealous of that overpriced £800 ring you just purchased from the jewellery channel.

“Have you seen what he/she is wearing”

Picking fault with other people is a good way to make the narcissist feel better about themselves, snide remarks about peoples clothes, makeup, weight etc… Chances are you’re no oil painting yourself you know!

“I’ve got a headache too, I had a terrible night too, I’ve got a sore throat too”

You can never be ill when a narcissist is around, they will always be far worse. If you have a cold, they have the flu, you have a headache, they have a migraine, you have a sore throat, they have tonsillitis. God only knows what would happen if you chopped your arm off!

“Have you seen how dirty their house is”

Chances are the narcissist’s house will be spotless, not a spec of dirt anywhere, show home standard. They probably even have a cleaning day, yes that’s right a whole day where they will clean their house from top to bottom every week. How can you compete with that, no wonder your house isn’t up to scratch. But come on, would you really want to be that sad!

“I love you, but I don’t like you right now”

This is a narcissist’s way of saying “you have got some making up to do”, you had better be on your best behaviour and not be disrespectful, and don’t forget that all important apology. Maybe in a week or so the house will get back to normal, well until the next tantrum anyway!

“I love you more than you could know / I love you so much”

“What?” I hear you say, “Do narcissist’s really say those words”, well yes of cause they do… When they are lying or drunk! A narcissist will often mimic other peoples emotions, love is one of them, as they do not feel love it would most certainly be a lie, so these words are very difficult for them to say. They do come out a lot easier when they have had a few sherbets though.

“It’s not as good / nice / tasty / expensive as mine”

That new ring you have purchased, painting in the sitting room, Sunday dinner you have slaved over all morning… “Yes it was lovely, but I prefer the one I did a few weeks ago” Wow, look at that, a compliment and insult in the same sentence!

“Have you seen my new coat / ring / dress… It cost this much!”

We all know these people “Do you like my new dress for so and so’s wedding, It was £500 you know, I had the personal shopper at the store help me pick it out”. Narcissist’s think as they think, that you will be jealous and envious of them, the truth is no one likes a bragger, to get right up their nose say something like “oh yes that’s lovely, but I don’t think that colour suits your skin tone”.

“I have just paid for that for you / bought you your dinner”

Narcissist’s will always throw situations where they paid for something back in your face, and they NEVER forget. A dinner date, birthday lunch, some food shopping because you are short that month. The truth is they don’t do it to be kind as any parent would, they do it because it gives them ammunition for the next argument. My advise is NEVER, EVER lend or accept money as a gift from a narcissist, they will always have a hold on you and will ALWAYS use it against you in future disputes!

“They are just copying off me”

Narcissist’s can be very petty and they really do think that people copy off them. The new dress the lady down the street was wearing is the same as theirs… They must have copied. Or maybe they just went into the same store!

“Just say if you don’t want me to visit, I won’t mind”

This is a good way for the narcissist to reinforce the fact that they are invited to your home. The truth is, they will mind, they will mind a lot. Think very carefully before you say “I am very busy, I would prefer it if you came round tomorrow” This will not go down well and could result in a weeks worth of sulking!

“I’m not inviting them… they aren’t family!”

This for me was always one I could never understand, a close niece, or a ‘special’ friend of the narcissist’s for some reason might be alone on Christmas day or any other special occasion could just be cast aside and not invited because it’s ‘Family Only’. Just goes to show the narcissist has no empathy for others, even the people most close to them!

“I don’t deserve this / I don’t need this right now”

Chances are the narcissist has sparked up yet another petty argument, when you retaliate they turn it round by saying “I don’t deserve this” etc.. This is just another tactic to make you feel guilty and apologise yet again for something you haven’t done.

“Don’t speak to me like that”

Generally this is because you have retaliated to something they said to you first, well it works both ways. Don’t speak to me like that and I won’t speak to you like that back!

“It’s not what you say, it’s the tone of your voice”

This is a form of projection, it is actually narcissist’s that use voice tone to change the way things were said, they can make something you said sound as horrible as they want by changing the tone of their voice. This can be very frustrating when they are telling on you to your enabling father, making it sound 20 times worse than it really was. Oh here we go again, looks like I’m going to owe her another apology!

“She is not just my friend, she’s my special friend, we’re more like sisters”

Narcissist’s will only have a few friends, or maybe only one, but that friend will be a special friend, one that is like a sister. That way the narcissist can make her friend more important than yours. “Oh so and so might be your friend but bla bla is a special friend” Ultimately making your friend seem less important than hers.

“Oh I can’t remember, it was a long time ago / I’ve had a few sleeps since then”

Narcissist’s are like elephants, they NEVER forget. So to be told “I can’t remember” will be an out and out lie. Chances are you have asked them for their advise and as they will get nothing in return they are not willing to tell you or you have brought up something from the past that touches a nerve, it is easier for them to tell you they have forgotten than to have to explain their actions.

“They aren’t really ill, they are just putting it on”

Narcissist’s will never have sympathy for anyone, they just don’t have them emotions. Anyone who is ill, and has a day off work will be faking. When the shoe is on the other foot though the narcissist wants all the sympathy in the world. If you want to stay in their good books you had better ask them how they are doing, maybe a get well soon card will help!

“It’s not my fault”

Narcissist’s will never admit anything was their fault, even when they are backed into a corner they will say something like “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings, but it wasn’t meant to come across like that, it’s not my fault, your just over-sensitive”. The truth is, it probably was their fault, the easiest thing and the thing that will bother them the most is if you do not react, the reaction is what they are after.

“I swear on your life that’s how it happened”

This is generally a way of reinforcing a lie, most normal people would never swear on their children’s lives if something is not true, if at all. Not a narcissist though, swearing on peoples lives is the ultimate way to say “see, what I told you is true, it has to be I swore on your lives” This to me is a very disturbing act!

“I think you have made that up”

Ultimately this is the same as calling you a liar to your face. It is very annoying when someone tells you you are making something up when it is true, if you were a narcissist you would just swear on someone’s life, but as you don’t have that luxury you spend countless hours trying to explain why what you are saying is true. narcissist’s are by nature lairs, really good ones at that, but by projecting this onto you they are making you sound like the unstable one for making up stories!

“You have got such a good imagination / stop exaggerating”

Again something narcissist’s are very good at is making you sound crazy, narcissist’s can twist things into something they are not and make you believe it is all in your mind. This is called ‘gaslighting’ and can be very damaging and destructive abuse.

“I can’t remember doing/saying that”

Narcissist’s are very good at not facing up to something that was their fault, once confronted it can be very frustrating when they deny all knowledge it ever happened. Just remember, they remembered the £20 worth of shopping they bought you last year so chances are they remember saying that!

“I’m never wrong”

Come on, no one is ‘Never Wrong’, that saying just speaks for itself!

“What are you getting upset for”

The narcissist has just insulted you yet again with some snide remark, narcissist’s are emotional vampires and will try to upset you every chance they get. By asking you “What are you getting upset for” they are making the matter trivial, which it probably isn’t.

“Act your age”

This is another form of projection, usually it is the narcissist that is immature but by telling you to act your age it ‘projects’ it onto you. They will have you thinking ‘how did they turn that on to me’, very clever I know!

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Have you ever had the experience of seeing a man drift away from you because “he wasn’t ready for a relationship,” only to find soon after that he’s out dating other women?

The things men say vary – he can say that he’s not ready to be in a relationship, or he can say that he needs to be alone. Whatever the case, it seems that many men don’t really mean what they way – and it infuriates many, many great women all over the dating game.

Probably more than infuriating, it’s baffling. Why do men say one thing and do another? Are they worthless jerks who can’t commit? Or maybe they really don’t know what they want?

Actually, a man and a woman can say the exact same things but mean differently. For instance, when you say, “I’d like to stay home and relax,” then you’re probably thinking of doing your nails, checking out your to-do list, and maybe watch TV. But when a man says “I’d like to stay home and relax,” he’ll probably watch sports, drink beer, play video games, and order pizza for delivery.

So what exactly do men mean when they say, “I’m not ready for a relationship?”

They actually mean something along the lines of “I’m looking to be in a relationship with a woman who’s everything I want her to be – independent, easygoing, fun, and level-headed. You can be this woman, but you don’t have these qualities yet – and I’m not really interested in having to teach you all that.”

Yep – they simply don’t think that you’re the one for them.

So why don’t they just tell you?

Simple – they’re looking for a woman who already has those qualities. They don’t like having to teach you every little thing about how to be the woman of their dreams.

Let’s face it. If you were looking for a bodyguard, would you hire someone who told you, “Sure, I can be a bodyguard. But can you give me a little time to learn the basics?” Of course not – you’d much rather hire a bodyguard who already knew what to do.

Same goes with men. The better ones out there are looking for a woman who could make their life a lot more fun and enjoyable, without having to teach them anything. They’re out there looking for a “cool” girl.

And you can be a “cool” girl if you know exactly what men want – and it’s not just about sex, either.

A guy will find it a lot easier to love a woman who they can feel a deep emotional attraction to, in addition to the physical attraction. Remember – relationships based on physical attraction don’t last long, but relationships founded on strong emotional connections last a lifetime.

In other words, it’s in the chemistry. If you look inside yourself, getting rid of any bad qualities while fostering good ones, then you’ll be opening yourself up to relationships with the better men out there.

Some of these things may have been said during heated arguments but their effects are always the same. They are destructive to your relationship.

So if you want to make sure that you do not intentionally say things that will hurt your man’s feelings and ultimately tear your love apart, then you have to make sure that you are not saying any of these thirty hateful things to your man:

1. I hate you so much.

2. I don’t even know why we are together.

3. You make me sick.

4. You are nothing but a sperm donor.

5. You are not good for anything.

6. You are not man enough to handle me.

7. Your friend is much better looking than you.

8. You are a loser.

9. You should be ashamed of yourself.

10. You can’t do anything to me.

11. What are you going to do about it.

12. I don’t see any ring on my finger. You don’t own me, so I can come and go as I please.

13. I hate your parents.

14. Give me some space. You are smothering me.

15. I don’t need you any more. You are not doing anything for me.

16. Your friends are doing much better than you.

17. You are so dumb.

18. I get bored easily talking to you.

19. You have nothing to offer me, so bug off.

20. You can’t stop me from spending time with my male friends.

21. You are a big fat slob.

22. Stop being a cry baby.

23. You can’t satisfy me in bed, so what good are you to me.

24. You will never see your kid again.

25. I will make you suffer.

26. Get out of my sight.

27. I pay all the bills in this house. What do you do?

28. It is my house and I can do whatever I please.

29. I can’t stand looking at you. You disgust me.

30. You are not a man. I know a real man when I see him.

Words have the power to mend a relationship or tear it apart. If you care about building a happy and fulfilling romantic relationship with your man, then you have to find a way to start using kinder, gentler words when you talk to him — even when he has done something that made you angry. When it comes to men, words hurt more than a slap in the face.

How do you feel when you are alone? Are you self-conscious and painfully aware that you are friendless? Do you imagine people are wondering why you are just standing there by yourself? Do your attempts to look like a thoughtful, independent professional-rather than a dateless wonder, seem artificial and make you cringe? Perhaps the following true stories will change the way you approach uncomfortable moments.

On the eve of my twelfth birthday, while on a glorious Florida vacation, my oldest brother, Jim, observed me at the local teen club staring at my toes and writhing in self conscious agony. I, unfortunately, was completely ignored by the rest of the joyful group of kids.

He asked, “What’s the matter, Fatsinello?” (I was so skinny that calling me Fats was a big brother joke.) Ha Ha.

With a sigh, I replied, “Nothing.”

Jim, with his typical insight, said, “Go find the loneliest looking person in the room, just walk up to them and say “Hi.” He nodded in the direction of a young girl sipping a Coke at a distant table.

“Go say Hi,” he commanded.

The walk to her table was heart pounding in anticipation of total public humiliation, having been set-up a million times before by my three brothers for their comedic entertainment.

The girl starred at me like a frightened rabbit and her rigid head twisted. I chocked out a lame,”Hi.”

Like a double rainbow after a dark storm, her smile was gorgeous. Her shoulders dropped, she laughed and gushed how she did not know anyone here. I glanced back at Jim, who had on his smug told-you-so expression, but he, too, seemed pleased. The girl and I were best friends for the duration of my Florida vacation and because of her, I had so much fun. With a friend by my side, I came alive, was funnier, more daring, danced at the club and even allowed myself to be semi-hypnotized by the visiting magician.

I had another opportunity to try the “Just say Hi” technique. I was working for Emmy award winning Alexander Singer as his assistant for a Director’s Dialogue held at the Director’s Guild in Los Angeles. My job consisted of helping during the meetings and nervously inviting directors including Warren Beatty to attend the meetings. I also received a special perk – a single ticket to a workshop on the Queen Mary ocean liner.

I arrived at seven in the morning hoping that I would be discovered by a ship full of directors. I listened to several lectures and watched a few movies and then all the attendees met in the large dining room for lunch. Nearly all the people were men and seemed to know each other well. They quickly grouped together and filled up the tables. I felt self-conscious and a bit like the last one standing during musical chairs. Then, I saw a pretty woman sitting alone at a table close to the podium and I remembered “Just say Hi.” She was staring at her place setting and seemed lost in private thought.

“Hi,” I offered.

Like awakened, she looked up at me. She was exotically beautiful and her black silky hair shifted as she turned her head. Her slight smile was welcoming and gave me permission to join her. After thirty minutes I had fully recovered from my “last man standing” crisis and she and I chatted easily and intimately as often only two strangers can. She began to reveal to me her concern for her ailing father and she spoke of “Jack” several times. I nodded compassionately, still faking my way since I had no real connection to anyone in the room.

Then the guest speaker was introduced and walked slowly to the podium. He wore a navy blue velour sweat suit and seemed frail and bony. He spoke about his father, Walter, and the experiences of a lifetime of movie making. Many times, John Huston stopped to cough and try to catch his breath. But he would stand up tall and begin again. The audience hung on his every word and the applause was deafening quickly followed by a standing ovation. Mr. Huston waved goodbye and escaped the crowds of directors that swarmed near him to touch his tall frame or shake his trembling hand.

“Come on, let’s get out of here,” my new friend said.

I followed her tall slender frame down the long corridors deep in the Queen Mary’s private floors, away from the noise and crowd with no clue where we were going. She swung open a door to a finely appointed stateroom, where our speaker John Huston sat on the couch, his jacket unzipped to reveal a thin white t-shirt. I instantly knew whom she had been talking about for the past hour. Simultaneously, I broke the spike of my high heel and stumbled into the stateroom. Always one to make a great entrance, I have learned to laugh easily and amuse myself with my otherwise embarrassing moments. We all laughed together as I held up my broken heel.

“Give it to me,” said the deep gravelly voice.

Mr. Huston reached out his large hand for my shoe. Here I am, in John Huston’s stateroom with his beautiful daughter, Anjelica and the greatest director of our time is fiddling with my shoe. He coughed harder and longer now that he was in private quarters. Anjelica’s face showed her every emotion of concern, adoration and heartbreak as her father gasped for his breath. I briefly wondered what an elegant lady like this saw in Jack Nicholson, knowing little about him then except his bad press and the sadness that mentioning his name still caused her. The senior Huston would quickly regroup after his coughing, begin teasing us, sparring, alternating critical comments with show-off funny jabs, harsh in a way that we laughingly ignored and simply enjoyed him. I was missing the workshop but I could have cared less. Amazingly, after several poundings on the coffee table, John Huston even fixed my shoe. Eventually, Mr. Huston said he needed to rest and Anjelica whispered she would see me later.

I joined the group of directors and media in the next workshop. What would any of them have given to be invited into the private world of super star Anjelica Huston and her famous father? To this day, I am surprised that I was. No directors discovered me that day, but I discovered a fascinating man and his daughter. I also learned that when shyness or self-conscious feelings threaten to overwhelm you, just say “Hi” and a new world may open up before you.

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Saying thank you to people when they have done something for you is not just part of good manners, it is a part of having a positive attitude. In the Philippines where Tagalog is widely spoken, the word for “thank you” is “salamat” while the way to say “thank you very much” is “maraming salamat.” After someone says thank you, the expected response is often “you are welcome.” In Filipino the words “walang anuman” is the way of telling someone: you are welcome.

When the ending “po,” “opo,” or the endings “ho,” or “oho” are attached at the end of a word or phrase then this is an indication that the speaker is being respectful. As a quick example let’s look at the polite way of saying “thank you” mentioned earlier. Normally, one can say “salamat” and this means “thank you.” But, when the speaker says “salamat po” or “salamat ho” then the endings show that he or she is being respectful. You will often hear such endings being added to words. The response “you are welcome,” can also be made more polite and respectful by saying “walang anuman po” instead of the aforementioned “walang anuman.” The ending “ho” can also be added to show respect when saying “you’re welcome.”

When referring to things, here are some examples that can be used to say thank you. If you said “salamat sa zapatos” this this means that you are thankful for the shoes. Note that the Tagalog language has words that were borrowed from other languages therefore the word zapatos is the Spanish word for shoes. The expression “salamat sa tuwalya” is used when you want to say thanks for the towel. Likewise, the word tuwalya used in Tagalog is very similar to the Spanish word “toalla” which means towel.

Depending on the situation and on the circumstance you could hear expressions such as “salamat sa iyong suporta” which means “thank you for your support.” If you asked someone for directions or received some helpful information you might say “salamat sa tulong!” which means “thanks for your help.” Foreigners and travelers should know and become familiar with as many of the expressions, as possible, that are used by locals. Ideally, a visitor should try to learn as much as possible about the culture, tradition and language.

Showing gratitude is a good trait and a sign of good manners. By saying thank you and expressing our appreciation we can let others know that we are grateful. In Tagalog the word “salamat” is used to say “thank you” with the phrases “salamat po” or “salamat ho” being the more respectful forms. In response, someone might say “walang anuman” or “walang anuman po” with the latter being the more respectful way of saying “you are welcome.”

Asking a girl out is creepy enough; what about if you’re about to ask her to sleep with you? If thinking about it gives you the creeps then by all means, relax and listen to this – it’s not next to impossible to ask a girl to sleep with you and make her say “yes”. Technically, you wouldn’t even get to the “asking” part. If you’ve build good sexual tension and flirted well and got the both of you in that comfortable level, then you have great chances to have sex with her tonight. Be positive for a change and put a little optimism in your life – you’ll need that if you’re going to be involved with a woman. So below are the five seduction tricks she’ll definitely find irresistible and for you to finally make her say “yes” to sleep with you at last:

• Start early and make the first move. That means right after you’ve picked her up or during the first few minutes of getting introduced to each other, you need to start building sexual tension. Starting early build more anticipation and more thrills during your little flirting together. Show her you find her interesting and that you’re totally smitten now – the early bird always wins him the best worms.
• Send her mixed signals as well. Let’s do it like this: two steps forward, one step backward – flirt with her big time and then whisper something to another girl’s ear. Tell her she’s pretty and then argue on her opinions. Get her number and then tell her you need to disappear for a while. Keep her guessing. It keeps her intrigued more.
• Get her “intellectually stimulated”. One way to a girl’s heart is through interesting conversations. Ever wondered why most women would have such soft spots for the smart guy? It’s because if you know how to handle the conversation, it makes you look more interesting, masculine and intriguing – getting her intellectually stimulated gives you a greater chance to get her to bed – soon.
• Don’t stop flirting yet. When you’ve started you make-out session and you’re so positive now that she’d definitely hit the sheets with, don’t lose your cool and get overtly excited for dessert. Keep flirting, keep the pace and don’t lose focus. We need to be totally sure now, don’t we?
• Lead the way.  Don’t ask her to sleep with you – lead the way. Aside from avoiding the dread of her impeding doom of saying no, leading the way is so much more romantic and thrilling. It’s like not giving her any options – most women love that. So when you’re both in the fit of passions, don’t stop – you’re almost there in paradise.

Getting your woman to agree to anal sex can be a very tough nut to crack, especially if she has not tried before or she had a bad experience in the past. If you wish to bring your sex life to a new level, then anal sex can be something worth considering. How can you get your woman to agree to anal sex without much trouble? Read this article to find out now!

First of all, you have to know what she’s thinking. If she had a bad experience, then make sure that she voiced it out. Only then will you be able to offer a solution. Make it known to her that if she feels any pain during the intercourse, you will stop immediately. If she is disgusted at the idea, then you may want to let her know that many couples had tried that before and did enjoy the process. If she is worried about hygiene, then sure you have her anus cleaned. This will also apply to your penis.

Once she has convinced herself to give it a try, then make sure that this will be her most pleasurable and memorable experience. To do so, it has to be as pain-free as possible. How do you do that?

The initial foreplay is very important. You have to have lots of lubrication ready. Using your index finger, insert it slowly into her anus. Make sure that you have lots of lubrication. You do not want to hurt her during this initial penetration. Once she is comfortable, penetrate her using two fingers. If you have a sex toy handy, you may want to use it as well. It’s best that it comes with a vibration mode.

Once you think that she is ready, slowly penetrate her anus with your penis. This can be very painful at first. Make sure that you do it slowly. Apply plenty of lubrication at any point in time, especially when there is penetration. If she experiences pain, pause for a moment, with your penis still inside the anus. There is this threshold pain that she will need to overcome. Once this is over, anal sex will be very fun and exciting for the both of you. You can minimise the pain if you learn to control your movements. If you do this properly, she will enjoy the process and will be looking for more anal sex in time to come!

One of the questions I get asked most by new dancers is “How do you get almost every guy to say yes?” Although sometimes, like on a busy weekend night when there are more customers than dancers, it’s pretty easy to walk around and say, “Wanna Dance?” and someone is bound to say yes. Other times it’s not quite so easy. (More often in this economy, right?)

For example, have ever been having a nice conversation with a customer and not known how to ask him for a dance? So you just let him ramble on about his nagging wife and kids, and out if the blue you just blurt out “Wanna Dance??” when a new song starts playing….even though it had absolutely nothing to do with the conversation? I did that a lot when I first started dancing. And I got used to that awkward silence…and then him saying, “Uhhh….No. Not now.”

The key to getting him to say “YES!” is to be in control of the conversation, and to sound polished when you lead the conversation into your closing lines. If you don’t take the time to build the foundation conversation, and just skip to the closing line you will come off sounding fake, greedy, and salesy.

Here is the good news, you don’t have to suffer through 4 years of trial and error and losing out on sales like I did! I will teach you how to identify your customer, build your conversations, and more importantly… link the conversation to the the closing line so it flows more naturally. Once you do this, you will hear yes way more often.

Ever wonder why you’re his “type” sometimes and not others? One of the first things I teach is how to identify your customer. If you want to become a top earning stripper you must have the ability to spot your customers better. You may have noticed that some customers respond very well to you approaching and curling up to them immediately, other customers have a need for more personal space.. If you use the wrong strategy when introducing yourself, he will immediately be turned off and you will likely not get the sale. I can teach you how to assess every customer before you approach him according to his dress, appearance, body language and some other factors very quickly.

Also focus on your persuasive communication strategies and mindset. The way you speak to customers is much different than normal speech. Simply by changing your sentence structure, you can get your customers to say YES more often. You can start using one of the most powerful skills I teach: Tie Downs with a Head Nod. Work on wording all of your questions as statements that lead to the answer YES. Use it properly and you will see a tremendous boost in your income very quickly. Remember all questions as statements such as “You wouldn’t mind if I sat down, would you” instead of “Can I sit down with you?” These are tools that lead to the answer yes, and yes is the magic word to making sales. “Its a beautiful day isn’t it?” “You’re having a fun night so far, aren’t you?” “This is a hot spot tonight, huh?” If you can get your customer in the pattern of saying yes you’ve got him hooked. Close him with this one now… “You’d really like a dance now, wouldn’t you?” If he says “No” it breaks the pattern and the momentum.

One more stripper tip: remember to follow up with your customers, “Come back later,” really could mean come back later, not just a blow off. Start planting your seeds when guys come in the door, not saying “Wanna Dance”. Try this: “Hi I’m [insert YOUR name], welcome to [insert name of your club], go sit down, have some fun, I’ll check back with you later.” This gives you a huge head start over everyone in the club and he knows your name for later, so be sure to use this to your advantage, it’s a powerful tool.

In traditional weddings only the best man does a speech for the groom but these days it is becoming more and more common for the father of the groom to say a speech at his son’s wedding. I think this is great because although the best man will know your son very well, surely you must know your son better than anyone.

OK so let’s talk about what to say at your son’s wedding. There are many things you can talk about but you need to remember what the father of the groom speech is all about. Generally the speech needs to show your bond or relationship with your son and need to make sure that he and his new wife have your blessing. The best father of the groom speeches are ones that are funny but emotional at the same time.

Other important things to do in your speech are welcome and thank all of the guests at your son’s wedding. Thank them for their support and for making the wedding day a great day. You can also pass on some advice to your son. This could be marriage advice or just general life advice if you are not in a position to give marriage advice. So let’s look at what kind of structure you can use to build a father of the groom speech.

So first of all you want to get everyone’s attention. You can do this by starting your speech with a small joke or by using a famous quote that everyone will know. Then you can go into to welcome everyone to the wedding and thank them for coming. Now you need to share a couple of stories or experiences that you and your son have experienced. Funny stories work really well but you need to make sure that any funny stories that you tell do not embarrass you son.

Finding the right kind of jokes for a wedding speech can be difficult. But the father of the groom speech needs to be slightly funny I personally think. So one tip I will share now is that you can aim the joke at yourself. Anything that you have done that you can link to the wedding and marriage would make a great wedding joke.

You need to then make a few nice complements about the bride, Say have lovely she is and how she has changed your son for the better. Thank her family and welcome them to your family. Now all is left is your final advice to your son and your blessing. I hope now that you know what to say at your son’s wedding. I was there once thinking “what to say at my son’s wedding”. Make sure you give yourself the time to write a speech and try not to worry too much. Start brain storming and writing ideas down. This way you can simply put everything together when you know what you want to say.

I wish you the best of luck and remember do not panic and I hope you have a great day at your son’s wedding.

But in fact, it is better to think 7 times and do once.

We are masters of our life and our own body too. And we are free to decorate it as we want. As you may guess, this conversation will be about tattoos. Many of you already done it, someone is still thinking about it. In a case connected with tattoo’s – do not rush. So, here is our list of the top 7 tattoos you should never get.

1. Names of a new boyfriend or girlfriend

It seems that to tell the whole world about your new love is a great idea. It may seem like a grand and romantic gesture, but you have not been with this person long enough to know whether this will continue in the future. Do not hurry with such signs, because life is unpredictable.

2. Crude jokes or images

Remember how certain jokes made you laugh when you were 15, but today they seem stupid. Imagine, what you will think about them at 45. Even such permanent concept as humor can change with time. Depending on the location and quality of course tattoos, it can be difficult to hide or hide if you start to regret it, so it’s best to avoid such tattoos.

3. Spontaneous tattoos

Tattoos on your body are forever, so think about what you want to sign. Something that might seem a great idea at the time of a bachelor party or a party in Vegas. But might not seem so terrific for a sober mind the next morning.

4. Tattoos that you don’t spell check

When it comes to ink, the auto-correction does not work. Make sure that you get any inscriptions that you double checked the writing and grammar. Believe me, this is very important.

5. Tribal tattoos

Tribal and Maori tattoos are very sacred and important to the cultures from which they originate. If you are not part of this culture, do not destroy the ancient tradition with trendy trends of the 21st century.

6. Tattoos in languages you don’t speak or understand

This is an absolute classic. How many people in America and the whole world walking proudly with the name of Chinese noodles on their shoulders! Make sure you know exactly what you are putting on your body.

7. Tattoos by people who aren’t professional tattoo artists.

Can you draw a straight line with a vibrating 1 lb barbell duct taped to a ballpoint pen? Probably not. Tattooing is not something that everyone can do. It takes a lot of training, patience, artistic talent and knowledge of sanitation laws to make for a good, clean and safe tattoo.

Indeed, the ideal option is for the tattoo to remain with you, your whole life. Yes, of course, there is another option. You can disguise the first tattoo, change it or even take advantage of tattoo removal procedures. But cover-ups can be really difficult and tattoo removal is painful, so it is important that you make smart decisions every time you make your choice.