If you love cats you will love this book. If you love the modern Cinderella stories where the reader sees what the characters don’t and you can’t turn the pages fast enough to find out if they ever get out of their own way and allow nature to take its course– Then you will love this story. If you’re a reader that simply enjoys a fast read, populated with appealing, believable characters Talk To The Paw will appeal to you.

MacGyver is Jamie Snyder’s cat. Well, actually he’s “the man in her life.” She trusts him, confides in him and since swearing off real men as companions, MacGyver is her #1. MacGyver isn’t convinced his human is really finished with men… he can smell her loneliness. Whether Jamie is aware of it or not, MacGyver knows his human needs companionship he cannot provide. Surprisingly MacGyver notices their neighbor, David is emanating the same odor as his Jamie. Could it be they are both lonely and are putting off a scent only the cat recognizes?

MacGyver (the TV character) might have been a top-notch, can do, can make anything out of anything dude. But Macgyver the cat is a loyal, loving, can do-kind-a-cat that resorts to becoming a cat-burglar to help his human. Jamie’s neighbor David recently lost his wife Clarrissa and despite the urging of his friends, simply is not ready to move past his mourning. He has a dog named Diogee that has no clue his human is lonely. MacGyver seems to be the only one, human or pet that recognizes how perfect Jamie and David could be together. All they need is a push. So the cat starts stealing David’s laundry… a sock here, a towel there. Jamie figures out who the odd laundry pieces belong too – but sees David as merely a friend. MacGyver is like “what is wrong with these people?” “Why do humans complicate something that comes so very natural in the animal world?”

Can Jamie and David see past their personal issues and view the big picture right in front of them? Or are they destined to complicate that which should come about so naturally?

MacGyver the cat will quickly win you over. You will be silently cheering for the humans in the story to get as smart as the cat. His loyalty and dedication to Jamie are admirable and positively adorable. Talk To The Paw is a quick read, that keeps you warmly enveloped in the story right up to the very last page.

I loved the story. Being a cat lover, with four of the adorable, aloof, highly intelligent fur babies at home, Talk To The Paw had me wondering if they smell my feelings too. (They sure act like it!)

Happy Reading,

RJ

The Texas Hold’em poker phenomenon has taken the country by storm. There are reportedly over 100 million active poker players worldwide. Poker’s popularity is largely the byproduct of technology and several recent trends: 1) online gaming, where players engage and socialize in real-time over the Internet, and 2) the broad publicity created by high profile TV shows like the World Series of Poker and World Poker Tour.

With all the poker-mania, there’s an amazing shortage of quality information to help people learn how to play properly and become great players quickly. This is the first in a series of Texas Holdem strategy articles aimed at helping players learn how to win at Texas Hold’em poker. Tournament play is a popular, fun sport. These articles will help players understand how to approach tournaments, which differ greatly from regular “ring game” play.

This installment deals with the most-asked question: “How do I deal effectively with aggressive players?” Many players struggle against “maniacs”, the aggressive, wild players who play most every hand, somehow seem to pull cards out of thin air, and often manage to dominate the table.

Here’s what actually happened in a recent poker tournament. I entered a tournament at the Seminole Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Hollywood, Florida, about 20 minutes from my home in South Florida. This weekly $300 entry-fee tournament fills the poker room with 220 players every Monday night.

The blinds start at 50/100 and go up every 15 minutes. I spent the first 30 minutes just hanging out and occasionally limping in to see a flop. The reason for “treading water” was to study my opponents and their playing patterns very closely. There were a number of solid poker players, but right away I spotted the aggressive ones.

I was sitting in the middle, directly across from the dealer. There were two “wild men” to my right. These two participated in most every hand, and agonized with themselves whenever they had to throw a hand away. This was hilarious to me, and it was also very telling. I knew these dudes were doomed from the onset, yet they were extremely dangerous if they caught something with one of their trash hands. These types are great targets, but only when you know how to play them correctly. If you do, you’ll end up with most or all of their chips in your stack. The key is to get to their chips before someone else does.

There were some squeaky-tight and solid players, as usual. Finally, there were two other players to my left who knew one another very well and spoke what sounded like Russian. These two played very aggressively. They rarely called or checked. They would bet or raise the pot significantly, so if they played a hand, you knew they were going to bet it big and you’d better be prepared to push a bunch of your chips into the middle. As a result, the table became tight overall, except for these four players who controlled the early action and dictated the table tempo for the first hour or so. They gambled with wanton abandon, trading chips with each other as the rest of us just observed and wished for a real hand to materialize.

It became apparent that our maniacs were playing mostly garbage hands, and using assertive chatter in an attempt to intimidate everyone. They were enjoying pushing everyone around with their aggressive betting and raising style. Humorously, they got into a number of showdowns, causing all of their trash hands to become openly exposed; e.g., 69 off-suit, Q3 suited, etc. I definitely had these guys pegged now – if only I could get a strong hand…

Later, one of my Russian “friends” came in over the top of a bet I’d placed with a huge raise, then smiled at me as he leaned his head back as if to say “Go ahead. I dare you”. My middle pair just wasn’t strong enough to engage with him, but I remembered this little “lesson” and my mistake. He’d used this tactic many times against the others and I should’ve expected it. I also realized that we had not seen any of his supposed “big hands”, as he always mucked them. Whenever you see an aggressive player dominating, and then mucking all those supposed “great hands”, you know you’ve spotted a target.

We played on, with the two maniacs to my right getting busted out by the Russian contingent. It’s been an hour and fifteen minutes – and I still haven’t seen even one decent hand yet! This is, unfortunately, typical poker.

After about an hour-and 45 minutes, I finally pick up a pair of wired 9’s (99). Now I was hoping the flop would yield a set (trips). Sure enough, it came: 9, K, 5. I was elated and jumping up and down (inside). I was finally in a position to make my move, and hoped it would be against one of my aggressive Russian friends with their big stacks.

To prepare my trap, I delayed and muddled around for about ten seconds, and then casually “checked” verbally and using my hand in a chopping motion, with a slightly disgusted look. Next, the younger Russian moves in with a big bet of 3,000 chips. I was sure I had him now. As expected, everyone else quickly folded and got out of his way – except me. This fellow had pushed everyone around and I was finally properly armed and ready to do battle on my own terms. Note that this had been my “battle plan” all along. I was deliberately targeting these aggressive characters, knowing that when the time was right, their ill-gotten stacks would become mine!

The action came back around to me, so now it was just the two of us heads-up. The two Russians said something to each other that the rest of us couldn’t decipher. I delayed and bobbed my head around as if to be struggling with my decision. Then, I motioned with both hands and uttered “I’m all-in”. I knew this series of actions would likely trigger an aggressive reaction, since my “check-raise” made it appear as if I was trying to steal this pot! A check-raise almost always triggers a full-tilt response from an aggressive player.

He immediately called me – he was so aggressive (and pot-committed) that it was like a fish taking the bait and running for deep waters – hook line and sinker! I threw my pair of 9’s over, revealing the trip 9’s. There was a low murmur around the table from the other players. My young Russian friend reluctantly flipped his five/trash hand over – he had a pair of fives (with a King over-card showing on the board!). He was definitely angling to drive me out of this pot with his ascertive play – one too many times…

You see, no one actually gets that many great hands in poker – nobody. If someone plays 30% to 40% or more of the time, they’re just “gambling” and bluffing. This guy thinks he has a “good” hand, because he actually had a real pair – something he doesn’t often have when pushing everyone around with mostly aggressive betting as his only real weapon.

The turn came and it wasn’t a five – then someone pipes up and says “he’s drawing dead”. Believe me, you never want to hear that when you’re in a showdown! I looked over as he said something in Russian to his buddy – another violation of tournament rules, as everyone is compelled to speak English at the tournament table. It wouldn’t matter, as he stood up, grabbed his jacket and left after receiving some consolation from his friend.

His older friend glared over at me and uttered something derogatory in Russian. I had no clue what he said, but I knew from his tone that I didn’t like it. I also knew I’d gotten under his skin by taking down his buddy and raking in all of his chips. I responded with “what’s that, I don’t understand what you’re saying since you’re not speaking English?” loudly so everyone at the table could hear me.

He mumbled something about his friend…I smiled and said politely with a smile “I deliberately laid that trap for your friend and he fell right into it!”, pushing the knife in deeper, knowing he’d be gunning for me anyway – might as well make sure my next trap was fully set. This also signaled to everyone else at the table that whenever I checked or limped, it could be extremely dangerous if assumed to be a sign of weakness – something I’d leverage later as the blinds and antes rose and the proper time to bluff and steal blinds actually arrived.

After a slight pause, my Russian friend noticed that everyone was now looking at him. He looked down at his chips and said “nice play” with a reluctantly polite tone.

Boy, I was elated! My battle plan was definitely becoming field-proven here – and my next target was clearly sighted. It had taken careful observation, planning and a lot of patience to wait for the right hand, and then play it correctly to take this highly-skilled, aggressive player out and rake in all of his chips.

About ten minutes later, it was tournament break time, after two hours of play. I counted my chips, which totaled 14,900 (we started with 5,000 each), then grabbed a quick bite to eat, reflecting on what had just taken place.

Within ten minutes of returning from break, I finally picked up a serious starting hand: Cowboys (KK). I knew it was time for my new Russian friend and me to tango, so I fired out a bet of 3 times the big blind: 3,000 chips, bait that I was sure he couldn’t turn down. Sure enough, he bit – big time. His all-in raise came almost instantaneously, before I could even get my bet onto the table. He was totally ready to engage, and had been laying in wait for me – just like I had planned. I had set him up by taking out his friend and then challenging his poker ego in front of everyone. He just had to retaliate against me – it was a totally predictable “full-tilt” response from this kind of player.

This is what the game of poker is really all about – having a well-defined strategy, the patience to wait for the right hand, and then executing properly. It’s what makes poker a game of strategy instead of a game of chance (for some of us).

He raised by going all-in with around 8,000 chips to my roughly 14,000. I quickly called his all-in bet. Everyone else quickly folded and got out of our way.

I flipped my pocket kings over, then looked him straight in the eye and just smiled. Then someone says “Yeah! Now we’ve got some action!” He sighed and flipped over QQ – he actually had a real hand for a change. That’s one of the problems with these kinds of “semi-solid, aggressive” players, like my Russian friend here, and other poker greats like Gus Hansen. You never really know exactly what to expect from them. Of course, my opponent could’ve held pocket rockets (AA), but I’ll play those KK cowboys strong each and every time I get them, since there’s only one hand that can beat them heads-up. I also knew this aggressive player on tilt was likely to be overplaying his hand, improving my odds significantly.

The flop, turn and river came and went without another Queen and it was done – my cowboys stood up and I had all of both Russian’s stacks, which included most of the other two poor maniac’s chips (who lost to the Russians earlier). This instantly made me by far the chip leader at our table with well over 22,000 chips!

I went from having an average chip stack to being the table chip leader, against tough, aggressive opponents, within less than half an hour by:

a) Playing solid, reasonable tournament poker,

b) Not taking big, undue risks with weak or “drawing” hands,

c) Studying my aggressive prey and where the chips were sitting,

d) Formulating and refining a battle plan while observing the game progress,

e) Remaining patient while waiting for the right hand to make my move, and

f) Executing this plan with precision against a predetermined opponent, and on terms of my choosing – not the opponent’s.

There was no luck involved at all – except that my opponent didn’t hold AA or pull some lucky cards with a trash hand – which was simply playing the odds in my favor.

I started out with a high-level strategy to target aggressive chip leaders, and go after them with strong hands from the right position. I planned this before I ever arrived at the casino that day, or knew who these players would be. Then, I refined my plan once I knew for certain whom the evening’s targets would be and how I’d provoke them. It certainly helped that I caught two decent hands during those first hours of play.

Unfortunately, I later lost to a legitimate full house, but made it into the top 40 – it happens…

The key to playing against aggressive and maniac players is having a viable Texas Holdem strategy you can profit from when you get some good hands. If you have a good plan, you can convert it into a formidable stockpile of chips – a stack that you’ll definitely need as the blinds and antes increase and the tournament field narrows in the latter stages.

This is how I approach Texas Holdem strategy for tournaments now – at least when the tables are full with 8 or more players, some of them aggressive and maniacs. So, the next time you encounter wild and aggressive players at your poker table, get ready to have some fun! It’s like Tae Kwon Do – using the opponent’s own energy and momentum against them.

In the next installment, we’ll detail this Texas Holdem strategy more formally, along with exploring some other tournament tips for playing better Texas Holdem poker.

Until then – good luck!

Rick

Route 44 has been keeping the skate scene alive and well in San Diego for the past 10 years. No matter who you are or what your name is, when you enter the shop your going to get treated the same. The best part about this shop is how diverse it is, no matter if you skate street, pools, like hip-hop or grindcore. In my opinion Matt Owen has started a whole other skate scene in San Diego. Just start counting all the kids you see that rep Route 44 t-shirts and stickers. It’ hard to go anywhere in the San Diego metropolitan area with out spotting a kid representing Route 44. Route 44 was able to accomplish something that large chain stores like Active were not been able to accomplish. And that is Route 44 was able to build a loyal following of skaters that will not buy product from any other skate shops. Most important of all this shop is not owned by some rich dude trying to make money off a fad or exploit families. If you are ever in the San Diego stop by and say hi. In this interview we are going to speak with the owner of route 44 Matt Owen.

Why the name ” Route 44″ and where was the first location of the shop ?

The first location was 5355 Napa street in lower Linda Vista. The name was from the bus route up and down Linda Vista road.

What made you want to start a skate shop ?

At the time there was not a shop in town that offered skateboards of all shapes and styles. At the time wider boards weren’t as easy to find but we got what we could to offer some variety. A lot of older guys would come in and ask for wider boards and we were the only shop in town that could meet their requirements.

What did you do before starting a skate shop ?

I washed dishes changed tires skated played music and worked for the city school district.

Why did Route 44 have to move from Morena street to India street?

Becuse San Diego needed one more Starbucks/ Jamba Juice, with condos on top of them. This is called re-development I think. The first location was torn down.

What happened to the shop on India street ?

After about 3 years on India street the upstairs neighbors had a fire. A total loss, except Mikeys boards were saved. The 2nd location was torn down.

Route 44 also carries records, how did that get started and how does it work?

We’ve sold records from day one. ( most of my own to help the cause) Now we buy, sell and trade records. There’s a lot vinyl now then there was in 1999 when we opened. Another prediction gone wrong, vinyl being obsolete.

The Route 44 team is indestructible and consist of so many skaters, what are your thoughts on the team ?

I think of the team as a family, Working for the cause to keep as many people skating as possible.

Is there a possibility of having a second Route 44 ?

If the economy gets better. We will consider a second shop.

Lately it seems like Route has had a huge following with all these hesh groms, Do you think the shop has an influence on them or do they influence the shop?

Hesh Groms? I think that these kids are into a great part of skateboarding that never left, but definitely wasn’t as accepted as it is again. We happen to be lucky to carry stuff from Terror, Dropout, Patines Americanos, Jivaro, Scum, etc. These kids help to keep these companies gong. We just want to offer a place where you can feel comfortable no matter what style of skateboarding and music you are into.

What is in store for the future ?

We are working a shop video.

When it comes to sponsorship would you rather see someone ripping at the skatepark or send in a sponsor me video ?

It depends, both are cool I’m not the best judge, so after an extensive screening process we’ll get back to you.

Any thanks or shout outs to people that have supported the shop?

Too many, but I thank everyone that does, or has, or that will.

Stephen’s heart is in the right place. He truly cares about his girlfriend, but he seems to continually let her down. As hard as Stephen tries to express his deep feelings and love for his girlfriend to her, his efforts often fall short.

She is frequently disappointed and frustrated. Stephen is worried that his girlfriend will break up with him and find someone else who can love her the way that she wants to be loved.

He confides in a friend, “I don’t know how to love her!”

If you are in a love relationship or marriage and you feel like your attempts to show your love for your woman don’t come out the way that they were intended, you’re not alone.

Many men find it difficult to love their women the way that they want to be loved. You might find yourself racking your brain looking for a better way to express your love for the special woman in your life.

When you do have an idea, it may feel like a risk to actually act upon it. What if she doesn’t like it and you spent all of the time and money to make it happen? What if you end up looking like a fool?

Even when you are able to come up with an idea for how you can show your woman how much you adore her, concerns like these may prevent you from actually taking the steps to carry out your plan.

The bottom line here is this: When you don’t regularly show your love for your woman, she has to guess at how you feel. Even if you have told her that you love her and that she is important to you, she probably wants to hear this more than once or twice and on special occasions!

Expressing love and appreciation for one another is an essential building block of a healthy love relationship or marriage.

Try these tips for lighting up your woman by loving her the way that she wants to be loved…

#1: Ask!

This may seem too obvious, but I have to remind you of it anyway. If you feel clueless about how your woman wants to be loved, be willing to ask her.

Even if she’s the kind of person who likes surprises, it’s probable that she also likes surprises that are preferable to her.

Find the courage to ask your woman a question like this…

“What words, actions, gestures or gifts would help make you feel special and loved?”

Invite her to list off anything and everything– no limits allowed. Encourage her to go deep with this question.

Maybe she’d like you to take on more responsibilities for home or child care, for example. Perhaps she’d love to be treated to a sensual spa night at home with you giving the massage. Or, it could be that she’d just like to hear you tell her more often that she is beautiful (without being asked).

#2: Really listen and follow through.

When your woman gives you this information, focus in and listen. If you aren’t sure what she’s talking about, ask her to “Please tell me more.”

She might ask you the same question about how you want to be loved. If so, be open, honest and specific. Give her the benefit of “inside information” like you have just received.

Now it’s time for you to follow through.

I don’t advise you to force yourself to say or do anything that you doesn’t come from the heart. Let your love for her be your motivation…even if this is something new and a little bit uncomfortable for you.

If you are unaccustomed to doing whatever it is you chose from her request list, you might set up reminders for yourself. You could even use a cell phone or e-mail calendar to help with this.

Even if your budget and time are tight, you can still more clearly express to your woman that she is loved and treasured by you. Genuine words and meaningful gestures can be very powerful.

When you asked your woman to tell you how she wants to be loved she probably felt special. You asking showed her that you truly care. Next, as you actually do some (or all) of these things, you demonstrate your love even further.

Relax Moms and Dads this post is not about some hallucinogenic pill. It is about much worse – LEAD SINGER DISEASE!

However, before I get into that and alienate my vocal brethren I want to give you two versions of the same joke, just to show that I can be self deprecating also. It’s all in fun singers so loosen up the leather pants!

How many guitarists does it take to screw in a light bulb? The answer: 7 – one to do it and six to sit around saying they could have done it better.

OK, how many singers does it take to screw in a light bulb? The answer 1: He/She just holds the light bulb and the world revolves around them.

So true, so true – on both accounts.

You see, I have been playing guitar since I was about 13 or 14 (no I don’t know exactly how old I was – I didn’t plan on walking on water and writing my memoirs to preserve my journey!). I started playing in clubs since I was around 18 or 19 (again – the walk on water thing). I am now quite older (OK, I am 40 as of this writing). So that is 27 years of playing (I actually did the singing along with my drummer when I first started playing in a band – so that was my LSD period).

OK so 27 years of playing with a TON of different singers and you know what? I have only had one singer through it all that didn’t suffer from this dreaded disease – and it took me 24 years to find her!

You’ll know you found one when you hear any of the following statements uttered with the subtleties of a Lion’s roar when some chump Hyena is trying to steal their food:

“Hey man, this P.A. is mine and we’ll play what I want to.”

“Dude, you sound great but your stepping over my vocals.”

“I Rock!”

“They’re all coming to see me!”

“Hey Bro, turn my mic all the way up.”

“No Man, I don’t do roady stuff.”

“I’ll see you at the gig.” What he/she really means is – I’ll see you at the gig 5 minutes before we start to play.

“Steve Perry sucks, Man. I can out sing that fool any day!”

“Hey I AM Van Halen, Man!” (sorry this one is from my past – couldn’t help but put it in there)

Oh yeah that reminds me, if they go by three names, then you know they are already full blown chomping on the LSD pill – See: David Lee Roth, Ronnie James Dio, Axel Freakin’ Rose.

OR, if they go by one name you can bet LSD is chronic – See: Elvis, Mariah, Celine, Mikey (just kidding bro, love ya! A little inside joke for me and my gang.)

And on and on and on and on and on and on…

So, my young guitar hero, how do you deal with LSD?

Just like any bad trip gone wrong – you just let it ride…just let it ride. And keep saying to yourself, “This is just make believe and soon it will be over.”

Seriously there isn’t much you can do because most singers do not live in reality.

Ever seen American Idol? So so many of those people just can not sing. Simon rips those dudes and tries to bring them back to this planet, but they NEVER listen! They just say how stupid Simon is, while he’s making 10 bazillion dollars and they had to take time off from the fry station.

Hey money isn’t everything, but the man got where he’s at for a reason, you’d think they would listen, take the free advice, and use it to improve. Well it’s not their fault they can’t – they’re hopped up on LSD!

What blows me away is that I have seen singers who have just butchered a song, listening to themselves on a recording, and have seen them personally, with my own eyes, and heard them bellow with my own ears something like this, “Hell yeah – I nailed it!

Unbelievable!

So, you can’t give them criticism, can’t show them by playing their debacle back to them, what can you do?

Well first you have to know your prey. You have to understand that they are basically naked in front of a bunch of strangers dangling their wares in front of the world to see. In order to do that they HAVE to have a thick skin and a crap load of confidence. We have our guitars to hide behind.

Also, we can feel like crap, be sick, be tired, be any number of things and still perform as long as the fingers work. Singers, on the other hand, are victims to their voice. Their body IS their instrument, so any number of things can jack that up.

Also, we don’t even have to really hear ourselves to be able to play in key. And if we can’t hear ourselves, hey, we just turn it up to 11! Not singers! It’s all about their ability to project. In this day and age, ever since they outlawed eunuchs, projection just ain’t-a-gonna-happen. That is why as a guitarist, you’ll hear the inevitable phrase, “Dude, turn it down some.”

In reality, you gotta pity the fools (thank you Mr. T).

So now that we know the beast we are dealing with, what do you do?

I found that the best way to handle this is the same way I deal with a 3 year old:

• Use a comfortable calming voice
• Don’t get too worked up (really tough to do)
• Praise the good
• Guide the bad with reassurance
• Stroke the ego a little and paint a picture of greatness

Now this may seem easy to do, but when that SOB is ranting how lucky you are to have him in the band, that everyone is there to see him, and how your band would be nothing if he wasn’t there – it can be a real mutha to stay CALM!

Excuse me, I am starting to get worked up! Flashbacks.

Let’s say your singer just blew chunks all over a song and you feel the need to let him/her know. You might say something like this: “Man I liked the part where you (think of something, but it must be believable and should be something you want him/her to repeat). The way you did that, Man, I think if you would do this (fix the part you screwed up royal) then that would blow people’s mind. Give it a shot and let’s check it out. “

And keep this type of supporting dialogue up until the LSD dissipates a little (it may never go away).

This is way harder to pull off when you are playing live, but can be done on a break between songs or sets.

Outside of finding another singer, that is really all you can do. And good luck finding another singer that isn’t afflicted – remember it took me 25 years!

Needless to say, if you play in a band or associate with any musicians, you will eventually run into someone afflicted with LSD.

Hey, just like me in the beginning, it may be you!

Who are the real sports heroes we should be admiring? We idolize major league ball players who are given too much money to play a game. Where do the real American sports heroes play? Take a drive through just about any neighborhood park, in any city, in any state and you’ll find grown men and women playing softball. Twelve inch to sixteen inch, slow-pitch or fast pitch. Good old American softball.

Many great, working class folks play softball two to three nights a week. My dad played sixteen inch until the day he died. Five to six nights a week grown men gathered to swing giant hunks of lumber, get in a little exercise and then commiserate at the local watering hole. coincidentally, the same place just so happens sponsor the team. These guys and girls often wake at the butt crack of dawn and labor away at jobs they may or may not really like. With every brutal minute that clicks by, these dedicated sports heroes are thinking about tonight’s game.

Growing up in Chicago our softball of choice was the Clincher 16 incher. No gloves, just bats and bare hands. The best guys hand bear like paws and a certain athletic grace that sometime only translates to sixteen inch softball. It’s a beautiful game to play. This game created deformities and we kept on playing. Never ask a sixteen inch softball player for directions. He’ll point to three different locations around the city the second he puts up his hand. Guys who limp worse than my high school auto shop teacher, and that dude could barely walk. That is real sports hero dedication in my book.

These men and women play the sport until one of two things happen. They can no longer move any limbs or they die. Folks, those are real sports heroes. Don’t let your children admire the men who are paid exorbitant sums of money and who dedicate their entire existence to their sport. Have them go watch the guys and girls at your local park playing in leagues that requires each player to fork over hard-earned cash to play. Have them go talk to and have a catch with the guy who just spent all day cleaning your kid’s school but still gets in the game he loves because he has dedicated his life to his sport, but he does simply because he loves the game.

The most often cited measurement of a man’s size is 8 or 9 inches. These measurements are used because they sound somewhat realistic. Telling someone you have a ten inch erection does not sound realistic, and so we get the 8 inch size as the most often. Many men want to know how realistic these numbers actually are, because it just doesn’t really sound possible. This article takes a look at what real averages sizes are, and states that many men are getting much larger as a result of doing certain hand routines.

What are the normal, or average sizes that most men have; what are the cold hard facts?

Most guys are usually stunned by the fact that the average size is only 6 inches, and that the average girth is only 5 inches long. And these are erect figures, not soft or flaccid figures, as some people may have thought because of the insane amount of false information that is being spread by men and women. Considering that this is average size, it means that most men are this large, and approximately twenty five percent of guys are this size. To show exactly how delusional most people are about sizes, and really have no idea what they are talking about, if you move up to just 7 inches the percentages of men drop all the way down all the way to 10 percent.

So how many men are actually these eight and nine in sizes or even 10 inches?

Eight and nine inch erect sizes are extremely rare. The facts are that only about 7% of men have these two numbers combined. And guys who are 10 inches, are very, very rare, probably accounting for less than 1% of the total population. This translates into taking 3,000 men and having only 30 of them come anywhere near that size. And 1% is probably really pushing the possibility of these sizes. In fact these men are probably more likely around .5% of all guys. This would look more like 15 out of that three thousand people.

So I’m sitting here sipping a cup of Joe at the Warm Puppy Cafe in Santa Rosa. From the large picture windows in the cafe, I can watch kids learning to skate in the ice arena. One little guy in a blue sweatshirt (he looks about 6 or 7 years-old) catches my eye when he does a whallopolozza of a belly flop right in front of my window. “Ouch”, I think. “That must have hurt.” Nah! This little dude has true grit. He gets right up and starts skating again.

Intrigued I follow him across the rink and count seven falls, seven get-ups. Discouraged? Not that I could notice. He is LIVING the old proverb, “If at first you don’t succeed… ” You know the rest.We all know the saying but as we become “big” people, we find it harder to bounce back up. Right?

I was thinking about that little kid the other day as I made my way gingerly to the floor to play with my 7 month old granddaughter. I was smart enough to know ahead of time that I would not be “bouncing” back up. But good grief! I didn’t think it would be THAT much of a challenge.

The words of my own dad in his later years came floating back to me. “Too many birthdays,” was his all purpose description of the aging experience. Not a bad one line summary of life in the golden years, clean too and undefiled by four letter words.

But then again, those bonus birthdays have given me much more than aches and pains. My kids have transformed before my eyes into warm, generous human beings. I would never have known them that way as adults,as friends as well as children.

Then to put frosting on the cake they married well and gave me a first class son-in-law and a smart and loving daughter-in-law. Not to mention the fun and indescribable joy of four grandkids.

These additional years have meant much more to me than “too many birthdays”. I am grateful for each year the good Lord has given me. The years have graced me with insights about life and love that I would never have had. Hey, if you live long enough, you have to learn SOMETHING.

So when the aches in my knees complain a bit as I pull the old bones off the floor to play with my granddaughter, don’t take my grunting and groaning too seriously. This old grandpa is having the time of his life.

Are you unfortunate to be in a world where you’re saying my wife talks to other men, and don’t know what to do about it?

That’s a terrible thing to witness and watch happen. I know it rips your heart out, and you want to end it fast.

The truth is that YOU probably caused this, and that you can’t fix it by force, but only by changing some things about yourself.

A Careful Understanding of Why You’re Stuck Wondering Why My Wife Talks to Other Men

Here’s the deal with this problem of your wife talking to other men. We want to nip in the butt as soon as possible. But you unfortunately can’t go with your initial gut reaction of trying to stop it by force.

But first let’s understand a couple of things about why this is happening.

First off, if your wife talks to other men, then it’s likely that there’s something that she’s looking for that she’s not getting from you. Now that hurts to hear, but don’t worry because there’s a solution to the problem. It’ll take some work on your part but it’s only a few things that you’ll have to change.

Second, your wife MAY be, if she’s doing this out in the open, trying to elicit a response from you. If that’s the case, then you’re still in trouble potentially but there’s a little more hope. Either way, we can fix this problem.

What Your Wife is Missing and Why You’re Saying My Wife Talks to Other Men

So the most likely cause of this problem is that your wife doesn’t see you as the man that she wants and actually instinctively and literally down to the core of her DNA needs!

Therefore it’s more about what she’s NOT seeing in you, than about what she sees in these other men.

What she’s not seeing in you are Alpha Male qualities, that each and every woman needs to see in order to be attracted to. Whether you’re in a nightclub, at the grocery store, in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, or MARRIED…the fact is that a woman must see you as a leader…an ALPHA MALE…if there’s any hope in her feeling attracted to you.

A lot of men feel like it’s a natural thing for a wife to lose attraction to her husband after marriage, but the fact is that it’s up to you to keep the qualities that she’s attracted to.

She needs a leader, someone who displays that they’re in charge. There are a few traits that you must possess for her to see you as that sort of man that I don’t have room in this article to go over.

However, the overall picture is that if you’re saying my wife talks to other men, then she doesn’t see you as her alpha male, and if you become that she’ll have no more reason to look for it in other men at all.

Getting a woman turned on is probably one of the most challenging feat a man has to go through – however, it’s not that impossible if you’re really that determined to make her hot for you. It’s actually pretty simple – change your attitude first of all. Sometimes, it’s all in the mind. When you look good and feel good about yourself, things start to become a lot better too. So stop over analyzing too much – it’s never going to bring you any good – especially with women. Start with yourself, change your mindset and learn to have a great time while hooking up with girls. Below are a few tips and tricks for you to do on how to thrill a woman – make her not resist your charms tonight!

• Don’t rush her.Coming in too strong may seem like the best strategy but you have to be aware of the fact that women are freaked out when men act a little too aggressive with them – especially on your first few meetings. Take things nice and slow. She will appreciate your patience – and will be impressed by your persistence!
• Don’t give in too easily.Yeah, sure. She’s smokin’ hot, she turns heads without even trying, she makes you melt inside and she’s absolutely the perfect babe – that doesn’t mean you have to say yes to her every whim and have her twirl you around her fingers. Be the man. Show her what a hot dude you are as well – that would totally make you stand out from the rest of the crowd.
• Don’t try too hard.Impressing a girl is one thing – being too desperate to earn her approval is one thing. The best kind of attraction happens when everything is natural. Nothing’s planned. You flirt, go with the flow and ride the tide. No need for you to pop a vain just to let her see you’re worth her time. If you appear secured and confident about being yourself, girls will be more likely to get attracted. So loosen up!
• Don’t be a jerk. Most men tend not to even realize they’re already being a jerk. You approach a girl, tell her you like her, you go out a couple of times and then you just disappear into oblivion. Talk about hit and run! If you realize you’re not meant for each other, tell her. If she doesn’t like you and tells you so, appreciate her honesty and move on. At least she didn’t lead you on. Whatever the results are, don’t be rude to a woman. Ever. She may change her mind and turn around.

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