The inevitable truth of gaining grandparents custody rights is there will have to be new rules of discipline. Some grandparents may worry that setting rules may distance them from their grandchildren but this is not true. Though they may get upset when you become the enforcer, they know deep that if you care deeply about them you will make them mind. The parameters you set and enforce will make your grandchild feel loved and secure. I can remember as a child myself watching other children as they often got to do things I didn’t and deep down knowing the reason I did not was because my granny and papaw did not want me to get hurt. I was not raised by my grandparents but lived right next door and they played a big part in my raising and discipline.

Truth is that as a grandparent it is not easy introducing rules after they have been so relaxed at your house but you will not be doing the child any favors by not setting rules now that they will be living with you full time. Not setting rules because of the unpleasantness will only prolong out the inevitable. Breaking the rules and pushing the limits is a part of growing up. ( I did it didn’t you?) You can’t just be your grandchild’s friend if indeed you are now their parent to. Your primary role now will be in seeing to it that your grandchild is provided will a loving,caring parent-grandparent atmosphere. Mixing the two roles may not be a pleasant thing at first but everyone should adjust rather quickly. It is in the best interest of the child if you want them to grow up and function properly in society because there are always rules to go by even outside of the home.

Communicating with your grandchildren will be the best start of teaching them the new rules. Explain to them why the rules have changed and why they have to. listening and communicating with them is the key. Your grandchild’s feelings should be taken into consideration and their opinions addressed on the issues even if the answer is no to changing the rules they may see is unfair. Sit down and listen to them and explain these new

rules.

Discipline must consistent or it will only be confusing to your grandchildren. Older children may have a little harder time with the changing of the rules they are. Being inconsistent will give them mixed signals as to what is expected of them. Children who have been displaced outside of the normal parent/child relationship may come to you with behavioral problems already so be patient.

These children may not have had very good role models to follow so set good example yourself. Children tend to model themselves after what they see and you could be who they are learning from

When an idea has its time, there is little that can be done to stop it. As such, it is safe to say that with all the research being conducted on giants, “giantology” has become its own field of study. There are certainly qualified researchers-academic and otherwise-who do great work in a multi-faceted field employing mythology, history, languages, archaeology, and anthropology. So there we have it: its own -ology, the study of giants.

However, the field is not without persons inexperienced or untrained in scientific process, testing, or logic. It is a field already sensational because of the nature of its subject matter, but there seems to be a tendency to sensationalize the topics of giants, which only serves to lampoon giantology. Hence, there are right ways to go about it, and wrong ways.

There are all manner of qualifiers which one might attach to the discipline. “Biblical” is usually the first that comes to mind, because of the Old Testament traditions of giants in the text. “World-” or “Mythological-” are others, and tend to focus on the ethnological breadth of traditions around the world over space and time (Giganthropology, if you will). “Historical” is yet another, which settles on the documented accounts of giants in the ancient and modern worlds. As a part of the family of giantology, for material evidences archaeogiantology would be the recovery of physical and artifactual remains of giants.

Species need a proper taxonomy as well, if giantologists are to place giants into the frame of faunal biology. In the most nominal and general terms, we are dealing with hominids of gigantic stature. Hence the scientific name Homo colossicus (“giant man”) or the more immediately recognizable as Homo gigantis (man of/from the giants) could suffice. Tribal divisions as outlined in the Bible would have little to do with taxonomy, but geography might. So the older giants might be Homo gigantis antediluvensis, or giants with Holy Land provenience might be Homo gigantis levantinus, or giants from North America showing physiological singularity might be Homo gigantis americanus, and so on and so forth. There is however the matter of satisfying the supernatural pedigree of giants in the taxonomic designation. In this scenario, Homo titanus (Titanic man), both addresses the supernatural origins (as Josephus equates the Nephilim with the Greek Titans) and satisfies the taxonomc criteria without being overly ostentatious.

Giantological research basically proceeds along one of three axes, or a combination of them. Firstly, the mythological/oral tradition/anthropological evidence comes to us from the mythological traditions of cultures from around the world. Secondly, the historical evidence for giants resides in written records preserved by ancient, medieval, and modern writers. Lastly, the material axis calls on archaeology and paleontology to recover physical remains of giants and the artifacts and features left in their wake. As a rule of thumb-in the order I have outlined-the evidence becomes scarcer. Genetics, epigenetics, physics, geology, and biochemistry also have the potential to provide new insights as well.

Research ethics should also be a high priority for any giant researcher. Thorough scientific methodology should be applied to every project. Any original research in the form of journal articles and books should account for sources. This practice is responsible, and allows others to follow and corroborate or amend scholars’ work. There are any number of publications on the topic of giants with no footnote citations (far too many in my opinion). If one is to be able to make a case to the world, research needs to be presented in the language of science, ethically and responsibly. Dissemination of research project results should be equally mindful of such ethics, and should be in a timely manner. Most journals will likely be reticent to publish which means that other venues and even original peer-reviewed journals dealing with giants should eventually materialize through the efforts of (much-needed) scholarly societies and professional organizations who study giants.

The above statements are all but a summary of the field of giantology. It is changing daily. There are many other issues to be fleshed out, but for now, here are the rudiments for a discipline of giantolgy, each bearing consideration.

Bringing up children wisely – without inflicting “injustices” that can result in emotional problems later in life – can be difficult for some parents, as they too are human, sometimes short tempered and not always patient and understanding. All of the children’s “disobediences” “cheek” and “defiant behaviour” or other intolerable actions should not necessarily be corrected with “slaps” and other forms of rough handling, but substituted by duties or taboos that do not please, but are a good form of disciplinary measure.

Most of these, if cleverly chosen and enforced, are of educational and “duty awareness” value and, instead of resentment, gain respect for their parents now and on reflection later in life (perhaps as an adult themselves). And the duty – disciplinary measure comes – “taking out the rubbish” for a specified time of occasions; drying the dishes for a similarly specified period; Tidying up their rooms ( which, by the way, should be a regular routine as part of their upbringing with self discipline) – and lastly – confinement to their rooms, doing sums or writing essays, depending on the severity of their wrongdoing, for one or several nights.

All of these keep the parent calm and controlled as he keeps “his cool” knowing that he has reacted the right way with punishment that can only be of benefit to the youngster. “No television”, “no pocket money”, “no desert for tonight” etc. are lame measures without purpose and benefit to him. Even helping Dad in the workshop, rather than “hanging out with the boys” would be of an advantage to the son and assist in his learning to become useful around the house when he is a man.

If a girl needs disciplining, make her do the dusting on one or more occasions. This also forms good future habits and may be a keenness to help around the house more often.

In any case these measures are better and more beneficial for both parents and offspring than Dad or Mum losing their temper.

Civil engineering is simply a professional engineering procedure that is associated with the design, building and up keep of the physical and naturally constructed environment, including establishments like canals, roads, bridges, buildings and dams. It is the most dated of the principal disciplines of engineering and is essentially divided into a number of areas, these include municipal engineering, environmental engineering, water resources engineering, materials engineering, coastal engineering, surveying, construction engineering, structural engineering, and transportation engineering.

Surveyors and Engineering

Engineering has been an aspect of life since the beginnings of human existence. Engineering surveyors are generally responsible for: Investigating land, using computer-based measuring instruments and geographical knowledge, to work out the best position to construct bridges, tunnels and roads; Producing up-to-date plans which form the basis for the design of a project; Setting out a site, so that a structure is built in the correct spot and to the correct size; Monitoring the construction process to make sure that the structure remains in the right position, and recording the final as-built position; Providing control points by which the future movement of structures such as dams or bridges can be monitored.

Construction Engineering and Surveying

Construction engineering involves planning and execution of the designs from transportation, site development, hydraulic, environmental, structural and geotechnical engineers. Construction surveying is generally performed by specialized technicians. Construction surveyors perform the following tasks:Survey existing conditions of the future work site, including topography, existing buildings and infrastructure, and even including underground infrastructure whenever possible; Construction surveying (otherwise “lay-out” or “setting-out”): to stake out reference points and markers that will guide the construction of new structures such as roads or buildings for subsequent construction; Verify the location of structures during construction; As-Built surveying: a survey conducted at the end of the construction project to verify that the work authorized was completed to the specifications set on plans.

Structural Engineering

Structural engineers work with architects and builders to assure that steel and other material used in construction projects exceeds the needs of a given project. Structural engineering is an area within civil engineering, dealing with the effects of variable repeated loads on structures, crash worthiness of structures, design criteria, structural steel connections, buckling of concrete panels and high-strength concrete, and timber structural members and systems.

Design considerations will include strength, stiffness, and stability of the structure when subjected to loads which may be static, such as furniture or self-weight, or dynamic, such as wind, seismic, crowd or vehicle loads, or transitory, such as temporary construction loads or impact.

Civil Engineering Career Opportunities

Engineering graduates start their engineering career with low responsibility, and as they prove themselves, Civil Engineers will choose to work in different segments of the market this will usually determine their career path. Senior Civil engineers can progress into doing more design work, maintaining complex design projects and also managing other Civil Engineers.

In some fields and firms, entry-level engineers are put to work primarily monitoring construction in the field, serving as the “eyes and ears” of more senior design engineers; while in other areas, entry-level engineers end up performing the more routine tasks of analysis or design and interpretation.

A civil engineering career could prove both rewarding and very exciting. Particularly when we are to think of just some of the modern masterpieces created in today’s engineering fields. Even for those who will never opt for a career in engineering, just the knowledge and understanding of the field can be very satisfying for anybody who is only remotely interested in the topic.

Before trying to define the term of eMarketing (or electronic marketing, so to speak), we should first take a look at the premises of its apparition and development.

The theories concerning eMarketing have not been unified yet, due to a large diversity in specialists’ opinions. Still, one of the aspects that is established and has ceased being discussed in contradictory, is the fact that electronic marketing first appeared under the form of various techniques used by companies distributing their products through online channels (Internet – based). That happened back in the pioneering age before 1995. These companies that opened the road were called “e-tailers”, as opposed to the traditional retailers (also known as “brick-and-mortar” retailers). During their limited life, these electronic retailers began to develop and frenetically introduced new marketing techniques based on the support offered by the internet.

The online technologies mentioned above developed in the context created by the e-tailers, they are widely used these days by B2C and B2B organizations. In other words, they evolved towards what we call now eMarketing (you can also spell it e-Marketing if you wish, the “e-” stands in both cases for “electronic”).

You might find as extremely useful and suggestive the perspective offered by the eMarketing Association (eMA). You heard a lot, especially over the past 2 years, about the decline of online businesses (or the decline of dotcoms), but this temporary difficulty can be viewed as a similarity to the impasse of Columbus during his expedition that made him famous more than half millennium ago. The initial “business plan” with which Columbus started this trip (that of bringing the Asian resources in his country and getting fabulously rich) was a complete disaster: catastrophic estimations, not enough resources allocated, total lack of information upon the environment he will develop his “business” in, but… he discovered America instead and changed the world for ever. In a similar manner, we can say that the dotcoms, despite their terrible strategies (if any), “discovered” by mistake the world of eMarketing.

As we already noticed, defining eMarketing is still highly problematic. Still, what do we mean when we use this term? As many other English words, the term was born by adding the prefix “e-” to a term already known and used, in this case “marketing”. The prefix “e-” is actually the extreme contraction of the word “electronic” and is quite omnipresent in today’s language of many people: “e-marketing”, “e-business”, “e-mail”, “e-learning”, “e-commerce”, “e-“, “e-“, “e-“…

The simplest definition of eMarketing could be that suggested by Mark Sceats: the eMarketing that uses internet as manifestation channel.

A more comprehensive, practical definition is the one formulated by specialists of CISCO company: eMarketing is a generic term utilized for a wide range of activities – advertising, customer communications, branding, fidelity programs etc. – using the internet. More than the simple development of a website, the eMarketing focuses on online communications, direct dialog with consumers who thus participate to the creation of new products, finding efficient methods to win customer’s fidelity and ease their business-making process. eMarketing is the sum of activities a company makes with the purpose of finding, attracting, winning and retaining customers.

At last, for those of you interested in a more scientific approach, we could say that eMarketing allows relational exchanges in digital, networked and interactive environments (acronym: DNI environments). Earlier in the history of eMarketing, it was conceptualized as being focused upon the exchanges, but today’s theoreticians suggest the exchange paradigm is a limited modality to define eMarketing.

Whichever definition you will choose to use, will depend on where exactly you need to use it and for what purpose. You can probably formulate a definition yourself, according to your own knowledge, experience and view upon what is eMarketing.

However, one conclusion needs to be drawn in connection with eMarketing: it has developed over the past few years into a standalone discipline, with its own conceptual apparatus, tools and laws, but with a still-to-be systematized knowledge.

The best place to observe the wide range of parental discipline styles is any grocery store between the evening hours or four and seven. Here you will hear one mother screaming at her whining toddler, one father threatening to withdraw a privilege from his nine-year old, another mother bribing her children with treats and sweets if her children will only cooperate so they can finish their task quickly, and finally another father grabbing his preteen by the jacket as he walks/drags his son out of the store.

Do you want to improve your family life and discipline methods, even when faced with every day family hazards? Try implementing these two strategies based on how the brain works and human biology.

1. Eat, drink and breathe deeply.

The second worse time of the day for every family is in the evening, when all are transitioning and switching gears from the busy day into the evening time. For most people, children and parents alike, this is physiologically when the body is tired, needing more energy through nourishment and oxygen. Too often parents choose this time to run needed errands including grocery shopping. But neither children nor adults have the necessary physiological stamina to handle this seemingly mundane task.

What’s the solution? Before you go to the store, eat a snack, sing a song and dance a jig. Fear you would feel foolish engaging in such silly and childish behavior? Then drink a cup of herbal tea while your children drink a glass of milk and you all enjoy some raisins and peanuts. Then do ten jumping jacks or play tag or musical chairs. If this doesn’t sound like it fits your style either, then make up your own ritual. Just be sure that you include drinking and eating a modest amount of nourishing food (over indulging on sugar will only contribute to the physiological drag) and engage in a moderate amount of deep breathing. With children, the best way to get them to breathe deeply is by playing an active game for a short time. They will gladly participate! And if you can just lighten up a little and play a game, you not only will improve your oxygen level, you will also inspire a lighter spirit.

Now you and your children are ready to face the challenge known as shopping for groceries.

2. Choose an open position for growth and learning.

What you do and say either puts your child in an open position for learning and growth, or protection. New research of the human cell has revealed that a cell can only be in one of two positions: protection or growth. And since the brain is a system of cooperative cells, the brain is then only in a position of protection or growth.

Have you ever wondered why you must continually make the same kind of correction for your child’s repeated misbehavior? Are you tired of threatening or punishing your child, only to discover that you must repeat the same process many, many times? The reason is that you are using strategies that put your child into protection rather than asking your child to grow and learn. Your child perceives your scold, threat, or punishment as something he must protect himself against. He is not in the frame of mind to be open to learn and grow. Instead he is protecting himself from you. This may be shocking to learn. The last thing you want is for your child to feel as if she has to protect herself from you! In many parental situations when you scold, threaten or shame your child, you aren’t even thinking about anything other than trying to get your child to do what you want her do do. But your mindless behavior is perceived differently by your child. On a cellular level your child believes he must be in protection. He may comply with your request, but he has learned nothing. His mind is not in a state to learn, grow, and change. His mind simply goes into protection. With this new information perhaps you are less surprised that you must repeat the same correction, or threat, or punishment, over and over again. Your child’s brain is not in a learning state of mind.

What’s the solution? Stop doing the kinds of things that your child perceives as threatening. Make a simple request for what you want your child to do, rather than attempting to get your child stop doing what you don’t want. “Sit please.” “Use your inside voice please.” “Hold my hand and walk with me please.” Can you see how each of these requests keeps a child in an open position for growth and learning rather than “No standing.” “Quit shouting and screaming.” “No running.” It is equally important to use a neutral, calm, friendly tone of voice. How you speak to your child is as important as what you say. Remaining calm, friendly and engaged with your child, even during nonverbal times keep both of you in an open and growth state, rather than needing to retreat into a state of protection.

Now you are your child are ready to face any challenge you encounter at the grocery store and beyond.

Success is attracted by the application of definite principles. Right principles are keys that open up the gates on the pathway to the pinnacle of success. One of such principles is the principle of self-discipline.

Self-discipline is an individual’s ability to control their emotions, feelings and whatever they can emotionally be influenced by. In other words it is a man’s ability to control his affections. Acquiring this ability is the gateway to success because without the mastery of this principle the individual is not in position to master the rest neither can he or she make progress in the pursuit of success in any area of life.

As it is a necessity with an individual desiring to achieve greatness in life, so it is with a nation. No nation can become great with gross indiscipline. Some of the offshoots of indiscipline are corruption and decadence. A horse that would not allow it self to be tamed won’t also be decorated and made fit to be mounted by kings and princes. Self-discipline cannot be enforced by an external body, but by you. It is not usually an easy principle to master because humans naturally resist any form of change. They are also naturally products of their habits. No one can keep doing habitually what they have been doing in the past and then expect to see different changes around their life, for it is a man’s habitual thought and speech pattern that determines what is made manifest in his life. For example a student that has been failing in his or her academic work as a result of poor study habits, has to change such habit if they would see success.

Like the name suggests, self-discipline means to say ‘no’ to those habits that you sincerely want to change in your life. Mind is superior to matter, therefore it takes mind power to develop a strong enough will power that can push back and resist the force of negative inclinations in you. Every action begins as a thought seed in your mind, therefore no one can successfully discipline himself or herself without the ability to cut off or terminate every thought of any unwanted action as soon as it originates in the mind. For example; a student at his study desk that allows his thoughts to wander to the fun of going surfing in the beach will soon find himself abandoning those books and heading for the beach except he says ‘No’ to those thoughts immediately.

Most people who succeeded early in life are people who were either guided by mentors to master this principle of self-discipline or they naturally had that ability. It is good to note at this point that people who manage to get to the height of their careers without paying proper attention to the development of this character trait most times crash from great career heights due to an irresponsible action carried out for lack of self discipline. It is never too late to tell your body that you’re in charge. Simply write out a list of the habits that you desire to change in your life and begin to say an emphatic ‘NO’ to yourself each time your mind suggests to you to go and carry out those actions. By so doing, you’re putting a new habit in place. This will eventually replace the old ones that you want to eliminate. The time to start is now!

Planning is your key to finding time to get everything done. Indeed, if you don’t plan, you’ll find yourself at sea. And surrounding you will be a floating array of tasks, priorities, and dreams. They’ll look random and chaotic, bobbing on the ocean swells.

So, if planning is your key, how do you do it?

Focus and Flexibility

Well, for starters, planning requires both focus and flexibility. I emphasize flexibility because so often, when we develop plans, our attitude is that we need to stick to them no matter what. But that’s actually not true. Life just doesn’t lend itself to that.

There’s a world of difference between disciplined follow-through and rigidity. Think about how you feel when met by someone else’s rigid response to a change. Do sparks fly? Do you seethe inside? Do you feel responded to or rebuffed?

Plans and Priorities

That’s what happens when your PLAN becomes your priority… rather than whatever your priority actually was about to begin with. When you’re moving toward rigidity, you are becoming so committed to your PLAN that you let other parts of your life suffer. Relationships can be the first casualty.

So how do you learn to tell the difference between when you’re being focused-but-flexible and when you’re being rigid in your daily living?

Telling the Difference

Use Your Judgment: Follow-through builds trust and is very important. However, follow-through “no matter what” means that you are not really taking responsibility for exercising judgment and making adult choices. Circumstances sometimes DO interfere with our plans. That is a reality of human life.

So, being realistic about your planning and factoring in some flex time can leave space for the unexpected and can actually PROTECT the flow of your day!

Pay Attention to Feelings: When you are feeling rigid, view it as a red flag. It’s telling you that you are trying to focus but have lost your balance. This can happen to anyone! When you notice this happening, take a deep breath and step back. Ask yourself…

• “What are my central commitments?”
• “How can I adjust to what is happening in this moment?”
• “Is there anything I can let go of right now?”

Maybe you will shift things around; and maybe you won’t. The important thing is to check in with yourself and own your choice. The red flag helps you pause and readjust your perspective.

Build Skills: Focus and flexibility are skills you build, and as you do this skill-building, you’ll find that self-reference is one of your best allies. Keep checking in with yourself to find your balance. You’ll feel more and more comfortable and agile, as you navigate your day by flexing here, and holding firm there.

Reflect on Results: Don’t do this with a critical eye, but with friendly objectivity. This allows you to build on your experience and deepen your trust in yourself and your judgment.

Do you find it easy to feel balanced when it comes to focus and flexibility? Or do you fall back on rigidity to maintain your boundaries and get things done? Ready to try something different? I’d love to hear your experiences with this whole area… and what you think!

Let’s explore time together…

Discipline Is King

Motivation is a fleeting state that requires a certain mental or emotional approach to reach a goal.

It fluctuates depending on outward conditions.

In contrast, discipline can help you conquer the toughest challenges.

For example, you may wake up with a cold or flu and have a 10,000 word report to write, yet not be motivated to complete it.

However, discipline commands you tackle the work knowing it must be completed, regardless.

Success depends on discipline because motivation comes and go. It entails chipping away at a goal until the desired outcome is realised.

Motivation is interrupted by excuses and fades steadily. This is why your motivation at the beginning of the year contracts towards the latter part.

“In other words, if you are an effective manager of yourself, your discipline comes from within; it is a function of your independent will. You are a disciple, a follower, of your own deep values and their source. And you have the will, the integrity, to subordinate your feelings, your impulses, your moods to those values,” states author Stephen R. Covey in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

You mustn’t wait until the perfect conditions to begin a task. Rather, tackle it boldly until the conditions become perfect.

Motivation is an overused word, apparent in the corporate world where managers try desperately to inspire their employees.

Yet, in the sporting world motivation cannot be relied upon by athletes for success.

Winning athletes know discipline is the cornerstone of success. They consistently show up to training when they’re less inclined. Unforeseen circumstances may interrupt their preparation, yet they are determined to put in hours of dedicated practice.

Life has a way of dragging you every which way if you let it. This means if a crisis or unplanned event arises, you may be unmotivated to take action on your goal.

This scenario happens all too often.

If you think back on the previous week, did something unexpected affect your motivation?

Did it wane during the week or were you disciplined despite the interruption?

Author Jay Samit states in Disrupt Yourself, “By carefully studying your environment and analyzing your daily frustrations, you’ll find that opportunities for disruption start to jump out at you. Daily discipline is the key to this exercise. I tell my students to write down three things they notice could be improved every day.”

Get Feelings Out Of The Way

You must disassociate feelings with actions to reach your goals. This is the biggest impediment affecting people because they are dictated by their emotions, instead of seeing the goal as the prize.

You will enjoy reaching your goals more than the immediate gratification of succumbing to your emotions.

If you rely on feelings, you are less inclined to commit to the task at hand because you are dictated by short-lived emotional states.

Discipline means showing up time and again, irrespective how you feel. The goal has a greater purpose, so it is incumbent on you to stay committed until the end.

It’s clear, you don’t undertake a goal to play small. It’s about winning and achievement that make the pursuit exciting.

“The discipline of consistent action is what self-management is all about. It’s the only way to win and keep winning,” affirms author Larry Weidel in, Serial Winner: 5 Actions to Create Your Cycle of Success.

So, how can you be more disciplined and avoid counting on motivation?

First, create regular routines without over-committing in the early stages. If your goal is to exercise four times a week, build gradually instead of going all out in the first week.

The greatest impacts on your life will result from taking the first step and improving on it.

Gradual Improvements

In the sporting world there’s a term known as, marginal gains popularised by Sky Team’s cycling manager, David Brailsford. It is a concept referred to as the “aggregation of marginal gains.” According to Brailsford it means, “The 1 percent margin for improvement in everything you do.”

At the senior level, most professional athletes are of a similar ability in terms of: performance, dedication and skill. What separates first from second or third is the smaller gains, the 1% such as: sleep, nutrition and recovery.

The 1% increments add up, leading to marginal gains. Therefore, discipline becomes the means to success.

“Success is actually a short race – a sprint fuelled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over,” state authors Gary Keller and Jay Papasan in, The One Thing: The surprisingly simple truth behind extraordinary results.

The key is to start small and make small increments towards your goal.

Second, discover your underlying motivation for pursuing the goal. Find a convincing reason to take daily action, even if it’s the smallest task, you are likely to stay committed.

People who have a compelling reason are disciplined until the goal is accomplished.

The desire must be imbued with enthusiasm, you will stop at nothing to achieve it.

“As Samuel Johnson said, “The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” Anyone who thrives in any endeavour develops this discipline, the ability to be still, to stay the course, to grow down – no matter what. No matter how the world receives them. No matter what results they get initially,” affirms Derek Rydall in Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change.

The forces of life conspire against you in the form of resistance. If you succumb, your efforts will be in vain and your success squandered. Yet, if you take them into account, you will stay resolute irrespective of the circumstances.

Persistent action in the face of fear is paramount, as Susan Jeffers writes in her acclaimed book, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. With this approach, you reinforce your self-esteem each time you commit to a task.

Authors Gary Keller and Jay Papasan state, “When you discipline yourself, you’re essentially training yourself to act in a specific way. Stay with this long enough and it becomes routine – in other words, a habit. So when you see people who look like “disciplined” people, what you’re really seeing is people who’ve trained a handful of habits into their lives.”

You must learn to think with the end in mind as Stephen R. Covey states.

Discipline replaces motivation because you show up consistently. The goal is too important to allow feelings to get in the way.

The late American motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.”

I advise you not to allow regrets to impose upon your success.

Afterall, it is much too important to leave to chance.

Teaching is hard, no matter which angle you view it. You will have difficult days and you will have easier days. But it all boils down to how you can use your power as a listener (one of our many roles as teachers) to help foster positive communication, which will offset discipline problems in the class by 99% once you do it routinely and you mean what you say.

Step 1. Echo. Listen to the person talking. As soon as s/he finishes, repeat what s/he has said. Try to use almost the exact words. Then ask one of the questions: Did I hear you correctly? Do you want to add something?

Step 2. Confirmation. Let the person know that you understand the important of what s/he just said. I can see that… I understand that you feel …

Step 3. Empathy. Try to see the other person’s side. By showing empathy you let the person know you really hear him or her. I feel that.. I understand…

Step 4. Make a Request. Ask the person what /she wants from you. Suggest what you feel you can do. Please tell me what you actually want.. What can I do?

When dealing with discipline problems, teachers need to also have emphatic listening skills to help them avoid confrontations with both parents and students. This skill goes beyond any sort of course you were probably ever taught at teacher’s college and is usually defined as a performance skill. in fact, teachers should rely much more on their performance skills for dealing with discipline problems than follow-throughs.