Bringing up children wisely – without inflicting “injustices” that can result in emotional problems later in life – can be difficult for some parents, as they too are human, sometimes short tempered and not always patient and understanding. All of the children’s “disobediences” “cheek” and “defiant behaviour” or other intolerable actions should not necessarily be corrected with “slaps” and other forms of rough handling, but substituted by duties or taboos that do not please, but are a good form of disciplinary measure.

Most of these, if cleverly chosen and enforced, are of educational and “duty awareness” value and, instead of resentment, gain respect for their parents now and on reflection later in life (perhaps as an adult themselves). And the duty – disciplinary measure comes – “taking out the rubbish” for a specified time of occasions; drying the dishes for a similarly specified period; Tidying up their rooms ( which, by the way, should be a regular routine as part of their upbringing with self discipline) – and lastly – confinement to their rooms, doing sums or writing essays, depending on the severity of their wrongdoing, for one or several nights.

All of these keep the parent calm and controlled as he keeps “his cool” knowing that he has reacted the right way with punishment that can only be of benefit to the youngster. “No television”, “no pocket money”, “no desert for tonight” etc. are lame measures without purpose and benefit to him. Even helping Dad in the workshop, rather than “hanging out with the boys” would be of an advantage to the son and assist in his learning to become useful around the house when he is a man.

If a girl needs disciplining, make her do the dusting on one or more occasions. This also forms good future habits and may be a keenness to help around the house more often.

In any case these measures are better and more beneficial for both parents and offspring than Dad or Mum losing their temper.