The twenty-first century is witnessing a trend in oriental societies as well as western culture, wherein children’s actions and reaction towards their parents is much below general expectations of the spiritual and materialistic norms.
The following questions arise within this context and how it is perceived and dealt with.
- Is it the society’s changing values or materialistic attachments dictating terms forcefully and effectively?
- What role is being played by the home environments or educational institutions? What these children in their own age group talk and discuss? How it impacts them?
- What has conspired and transpired in this modern era that it is generating a phenomenon which affects one and all in a way other than spiritual norms?
Most of the children from western societies and a lesser degree from oriental societies act and react in inappropriately towards their parents. Their behaviour in not carved out of their personalities impulsively, but progressively affected their line of thinking from an early age and reached its peak in adulthood. We as parents and well wishers should not feel embarrassed or guilty because what is wrong cannot be undone. It only takes a bold step objectively in a matured way to change their thinking and alter their attitude in a meaningful and respectful manner.
At the outset, it is the depleting financial power trickling down in societies affecting the average and commoners masses adversely. The crux of the issue is lack of financial literacy and arrogance among the people. This aspect leads to incongruous mindset affecting their way of lives within and outside their environments. What matters is the type of people interact among each other and its after effects influencing them in a profound way.
The cardinal point is Parents’ lack of involvements within and outside their home. This is the first step which forces them to look for a sympathetic circle of well wishers. The second most impact is from their teenage and like-minded friends’ circle. Their discussions and advice available within their circle is very important and it impacts them effectively. They tend to ignore elder’s advice and guidance. At this juncture their immaturity and fickle mindedness get carried away consequently drifts aimlessly in the wilderness and ultimately end in a fiasco.
It is necessary to understand that the role of parents becomes more demanding subject to children’s continual irrational behaviour. It becomes more demanding when the behavioral pattern becomes volatile and damaging.
The changing scenario reflects the materialistic attachments and its impact on everybody, especially in young children. It is imperative that we should understand the importance of nuances between spirituality and materialism which might change the perspective of personality and character of youngsters. It could be constructive or destructive subject to who is affected by spirituality and materialism respectively. The former changes the course of an individual towards sublimity and the later dooms defeat. Because the materialistic societies and the superficial pomp and glory; the glittering and unethical display of vulgarity camouflaged suitably that misguide the youngster.
It is an absolute necessity that we should communicate with children from the earliest age and continue to do so until they become parents. At this juncture they will realize the importance of our contribution in their lives. The reason is very simple; because all of us are born on the same principle of Creational reality, original and unique by itself. Every human being likes good and fair dealings. It is the societies and materialistic attachments and unethical environments which make us drift in the wilderness of chaos and confusion.
It is advisable to become a friend with your children and gain their confidence otherwise they will find other friends and that is the beginning of the disaster for the entire family. Secondly, listen to their views or problems with patience and come down to their level of understanding and provide suggestions constructive and avoid being subjective. As Longfellow says in his poem Psalm of life:
“Tell me not, in mournful numbers,
Life is but an empty dream.”
