After speaking with countless women who have lost and won back the person they love I have come to realise what is vital to mend a broken relationship. Do you want to know how to get your ex husband back after a separation? Do you want to lift the sadness and darkness you currently feel?

If your answer is “yes” then you need to know some important facts. Most women actually push their loved one further away because they say and do completely the wrong thing after a break up. Please do not let this happen to you. Neediness and insecurity will kill any sparks between you and him quicker than water over a flame.

Let me tell you about Sarah. I spent a while advising her a while back after her marriage broke down. She couldn’t understand why he had left her. In order to fix things she told me she had:

1. Begged him to stay

2. Bought him gifts

3. Said “I love you” over and over

4. Promised to change and be different in future

Now this may sound harsh, but what she was doing was playing the part of the ‘human doormat.’ No wonder her husband could no longer see the fun loving free spirit she used to be.

Here’s how to get your ex husband back after separation – use mind control! OK, I know you think this sounds crazy but it’s really not. You see, when I say mind control, I really mean that I want you to influence his subconscious mind and you can do this using various techniques like NLP (otherwise know as neuro-linguistic programming).

Confused? Basically, that means you can get your husband back after separation by saying and doing things that secretly manipulate the way he thinks. If you think this sounds a little unethical and unorthodox then you’re right, but will it work? Damn right it will! I know this works because I’ve seen it over and over again.

Here are 2 easy ways of how to get your ex husband back after separation using mind control.

1. Be cryptic. For example send an email that uses an excuse to get in touch. For example a letter has arrived and it looks like it might be a parking fine or something important with his name on. Then sign the message off with “by the way, I just wanted to thank you for giving me this time to think. Some very interesting things have happened over the last few days, and it’s really opened my eyes. Anyway, I’m in a hurry so better go now.”

The human brain is programmed to ask questions and solve problems. His mind will be going out of control trying to figure out what has “opened your eyes” and he’ll naturally assume the worst. Have you met someone else? have you found out a secret about him? Leaving that gap in his knowledge will drive him crazy. He’ll be desperate to know what’s going on with you.

2. My second tip on how to get your ex husband back after separation is to remind him of an important, special or romantic time you both shared together. A romantic holiday is usually a great idea. So casually announce that your friend has booked to go to that romantic resort you both visited and then remind him of the time you both laughed or shared a specific experience there. His mind will automatically paint that picture and he will start to re live the experience in his imagination.

This works because he will start to associate you with the good times. He’ll remember why he fell in love with you in the first place and he’ll start to question whether the break up is a good idea after all.