Whether you’re looking to get back your ex boyfriend (or just want to know whether or not he still wants you), the following guidelines will help out. The signs and signals a guy gives off when he’s around or talking to you can go a long way toward telling you if he’s still interested. And if you’ve been working toward getting back together with your ex, knowing and identifying these signs can be extremely important. Sometimes they can be obvious, but other times your ex might be giving them off without even knowing it.

The signals below are all good indications that your ex boyfriend is thinking about rekindling your romance:

Your Ex Increases Contact With You – Maybe you’ve stayed in touch with your ex after the break up, or maybe he just called you out of the blue. Constant communication is a big sign that your ex doesn’t fully want to let go of your relationship, but a sudden increase in the amount of contact can tell a different story. If your ex wants you back, he’s going to pick up the pace. He’ll start sending you emails, text messages, and make frequent phone calls just to chat you up. The subject of these conversations may get romantic, but probably not right away. More telling is the fact that he’s paying you more attention than normal.

Your Ex Boyfriend Asks About Your Dating Situation – Wanting to know the status of your love life seems like a friendly question, but coming from an ex boyfriend it’s always laced with ulterior motives. When your ex is considering dating you again, the first thing he’ll need to know is whether or not you’re interested in anyone else. Knowing you’re pursuing other interests will spare him the rejection of asking you out. So if you’re looking to get back with your ex, make sure you give him the green light here.

He Goes Out of His Way to Tell You He’s Single – Talking to your ex casually can be very strange when it comes to dating other people. After all, you have a long and intimate history together… jealousy could still linger on either side. Most guys will avoid talking about new love interests or girlfriends. But if your ex starts making a point of the fact that he’s not dating anyone? It’s highly likely he’s testing the waters to see if you’re interested in giving your relationship another shot. If you want you boyfriend back, this is always a great sign.

Your Ex Brings Up The Past – When a relationship ends, there is usually bad blood between the two participants. Over time, the memories of fighting and arguing begin to fade away, leaving only the good times behind. Bringing up the great times the two of you had together is your ex boyfriend’s way of saying “Hey, look at that! Wasn’t that fun? Maybe we should do that again!” Anyone mentioning the past is doing so for a very good reason: they want to rekindle some old sparks. If he wasn’t interested in seeing you again, your ex probably wouldn’t bring these times up for fear of giving you the wrong idea.

Your Ex Boyfriend Asks You To Lunch – This is the classic opening move for a guy trying to get back into a relationship with an ex girlfriend. “Lunch” is the most innocent of meetings; it’s usually short, to the point, and in a neutral location. There’s no danger of awkward pauses or prolonged hanging out after having lunch… usually you both go your separate ways. If your ex asks to meet you for a quick meal or cup of coffee, odds are good he’s not just doing it for the small talk. “Friends with your ex” is a myth: either you date your ex boyfriend or you don’t date him. And although some people find themselves trapped in the black hole known as The Friend Zone, friendship with an ex is never anyone’s true goal.

He’s Suddenly Attentive To You Again – One of the last things that will happen when he’s ready to ask you out again, your ex will suddenly become a lot more complimentary and attentive toward you. His behaviors will even mimic the beginning of your old relationship, back at the time he was courting you. If you’re into dating your ex again, roll with it. If not, be very aware of this type of sign. Any radical change in behavior like this usually indicates he’s about to change the dynamic of your post-breakup relationship.

Some times relationships just are not going to work out, in fact statistically the first or even the second relationship is prone to dissolve. Most people get into relationships in their early to late teens and thus, as they grow older they grow and become different individuals. They are in a position of learning how to be a mate and who they really are, so there is a greater chance of first relationships breaking up than say the second or third relationship.

Just because this is your first relationship doesn’t automatically mean your doomed to break up. On the contrary many people marry their high school sweetheart and live happily ever after. However when your young and on your first or second relationship things can get out of hand quickly. The relationship may end over trivial complaints thrown up in the heat of the moment. Some people breakup because of the things their friends say about their mate. I knew a couple who divorced because the wife was ashamed that her husband was a welder on an assembly line.

(whoops dated myself, that was back when America actually produced products)

No matter what the reason of the breakup you have a good chance of getting back together even if your the only one working for reconciliation, it isn’t simple but it can be easy. There are folks who study such human behaviors an they have discovered a few “tricks” that you can employ to get your ex back.

Think about how your relationship ended, what was the problem that caused the breakup? Figure it out, if this issue continues, even if you do get back together you will probably split up again if you cannot grow from this time apart. If you get together and then split again over the same problem you will have a harder time reconciling, so see what the problem is. See if you can change how you acted or responded to the problem that arose so that you can deal with it.

Now take a look at yourself, unfortunately, as humans we tend to let ourselves go a bit after we have “caught” our mate and that can have detrimental effect. Have you gained 45 pounds and gotten in the habit of drinking beer and watching t.v. every night instead of doing the kinds of things you did when you were trying to win your mates affections? Do you need to get your act together?

I bet if you stay single long enough you’ll gravitate towards doing those things to your appearance that are necessary to attract a mate. Make sure you do that for your ex first, and quickly. The more time that goes by beyond three months the harder it will be for you to get your ex back. The reason I say this is for the first two or three months there is a very high percentage of people who begin to look back at what they left behind and want to come home again, or if you like they want to get back that love they left behind.

Gracious, who wants to be out there in the meat markets when they had someone who loved them and they could maybe get back together with? Make sure your ex sees that you have really started taking care of yourself again so that when they have a feeling of nostalgia they think about how great you looked that last time they saw you.

Now help your ex remember how great you are by having mutual friends mention you within ear-shot of your ex. Your plans for the summer, how good your looking or how you just received that promotion. See if you can get mutual friends that are in your corner to keep you in the conversational loop that they have when they are around your ex. Just like a major corporation, keep putting your brand in front of your ex in ways that are clever and not blatant and definitely not stocking, texting or calling them.

When your ex hears your moving on in life and getting it together without him/her they will naturally focus their thoughts on you. They are saying to themselves “what am I missing” They could regret that they are not sharing those things with you, particularly in light of what is going on in their lives. You have it all over anybody new because you know you ex and he/she remembers you. They remember the good times.

All the bad things, bad times, the mind wants to forget and that is natural to humans. We remember the good stuff, you just need to arrange it so that your ex gets a memory jog occasionally.

You can go “pro-active” on this point by being in places that you know your ex is likely to be. Go ahead and get coffee at the same old coffee shop, take your friend to dinner where you know your ex likes to hang out, that sort of thing.

Now I know that the last thing you want to do is visit all the places you used to go together, it’s painful, I understand, I’ve been there and if this strategy is too painful for you don’t do it, there are other ways. If you can handle it though there may be parties thrown by mutual friends, sporting events, bowling teams any activity or social event where your ex will be, you get the idea. Make it casual though don’t drive on hour out of your way and be sitting out side his place of employment, that would be bad. Just be subtle, low key and casual about “bumping into” your ex.

Remember when you first met and how things progressed in your relationship, see if you can recreate similar conditions. Be positive and happy when you see your ex and don’t show any signs of desperation, or neediness. You have to be aloof casual, and uninterested in your ex except in the lightest most causal way. They will eventually want to get together with you just to “talk”. It may take time and it will be painful and at some point you may decide that they are not worth it, in which case you have gotten to the point you are ready to move on.

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If you’re selling your book online, you’re practically guaranteed to increase sales by publishing an e-mail newsletter, or “e-zine.”

Why? Well, for a start, it’s a super way to give readers a taste of your expertise and style along with samples of your content. This ensures they’ll come to be familiar with you, trust you, and hopefully buy your book when they’re ready for more information.

Also, it’s a great way to *capture prospects* who aren’t ready to buy your book when they visit your site, but are still interested in the info you have to share.

Based on my own experiences in marketing my manual, ‘Boost Business With Your Own E-zine,’ here are 7 ways to help increase book sales using an e-mail newsletter.

1. First thing: Encourage e-zine SIGNUPS on your Web site where you promote your book.
   Before you even begin publishing, start collecting e-mail addresses. Place a signup form in many places on your site to invite visitors to subscribe to your free e-zine. This way, if a visitor isn’t interested in buying your book today, she can sign up for your free e-zine. Now you haven’t lost her, and she’ll learn even *more* about your book from being a subscriber.

   E-zine publishers also report GREAT signup results using pop-up and pop-under boxes at their Web sites.

   Examples: On my main site, http://www.ezinequeen.com, I feature a signup form on EVERY page, as well as a pop-up box. On my book sales site, [http://www.ezinequeen.com/tutorial], I have a pop-under box that appears once you close the main window.

   Remember: NEVER sign anyone up without her permission!

2. Feature EXCERPTS and/or TIPS from your book in your e-zine.
   These can be either direct excerpts or short tips that summarize some of your content. Go through your book and highlight individual tips or small sections that could stand well on their own. Just don’t give away the whole store! For example, giving your readers a whole chapter of your book in each issue is going overboard.

   Besides lifting material directly from your book, try some other spins on your topic such as a list of top 10 tips, a how-to article, a list of resources, or a review of a trend in the industry.

   Example: One of my clients, a life coach, has a hard-cover book out right now that features 101 tips on how to attract what you want in life. Each issue of her weekly e-zine features one of those tips, along with a brief explanation of how to implement it.

3. Directly after your article, give a quick PROMO BLURB that shamelessly plugs your book.
   Why right after the article and before anything else? If someone reads your article/tip and says to themselves, “Gee, that was great information,” they’ll be ready to hear what else you have to share on that subject. Really pump it up and have a good time with it.

   Example: “Did you like today’s article? If you did, you’ll LOVE my new book, ‘Double Your Business in Six Months.’ It’s jammed with more than 257 great ideas to help you grow your business FAST. Learn more and order now at [Web address here]. You can begin using my best tips within minutes!”

4. In each issue, offer a TESTIMONIAL from one of your book purchasers.
   Let your readers know that many other people just like them ARE buying your book and LOVE it. Idea: Create a small section in your e-zine for this purpose. In each issue, feature a short testimonial from one of your readers here.

   Example: “What ‘Beauty Blastoff’ Readers Are Saying: ‘I can’t tell you how much your book has helped me improve my appearance. Thanks to your tips, I’ve lost 20 pounds, cleared up my skin, and rid of all my unwanted hair. Now my rich ex-husband even wants me back. You’re a saint!'” – Suzy Smitten, Los Angeles, Calif.

5. Offer your readers a SPECIAL DISCOUNT for a l1mited time.
   Make your readers feel special by offering them a special discount on your book when you can. For best response rates, make it a limited time offer to lend a sense of urgency. I did this with my manual when it first came out and got great results.

   Example: “For Subscribers Only: Buy my book before midnight this Friday and receive a 20% discount!”

   If you can’t give your subscribers a discount, offer something else to make them feel special, such as a bonus report or free phone consultation with their purchase.

6. Mention your book in as many other places as possible in your e-zine.
   Bottom line: The more you mention your book, the higher your chances they’ll buy. While your opportunities are endless, here are a few ideas to start with:

• in your masthead (This is where you give the reader info about your publication – usually at the very top.)
• in your editor’s or publisher’s note (This is where you give a personal note to your readers.)
• in your article (If you mention a certain point that you cover wonderfully in your book, say so!)

(c) 2000-2003 Alexandria K. Brown. All rights reserved.

Jenni Viken’s new book Choosing Healthy Relationships explores an area many women struggle with. Most people are not given much guidance on how to find their significant other in life, and that choice is even more difficult if you come from an abusive home or have a legacy of generational abuse in your family. Children learn what their parents model for them, and if no one models how to find a healthy partner or how to deal with issues in a relationship, then a dysfunctional relationship will usually occur, and often, it can be marked by abuse-physical, emotional, and verbal.

Jenni Viken understands that. She’s been there. She spent eighteen years, sixteen of them married, in an abusive relationship. In this book, she tells her story of how she met the husband who would become her abuser. She honestly speaks about her own unwitting role in the abuse, and she shares how she found the courage to protect her children and get them out of that situation. But the book is more than just Jenni’s story. She uses her experiences as a means to explore hard truths about relationships and open a path to the reader to make better choices for their own relationships.

Part of the problem, as Jenni points out right from the start, is that we are taught as children that the goal is one day to fall in love and get married, and we are fed fairy-tale versions of marriage, but we are not taught what to do when the person we choose turns out not to be Prince Charming. Worse, we are not taught enough about how to cultivate our own self-esteem and self-worth to not attract the wrong partner.

While abuse is not acceptable in any form, Jenni is honest about her own role in the abuse. She did not go out and look for it, but she had the personal qualities that told her abuser the abuse was acceptable. Her longing for self-worth and validation led her into relationships with toxic people. She became a “people pleaser” and continually tried to fix others when she first needed to learn to fix herself. She honestly states, “I chose one broken boy after another. I was after the ‘bad boys.’ If a boy was nice, respectful, and healthy, I thought something was wrong with him, so I would do something to sabotage the relationship and break it off. It’s obvious to me now that I didn’t think I was worthy of healthy attention or love.”

I won’t go into all of Jenni’s story, but the abuse she experienced ranged from being given the silent treatment and having to walk on eggshells to physical abuse, manipulation, and threats until she finally found the courage to leave.

Jenni does not want other women to experience this situation. She tells her story to share the warning signs that you might be in a relationship with an abuser. Most eye-opening is that her abuser was a narcissist-most are. She discusses how narcissists try to control others to retain their power and their own feelings of self-worth. Unfortunately, Jenni thought a lot of her husband’s crazy behavior and mistreatment of her was normal in a relationship. Only when she came to understand about narcissism could she really realize how dysfunctional her life was and that she could not change her husband-he was incapable of changing. Then she decided to leave.

In the book, Jenni discusses how to create a safety plan for leaving an abusive relationship. She also examines all the reasons (aka excuses) women have for not leaving. The most eye-opening is that women will stay for the kids. She unabashedly, yet with empathy, explains that this is an excuse borne out of fear, and she discusses the deep emotional wounds inflicted on children who stay in abusive homes, so the sooner you get you and your kids out, the better.

After leaving, healing must begin, so Jenni walks the reader through how she healed. She shares how she set boundaries with her ex-husband, and ultimately, how she came to forgive him. Perhaps more importantly, she learned to forgive herself for letting her kids down by allowing them to live in an abusive environment for so long. In the end, she came to accept that she and her husband both did the best they could with what had been modeled for them, but while he was unable to change, she has now transformed her life, even finding a new and healthy marriage.

Finally, Jenni reveals the secret ingredients to healthy relationships. She states, “I believe we are all on this earth to love and to be loved. Love is about open communication, mutual respect, forgiveness, grace, kindness, and patience.” She discusses how to communicate with love and the different ways people express love. She reveals how a healthy relationship requires setting healthy boundaries, having good communication, and sharing and not compromising on your core values. Through exercises, she helps the reader explore these areas to get a good understanding of their importance and how to develop them in a relationship.

I admire Jenni Viken for her courage in sharing this story. We all are dysfunctional in some way, and we can all do better. This book gives us hope, and more importantly, practical steps to take so we can have the peace and happiness in our relationships that we have always wanted.

Beneath the disarming facade and mesmerizing charm, the narcissist is calculating his next winning moves. Whether personal or professional, he/she is always focused on enhancing his image, power, reach and material largesse. Friendships are leveraged to place him in a higher social and professional tier of power and influence. Narcissists are single minded and ruthless in achieving their goals. They act without mercy, compassion, or empathy. It is not unusual for them to purposely marry someone who will provide them with social access to the accoutrements that these venues provide. Marriage is an arrangement, a business deal. Narcissists tend to marry numerous times, have many boyfriends/girlfriends and pursue other intimate relationships and flings on the side.

Narcissists are often treacherous in their personal and business dealings. “Treachery is a profound betrayal of trust that causes grave harm to another human being.” Treachery is a brutal double-cross. Without conscience or guilt, the narcissist is free to treat people as puppets in his life drama.

In business the narcissist is brutal and predatory. Many narcissists are highly litigious. They have small armies of attorneys on hand to sue those whom they perceive are obstacles to their goals whether it is rational, moral, ethical or legal. If they are high-level narcissists who have enjoyed worldly success, they are able to intimidate even those who have legitimate legal grievances against them. With their monetary heft they use clever lawyers who find the legal loophole that will win their case. If the injured party will not back off, the narcissist will counter-sue his adversary. The aggrieved person is left without recourse. He is unable to take the financial risk of a lengthy court battle and an unknown verdict.

In their personal lives, narcissists psychologically and monetarily abuse their families, leaving wives/husbands, mistresses, boyfriends, girlfriends, and children to fend for themselves. They often conceal their assets from ex-wives and ex-husbands and their children by cleverly placing them in off-shore investments. Narcissists are unconcerned about the severe psychological and monetary consequences of their treacherous behaviors. They have moved on to create another life that will fulfill their grandiose dreams.

It is difficult for many people to believe that some human beings can be so calculating, so treacherous. The narcissist learned from childhood that human consequences don’t matter, that the feelings of others are immaterial, that everyone is expendable. Developing an awareness and understanding of the dynamics of the narcissistic personality disorder is a wise decision.

Sex always seems to be a dilemma for many women, partly because of societal dictation that views sexual women as against the norm (which can’t be further from the truth). You know the saying: If he can get the milk for free, why buy the cow? I will discuss this in general terms first before we delve into the subject of sex during the reconnecting phase with your ex.

You know the rule of not having sex with a guy till 3rd or 5th (or put the number here) date? It just doesn’t seem to matter with me. Actually the last 2 long term relationships I had including the one with my husband (9 years and 8 years), we had sex the first time we met. So I’m not sure about that rule.

I’ve always had a strong connection with guys with whom the physical attraction was so instant and it usually grew into something more than just sexual (some of them became my very good friends). I think as long as you are confident in yourself and value yourself, men can feel it and it doesn’t take away the attraction from you one bit just because you’ve had sex with them. With me it’s always the opposite, they are attracted to me exactly because of my strong sexuality, among other things. If the chemistry is strong, it doesn’t matter on which date you have sex with them, they will want to be with you nevertheless. And the other way around, if he feels lukewarm about you, even after waiting to have sex, he will drift away eventually.

I’m not advocating to be promiscuous. I’m just saying that sex can mean different things to different people, and depending on circumstances it can help or not help. I just don’t see it a major factor on men deciding to pursue you, though a lot of people seem to think so. It’s not the case in my experience. Just do whatever feels comfortable/right to you. And maybe in the end, it boils down to whether or not you want to be with a guy who thinks negatively about a sexual woman like that? I won’t be attracted to him in the first place, I think.

It may not work every woman but being relaxed about sex works for me. And as such I’m not fixing things that ain’t broke. I’m following my instinct when it comes to this. The key is not to expect relationship just because you have had sex with him. I never did and as such the men stick around if I let them to. I had sex because I wanted it and it organically blossomed into something deep. And it’s not difficult for me because “love at first sight” doesn’t work for me. It takes me a while to feel for someone and after a lot of sex:D.

I think the difference is whether or not you feel comfortable with your own sexuality. And I always have. I didn’t expect a relationship just because we have had sex (often strictly sexual relationship is fun and worth it for its own sake). A few I didn’t intend to see again after that one time sex. A few other times it was the guy who wanted to be serious with me while I wasn’t interested (yes, the situation is sometimes reversed, believe it or not).

A lot of women get too emotionally intense after sex; that is what scares men off. If you continue having sex with a guy without the burden of having to commit soon, a deeper connection may actually take place. As I said, some of my really good male friends are those of my former sex-buddies. Men bond through sex, while women generally need to feel close to have sex. And it explains why a deeper connection can happen after a casual relationship.

I tend to go for something to grow organically. When it happens, it happens. When it doesn’t, ah well… then move on to a greener pasture. My experience has been that if you have a strong chemistry with a man, he won’t stop seeing you just because you had sex on the first date. I think the ability to relax and enjoy sex for just the sensual pleasure it brings actually projects an appealing allure of a Goddess to many men. They find it incredibly sexy and powerful.

I think both ways can work depending on your attitude and personality. If you are not sure, don’t do it because it will show. Waiting may be best for you. But with me, without sounding too boastful, I feel my sexuality has always been the main factor that attracts men to me. And no, I don’t mean it in “trying too much to be sexy/seductive” kinda way. It’s just a part of the “whole package” with me. My husband in fact loves that sexual part of me so much. He finds it such a turn on. So it works for me!

I don’t have sex right away with every man I met/dated of course. Many I never did and never will.

I think the problem is a lot of women think ahead of themselves, like if you have sex with him it’s necessarily you want to be with him and he might turn you down. No, you can’t sell yourself short like that. You own your sexuality, you get to decide too…not only him. And I have proven it that having sex after certain number of dates have nothing whatsoever to do whether or not he’s going to chase you. I got to turn them down too ’cause I wasn’t interested in anything more than just a casual relationship.

As I said, if you don’t feel comfortable about it, then don’t do it. If you want to wait because it feels right to you, hell yes then you have to wait. I totally understand why you feel that way. And he absolutely has to respect that. I have in the recent past dated a guy 4-5 times and didn’t have sex with him at all. We women have the first say when we want to have sex, so the power is with us. And he can’t take that power away unless we let him.

But my last 2 long term relationships are proof enough that the “golden rule” is not an absolute thing. I have known other couples who had sex right away too. So I guess what I want to make you understand is: Don’t delay sex just because you think it will make him want to commit to you. Do it because you feel it’s safest for you emotionally.

Another argument is, because men are hunters, it’s appealing for them to be challenged to prove they’re worthy of bedding you which is valid enough apart from, again, there is no guarantee he will keep chasing you once the waiting period is complete. How many men disappear from a woman’s life after she waited so long to have sex?

When it feels right, the sex could only help. When it doesn’t feel right, no amount of sex or lack thereof would make him want to chase you. So I don’t think we can generalize one way or another. And actually a guy gets to know more of you too when you’re seeing him, with or without sex…and those other things BESIDE THE SEX that will make them attracted to you and want to be with you. You need to have that “je ne sais quois” to make him want to pursue you (which is different with every man), and remember it works the other way around too! Waiting to have sex is only important when you feel it is important.

Just my.02 worth.

Now in reconciliation, I think, depending on your circumstances (nature of relationship/breakup and your ex’s personality/history) sex can help: it recreates bond between you and your man. It will become an issue when you feel the sex serves him more than it does you, and when that happens it’s totally advisable for you to cease all sexual contacts. Then perhaps it’s time to set a deadline: some men need that because when they’re comfortable in an arrangement, they’re not motivated to make a move/change.

So yes it takes a strategy to reconcile with your ex. It’s a delicate balance you have to navigate, especially when you have to keep your own emotions in check.

The important part is to keep the drama to the minimum. A little bit of argument is good though, ’cause it shows that a relationship is real and it actually spices it up as well. Avoidance of conflict altogether only will create a time bomb and it’s not recommended. It’s about training your man on what works for you and what doesn’t. Remember, even you’re the one who seems more eager to reconcile, you need to set the tone of the relationship so it works for both of you better the second time around.

Has your partner ended your relationship and is now dating someone else? It feels like your whole body aches all of the time and you are heartbroken. You feel hopeless and have never wanted anything more in your life other than to hear the words “I want you back”. Nothing feels the same and nothing makes you happy.

Unfortunately this is something that we have all gone through at some point in our lives. It is not easy to deal with or put behind us. In fact it can take months or even years for the hurt to go away from the loss of your partner. What can be done to fix the relationship when your ex refuses to communicate with you? The solution is easier than you think. Over the last 10 years using witchcraft magic spells to help heal a relationship is becoming more and more common.

What exactly is witchcraft magic spells? It is when you have a coven of experiences witches use their energy and power to cast a powerful love spell to help bring you and your ex together again? There is a very specific spell called the Break Them Up and Return Lover Spell that is designed to bring your ex back even if they are in a relationship with someone else. This spell will detach them from the person that they are currently dating and draw them back to you. Their feelings of missing you will increase and they will want to work things out.

The break them up and return lover spell can also increase feelings of attraction emotionally and physically towards you from your ex. This helps give them more of a drive and passion towards being with you in a successful relationship. Your ex will desire no one else other than you and you will not have to worry about them straying any longer. Trust will be restored and your relationship will be even better than it was the first time around.

How is this possible? How does it work? These are common questions. Many people attempt to cast spells themselves and fail miserably. This is because they picked up a book at the library or printed out a love spell that they found on the internet. Not all spells that are published work. Not all people that cast spells on their own do it correctly even when instructions are followed. If you are looking to have an effective spell cast consult with a coven of experienced witches who have been doing it successfully for years. They will come together and use their energy and cast a break them up and return lover spell properly so that you can get your ex back.

What about the three fold rule? The three fold rule only applies to the person casting the spell. If you are not the one casting it, then you do not have to worry about anything negative happening as the result of a spell. Generally you want to stay away from black magic because it can have negative side effects even if you are not the one casting the spell. Make sure that the coven of witches that you are consulting with are using only white magic which is 100% safe.

If you are looking for a love spell please visit http://www.witchcraftmagicspells.org

Way back, my boyfriend and I parted ways and I found myself in despair after realizing that I still love him. I asked a lot of people what to do to get my ex to come back and from them, I learned three things. They are easy and effortless plus they really work!

#1 Work out why you broke up in the first place

Before you would actually try and get him to want you back, you should look at the root of the problem why parted ways. Healing starts when you know what caused the wound in the first place.

Besides, you cannot be together again unless you have settled your past differences. If you two have forgiven each other, then it is possible for you to start anew.

#2 Get a Makeover

It’s not that I looked unattractive but he has seen how I look and had grown accustomed to it. Getting a makeover is the best way to grab his attention without being obvious about it. Of course aside from getting his attention, a makeover will also relax you.

It doesn’t have to be anything major too. Take the time off and buy a really flattering look that suits you from shoes to a great top. Another way to change how you look is by getting a haircut that highlights your face as well as getting a whole body massage that can leave you glowing.

#3 Make him realize what he’s missing

Though it is important too, it is not just about the physical look. Make him miss your ways. Now, this would involve you being yourself but make sure that he’ll notice all these good things he liked about you. Not only this will catch his attention but it would remind him what a good person you are.

These 3 steps have taught me what to do to get my ex to come back. We’ve been together for a long time now. The best part about it is that the 3 steps have helped us have a better relationship than the first one we had.

THE IMPACT PRINCIPLES

Principles are principal requirements for positive revolution.Every result an individual desires is possible if the individual can apply the right principles. Principles are determining factors between: right and wrong, good and evil, failure and success, prosperity and poverty, a successful marriage and an unsuccessful marriage.

Principles are simply laid down rules, formulas, or settings for life occurrences. Nothing happens by chance and there is no accidental breakthrough. Every positive result is provoked by a correct application of the right principles. It is said in physics that, an object is at its resting place until a force is applied to it. This goes to confirm the truth that every positive result in life is as a result of a well calculated strategy. If most women have lost their husbands to other women, it is simply because of the principles they failed to apply. If free women are today parading with the husbands of most married women, it is because they apply principles which were to be applied by the married women but they failed. It is one thing for a woman to get married and another thing for her to keep her home. It is one thing for a woman to have a husband and another thing for her to keep her husband to herself.

Failure in principles must result to a breakdown in a marriage relationship. Every positive result in life is governed by principles. Ignorance of the principles which governs healthy marital relationship is what most married women are ignorant of. This ignorance has imprisoned most women in loneliness and joyless marriage relationship. While in the contrary, most free women are living happily with the husbands of married women because they are applying the principles meant for the married women to keep their homes, and their husbands to themselves. This implies, right has behaved wrongly and wrong has behaved rightly. Married women have failed to do what is right and so, they have given opportunity to free women to exploit this failure to their advantage. The solution to this dilemma is not tears, nor suicide but a rediscovery of the principles applied by the free women which attracted the husbands of the married women. When these principles are discovered and applied by married women, there will be a natural occurrence of the return of their husbands. A man can not leave his wife to another woman, if the wife is providing what the husband is looking for outside.

When a woman succeeds to bring home what the husband is looking for outside, that puts an end to the husband’s search. If a man leaves a woman to another woman and not to an angel, it implies the problem is not a personality problem but a principle problem. For a woman to keep her home or to take back her husband, principles are more of demands than her personality. I have seen beautiful educated women lose their husbands to uneducated women. I have seen house wives lose their husbands to house girls. The issue is not a personality problem, but a principle problem. Throughout this book, we will be exploring the principles which are highly needed for a woman to keep her home or take back her husband. The first time I brought out these principles in an operation take back your husband seminar, held in Bamenda Cameroon, thousands of women testified of regaining their husbands after these principles were applied. If you are a woman reading this book, know that you are face to face with knowledge which can change your world. Don’t only read but apply this principles and you will be dazed with surprises as far as your marriage is concerned.

If you are a young unmarried lady, know that the information in this book will prepare you to enjoy your marriage and not to endure. Preparation determines implementation. The loss of husbands to free women is not a personality problem but a principle problem, and operation take back your husband is a battle of principles. Any woman who fails in the application of the right principles in her marriage must fail in her home. A wise woman buildeth her house but the foolish one (one void of the principles of successful marriage) tears it down with her hands1. Most women have driven their husbands away by their ignorance, attitude and character. I believe this book is a social contribution to enhance quality and healthy marital relationship. If you are a woman reading this book, I see you become a wise woman who will build her home and not a foolish woman who will tear down her home.

THE VALUE CONCEPT

“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, we will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach”. What is not valued must surely be devalued. What is not appreciated, must surely depreciate. What a person values, he cherishes. What a person values, he protects. What a person values, he keeps.

What a person does not value, must be take from him and given to some one who values it. What a person does not value he can’t keep. Etc. The value concept is an important principle to help women keep their husbands. A woman’s value for her marriage will determine the way she operates in her home. According to the above quotation, it is said, a day will come when the ratio of women to men will be “seven is to one”. This implies, there will be seven women to one man. I declare boldly without any apology that, that day is finally here. To every single man, there are seven women looking for vacancy. This should place a married woman in a position where she should not take her marriage to her husband as a privilege but as a responsibility. If you know that what you have is being contested by seven other persons, it is wisdom to value it and cherish it. That is why the book of proverbs commended the wise woman for building her house and shamed the foolish woman for tearing down her home.

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands”2.

Only a foolish woman with no sense of value will look low on her marriage. And of a truth, most women have actually insulted and abused the privilege of marriage. This attitude has driven their husbands away in search of other women who can value and respect their privilege of being chosen as a wife among seven. There is an adage which says, ‘what a person has, he doesn’t value like the man who doesn’t have it’. This is true of many women. The way some women treat their marriages; have given the free women a lot of opportunity to attract their husbands, by trying to prove more caring and loving. A man without the fear of God can never live with a woman who looks low on him. Men have a natural pride as the head of the home. Any attitude from the women which throws this crown on the ground sends the men who lack the fear of God, running behind free ladies who greatly value their privilege with a married man.

If a woman will keep her home, her value for her husband must change. And if a woman will bring back her husband, she must reveal her great value for the man. Free ladies have made great use of the value concept for so long and have cheated the married women from their husbands. A man, whose wife disrespects him and is indifferent to her marriage responsibilities, will be easily attracted by a free girl who can offer him such services. Some free girls have applied all valuable methods like being more respectful and caring. Others offer services like the washing of men’s dresses, ironing them, cooking food on time, speaking sweet words to their targeted men. These are things which the married women ought to have applied. Most married women have abandons such services to their house girls. Others believe women emancipation is the freedom of women from their services at home and to their husbands I call on all married women to be wise. The time for foolishness is over. Let each married woman start to value her marriage and things will take a beautiful turn.

Guys do not always tell what they truly feel; most of them just beat around the bush and try to play it cool. When this happens, it might be difficult how to tell if he likes you through texting, as the short messaging system is limited in its capacity to allow people to get their message across the way they want it to.

Fortunately, even if you cannot tell the emotion that goes with the text messages that you receive from a guy, you can still be able to tell if he has grown fond of you. To check whether he likes you or not, here are some clues that you can find from his text messages to you:

• Message filled with concern – if he asks you about your day and you tell him that it has not been going so well, you would know that a guy likes you if his response shows sympathy and concern. Actually, even the act of replying to your message could be a sign that he likes you; because most guys would not even want to get involved with your personal troubles if they are not into you.
• Lengthy responses – even if you are just conversing about a favorite sport or pastime that both of you enjoy, you would know that a guy likes you if he engages himself in the topic that you are discussing. Even if a guy is not really fond of typing messages on the phone, if he is truly interested in a girl, then he would surely take time to type lengthy messages and enjoy texting with you.
• He tries to explain – if a guy has a busy schedule and was not able to respond to your message instantly, he would try to contact you as soon as he has the time to do so. When this happens, you can be more familiar with how to tell if he likes you through texting by checking out the content of his response. If he apologizes for the delay of his messages and tells you why it was so, then he might be trying to let you understand his situation, hoping that you will not lose interest in him. In which case, the guy is truly into you, as he does not want your communication to be broken.
• He sends you messages – the fact that the guy is responding to your messages is something that can truly tell a lot. He would not bother to reply if he is not interested in talking with you; and, therefore, if he likes you, he would readily reply to the messages that you send him (even if they are just quotes and other non-conversational messages).

It might not be easy to learn how to tell if he likes you through texting, but it is definitely possible. You just have to be more sensitive of the seemingly restrained messages that he sends, and you would know how he truly feels about you in no time.