Let’s talk about something that is absolutely essential to your success of building attraction with women: sexual tension. Also known as “chemistry,” sexual tension is mental state that you must learn to lead a woman towards if you want to avoid the “friends only zone.” Most women you meet will not have instant chemistry for you. Unless you’re Mr. Super Stud, most women you meet are in the neutral zone, meaning that you need to trigger her feelings of attraction for you, and start building up the sexual tension RIGHT AWAY. So how do you snap a woman out of her neutral zone? You do this by getting an emotional response out of her, meaning that you need to make her feel EXCITEMENT. There are 4 ways to do this:
How To Create Sexual Tension Secret #1: Teasing
Don’t confuse teasing with belittling her or being mean-spirited. Your goal is to tease her to please her. Find a little area of insecurity, and play with her a little. It conveys confidence and shows her you’re aware of your dominance as a man. Women have been programmed to respond to men’s challenges since little boys were making fun of them in the sandbox. Teasing a woman shows her you’re more “real” than the other guys, and tells her that you’re not intimated by women.
How do you know if the teasing is working? She’s laughing. Either that or she’s playfully slapping your arm with a “I can’t believe you said that” look on her face.
How To Create Sexual Tension Secret #2: Humor
Guys who know how to make women laugh have no problems at attracting and keeping women in their lives. It’s important to combine the teasing with equal does of humor. This way you’re not overdoing it and coming off as an arrogant jerk.
Guys who don’t take life so seriously are more attractive to women. Ironically, they are also perceived as more honest and trustworthy than those who take life too seriously. Making a woman laugh helps her lower her guard, allowing her to open up to you and show you her more vibrant personality. It’s also a great way at building up her emotions and triggering a sexual attraction for you.
How To Create Sexual Tension Secret #3: Contradiction
A confident and independent attitude is a must. The easiest way to convey these characteristics is to make a point to contradict her opinion every now and then. This demonstrates that you don’t need her approval. So if a woman is acting bratty, call her out on her behavior. This isn’t always easy for the “Nice Guy” to do, but it’s essential to take control when the situation is right. You’re the man, so act like the man. A woman will respect you far more this way.
How To Create Sexual Tension Secret #4: Detachment
You’re an independent man, and as such, you don’t need a woman. Sure, you like women, but you’re also confident and happy without them. It’s ironic, really. But the men who don’t need women, the men who don’t go desperately chasing after them, tend to attract more quality women.
The ability to connect, and also the ability to disconnect, is great for building up the sexual tension. If a woman calls you and leaves a message, don’t feel the need to return the call as soon as possible. Give her a chance to miss you a little. Make her chase you a little as well.
Women aren’t attracted to “easy” guys. A woman needs a challenge in a man. If a woman is displaying second rate behavior, meaning she’s not treating you the way you deserve to be treated, you need to be willing to walk away from the situation. This shows her that you’re different from all the other guys, and you’re not going to allow her to take advantage of you, or walk all over you.
These above skills are essential in building up a woman’s sexual tension for you. It’s best to not overdo any one of these skills. Find the right balance that works for YOU and your personality.
Remember, every passionate relationship starts off passionately. Even if the woman appears to hate the man, underneath her emotional roller coaster is a sexual tension that is building up inside of her (ever notice how women love to complain about the bad boy… only to repeatedly date him again and again? That’s because he knows how to build excitement and sexual tension in her).
Don’t fear the tension. Use it to your advantage. This makes all the difference in being the nice guy who meets a new friend, and being the alpha man who walks away with the sweet taste of a sexually attractive woman.
