I’ve talked about many things in the realm of sex, but I haven’t spoken much about bondage.

Well, there are a couple of good reasons for this. For one, it’s a good idea to be comfortable with the idea of “experimental sex” before attempting to add blindfolds or whips and chains into the fray.

For another, I like to savor this subject and bring it out when I’m feeling particularly naughty.

Who Uses Bondage?

I can honestly tell you lots of people use bondage.

Even more want to use it, but don’t know how or they’re too afraid to ask their beloved.

Bondage is an excellent sexual release and absolutely mind blowing tease and denial method. More often I see people in a loving and trusting relationship using bondage and S and M games, though it’s certainly not limited to those couples.

I admit, bondage takes a certain amount of trust. I remember the first time I was blindfolded I thought “Oh shit, what did I get myself into?” Of course, I loved every erotically charged moment of it and I was with my beloved, so that made it more comfortable.

Teasing Him

I know I’ve told you many times that male chastity does not equal dominatrix woman and sex slave man.

If that were so, we women wouldn’t give any regard for your feelings and would torture you endlessly without your pleasure.

Bondage, whips and chains, S and M games, and all other forms of fantasy fun are not meant to torment a sex slave (well, they are meant to really, but in a consensual manner).

These play games are meant to explore new territory, build trust, act out fantasies, and of course, torture your bound beloved in ways he can only imagine.

How Do I Start?

I could write a book on bondage play, but I’ll give you a few basics to start with. First, because you’re trusting each other in ways you haven’t done before, get consent.

Talk about possibilities. Go to a local sex shop and look at the toys. Tell each other what you want to try and then go home and give it a go.

Yes, it’s as easy as that. Whips and chains, blindfolds, leather and stilettos, and (my favorite) handcuffs are all very good beginning tools for torment.

Once you get your beloved home, go ahead and blindfold him, restrain him, tease his cock endlessly until he’s begging for release and then…well, you’re not really going to give in, are you?