If I told you there’s a way to talk to the person’s subconscious mind directly, without her conscious mind ever critically evaluating what you say and having her immediately do what you “command” — would you be interested in learning it?

As you may know, we possess two distinct minds: The conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The first is the thinking and analytical mind that makes decisions and the second is the reactive mind that works in a “stimulus-response” fashion and is there to, without question, fulfill every task the conscious mind tells it to.

The subconscious mind also stores long-term memories, our values, beliefs and so on. It also contains emotions and through them communicates with the conscious mind.

Every new piece of relevant information (something someone says, etc.) is first analyzed by the conscious mind (it’s so called ‘critical faculty’) and this mind then determines whether this information is true or false and if it should be impressed to the subconscious mind and whether any weight should be put to it or not.

All this happens through an extremely fast and complex ‘loop’ of back-and-forth communication between the conscious and the subconscious mind.

So… If I did a magic trick and said that I was a real magician who can do real magic, this info would be (after pre-conscious processing) deemed as relevant and put in analysis to the critical faculty of the conscious mind…

This critical faculty would then ‘contact’ the ‘values and beliefs’ area of the subconscious mind and compare my statement of being a real magician with the values and beliefs stored there. The statement would then be seen as untrue and the critical faculty would then reject the proposed statement and you would still think that I’m an ordinary human being.

If, however, your beliefs were different (you believe in real magic), then you could believe the statement and see me as someone capable of doing real magic.

Now… How can we bypass the critical faculty so that EVERYTHING we say will be accepted as true and stored in the subconscious mind?

Before I reveal the secret, let me tell you an interesting quick story that will make things much more clear afterwords…

“It was a wonderful, warm June afternoon and I was in this cute French-style caffee with a few close friends of mine. We met there every day after a whole day of studying in a nearby library. It was a few days to my final exam of the year. The exam was titled “Medical physiology” and was one of the hardest exams that year.

Anyway, the four of us sat outside under one of those huge umbrellas that create a pleasant shadow and we were behind a relatively small, square wooden table. A cool breeze would come every now and then and would take away the heat for a little while. We were planning a holiday trip for after the exams were over and I was telling my friends what we should do and was giving each an individual assignment so that we’d all contribute and make the trip as pleasurable as possible.

Just as we were laughing hard at a joke my friend just told and I was about to tap him on his shoulder to congratulate him, something very strange happened…

Out of the blue came this great looking brunette that seemed familiar, but I didn’t know where to put her. She was coming to our table with a loud “Hey!” and waving her hands and with this beautiful smile that would put anyone in a deep trance.

When she came closer she obviously wanted to hug me so I stood up a bit confused by everything. She jumped on me, accidentally kicking one of the chairs, and squeezed me so hard that I had trouble breathing for a few seconds.

It turned out that she was at my female friend’s (from school) party almost a year ago and we had a long talk because she was very depressed. I remembered that we must have talked for an hour in one of the dark corners and every 5 minutes there was someone trying to get us to dance and drink. But we talked and talked and I used some covert hypnosis on her to try to help her. After that, we went to party and that’s the last time we saw each other.

So… here she was, all excited and glowing. She said she got my number from my friend and wanted to gather the courage to call me for months. But since she knew I had a girlfriend she was afraid I wouldn’t want to do anything.

She thanked me and told me that every day since then she was beginning to feel better, have nicer thoughts and managed to “trash” some things that were “haunting” her from the past.

I was floored. I love to help and do it all the time, but in her case I thought it would take a lot more than some covert hypnosis. Guess I was wrong. This was one of the best days of that year and I still think about it often. It was also a defining moment where I made a promise to myself to help as many people that want my help as I can.”

Did you read the story?

How would you describe me in a few words after reading the story? Consult your feelings!

As you might have guessed… the secret to bypassing the critical faculty so that EVERYTHING we say will be accepted as true and stored in the subconscious mind is to tell a believable, interesting and captivating story.

If I just said to you at the beginning of this article: “I am a confident man with leader characteristics. I attract beautiful women and am used to them to the point that I forget where I met them. I study medicine. I am a good person with the capability and wish to helping people. Plus, I’m humble ;)”… Would you have believed a word? Well, maybe a word, but I’d still seem obnoxious and self-centered.

But after reading the story you probably didn’t even consciously think about these traits… you just subconsciously built a very positive image of me and that’s exactly what I wanted you to do. Everything was so covert.

You see, it’s very hard to detect covert hypnosis and that’s one of the best things about it.

Hope you got a lot out of this article. Have a great time!

Scared of sending that email to the co-worker you just can’t seem to get along with? Have problems thinking about what to say to that casting director you’ve arranged to meet? Worried about the conversation you need to have with your roommates about the delegation of household duties?

Well, fear not: here are some tips for effective communication to make even the most challenging of conversations a breeze.

There will always be meetings and conversations we don’t want to have. Maybe the subject matter is tricky or maybe the person you’re talking to is well known to be a beast in the office. Perhaps you want to blow the whistle on something you feel is being overlooked or ignored. Truth is, there are a myriad of situations that can give us the willies when we think about how best to communicate our needs, feelings, and truth. But speaking from our hearts, and doing so with good intention, will always be the best answer to any bad situation. The trick is how to go about it effectively, so that the person you’re communicating with can not only understand where you’re coming from, but also feels respected and heard herself.

First, engage in active listening. (Most every note you get in acting class will ring true for your entire life; that’s pretty cool, right? Your acting classes DID teach you business after all!) Challenge yourself to pay close attention to the other person. Encourage them to speak. Give them space to air out their concerns, opinions, and ideas. A person who feels heard will feel respected and they’ll be less defensive. A lot of therapists and counselors recommend using the phrase ‘I hear you’ to reiterate and connect. Try it, mean it, and see how it changes your interaction.

Second, begin with the end in mind. Franklin Covey talks a lot about this in his book 7 Habits for Highly Successful People. Before you dash head first into the flames, take a moment to think about your desired outcome from the meeting. Do a little prep before hand and ask yourself – if the conversation went by your perfect ideal, what would happen. What would you achieve? What do you want to see occur? (Sound familiar, actors?? What IS your objective?) Beginning with the end in mind will help you start thinking about what you want AND help you come up with tactics to achieve that end. Not only will you become aware of your tone and speaking voice, but you’ll find you have a clear direction and through-line for your conversation as well. Frequently, you will find that many issues you considered high priority items will no longer be as important as you thought. So take a few minutes to think about what you want and brainstorm some tactics that will help you get after it!

Third, take the emotion out of it and go after the hard facts. Another great result of beginning with the end in mind is that it creates distance from your emotions and identifies the facts in a situation. Checking your emotions at the door is also helpful for keeping and staying calm in stressful situations. As artists, our emotions are the very things that fuel our art, but to be effective communicators, we have to be willing to let those emotions go. Emotions loaded with personal attachment make us defensive, close-minded, and irrational. Emotions are attached to ego, and when we’re really trying to connect with another person, we have to be willing to let our ego go. Identifying your emotions and the feelings you have about a situation is the first step to letting them go. Then you are better able to identify the facts as you see them in a situation, and present them clearly and objectively.

Most important of all, is this: trust yourself. Have a little faith in you. Trust that you know when to speak up and that you will learn to get better at the art of communication. Life is all about practice; it’s true for our business as well as our art. So go ahead and start. Start small if you want to. Try some of the techniques here and see how they affect your intrapersonal relationships. Have that conversation with your girlfriend you’ve been putting off. Speak up at the next meeting when your gut tells you it’s right. Send that email to the director you’ve had a falling out with. Remember, we are always going to work with people we don’t like. We will always have difficult conversations. It’s how we choose to go about dealing with those difficult situations that make us smart. And that, business lovers, is exactly what you are.

Sometimes, couples have to stay away from each other for many reasons. In such a situation, they indulge in dirty phone talk to keep long distance relationships working. If you also stay away from your partner, then you may also enjoy being intimate on phone and enjoy dirty phone talk.

Dirty phone talk enables couples to spice up their love relationship even if they are not together. In fact, couples who are shy, opt for this medium to express their love and passion to their partners. If you are involved in a relation with a stranger, then you can comfortably use telephonic medium to be intimate with your partner. Dirty phone talk is an easy way to further an old relation or build a new one. Moreover, it is similar to a virtual relationship on the web.

We see that there are various benefits of dirty talking over phone to your partner. In addition, women enjoy an upper hand even while conversing over phone than men. In fact, even men wait for their women to take the lead role and set the ball rolling. So, some of the tips on dirty phone talk are:

You should not suddenly begin talking dirty on phone. Neither should you tell your partner directly that you want to talk dirty to him. This might shock your partner and freeze the conversation completely.

Whenever you call your partner to talk dirty, you should always begin talking slowly. Your tone should be relaxed and normal. You could begin by asking about the day’s work and then gradually toss in exciting terms.

The most significant idea is to tell your partner that you missed him. With this, you can continue telling him in detail reasons for missing him.

You could also tell him about your desires over the phone. You can let him know in detail that what you want him to do when he returns home.

You could even ask him in explicit detail that what he will want you to do to him. You could even ask him the ways in which he will like it.

However, while asking him, you should ensure that he is not offended. Moreover, you should find out whether he likes the conversation or not. If he is not interested, then you should be flexible to change the topic to something that interests him.

Actually, there is no hard and fast rule by which you will have to abide while enjoying dirty phone talk. The idea is to be comfortable with each other.

You could even use normal language to converse as sensually as possible. If you want to throw in some crude and raunchy words, then you could do it in moderation.

You should ensure that you are speaking with emotion to your partner. However, you should not use derogatory words while talking to each other.

The most important point that you should keep in mind while talking dirty is that both of you are safe. This is to mean that if anyone of you is driving and talking simultaneously, then you should park your car aside and then continue talking to avoid any mishap.

Women writers can be eccenstic about their clothes. One author in my hometown wears hats to stand out from the crowd. I don’t wear hats and, after 30+ years of writing, established my own dress code. If you were to summarize the code in two words would be conservative and comfortable.

Conservative does not have to be dull, and I perk up outfits with colorful scarves and jewelry. Where I speak also influences my clothing choices. Years ago, I spoke at the Minneapolis Women’s Expo. I wore red — the power color — and it helped to distinguish me from the other speakers.

“Women’s Clothing and Looking Professional,” an article on the Womens Clothing website, says your clothing choices affect how people perceive you. “Appearing professional is about establishing a classy and conservative image that works across all ages,” the article explains. Though suits are still professional, women in the work place are dressing more casually today.

You may be preparing for a book talk. What should you wear? The answer depends on the size of the group, location of your talk, and how you want to be remembered. These points may also help you.

1. Wear clothes that fit right. Avoid skin-tight slacks and skirts and tops that are too revealing. Many women are wearing skirts that are inches above the knee and I have seen too many thighs on television. I rarely wear skirts and when I do, they are knee-length. Remember, a short skirt rides up when you sit down.

2. Think about color psychology. Recently I spoke to a group of church librarians. When I first dressed I put on a purple sweater. Then I remembered that purple is a symbol of mourning. Though I was speaking about grief resources, I wanted people to leave in an upbeat mood, so I changed into a turquoise sweater.

3. Take care of repairs. A ripped hem, loose button, and pantyhose riddled with runs sends the message that you don’t care about your appearance. Decide what you are going to wear. Look the garments over carefully and make any necessary repairs.

4. Dress for the audience. When I speak to volunteer groups I dress casually. Casual clothing is a better match for this audience and seems to prompt more questions. When I do dress up, I wear a black pencil skirt or slacks, and accessorize them with jackets and sweaters.

5. Accessorize carefully. Kashmira Lad discusses jewelry in her Internet article, “Women’s Classic Professional Clothing.” According to Lad, women in the work place should wear simple, elegant jewelry and “save the bling jewelry for Fridays.” Lad thinks a stylish watch can be an interesting accessory. Choose a scarf with colors that compliment your face.

Above all, I think women writers should dress for comfort. This includes comfortable shoes and a practical handbag. “The right bag helps in boosting your image,” Lad explains, and she recommends the classic colors of black and brown. Whether you wear slacks or a skirt, dressing professionally shows you care about your work and your audience. You’re off to a good start!

Copyright 2010 by Harriet Hodgson

Every guy knows there are physical ways to make a girl orgasm, but what if you could make a girl orgasm just by talking. The secret to a woman is exactly that, and there is not a woman on the planet who does not fantasize about having such an orgasm. If you really want to please a woman and get her full sexual attention on you, do this:

Firstly, remember that when you are talking to a girl, the talks do not always have to lead to dirty subjects. Women crave a man who can be sensual without being dirty.

The number one trick that players use to get girls into bed, is in fact letting the girl have the first say! Let her come to you sexually, first! When you do this the window is open to talk about virtually anything.

A way to open her up to this is by asking her what her fantasies are. When she tells them she will become so highly aroused that she is just seconds away from having an orgasm! When you talk about what she wants, and her world; she will naturally be attracted to you, and more open and interested sexually; since its about what she wants this time.

Also, take this key into note; and when you begin talking. Talk in a soft, low voice. You are a man, and women love men who can bring out their best qualities, but with soft undertones. Low voices are the most common attribute to males; soften it up, and you will have her ear all night.

What to talk about? At a loss? Never underestimate yourself and always sound sure, even when things seem to slip; talk about her! Her head will be so big that she is the attention of everything she will not mind after all of this you slipping into bed with her!

Girls do not necessarily like hearing everything a guy wants to do to them, considering men are more visual and one track mind even in sexual acts! So always try to ensure you are tapping into her secret sexual desires, if you find some things she does like, however, feel free to tell her exactly how you can better that experience for her!

So you’ve finally saved up enough cash to go to a storage auction. You’re eager to buy your first unit and are planning on doing so no matter what. As you make your way through the crowds at the storage facility, you feel confident that no one is going to outbid you. But wait-do you know who the whale is at this auction? Did you just overhear someone talking about phantom bidding? Is there another new blood to contend to? Better yet… do you even know what any of that means?

If not, hold your horses! If you want to walk the walk, you gotta talk the talk. Over time, the auction scene has become somewhat of a subculture, and as with all good subcultures, the bidders and auctioneers have developed slang and secret codes. Knowing their language is indispensable in being successful.

Look around. Get a feel for the crowd. Listen. Hear what people are saying about the other bidders, about the units, and about the auctioneer. Here are a few phrases to listen for at the next auction that might just save your career.

Caravan auction – a series of site auctions advertised through a common promotional campaign. Caravans are usually led by the same auctioneer, who will lead the “caravan” to different unit facilities throughout the day. Find out if the auction you’re at is part of a caravan-you might have an opportunity to visit more than one facility that day!

“Fair Warning” -if you hear the auctioneer say this, listen up: if you haven’t bid on the unit and would like to-do it now! The auctioneer is about to close the bid, and is alerting you that he/she has given you “fair warning” before doing so.

Jump bid – a bid made of a much higher increment than the previous bid. Usually employed by a serious bidder who wants others to know that they mean business.

Looky-loos – a person who goes to an auction purely to spectate, with no intentions of bidding. Looky-loos can be frustrating to both the auction goers and the auctioneer, as they crowd the space and make it harder for potential bidders to see the units. The amount of looky-loos has increased in current times due to the booming popularity of storage auction reality TV shows.

New blood – a newbie; a person who is new to bidding. Don’t underestimate the new blood, they can be just as fierce as the seasoned pros as they’re trying to prove their worth amongst the other bidders and carve out a place in the business.

Pickin’ bid/phantom bid – a nonexistent bid called by the auctioneer to pique interest in the bidders. Be warned-this tactic is considered improper and in many jurisdictions is illegal.

Quarter/”Gimme a quarter… ” – no, the unit is not selling for 25 cents. The auctioneer may refer to a $25 bid as a quarter. “Gimme two quarters” would obviously mean $50.

Shill/shilling – a type of bid; bidder who is working for the auctioneer to inflate bids. Watch out for this one. Ask around for the inside scoop. Does the auctioneer make a profit off the units sold, or do they get a flat rate salary? Know your crowd, and more importantly, know your auctioneer.

Staged – relating to storage units, this describes a unit that has been tampered with before the day of the auction. Items of interest may have been pulled to the front in order to entice bidders, such as electronics, brand name purses, etc. Look for signs of a staged auction by disrupted spots of dust or an awkward, almost too perfect look to the setup of the locker.

Valuation – estimation of the worth of an item, or a storage unit on whole. After enough auctions and research, valuating will become much easier for you. Valuating is important in deciding what you maximum bid on a unit should be. Obviously, if the bidding goes higher than your valuation, you should step out.

Whale – a seasoned buyer who attends the same auctions very frequently. You’ll probably pin point the whale very quickly, and many people may be talking about them. They are usually tough to outbid if they have their sights set on a unit, and most likely have a lot of cash to burn!

“You’re out!”- a tactic used by the auctioneer after you have been outbid. Auctioneers often interact with buyers this way in order to fuel further bidding.

Are you feeling comfortable yet? Try some of them out, see how they feel! Who knows, you might just impress the other new bloods and the whales alike at your next auction.

For some more fantastic auction speak, as well as some of the phrases from this article, check out “Slang: The Topical Dictionary of Americanisms” By Paul Dickson.

“I will focus, I will concentrate, I will let go of my anger, my hatred, my sleepiness, my laziness, my inability to concentrate, I will let go because those are not the qualities that are part of me. Those are qualities that can be removed from myself.”

We should think very carefully about anger, hatred, fear, ego, sloppiness, laziness, sleepiness – all these qualities are actually obstacles during a dharma talk. If we’re always sleepy and un-alert throughout dharma talks and all events, it means there is something deeper in our minds that has to be removed. If we’re only sleepy during positive events, things that could benefit us on a long term, it means that it’s an obstacle and if we have obstacles to receive dharma or during dharma, it is imperative that we do purification practices for those obstacles will increase in other areas of our lives.

Similarly, the teacher must teach – elucidate the dharma from something that is the correct source, that has a lineage, that is not motivated by fame, praise, money, material gifts, or to get something in return – that is to be free from the eight worldly dharmas. If that is done by student and teacher alike, it is a blessed event. It is holy because it is different from ordinary events that we attend because the information passed and shared leads to permanent happiness and permanent freedom from suffering. So it makes it holy, not suffering is holy – suffering is ordinary.

Our life is filled with suffering whether we know it or not. We either suffer knowing we’re suffering or we suffer not knowing we’re suffering. Therefore, a dharma talk can be a holy event because it is something shared which leads to the eventual eradication, destruction of suffering and to permanent happiness.

Tsem Tulku

If you like a shy guy then you must know that he will take time to open up. But, he is also just a normal person underneath that wall of shyness. You need to tackle such situations carefully because if you are too blunt then you may scare them away. If you are sure that the guy likes you too then I would suggest that you ask the shy guy out instead of waiting for him to ask you. He will be more than glad that you did. Here are some smart tips that can help you talk to a shy guy:

Approach him and start a small conversation:

Approach him when he is not surrounded by too many people. Strike up a quick conversation and talk about things that are rather impersonal. This way he will be comfortable answering and you will get to break the ice.

Smile at him every time you see him:

After you have already approached him once and introduced yourself, smile every time you see him. This will make him feel confident to approach you as well.

Talk to him whenever you get a chance:

Approach him whenever you can and talk to him for a while. This will help to create a bond and he may open up a bit for you.

Drop hints and judge his reactions:

When you notice him opening up a bit, take the topics from impersonal to personal level. Discuss about things you are both looking for in a boyfriend or girlfriend. Tell him that you are looking for someone like him.

Don’t make him uncomfortable when you ask him out:

This is important. Don’t ask him out when he is surrounded by friends as he may feel uncomfortable. When he says yes, decide where to go for a date.

Take him to a place which matches his taste:

He may not like to go to public places. Tell him to decide or you can suggest some place where you both can eat and talk quietly. In short, keep the date as simple and something that matches his taste. You must look attractive and not drop dead gorgeous for the date so keep your accessories and makeup to the minimum.

Boost his ego and make him feel confident:

Shy guys are mostly a little low in confidence. You can boost his ego by appreciating him occasionally. You can also ask him to help you with homework or something else to make him feel more competent. This will boost his confidence and get him closer to you.

• Complaints from School
• Incomplete Classwork
• Arguing and fighting
• Sibling rivalry and conflict
• Struggling with Homework
• Thumb-sucking, nail-biting, bed-wetting.
• Shy and no self confidence
• Problems with Speech.
• Difficulty in accepting family situations.

Sounds Familiar! Does this remind you about your Child? Well there is nothing to be embarrassed about; this is the situation in every home across the world. There is nothing new about it. But now at least you know a way to handle and the situation positively without any further stress, arguments or conflict.

All you have to do is spend 5 minutes every day with your child while they sleep and softly whisper these affirmative sleep talk in their ears. Always start by telling them that you love them very much and are always there for them.

Just as they are falling asleep, repeat one or two positive sleep talk affirmations to suggest to their subconscious, adding their name so they know that it is directed to them. Whispers can echo something positive that you noticed your child do or they can reflect a positive action or attitude about your child and would like to see more of.

You can choose appropriate affirmative sleep talk quotes to address specific issues related to the situation you would like to address with your child and repeat it every day for at least 4 weeks till it gets embedded into their thought process and gets accepted.

You will be amazed at the quick results, but do not give up the 5 minutes of affirmative sleep talk after seeing results in the first week. To make sure that positive behavior pattern gets embedded in the system. You have to follow the sleep talk practice regularly.

Only use positive sentences and always avoid negative words. For example, if you want to stop your child from beating other kids or taking loudly.

Correct Affirmation:

• “Ryan always talks softly.”
• “Ryan is a kind and friendly boy.”

Incorrect Affirmation:

• “Ryan does not talk loudly.”
• “Ryan does not beat other kids.”

We as parents have a remarkable amount of influence and responsibility which we can use to help our kids reach their full potential and become happy and successful individuals. Our children are a mold in our hands. Let’s use our love and methods such as positive sleep talk and encourage them to be happy, healthy, peaceful and successful in their lives. Let’s fulfill the right task of parenting.

Start using the positive sleep talk with your kids right away. We can help our kids in more ways than we can comprehend. Share this with other parents or with the school teacher, so that she can share this method with other parents during the parent – teacher meetings, so kids that need help can also gain from Positive Sleep Talk.

Remember there are no side effects; there is no way this can backfire or have any negative effects on your children. The worse that can happen is NOTHING. So do it!

Has your guy ever asked you to talk dirty to him in bed? Did his request send you into a moment of panic thinking about how you would ever get the words out of your mouth? Knowing how to talk dirty to a guy is really not anything that should send you running for cover beneath the sheets in fear and anxiety.

There are just a few tips to learn and you are on your way to being a dirty talking queen and will have your guy hot with new-found desire.

The first tip to remember is that guys are very visual. It only takes a brief visual to pop into a mans head and he’s primed and ready to go. When you are talking dirty try to have the words go along with visualization. This not only gets him hot with your words, but also the picture it creates in his head. 

Bring his attention to your body while saying, “It makes me so hot when you look at my…” Or, touch him and ask, “Does it feel good right here?” He will probably be so turned on he will hardly be able to get out an answer. Change things up. Have fun. Your guy will love the teasing and suggestive talk more than you can imagine.

Another tip to remember when learning to talk dirty is to keep things direct. Men don’t always get the subtle stuff. It’s best if you tell him exactly what you want and how you want it done. Men just don’t seem to be able to figure out what you want by subtle suggestion or body language. Not only will this let your guy know what turns you on without any question, but the directness of your words will also be a source of an erotic turn on to him.

And lastly, remember to play into your guy’s ego. We all like to be complimented. Men love to feel manly and sexually capable. Keep your compliments real, but be lavish in your praise of any of his sexual endeavors and attributes that you particularly enjoy. Say to him, “You feel so big,” or “I love the way you kiss my…with your…” Your guy will eat up the compliments while at the same time will be loving the new, dirty talking vixen you have become.  

Learning how to talk dirty to a guy can be a fun new adventure for both you and your partner. Let yourself go and enjoy yourself. I can guarantee your guy will thank you.