The Benn Grim Interview

TIS: I love the YouTube video of you freestyling with Converge. Was that planned or spur of the moment?

BG: Spur of the moment, but it was half a freestyle, and half an old verse I never put on a track. It was years ago and I was more than likely high out of my mind. You can tell by the long hair and “stop snitching’ shirt I was wearing. I love those guys and no one will ever do that with them again!

TIS: So we were in a band together for a while, and we were both really into our drugs and what not…now we’re both not into drugs anymore, and still doing the music thing. I’d like for you to talk a bit about the difference of writing/performing sober vs. writing/performing anything but sober.

BG: Don’t get me wrong, if it weren’t for hard drugs, my parents record collection wouldn’t be half as big as it is. Though in my case, you can say, “yo, I smoked the best weed and wrote this dope song”, but for me, having a level and clear head helps me be more creative than any drug could ever make me.

TIS: Can you tell me about one of your craziest experiences from back in your using days? Not to glorify it, but rather to show people how far you’ve come.

BG: I used to cop dope mostly on Madison or Jefferson, right off park street in the south end of Hartford, I used to always go to the same guy for at least 2 years, his name was cupcake, or cake for short. He had the best shit. I got in pretty good with this guy and I used to pick him up at his house and bring him to the block and what not. He ALWAYS had a gun on him, he had a friend on the block over to him, they referred to him as “retarded holmes”. One day some one got shot, and the cops were all over the place. No one was answering phone calls and they were too scared to come out of there houses. I went straight to cupcakes other house and he got mad that I just showed up, but for some odd reason he let me in. They looked me up and down and said, “yo Ben, want to do us a favor, we’ll hit u off if you do.” So I obliged, they gave me a doubled up stop and shop bag and told me to walk directly over to retarded holmes house and give him the bag, don’t look at anyone, don’t talk to anyone. I started out the door and one of them said, “yo Ben, put this on under your hoodie” it was a bullet proof vest. OK guys, what’s in the bag I thought to myself, but I knew exactly what it was. I trembled my way to retarded holmes house and he was waiting at the door, I walk in, take off the vest, and hand him the bag, countless bundles of heroin. They gave me half of one for transporting a package that could have landed me 20 yrs in jail. Hahahah, but I was a junkie and I was willing to do anything to get high.

TIS: What are you working on currently?

BG: I just wrapped up a compilation CD I’m calling Benn Grim’s Blah Sides, it’s a collection of mostly older tracks I’ve never used for anything, Mixed and mastered by my musical life coach F.Sean Martin. Should be pressed in a couple weeks. Im also working on my long awaited “Novocaine Mixtape”, that’s scooting along steadily and will have a lot of special guests. I’m working on an EP with my Friend ADAM BOMB out of New Orleans, probably gonna be 6 songs or so, and I’m also working on an EP with producer Sammy Marion out of Philly, that will also be 5 or 6 songs. The Mizery Crew, (Timmy Wiggins, Metalheart, and myself) is currently in the studio working on our freshman release as a group, and Timmy Wiggins and Metalheart are working on their prospective solo shit, which is gonna really shake things up!!!

TIS: What influences the lyrical content in most in your songs?

BG: Life, love, regret? Hahahaah, no, I’m the guy that takes past experiences and makes them real. I talk about shitting on unworthy rappers mostly. I’ve been told I can tell a pretty good story too. You give me the beat, and you’re always gonna get something different.

TIS: Who would you like to collaborate with on future projects, and are you going to make it happen?

BG: I’d love to do a track with Aesop Rock, he’s my buddy, so that’s not a far stretch, but as for dudes I don’t know? I want to do a track where Brandon Flowers from the killers to sing the hook, or get on a beat that The XX made. That would be epic!

TIS: Who’s killing it in the underground right now (hip hop, hardcore, whoever)?

BG: HMMMM as for underground cats? Fuck! I’m going with my man! The one and only, YAK BALLZ! Nothing cooler than a bunch of kids chanting your name before you come out on stage. His fans love him, (and so do I) and it shows. As far as new and up and coming hardcore? Hate Your Guts, cruel hand, black breath, backtrack, and bad seed, all dope HC bands doing their thing now.

TIS: Who’s specifically not killing it in the underground right now (let’s start a beef)?

BG: Hahahaha, he’s not even underground anymore, but I’d say WALE. He’s a homophobe with a shitty name, chill WHALE!!! Hahaha.

TIS: What’s new with Carboard City?

BG: Every body is working on their respective shit, but all I gotta say is watch out for that new Glassjaw album. I’ve already heard a few unreleased tracks and I’m blown away.

TIS: I’m a bit out of the loop but was wondering if the Vast Aire/Cage/El-P beef was squashed yet?

BG: Hmmm, I didn’t even know there was a beef? Hahaha.

TIS: How did Shia LaBeouf hook up with Carboard City?

BG: Shia met cage a couple years back, the rest is history.

TIS: Any news on the movie about Cage that Shia wants to do?

BG: They are looking for a director is the last news I heard. I can’t wait for that shit.

TIS: Last Shia question, was it epic for you guys to see him throw up the Cardboard City sign at the end of hosting Saturday Night Live a couple of years ago?

BG: It gave me chills, and still does. It makes me feel good to be a part of something so awesome. EVERYBODY go see the new Wall Street movie, my man kills it with Michael Douglas! Hahahaha.

TIS: Ok, time for some obligatory shout outs…go ahead.

BG: My cardboard city fam, Daryl Palumbo, Fsean Martin, my mizery crew, all my friends in NYC, Miami, San Fran you know who you are, my brother, Chauncey, the Hartford party starters union, Corey Scoolidge, and everybody at Brass City Tattoo.

TIS: Anything in closing?

BG: Surround yourself with good and exciting people, and nothing but good and exciting things will happen to you.

Since we aren’t at the dinner table, let’s talk about poop. Bowel movements aren’t widely discussed, but they are an inevitable part of life. Your bowels can actually say a lot about you and inform you about your gastrointestinal health. Without further or doo (get it?), here’s the inside scoop about poop.

What’s In Your Poop?

Pooping is an essential part of life, and it’s your body’s natural way of eliminating waste. This is why your poo can give you a clue as to the goings on inside your body. The texture, shape, or color of your poop can reveal dietary deficiencies, dehydration, or illnesses. Your bowels are comprised of 75% water, and the rest is a stinky combination of fiber, dead and live bacteria, undigested food, cells, and mucus. You often hear the phrase, “Your shit stinks.” Well, this isn’t a bad thing. It means that your digestive system has tons of bacteria that are aiding proper digestion. So if your poop doesn’t smell like cookies, flowers, or an aromatherapy session, your body is doing its job.

Frequency:

If someone told you that it was normal to poop a few times a week, that person was lying to you. Going more than three days without emptying the tank can be a sign of constipation. It’s normal to empty your bowels once a day. Some people poop 1-3 times a day, which is still normal, while others just have it down to a science and poop at the same time every single day. If you poop more than three times a day, however, you enter into the world of diarrhea, which is something you need to address. The moral of this: don’t stress about pooping because it’s normal.

Form:

Some people tend to flush and go without taking the time to glance at their feces. It’s not a popular topic of conversation, but the form can indicate if we are healthy or not. If your poop is hard, in pieces, and you have to strain to pass it, then you are likely constipated.

A nice tubular shape is optimal, and it should come out with ease. If your stool is loose then you can add fibrous foods (http://www.livestrong.com/article/389559-firm-stool-diets/) to help firm it up. If you are on the opposite end of the spectrum and it is too hard, you may need some probiotics, raw nuts and seeds, or pears to loosen up your bowels and promote proper digestion.

Color Matters:

If you’re the type that looks at your stool, you may notice that it can vary in color. The ideal color is a medium or dark brown. Black poop can indicate that there is bleeding in the upper G.I. tract. It could also mean that there is an ulcer in the stomach, or an early indication of colon cancer. Here’s a general rule of thumb: see a medical professional if you see blood in your toilet. Let it be known that a small amount of blood may be caused by pushing too hard, which can cause a small tear around the anus.

Poop can be a seaweed green for two reasons: Your diet may consist of lots of leafy green vegetables, or food may be passing too quickly through your digestive system. Bile can have a green tinge, and if it is in your stool, then body didn’t have time to properly digest it. Your poop can also look grayish if you are on certain medications. It can also be light in color, which may suggest a liver problem. If the liver isn’t producing enough bile, then your body isn’t properly detoxifying. To remedy this, you can incorporate dandelions and beets into your diet to help detox the liver.

Squat, Don’t Sit:

Squatting as opposed to sitting can help you properly and fully eliminate your bowels. Why squat? When you sit down to poop, your knees are at a 90-degree angle to your abdomen. That can pinch your anal canal and prevent full bowel elimination. Squatting straightens the rectum, allowing easy passage of stool. You may want to look into a Squatty Potty to allow gravity to do most of the work, which helps to avoid colon build up. You don’t want to strain to eliminate because that can cause hemorrhoids or pelvic issues.

Poop is your friend. Embrace the ability to naturally release your bowels because it is a healthy part of life. A great way to effectively eliminate your bowels is through cleansing or participating in a colonic. It’s great to eliminate, so make sure you regularly do the doo and have regular poos.

Right, first things first…

Who the hell is Auntie Aida? Has your Dad got a long lost-sister he hasn’t told you about? Or is she your Mum’s secret twin?

Breathe. It’s none of those.

You see, “AIDA” is a copywriting formula. And if you use it when writing your copy, it’s gonna help you sell more products.

So, what does AIDA stand for?

A= Attention

I= Interest

D= Desire

A = Action

Look:

Always keep this formula in mind when writing copy. In fact, I’ll go out on a limb and say this:

Even if you don’t know any other copywriting techniques and strategies, this formula will still help you sell your products and services.

It’s basically what sales people use.

And all copywriting is, is salesmanship in print.

The Dating Formula To High-Converting Sales Copy

Here’s the thing:

When it comes to persuading someone to part with their hard-earned cash, you can’t just straight-up say “Buy my shit.”

Instead, you have to woo them.

Thinking about it, it’s the same as dating. If you’re on a night out and there’s a woman you like the look of, you don’t just go up to her and say “want to come home with me tonight?”

(Or at least I hope you don’t… )

Instead, you grab their attention by making eye contact. You then get her interested by going over to say hi. Then you start flirting to build up her desire.

And it’s only then, once she sees you as her knight in shining armor for the night, that you ask her back to yours.

Anyway, the same applies to your copy.

The first thing you need to do is catch your ideal prospect’s attention.

How?

With your headline. And you need to make sure it stops them dead in their tracks so they read the next line of your copy.

For the record, the best way to do this is knowing your prospect’s state of awareness. It’s something Eugene Schwartz talked about in his book, “Breakthrough Advertising”.

Basically, if your prospect is already familiar with your product, then your headline starts with your product.

If they’re not aware of your product yet, but only of a desire they have, then you start with that desire.

And if they’re not aware of either, then your headline needs to call out the market itself, so your ideal prospect can identify with it.

Onwards.

Right, you’ve got your prospect’s attention.

Now what?

You need to get them interested in reading on. Do this with your opening paragraph. A simple “if/then” formula works here.

For example, I could have started this post with:

“If you want to learn how to write sales copy that gets your ideal prospect shaking with excitement as he whips out his credit card to buy your product, then this article will be one of the most important things you ever read.”

Or something like that.

Moving on.

Next, you have to make your prospect desire your product and, more specifically, the benefits they will get from it.

How do you do this? There’s a few ways.

Stories are powerful – either your own or a client’s.

Start the story off at a negative point in time. Make your prospect think “Holy shit, this could literally be me!”

Then rub salt into the wound by describing how things managed to get even worse (which will make your prospect think “Damn, I’ve still got all this to come… ).

And then finally, when your prospect is in floods of tears and calling for Mummy to cuddle him, lift his spirits up again. In other words, that’s when you introduce your solution that turned your life around.

By now, your prospect’s desire should be through the roof.

And finally?

Your call-to-action.

If you’ve done the three steps before this properly, then, by this point, your prospect will actually be looking forward to buying.

I am a preacher of logic and rationality. Metropolis defies logic. This Fritz Lanz film is the definition of absurdity, a characteristic I normally dislike. It offers a half-hearted resolution to the maxim ‘the heart is the mediator between the mind and the hand’, elaborating it wonkily, like a student science project that uses quantum physics and shit to make candyfloss for extra marks (students of science, forgive me for my ignorance here, as I have no clue about quantum physics. Its one word I keep hearing often on the web, though!).

The ‘experiment’ ultimately turns disappointing because the process is unnecessarily and inexplicably complicated. It ends up looking absurd, a characteristic, I repeat, I normally denounce. The major complaint I had with Fritz Lanz’s 1927 science-fiction epic Metropolis, considered by contemporary critics as one of the most important films ever made, is quite similar to sci-fi author H.G. Wells’ own reservations about the movie. I agree with H.G. Wells when he attacks the film for favoring message over logic, although I wouldn’t be as vehemently hostile as he is (his review basically rips apart the film to shreds, and not just through any shredder but one that shreds it to nano-bits). There are two things I fail to understand:

1) The film talks about workers living in the underworld who toil for a reasonable ten hours at a factory, controlled by a magnate by the name of Joh Fredersen. A whistle billowing from a pipe-like machine marks the end of their shift. The only sign of their oppression is their style of walking, a rhymic march with slightly stooped backs. An elevator takes the workers to their homes, which aren’t all that shabby. To me they looked like card-board boxes with cut-outs for windows, but they appeared quite roomy, at least from the outside.

One day, there’s an accident at the workplace. Quite a number perish, and the film’s protagonist Fred, Joh Fredersen’s son, bears witness to the unfortunate sight. He informs his father, who until then is clueless about the mishap. There is nothing suspect about this accident. Accidents happen, shit happens. Frankly, I wanted to ask those workers ‘What are you fighting for?!’ because there seemed no strong motive behind their rebellion. It’s also funny that we know absolutely ‘nichts’ (nothing) about what those machines produce? Because, you know, they are supposed to ‘run the whole damn place’ and that’s why Joh is a monopolist turned autocrat. They run a city teeming with motorcars and planes, so these machines make automobiles and aircraft?

When there is a breakdown later in the film, the whole city comes to a standstill. There is no power, so are we to assume these machines generate power? And what do the civilians living in between the underworld of workers and the ‘Club of the Sons’ (where the rich, including Joh and Fred, reside) do for a living? And why is it a compulsion that if a person is fired by Joh, he goes straight to the underworld, as shown in the film.

2) Fred is smitten by Maria, the messenger of peace and equality among the workers of the underworld, and touched by the plight of the poor workers’ children whom she brings along to the Club of the Sons one day to damn the wealthy (albeit tactfully) for the excesses and negligence. He follows her to the underworld, is haunted by the condition of the workers and decides to support Maria’s cause for uplifting their living standards. He becomes a worker himself, and a mediator between the two world.

On hearing a word about Maria’s secret meeting with the workers, Fred’s father schemes with a mad scientist named Rotwang by creating a robotic clone of Maria using the robot invented by Rowtang which he originally built to replace his lost love Hel, the dead wife of Joh. Maria is kidnapped, bound in Rowtang’s laboratory to clone her face onto the robot’s, and then kept in captivity at Rowtang’s isolated home. The clone Maria is instructed to instigate workers to riot. She also sets tongues waggling in the world above with her seductive performances. In one dance, she pops out of an oval-shaped object, which I assume was a source of inspiration for Lady Gaga’s bizarre entry at 2011 Grammy awards. Also for Madonna’s Super Bowl performance, where her head-gear was definitely inspired by Maria’s. I wonder which diva was inspired by the good Maria? Maybe Janelle Monae, but she too became channeled as a robot in her wonderful album ArchAndroid. Okay, I digress too much.

The work force, incited by evil Maria, revolt against Joh’s regime and proceed to dismantle the heart machine, which in turn results in a deluge in the underworld. The machines too are damaged extensively in the process. Now, why in the name of Metropolis would Joh, the creator of Metropolis, destroy his own city? Of course he intended to subdue these workers by force at some point but perhaps he was too late. Way too late. Sergei Eisenstein had an entire army take quick action against revolting civilians in Battleship Potemkin. Mr. Joh simply waits.

The score by Gottfried Huppertz isn’t distinctive either. I bet some of Janelle Monae’s Metropolis inspired musical compositions, especially Suite iii Overture, would’ve done magic to some scenes in this film. The Gottfried Huppertz score and 119 min runtime indicate I have the 2002 DVD edition of Metropolis. There is a 2010 restored version with 25 minutes of additional footage. Would I buy it as a lover of films? Maybe. And as a preacher of rationality? Nien.

Are you wondering about what it takes to make a man melt? Do you want to make your man irresistibly feel attracted to you? Do you want him to fall in love with you deeply? Do you want to make your man constantly think about you? Do you want him to feel endless amount of love and affection for you? If so, here is something you don’t want to miss. Make sure that you read every word of this page in its entirety.

Making your man melt is all about amplifying his sexual tension. Sexual tension is nothing but pure simple flirting. Flirting is the communication of sexual interest to a potential suitor. And sexual tension is about making your man wonder whether you are attracted to him or not. The more you amplify it, the more he is going to think about you. The more he thinks of you, the more in love he falls.

There are certain things you can do to amplify sexual tension in a man and make him feel the right emotions. As soon as he feels these emotions, he will feel addicted to you. If you make him feel the right set of emotions in the right order, there is a good chance that your man will start to see you as his future.

Here are a few things you can do to amplify sexual tension in your man and making him melt…

Hard to get behavior – Hard to get behavior is one thing that you can do to amplify his sexual tension. It makes him wonder whether you are up to something. You can do this by paying attention to him for a while and ignoring him for a while. Don’t always answer his phone calls. Ignore him for a while and then call back. Be as unpredictable as possible.

Bust his balls – Don’t be an easy woman. Make sure that you bust his balls as much as possible. This lets him know that you are a challenging woman and that you won’t take any of his shit. It will make him less likely to cheat on you. He knows that you are confident, mature and strong.

Most women confuse challenging behavior with demanding behavior and tend to nag their men. You must not nag him. You have to tease him in the things he does. And make sure that you tease him playfully. Tease him in front of his friends. But at the same time, make sure that you talk highly of him. This amplifies sexual tension too.

Focus is a Big Issue for most Entrepreneurs, anyone working on creating a business or writing or doing anything that requires skill and grounding yourself to tap into the Zone of Genius. People who are successful, excel in sports, great musicians, writers and artists all know the power of being Focused and the miracles that come from it. If we all know it, then why is it so hard to get started or to calm down enough to get really focused?

The major thing is the “Oh Shit” Factor that occurs when you (or anyone else for that matter) makes a DECISION to actually do something–Something that is out of your comfort zone. It’s stepping out Bigger than you know yourself to be. It’s going out on a limb, out onto the skinny branches, taking risks. Building a business, creating a product, writing a book, speaking –or simply going out to network, getting out from behind the computer and actually meeting people who could help your grow your business, or even getting clients can bring it on in a flash.

We have all heard of “Face the Fear and Do It Anyway”. Just Do It might be good for Nike,but it is a mindset that usually creates agitation, resistance and struggle. The brain goes into survival mode and you are screwed. It shuts off all the creative juices and then comes in that good old Self-Doubt. You end up muscling your way through and being really angry, frustrated and absolutely completely worn out.

What if you could embrace and lean into the discomfort? What if instead of wanting to shut down, you could laugh and say “Ok, I am feeling fear. It must mean I really need to do this right now”? Breathe and imagine the freedom of being on the other side of your challenge. Imaging being successful at it and who you will become in the process. Who will you get to be?

The one thing that helps me to do things that scare me is to get quiet and say “I am the one to do this, this is why I am here”. It helps to know that fear and excitement produces the same body reactions, racing heart, sweaty palms etc. So you could say “I am so excited” instead of “I am so scared”(Saying it out loud can really help). And the caveat is what you focus on grows–so switch your focus to being curious!

The Benefits of Being Curiously Focused

1. Opening Your Energy. Ask yourself “Wouldn’t it be nice if….” I can really do this? That alone opens up your energy to allow creativity to take over. It’s the energy of possibility. With nothing to prove. You are in to for the Adventure. The outcome, success, money, love, etc. is all a fabulous bonus.

2. You will allow Yourself to Dream Big and Be Big. When you get Curiously Focused, the logical mind (do we need it or not!) relaxes and releases its death grip so you can move forward gracefully and take the actions that you have set out for yourself to accomplish.

3. You will get Creative and Open to Your Genius Zone. The moment you engage your curiosity you get more playful. You get creative, whether you think you are creative or not. You will think of solutions, create ideas and flow into Inspired Action. You will find yourself in the Zone.

4. Self-Doubt Disappears: When you start flowing, your energy, thoughts and actions naturally step in– watch out Productivity! Things seem to appear like magic, with grace and ease. There’s no room for self-doubt. The “Oh Shit” Factor vanishes back into the nothingness form whence it came.

It’s time for you to Get Curiously Focused this week and Open Yourself to Abundance, Prosperity and Joy THAT IS YOURS.

1. Led Zeppelin – Stairway to Heaven

Sure, this song is amazing, a great band having one of their finest moments but at the piano bar, no one wants to sit through 8 minutes of this. Few players can really sing it well, and even if they did, it kind of falls short without the flutes and guitars and other instruments that make up this classic. Within a minute or 2 people will be screaming at the piano player to “Stop! for Love Of GOD! STOP!”, or they will just leave, either way, this song is a knife through the heart of any party.

2. Meatloaf – Paradise by the Dashboard Light

Another song with a length issue. On the record this songs weaves it’s way through the story of a guy and girl hooking up and the emotions that go with it. Sitting at the piano with one guy singing all the parts will test anyone’s patience. There aren’t too many good sing along parts and after a minute or 2 you can see people start thinking about heading to another bar. “I Would Do Anything for Love” is no better. Save the Meatloaf for leftovers when you get home, not at the bar.

3. Chris de Burgh – Lady in Red

I truly amazed at how often this cure for insomnia gets requested. Slow, sappy, dull, everything you don’t want when you’re trying to get a party going.

4. Styx – Mr. Roboto

After the first “Domo Arigato Mr. Roboto” goes by, no one gives a shit about this song. After that opening there’s another 8 minutes of really boring crap to slog through, and some players will play the whole thing, you don’t want that, no one EVER wants that.

5. The Latest “Top 40” on the Radio

Hit songs are not what they used to be. When songs were Top 40 hits in the 70’s, you couldn’t get away from them, they were on every media outlet… all 3 of them. Now with “stars” like Justin Bieber and a gazillion media outlets, it’s easy for people who aren’t into Top 40 to tune it out. So you may wonder why a piano player doesn’t know a song cause it’s “number 1” and therefore presumably popular, but that’s not that case. Only a small segment of people know or care about “hit” songs anymore and few of them come into the bar at night. So you might think your favorite Ke$ha song will surely get the party going, more likely, you’ll get made fun of mercilessly for asking for such drivel.

6. Billy Joel -Scenes From an Italian Restaurant

Some players will hate me and disagree with me violently about this choice but I stand by it in context of the bar. It’s long, mostly slow, no really good sing along parts, with a million other great Billy Joel songs at your disposal it’s time to let this one go.

7. Right Said Fred – I’m Too Sexy

It’s a joke song that barely has a groove with a guy repeating “I’m too sexy for my…..” This song is strictly for narcissistic twits who think a song is sexy if it says so in the title, oh, and they ALWAYS think it’s about them. It’s not. And it’s just a bad song and a dumb idea.

8. Aqua – Barbie Girl

If you ask for this song and actually expect someone to play it I have to question your sanity. Why would you want to inflict this horrible piece of garbage on an audience of people you don’t even know? The rare piece of music that has absolutely no redeeming qualities whatsoever. Not funny. Not cute. Not kitschy. Not good in any way or any context. You may get a laugh by saying the title, that’s it.

9. The Latest Rap Songs

There’s such a glut of rap and hip hop these days that it’s as disposable as toilet paper. This weeks huge rap song is something no one remembers or cares about next week. Plus, honestly, catch a clue, we’re sitting at pianos, not turntables. Most newer rap shit has little more than a drum loop and some dude rambling on about irrelevant shit. The audience won’t understand 90% of what a player is saying and will 100% not give a shit if it’s newer rap. Stick to the classic stuff.

10. Songs By Comedians

Ever have a friend tell a joke and get a whole room laughing but when you tell the same joke, no one laughs? Senses of humor are all different and jokes are very sensitive things in the wrong hands. A song on an Adam Sandler album is not a song so much as it is a comedic performance, and if a player wants an audience to laugh he has to have the same sense of humor and has to perform the routine exactly the same way. Most often the songs fall completely flat because outside of the hands of the comedians who wrote them, the songs just aren’t that funny. Also, musicians typically like it when people cover their songs, comedians HATE it when you steal their material, so there’s also a professional courtesy in not doing comedians’ songs.

Have you ever wondered how to text a girl so she becomes more attracted to you?

You want to get her on a date so you can sleep with her right? But first you’ll need to stand out from all the other guys texting her and trying to date her.

Beautiful woman have tons of guys texting them so you need to know how to text a girl in a more clever and funnier way than other guys texting her.

You must stand out!

Because every time you send her a text that triggers her positive emotions (humor, teasing, role reversals, role plays, etc) she will naturally anchor those emotions to you and be conditioned to think positive emotions towards you (refer to Pavlov’s theory).

Here’s an example:

“Hey! My friend just called me and said he saw a goofball running down the street in her shit stained underwear. Call me if you need a ride:p”

Its funny and you are busting her balls! Beautiful girls are so used to guys kissing their asses all the time but when you send her something that is slightly cocky, but at the same time funny, it will get a very positive response and she’ll anchor those emotions towards you.

If you keep send her a few playful and funny texts she will start to view you as someone who is different and more interesting and funny than other guys.

That’s just one example of how to text a girl.

You need to have an arsenal of texts that will get her to have positive reactions.

People no longer appreciates the good deeds we do to them. Sometimes giving too much can make us feel taken advantage of. They longer respect us because they expect us to help them immediately especially in times of their needs. But why don’t they give a shit of our needs too.

Though, it is not about how much we give, but how much love we put into the act of giving. We may not have the same status in life, but we can all spare time to help others. Helping here doesn’t mean monetary values but our willingness to help. If we can’t, we can simply give our emphatic understanding and sympathy.

Give and help without expecting any return. If we give only to get something back, then, it’s better not to give anymore. But sometimes we are guilt-tripped into giving because some people use emotional blackmail just to get what they want. I just dunno why are there people in the habit of imposing too much to the point of abusing my kindness. They want me to also suffer the consequence of their foolish actions.

I don’t want to hurt especially if it already involves my family. But in doing so, I am the one hurt because I am always the one who will give up and sacrifice everything for the sake of my family. Why can’t they appreciate my worth to them. Why they want me to do all the works for them? Even in simply going to the barangay hall to have our land assessed, they cannot do it. My uncle often says that it won’t take too much of my time if I’ll be the one to go there and process what’s needed to be done. But why can’t they do it themselves?

I am really upset with my uncles. They depend too much on me that I feel abused. If I say NO, they usually accuse me of being disobedient where in fact I am the only one they can rely on but I only have one body. I cannot do all the things they want me to do. I also need to earn to support the needs of my kids which is my utmost priority. Why can’t they understand that I already have a family of my own?

I am always willing to help them. But why are they hurt when I can’t prioritize them? I love them all but they are hurting me emotionally because they are not satisfied with what I can only offer. They want to have everything from me. But I also have kids to consider.

I know the importance of helping them but they need to respect my decisions as well.

Raymond (played by Dustin Hoffman): “Gotta get my boxer shorts at K-Mart.”

Charlie (His brother played by Tom Cruise): [pulls over and gets out of the car] “I’m going out of my mind! Outta my mind! WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE WHERE YOU BUY UNDERWEAR?! WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE?! UNDERWEAR IS UNDERWEAR! IT IS UNDERWEAR WHEREVER YOU BUY IT! IN CINCINNATI OR WHEREVER!”

Raymond (An autistic megasavant): “K-Mart.”

Charlie: (Questioning his brother’s reality and his own ulterior motives.) “You know what I think, Ray? I think this autism is a bunch of shit! Because you can’t tell me that you’re not in there somewhere!”

Raymond: “Boxer shorts. K-Mart.”

This quotation is from the 1988 movie “Rain Man” starring Tom Cruise as “Charlie” and Dustin Hoffman as the ‘affected’ brother “Raymond.” It won 4 Oscars, Best Picture, Best Original Screen Play, Best Director, Best Actor and best all-around flick for those self-described as “normal.” It succeeded in raising the awareness of autism and savant syndrome in a humanistic way that has since been carried on for the last 25 years. But for now, setting all that aside, including revealing the incredible life of Kim Peek for whom Rain Man is depicted – let’s shift to the work that is being done on exceptional artificial intelligence by IBM.

Advanced Super Computers

IBM’s “Watson” super computer is best known as the worthy, but computational opponent on TV’s Jeopardy 2011 against 74-time winner Ken Jennings and former achiever Brad Rutter. Watson won the “man versus machine” challenge and donated the $1 Million prize to charity.

While Watson was specifically developed to play Jeopardy, a game featuring an answer looking for a query, it meanwhile, had access to 200 million pages of ‘structured and unstructured’ content from the Internet that consumed four terabytes of disk storage, including the full text of Wikipedia. But the machine was not connected to the Internet during the game. Watson won on its own merits without predilection or outside intervention. Remarkable!

A New Home

IBM has since announced on the 11th of January 2014 that it was investing $1 billion to give Watson a downtown New York home from its former location in Armonk, N.Y. and a full-on marketing makeover. Seems bragging rights over a couple Jeopardy pros isn’t enough for this super computer.

In addition the company has reprogrammed Watson from a self-contained system to a cloud-based service and augmented the programming to address other vital applications. It’s massive data-crunching capabilities are being offered to industries ranging from health care, currently consulting on lung cancer treatments at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, to data intensive services for investment banking companies.

Why It’s Important

What makes Watson important on the ‘info-continuum linage’ is its ability

• To learn,
• Adjust,
• Apply and
• Augment the demands required of it.

Watson is the farthest step along the advancement toward artificial intelligence there is. And to date, it is a beneficial one. Beating Ken Jennings for $1 million may be an important prize to you and me, but when Watson is queried, “What is the best genomic-specific treatment for this cancer patient?, The response is beyond monetary value for those undergoing care and the families affected by the insight.

For computer geeks: Watson incredibly is still a lineal type device in the realm of current computer science programming. And yet we are on the threshold of 3D and quantum computational advancements! Watson is just a hint of the future awaiting us.

Is Watson Conscious?

The questions one ultimately must draw are where does human consciousness begin and artificial intelligence end? Or vice versa? Where is the frontier, the border line, the synapse? Where and how does it derive? What is the difference between the super intelligent machine, the cognizant being, the savant and the insane? Or… are our treasured personas just an extension of someone or something’s imagination? A Matrix movie scenario.

And when is common sense, just too damn common?

For Further Discussion Go Here!…

This format limits the length of articles and perhaps the attention span it deserves. If this is a subject of interest, as it for me, there is a continuing discussion taking place about consciousness, the Cloud, artificial intelligence, savants and our role as humans in this vast universe. To view additional videos and links about savant syndrome and the life of Kim Peek (11 Nov 1951 – 19 Dec 2009) among others search YouTube. It is most inspiring and well worth it “Or Here”.

Meanwhile, I’m headed to K-Mart for some boxer shorts!