These days, it seems any guy who is big in stature is calling himself a bodyguard or Executive Protection Specialist. I receive resumes all the time and sadly the information contained is usually along the lines of: 6″5′, 400 lbs, forty time 4.5 bench press 450 Ibs. There’s usually not much more.

The truth is, any time a client is actually in need of brawn means that someone wasn’t using their brain. And that someone could be you-if you think that this career is about weight-lifting and packing heat.

I recently had the great pleasure of working on a detail to protect former President Bill Clinton on a visit to my state. It was a highlight in my long career serving as an Executive Protection specialist for many reasons-first, Mr. Clinton was a gracious and genuinely nice man to be around, and secondly the Secret Service team was made up of incredibly well-trained, professional and awe-inspiring gentlemen.

Now, let me share something very important with you-the Clinton detail team Leader was maybe 5′8″ and 160 pounds. Not what you might look at and call physically intimidating. No doubt, he’s physically fit and probably above and beyond the average EPS in skills requiring physical confrontation-but here’s the thing:

He will probably never need to utilize those skills.

Why? Because the successful EPS will spend the majority of his/her time and effort anticipating potential problems. He manages to keep the individual to be protected-whether a President or the lead singer in a rock band-out of harms way by preparing for every possible scenario. The time spent on working out at the gym is of no value, if a bodyguard doesn’t understand the importance of these important skills and personal traits:

Ability to avoid and deflect confrontation-if your energy and focus is on a physical confrontation with a stranger, your client will be unprotected from others

Advance work-knowing the location the client is visiting, knowing emergency exits, planning the route

The ability to follow directions to the letter and to communicate clearly and specifically

Detail-oriented: Always planning and thinking ahead

Ability to “blend” with others-thereby drawing less notice to yourself and furthermore less notice to your client

Discretion-meaning, don’t share ANY personal information regarding your client with anyone

Let me address the last point, discretion. Of late, bodyguards to celebrities Kobe Bryant, Anna Nicole-Smith and Lindsay Lohan have chosen to talk to the press about their clients. I hope whatever big payday they’re expecting is worth it, because it is career suicide to discuss your employers’ personal habits. It is a classless and unprofessional thing to do. If your client is doing something illegally and you have a problem with that, then you need to make a decision for yourself as to whether or not you want to work with those circumstances.

In addition to being in poor taste, the bodyguard who shares personal details about an individual is also potentially increasing opportunities for threats to that client. The more information the public has about a clients personal life and tastes-the more of a target that person could potentially become.

It is enough that celebrities are often held hostage in their lives by the general public. They are entitled to some privacy, just like everybody else. As a bodyguard or EPS, you are relied upon to do a specific job and paid extremely well to do this work…and if I’m being truthful here…part of the reason for the high paycheck is the understanding that you will keep your mouth shut. Earning more money from books or news stories by spilling sordid details about your employers private life is greedy, and breaks the trust factor that is so necessary in this line of work. Indiscretion reflects poorly on all of us.

You own your own company. Are you rich? No – why not? You have plenty of work, your reputation is spotless, your customers love you. So, why aren't you rich? For years subcontractors have asked themselves that same question. WHY AREN'T WE RICH? Truth be told, you should at least be well off. So, if you're not, why not?

Chapter 1 – Some Background

In 1985 I called on a large commercial painting contractor, shortly after seeing Tom Hopkins give a full day seminar on professional selling. Mr. Hopkins taught me to have unflinching confidence. And to respect my customers' time. So before making my sales call, I filled out all the paperwork in advance. It took about 20 minutes. I made my presentation and asked my closing question. After my customer said yes, I told him that to save him time I had taken the liberty of filling out all the paperwork ahead of time. He was so impressed at my preparation and confidence that he offered me a job, on the spot, working for him as a Project Manager / Sales Representative. I didn't take the job right away, but after a year of handling his account, and seeing what an impressive company he had, I joined his company as a PM. I knew this was someone I wanted to work for.

We worked for all the best GC's. Our prices were among the highest in town. But that didn't matter. Our quality and service got us all the work we could handle. With huge profit margins. We estimated our projects based on simple arithmetic. If we could get our desired profit margin we took the job. If not, we walked away. We had production rates to paint every possible substrate, knew our direct costs, indirect costs, material prices, and mitigating factors that might speed up or slow down production. It was downright scientific. And remarkably accurate. And I was good at implementing it all. By 1992 I earned $ 148,000.00 in a single year. I learned enough and saved enough in those 8 years to start my own company in 1994.

Over the years, I've made it a point to get to know my competition. By and large, they're really good at painting. Not so good at running a business. They can do a lot of volume but not make much profit. Here's a perfect example. One night my partner and I met a semi-competitor at a dinner. He volunteered how much business he had done the previous year. It was the same amount we had done. So I asked him how many painters worked for him. Twice as many as worked for us! That's right. We did the same amount of business but his labor costs were double ours. So, who do you think made more money? As I got to know him better, over the years, he once shared with me that his accountant had called him in to inform him he had "lost his a **". He asked how that could be; they had been busy all year long, buried in work. The CPA replied that may be true but they had obviously had not charged enough. He told him he had to raise his prices. That was it. "Raise your prices". Unfortunately, he stubbornly refused. After all, if they raised their prices they wouldn't get any work. They were already slightly above their main competitor (but way below us, I have to add). They figured they were as high as they could go. So guess what they did? They changed accountants! They shot the messenger. It didn't work.

A couple years went by with no improvement and they hired a high dollar consultant and yet another accountant. It took a while but they learned to read financial statements and started job costing their expenses. They also started getting monthly statements instead of annual ones. And they saw how much they made, but more often lost, each month. They'd make a killing for a couple months but then lose their shirts the next. Two million in sales but no profit. What the heck! Again, they were told to raise their prices. This time they listened and did better for a few months. But then when competition picked up they slid back to their old ways. They were stuck in their way of doing things. They were also stuck on using "square foot pricing". And THAT is what eventually did them in. After 18 years they went out of business.

The truly sad thing is it all could have been avoided if he had allowed us to help him. Help him you ask? Yes. Better competition means more money for us. If he had been willing to take our advice, here is what he would have learned.

Chapter 2 – Your Company

Where are you at right now? I'm going to take a guess that you graduated from high school but didn't go to college. If you did go to college it probably had nothing to do with construction, did it? Out of HS you got a job painting. You're a hard worker with a good work ethic, so after a few years you worked your way up and got to be pretty good, an important member of the company, probably a foreman. Every once in a while you got a call to do some work on the side. Maybe relatives looking for a good deal? You did some nice work, you were really cheap and you began getting more and more calls for side work. As time went by you accumulated plenty of equipment for your little side business, getting paid in cash as you went along. You didn't really know how to price your work but you seemed to be making money basically guessing. Seemed really simple and easy didn't it? When you got paid you took the cash, paid off the paint store, gave your buddies a little bit and whoa – dadgum – you made out pretty good. This is easy. More time goes by, you're getting more and more calls for side work, the cash is great. You pick up on square foot pricing, maybe find out what others are getting per square foot. You figure that in order to get work you need to charge a lot less than the "real companies" but still you do OK. Then the day comes that you have so much side work that you up and quit your job. Maybe you took a co-worker or 2 with you and now you're in competition with your old boss.

The first year life is great. Every job seems to be a winner. You've got a couple buddies working for you. They have no complaints, doing their job and you're making some money. With all the cash coming in you buy yourself a sweet new 4WD truck. Time goes by. Word is out that you do good work. What you don't hear is that people say you're cheap. You leave a ton of money on the table. Soon you have more work than you can handle. You need more equipment, the guys are often bent that they're working while you drive around in your fancy new truck. They just don't realize that you have to leave to quote on work to keep them busy. Shouldn't they be grateful? You're working on the job site much of the day, bidding work in the afternoon and on the phone all night. You're finding that you're always scrambling to find cash. The insurance premiums are due, the note is due on the new piece of equipment, the paint store wants their money, your customers aren't paying on time, your employees want some benefits, they're not showing up for work the morning after payday and they get angry when you move payday to Friday. Some of them call in sick on the same day to teach you a lesson. This is crazy! Absolutely nuts. You didn't sign up for this. What is happening?

So, at the end of the year your wife gets all the documents to the accountant. He calls. Bad news. You lost money.

Impossible you say. "How could I have lost money?" Unknowingly you charged your customers less than what it cost you to do the work. BS, you say. "I never do a job for less than the cost of the materials and labor." Well, you're right! You never took a job for less than your material and labor. But what about overhead? How much did you allow for your overhead? How much is your overhead ? (Do you even know how to calculate your overhead?) Your price is solely based on what the competitions price is. Not what your costs are. Big mistake!

Time goes by. It has now been 5 years since you started your little company. You're barely making ends meet. You can't believe the BS that goes with running a company. The money is not what you'd thought it would be. In fact, nothing is what you thought it would be. Luckily your work is much better than your competitions. In fact, were it not for your superior quality and good reputation, you'd have gone under by now. You have set your price a little higher than others but you're still not making any real money. You want to raise prices. Inside you know you have to, but you're afraid you won't get any work, so you don't. You have to do something, but what?

Actually, if you lasted 5 years you should give yourself some credit. You lasted longer than most. Most guys in your situation only last 3 or 4 years. By then they are so far in debt they fold. They bone their suppliers for tens of thousands of dollars. They go bankrupt, leave town, or both. Nice guys maybe. Hard workers maybe. They're good at painting and waterproofing, but they are terrible businessmen. Many of them actually went belly up during the boom times, with a huge backlog of work. To this day they have no idea why. Many opened up again under a new name and went bankrupt again. Still not knowing why. We have never cared what our competitors charge and never will. We have costs! Our overhead is not the same as theirs and consequently our prices can never be the same as theirs – period! Get out a bright yellow highlighter, because you're about to highlight this. From this moment on forget about what others are charging, and never, ever, use square foot or unit pricing again! Let me repeat that. From this moment on forget about what others are charging, and never, ever, use square foot or unit pricing again!

Chapter 3 – Accounting Terms

We cannot go forward without you having a clear understanding of a number of accounting definitions. Study these. Trust me, this stuff is important.

ANNUAL SALES – The entire amount of revenue generated by your company during the course of your fiscal year. We can only project future sales. Later on we will take your 3 year average sales to estimate this year annual sales total. This is only an estimate. Note that if your sales projections change either up or down you can adjust the forthcoming formula as needed.

DIRECT COSTS – These are all costs directly incurred in completion of the job.

MATERIALS – Mainly paint, caulk, fuel for lifts, rental fees, sandpaper, visqueen, backer rod, permits, etc. You get the idea, anything going to the job.

LABOR – All labor only for the job being completed; including workers comp insurance, state taxes, federal taxes, and local taxes. Do not include any labor costs for office staff, estimators, etc. That is included in your overhead.

EXPENSES – Often called INDIRECT COSTS or OVERHEAD. From this point on I am going to refer to these as overhead. These are simply the costs it takes to be in business. NOT the cost to complete a job. The list is long. Here are some examples:

Fuel

Building payments

Equipment payments

Insurance

Phones

Professional fees (lawyer, accountant)

Rent

Taxes

Office salaries

Office equipment

Office supplies

Postage

Vehicle repair and maintenance

Equipment repair and maintenance

Building maintenance

Utilities

Bank fees

Advertising

Re-work

Vacation pay / holiday pay

Employee benefits

Customer entertainment

Season tickets used for customer entertainment

Training (sales seminars, time management seminars, management seminars, continuing education)

Trade organization dues

Subscriptions

Employee gifts

Tolls

Chapter 4 – If You Have an Accountant

Now we are finally getting to the good stuff. This is going to take you some time. Hopefully you've kept good records. What I am going to give you, if you use it , will change your life. It would have saved Al's company. It can save yours. Now this can be tough for a paint guy, but prepare yourself for some serious office time. No interruptions, no phones, no kids, no wife – nothing but you and your paperwork. Clear off a large table or desk where you can spread out lots of documents. If your statements are in good order and accurate, plan on a minimum of 4 hours, maybe more. If your wife does the books this job is for her also. If you have an accountant perhaps he / she can help. Of course, you're paying for their time but it's worth it. If you have trouble understanding the following, ask for their help.

First you will need to get out your yearend statements for each of the past 3 years. If you do not have annual statements you are going to have to create some (See chapter 6). Add up your ANNUAL SALES for each year and average it out. (See example # 1) Write down your 3 year average sales on a blank sheet of paper. The amount is an estimate of your annual sales for this year. We are assuming that this year sales will be close to this amount. More on this later.

The last thing to do is average out your OVERHEAD over the past 3 years. Write this down also on the sheet of paper. (See example # 2)

Here's the formula, (See example # 3). Divide your average overhead by your average annual sales. You now know what percent of your annual sales is OVERHEAD (indirect costs). From now on you will use this amount while pricing every job you quote. Never use square foot or unit pricing again. You will come to understand this and love this. Trust me. Later we will get to the next formula.

Chapter 5 – So You Don't Have an Accountant

Unless you have meticulous records the following will not be as accurate as if you had been using an accountant. Be as precise as you can . It won't be perfect but you'll be light years ahead of much of your competition. This is going to take some work on your part. Clear an entire day. Get out the last 3 years check registers, some paper, and various colors of highlighters. For each year, using 1 color only, highlight every deposit, then total up the amount for each year. These amounts are your ANNUAL SALES (See example # 1). If you are often paid in cash it is extremely important to factor those amounts in to your calculations (And start saving your money for an attorney when the IRS comes calling). If you are not sure of these amounts give it your best shot. Add up the 3 amounts and average them out. Write this number on your sheet of paper. This is your average annual sales for the past 3 years. We are assuming the current year sales will be somewhat close to this amount. More on this in a later chapter.

Next, with a different colored highlighter, go through and highlight every single expense you can find. Look at the above list for help with expenses. As you did with your annual sales, total up the amount for each year and average it out. Also write this down on your paper. This is your average annual OVERHEAD (See example # 2).

Take your average expenses and divide them by your average annual sales. You now know what percentage of your annual sales is OVERHEAD (See example # 3). From now on you will use this amount while pricing every job you quote. Never use square foot or unit pricing again. You will come to understand this and love this. Trust me. Later we will get to the next formula.

Chapter 6 – Square Foot Bidding

My guess, if you're reading this, is that you bid by the square foot or use unit costs. $ X.00 per 3×7 door frame, $ X.00 per 3×7 hollow metal door, so many cents a square foot for 1 prime coat and 2 finish coats of eggshell latex on new drywall walls, etc. Some of you have given price sheets out to your customers so they can bid your jobs for you. And those price sheets are also in the hands of your competition. See where I'm heading with this? Square foot or unit pricing is bad. Very, very bad. It doesn't work. Here's why.

You meet a new GC and give him all your unit prices. He calls about doing a tenant build out in a local office building. He plugs in your square foot prices for gypsum board walls and ceilings, hollow metal door frames, hollow metal doors, painted wood base, painted crown molding, etc. He tells you it's worth $ 7,500.00 and asks if you want to do it. You agree. The job turns out great! The superintendent is a real pro. When he tells you it's time to start all the drywall has been finished and sanded to perfection. The permanent lighting is burning. The ceiling grid hasn't been installed yet and you can really fly on those first 2 coats. He consults with you before bringing the carpet guy in to see if you want to do your final coat before or after and you work out a plan that minimizes the damage to your walls. The paint you are using touches up very nicely and the drywaller does his part by not got going crazy during punch out. All in all, a very well run job and you make a very nifty 35% gross profit.

The GC is very happy with your workmanship and calls you a couple weeks later and tells you he has another tenant build out. Same "type" building so same price, right? Darn right, you say, and you start counting all that profit you're going to make. You show up with your 3 man crew for the first day. Whoa! What a rat hole. The job site is filthy! There's no permanent lighting yet, but you can still see that barely any walls are ready to be painted. And did I mention this building is a 45 minute drive from your shop and your men want to be paid for their "travel time". It takes you a couple hours to figure there's nothing you can do and you send your crew home. But not before they all put 2 hours on their time cards plus 15 minutes travel each way. That's seven and a half hours of pay with zero production. You are already losing money.

Not only that but unlike the other job, this one is in the corner of the building and there are windows everywhere. 3 feet of drywall below the windows, 4 foot high windows, and another 2 feet of drywall above the windows. And the grid is already installed. So instead of only cutting in the grid one time on the last coat (like the last job), you now have to cut in the wall below the window, above the window, and at the ceiling grid. Almost 9 times as much cutting in as last time. God almighty! Can this get any worse? You betcha. The superintendent tells you the electricity won't be turned on until the very end so you're going to have to paint in the dark. But don't worry he says. The drywaller is great. There won't be much touch up at all. He promises all the drywall will be finished by the morning so you head on out and tell him you'll be there at 7:00 AM the next day. You take a deep breath and say "OK, it will all work out in the end". No! It won't work out in the end! The GC will make money and you are poised to lose your shirt. GC's rarely lose money. Their subs lose the money.

You and your crew arrive the next day and it's time to paint. Uh oh. No freight elevator in this building. You and your guys have to haul 30, 5 gallon buckets up 9 flights of stairs. Plus your spray rig and baker scaffolds You're now cursing yourself for not going to the gym more. But it's not like you have tons of free time. This business is consuming you. You finally start painting but with all the cutting in, it is slow going. Add the pigsty of a jobsite to the equation and the lack of permanent lighting and it takes twice as long to get the job done as you thought it would. But at least you're done.

Not so fast my friend. The paint isn't touching up like the last job. You used some what the GC said was specified and the garbage doesn't touch up. And much of the job was done with deep colors. You have to re-paint every wall that has a drywall patch from corner to corner . Now you have officially lost your shirt. You pay all your guys, as well as the paint store, and your $ 5,800.00 job has cost you $ 6,950.00. And you haven't even paid yourself … Very depressing. Remember that highlighter from earlier? Get it out and highlight this. Every job is unique and different. Different subs, different architects, different colors, different paint, different location. Why in the world would you ever price each job with the same unit prices? Insanity. Total lunacy. I know some of you are thinking "I need work. I don't want to rock the boat. I can't raise prices." Yes, you need work, but you need to make money, not be a nice guy.

The following examples are in round numbers for easy understanding.

Example 1: Annual Sales Average:

Sales 2010 – $ 480,000.00

Sales 2011 – $ 500,000.00

Sales 2012 – $ 520,000.00

Total 3 years – $ 1,500,000.00 divided by 3 = average annual sales of $ 500,000.00

Example 2: Annual Overhead Average:

Overhead 2010 – $ 140,000.00

Overhead 2011 – $ 150,000.00

Overhead 2012 – $ 160,000.00

Total 3 years – $ 450,000.00 divided by 3 = average annual overhead of $ 150,000.00

Example 3: Overhead as a Percentage of Sales:

Take your average overhead and divide it by average sales:

$ 150,000.00 divided by $ 500,000.00 = .30

Your average overhead percentage is 30% of your annual sales

This is only an example. Your numbers will be different. The lower your overhead is, the lower your estimates will be. You will have to monitor your sales as the year progresses. If you project your sales being much higher than your average, simply go through the process again to find your lower overhead percentage. Same if your projected sales are lower.

In addition, let's say you focus on lowering your expenses. With luck, let's say you lowered them $ 3,000.00 per month. Go ahead and work your formulas with the new numbers. It's that easy.

Now with our new formula let's do a sample bid. It's a very basic tenant build out:

Labor (I'm not going to tell you how we establish the number of labor hours needed or what our cost is to put a man in the field. That's intellectual property. I'm simply using round numbers):

120 hours X $ 25.00 (Includes all WC insurance and payroll taxes) = $ 3,000.00

Material: $ 1,153.00

Total Direct Costs (Labor and material) $ 4,153.00

Overhead (In example # 3 we know it is 30%) $ 4153.00 X 30% $ 1,246.00

Total Cost (Break even number) $ 5,399.00

So now we know your break even cost is $ 5,399.00. If you get paid this much money by your customer you have covered all your costs. That's excellent but you still need to make a profit to satisfy the bank and the bonding company.

For a 15% net profit, divide your breakeven number, $ 5,399.00 by.85 and your price is

$ 6,352.00.

For a 20% net profit, divide your breakeven number, $ 5,399.00 by.80 and your price is

$ 6,749.00.

Remember the highlighter from earlier on? Get it out and highlight this: You deserve to make a profit. After all, you're doing the work and taking the risk .

Chapter 7 – Reality – It is what it is:

I can hear you out there. You're saying "Jeff, I can't charge that much money. I need work." Remember Al, my competitor / friend who went bankrupt? That's what he said. Right up until the day he closed his doors. Let me state this in no uncertain terms. You have costs. Your costs are not the same as anyone else. Your price cannot be the same as anyone else. You can't dismiss reality. Your costs are your reality. DO NOT DISMISS REALITY – PERIOD! Use the formulas; price the jobs where you have to, not where you want to.

The next time a GC asks you what your unit prices are; you confidently look them in the eye and say "We don't have unit prices. Every job is unique, so we make it a point to price out every job independently of the others." Go on and explain how you carefully estimate labor, materials, and take in to consideration any extenuating circumstances that might add to or lower your estimate. Quite simply it's how professionals do it, and it's how you should be doing it. You are more than just another painter!

Chapter 8 – Stick With It:

Here is a little tip for you. When you tell someone you don't use unit prices, talk to them in a matter of fact manner. Don't apologize or be nervous. Just tell them that you need to dig in to the job to determine the appropriate price based on today's marketplace.

It might be hard at first, giving a potential customer a quote that is 30% higher than other quotes. Remember, you cannot dismiss reality. You have costs. Do not lie to yourself. You cannot work for free. Be confident. You know your costs, the others do not. It's easy to be confident when you know more than the competition. Many of them do not know what you know. Your confidence (or lack of) will subconsciously be picked up by your customers. They will KNOW that you know what you're doing. And many will hire you for that reason alone.

Don't worry about losing a customer or two. Don't worry about losing some jobs. Don't let your ego keep you broke. You win some and you lose some. The other guys will get busy with unprofitable work while you are doing profitable work. You will do less work and make more money. Then, when they start cutting every corner imaginable to make a buck you can swoop in and grab their customers. There is something else, though, that is very important. To get the highest price your work has to be second to none. Your reputation must be flawless. Your personal integrity must be beyond reproach. If word is out that you're a shyster, you're ruined. You could give your work away and people wouldn't use you. Most of the time the lowest price gets thrown out anyway. And there's only 1 low price. I you're depending on being low to get work, the odds are NOT in your favor. I find it much easier explaining higher price than apologizing for poor quality.

Chapter 9 – Your Ego:

Of everything you need to do from this pamphlet, this will be the most difficult. Check your ego at the door! Don't let emotions cost you money. If your ego is such that you have to get every job, then I promise you, you will lose your rear end because of it. If you use these formulas but ignore your costs and low ball, just so Company X doesn't get the job, you are a fool. Who cares if you lose a job to Company X? Some of the best jobs you'll ever get are the ones you don't. That's worth repeating and highlighting, by the way. How stupid would you have to be to take a job that you know has no profit?

Chapter 10 – Don't Be Afraid to Walk Away :

Many times, you will know right away that you don't have a snowballs chance of getting the job. In those instances it is better to just pass. Why waste your time? We ask a lot of questions when a new GC asks us to bid a job. Question # 1 is ALWAYS "who else is bidding the job?" If we hear certain names, we pass, right then and there. You should to. So there you have it. This information is only a tool. If you don't use it, nothing will change. If you go back to your same old methods you will continue to get the same results. Now go out and make some money!

About the author: Jeff Clarke owns a commercial painting company and operates the franchise division. jeffclarke@meritnow.com .

Breaking up is hard to do. But sometimes it’s necessary.

When you find yourself in a relationship where your needs aren’t getting met. Where your happiness is not being considered. Where you feel that you are not important to your partner. These are signs that your relationship has tun its course and it may be time to leave.If your relationship is broken, try to fix it. But don’t try to be a miracle worker. Some things can’t be fixed. Learn some of the signs of a broken relationship. Recognize them when they show up. And learn when to let go and move on.

Here are 10 Signs That It May Be Time To Dump Your Boyfriend:

1. He’s Insensitive and Ignores Your Feelings.

Does he ignore or avoid you when you’re having an emotional crisis and you know you’re not a drama queen? When you try to talk to him about problems you may be having, does he tune you out, turn up the TV or go in another room. Do you need to go to others for comfort when you’re sad or depressed.

If he lacks empathy for you and shows no concern for your emotional and mental well being, most likely he just doesn’t care about you. Now I know some men try to comfort you in their own way, which usually isn’t very helpful, but at least they’re trying. If he doesn’t even try, why stay with him. Find someone who will be your shoulder to cry or your cheering squad when you need it.

2. He’s Starting To Disappear.

Where had he gone? You talk to him on the phone, and he seems to have time for his family, friends, hobbies and everything under the sun, but no time for you. An important part of growing a healthy relationship is spending time together.

If you live near each other and he can’t take the time to see you, you’re not a priority. If he knows that spending time with you is important to you and he still doesn’t come around, why are still waiting for him. He’s obviously enjoying his life, it’s time you started enjoying yours.

3. He’s On A Mission… A Secret Mission.

Is he being sneaky? Has he started locking his cell phone and his computer? Has he started sending calls to voice mail when you’re around or go in another room to text? Has he stopped telling you about the things he’s been doing? Something’s going on. He’s up to no good.

Don’t wait around for the drama to unfold. If you’re getting warning signs, don’t ignore them. The foundations of a good relationship is trust and if you can’t trust him, why stay with him.

4. He’s Suddenly Celibate.

For most couples sex does decrease as your relationship matures. But it doesn’t come to a screeching halt. If there’s a reason for his sexual dysfunction, fine. If you didn’t have much of a sex life to begin with, then this isn’t an issue. But if you were a happy horny couple and now you may as well be in separate beds, then there’s a problem.

If he has no desire for sex with you, that’s a definite sign that your relationship is in trouble.Don’t stay in a passionless relationship, find a man who desires you.

5. He Wants To Be In Control.

Who’s in charge of your life? Does he need to know where you are, who you’re with and what you’re doing? Check your phone, your email, your Facebook account? Does he try to control other aspects of your life? What you do? What you eat? What you wear?

If he won’t let you be who you want to be, then he doesn’t love you for who you are. If he needs to check up on you then he doesn’t trust you. You need to get away form him before you lose all sense of self worth. The only person who should be in control of your life is you. Leave this control freak and find someone who trusts you and respects your right to be yourself..

6. He’s Pissing You Off… On Purpose.

Most men do things that their girlfriends find irritating. But most of these things are habit and we all know how hard habits are to break. But your boyfriend should not go out of his way to piss you off. Does he seem to want to make you mad, spark an argument?

Do your fights usually end with him walking out or threatening to break up with you? Does he seem more interested in your reaction than the actual conflict? Do you really want to be involved with a self absorbed drama queen?Don’t stick around and wait for him to grow up. Leave him and find a man who wants to show you love not drama.

7. You Can’t Stand Him.

Sometimes you just stop feeling the spark. You’ll know when it happens. When you stop wanting to see him. Don’t want to spend time with him. Dread having to hear his voice on the phone. When there’s no chemistry, the time you spend with your boyfriend will drag you down.

Ending this relationship is hard, especially if he’s a nice guy. But you need to do what’s best. It’s best for you because you’ll end the relationship before things get really bad. Also it’s best for him because it allows him to find someone who he does have chemistry with. So don’t force yourself to feel something that’s not there. You’re just wasting your time and his.

8. You’re Unhappy.

A relationship is not all rainbows, sunshine and lollipops, but it shouldn’t be torture either. You’re relationship should not be a source of sadness. You shouldn’t feel trapped. You shouldn’t feel empty. If you experience joy in other aspects of your life, but your relationship brings you down, it’s time to move on.

You need to be strong. Get support. Find someone you can talk to, a friend, a family member, a counselor. Find someone who can help you figure out what you want and what you need. Remember you’re the only person in control of your happiness.

9. He’s Won’t Commit To You.

Yes there are men who afraid of commitment. For many in time for the right woman they’ll come around. But it the guy you want seems more committed to exploring his options, then he’s not serious about you. Does he want an open relationship? Does he think he needs to keep seeing other women?

He’s looking for something better. You’re temporary. Someone to date until he finds his Ms. Right. If you’re okay with that, fine. But don’t try to tie him down. He doesn’t want to settle down with you. Find someone who does and let him go.

10. He’s A Loser.

Does he expect you to pay for the dates. Does he come over to watch your TV and eat your food. Does he seem to always need to borrow something – food, money, your car. He’s a mooch. Get rid of this cheap, grubby loser. He’s using you for what you have.

He doesn’t care about you, just your stuff and what you can do for him. Cut him off, then cut him out of your life. Losing him will not only make your life better by giving you access to better men, but you’ll also reduce your grocery bills.

Not every relationship works out. When a relationship ends it can feel like the death of a close friend. You’ll feel the loss. But the pain of the breakup is nothing compared to the pain you’ll experience if you stay in a bad relationship. Don’t stay in hopes that it will get better. Don’t think that you can change him. If he wanted to change, he would. If he doesn’t there’s nothing you can do about it. If he’s not into you or if he doesn’t want to be with you, there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t change someone else. So stop trying.

No one should be miserable, just for the sake of being with someone. No matter who you are, there’s someone out there who’s perfect for you. There’s someone out there who will love you as you are and for who you are. And as long as you stay in this relationship, you’ll never find him. So when these signs are constantly being thrown in your face. Recognize them for what they are. Signs that you should make a change, move on. Dump Mr. Wrong and find your Mr. Right.

Many women feel like meeting Mr. Right after age forty is like trying to find the old proverbial "needle in a haystack". As a woman who married for the first time at age 43, I understand it can be frustrating, discouraging and disheartening, to say the least. However, many women out there are finding great happiness and love later in life. If this is something you desire, it is not only possible, but even likely that you can find a satisfying and joyful relationship. From the point of view of someone who has been on both sides of this dilemma, here are some reasons you may actually be more likely to find true love after 40 than you were in your 20's or 30's.

1) You Know Who You Are.

Many women are still figuring out what makes them tick and establishing their identity in their 20's and 30's. By the time most women reach their 40's, they have a better understanding of themselves. This brings a sense of clarity about preferences, strengths, and vulnerabilities.

2) You Know What You Want.

By the time many women reach 40, they have been in relationships with different kinds of men. They may have experienced the good, the bad, the ugly, and the Bureau's Ten Most (un) Wanted. Often wisdom is born of experience. Of course, experience is the thing that you don't get until just after you needed it. But once it does come, it brings with it the refinement of those qualities that attract you to potential partners, and a greater knowledge of what is acceptable and what is not. Let your family and friends know what kind of man you would like to meet. They may know someone just right for you.

3) You Have the Quality that is Most Irresistible: Confidence.

A woman with true confidence is alluring at any age. While life can take its toll on your confidence, overcoming challenges and difficulties in your life can also help you to feel more confidence in yourself as you triumph over them.

4) The Shortage of Good Men is a Myth.

It can feel like "all the good ones are taken", but in reality there are many eligible men out there. However, it is helpful to put yourselves in situations where the odds are favorable in terms of the ratio of men to women. Professional business meetings and seminars, sporting events, and trade shows can be great places to meet men. Breaking out of your normal routine can open new possibilities to meet someone. After all, if you're shopping for a tennis racquet in a bedding store, it does little good to complain to the management about the shortage of inventory. Get thee to a sporting goods shop!

5) You Have the Wisdom and Experience to Recognize a Good Man When You See One.

Many women have to try out a relationship with a "bad boy" somewhere along the way. Ok, you've done that and found out that he went from zero to sixty like a dream but couldn't be relied on for the long haul. Where younger women might swoon, you now have the wisdom to give certain kinds of men a pass. Most women have learned through experience that there is a lot of good to be said about a "really nice guy". Many women can now appreciate the "kinder, gentler" qualities of a good man that may not have seemed as exciting earlier on.

6) You Have Gained Emotional Intelligence.

This balance of reason and emotion can be very helpful in a mature relationship. When you are able to balance your heart and your head you can make better decisions in relationships with men. At this point in life, you have learned how to care for yourself and don't expect any one person to fulfill all of your needs for you.

7) Whether You're Aging More or Less Gracefully, Your Other Attractive Attributes are Likely Shining Brightly.

Many women in their 40's and 50's look fabulous these days. Even if you don't feel like this is true for you, you have likely developed a strong sense of style and confidence that can be very attractive to men. You can likely carry on intriguing conversations with a man because of your valuable and interesting life experiences and insights.

8) You Have Much More Control Over Your Own Destiny Then it May Seem.

This is an area for some self-reflection and honesty. Many women say they want to be in a committed relationship, yet when they get in touch with their true feelings there is often some ambivalence around this. Perhaps you have been hurt or disappointed and feel extremely cautious about opening your heart again. Perhaps you really like having the freedom and flexibility that comes with being on your own. Perhaps you like your routine and lifestyle and don't want to compromise to accommodate someone else. While all of this is understandable, it is a choice. It is also a choice to decide to put yourself out there in a way that creates opportunities to meet someone and be willing to open your heart to them. Many women who have found love later in life have had to clear some of these obstacles out of their way to make it possible for them to have the relationship they so deeply desire.

9) The Internet has Created a Whole New World for Networking and Meeting Other People.

While common sense and safety cannot be stressed enough here, the Internet is a way to meet and connect with interesting people you likely would have never crossed paths with otherwise. The days of the Internet being a "last resort" in the quest for finding a mate are long gone, as now over 20% of all relationships start online.

10) Love Can Be More Satisfying and Meaningful Than It Was When You Were Younger.

When you find love later in life, you recognize what a gift and blessing it is. You are less likely to take your partner or the relationship for granted. Love at any age can bring much joy and happiness, but for those who find it later in life it is something truly to be cherished.

Real love is still possible, perhaps even probable for you!

Often when people think about buying a baby gift they usually think about baby (of course) and mom. Dad often tends to be overlooked. Now most dads don’t really think too much about it but everyone likes a surprise….right?

Today dads are very involved with looking after and spending quality bonding time with their new baby. This bonding time allows mom a chance to get some sleep, maybe a nice relaxing bubble bath, time to read or whatever she may want to do.

When our daughter Samantha was born I received a great t-shirt that says “Mr. New Dad” with a really funny picture on it. I thought it was hilarious and enjoyed wearing it. When our second daughter was born I again was happy to be able to wear the shirt again (I still do – she is now just over 5 months old). This is a very simple gift that I thought was great that I appreciated.

When considering gifts for dad you may want to consider something that he will be able to use when taking the new baby out (and when they start to grow up). One of the coolest things that my wife and I have found are daddy diaper vests. One of the issues that I found when going out on my own is that you need to bring diapers, diaper change pad, snacks, drinks, cell phone, wallet, keys along so many other items. How do you carry all of this stuff conveniently and easily (and without lugging around mom’s diaper bag)? The DadGear Diaper vest is your answer. It looks good and is something that dad can wear and use on a daily basis as all those extra pockets can be used to carry other items as well.

Another great gift for outing adventures with baby is a Diaper Backpack. Us guys tend to be a little self conscious when our wives ask us to hold on to their purse or girly diaper bag. A Diaper Backpack is something that any guy can carry around comfortably. We like the Baby Sherpa Diaper Backpack – they have insulated compartments for food that needs to be kept cool, an insulated bottle pocket, water bottle holder, change pad and more. Diaper Backpacks are especially great for travelling and can also be used outside of carrying baby items.

These are just a couple of the baby gifts for dad that we have found that are practical, fun and cool. Regardless of the type of baby gift you decide is right for dad I am sure that he will be pleasantly surprised and appreciate being included!

You met this great guy and you’ve been dating each other for some time. Not in an exclusive relationship, but you have been spending time together. Phone calls that lasted for more than an hour, flirty smiles are exchanged.

You feel good about him.

Now is the million dollar question that you want to find out.

Does he like you? Is he into you, or not?

How to know the answer? What are the tell-tale signs that he is into you?

Well, besides using your woman’s intuition which is not something I can describe here nor teach, I’ll do my best to “simplify” this complicated thing call “love”.

10 Signs That He Likes You

1. Watching the same movie twice

He’s seen the movie. Although he wasn’t very impressed with it, but because you haven’t catch it he suddenly changed his tune and said he really would like to watch it a second time.

And so by the way, if you haven’t seen it too, why not let’s go catch it together, he asked.

You know his intention is then not on the movie, but the company really.

So girls, do not expose his true intentions. It’s enough to know the underlying truth, be appreciative ok?

2. His car is playing songs that just sound too, familiar?

Because those are your favorites! You have merely casually mentioned to him once, and the next time he drives you, you’re in for a musical feast.

Is he always so attentive to everyone’s needs and preferences? Well, you observe how he interacts with others and you tell me.

3. He asks that question!

Well, he will try to be as casual and nonchalant about it as possible. But no matter how cool he acts, deep down inside he is burning and dying to know the answer to this question:

“So, are you single?”

If your answer is yes, then this will be the next one:

“No way. How can someone like you be single? You mean, you don’t have a boyfriend?”

Now watch his body language closely. If you notice he is feeling tensed up by now, and totally relieved when your answer is “No” then you get the message.

4. He asks for a follow-up date even before the date is over

Now if he isn’t interested in you, why would a man be so anxious to “book” your time for another date with him even when the date is only half-way through?

Unless you look like Jessica Alba, or you can give him a million-dollar job like Donald Trump. If you aren’t either one of the two or belong to either one of the category, then this can be a clue to his heart…

5. Your name is not foreign to his friends

If you do get a chance to meet up with his friends, which you know you can create such opportunities, you’ll get some nice juicy bits from them.

But this may not be very fool-proof, neither are all of these signs, but if his friends raise their eyebrows or grin sheepishly when he introduces you to them, then that means word has been around within that gang on someone in particular, which could very well be you.

6. He can’t remove his eyes from you

Ok, we know that’s not the kind of stare-through-your-clothes type, but rather a slightly more loving kind of gaze that speaks of admiration and liking.

If the eyes could speak, they may just pop this question on behalf of their owner “You are the most beautiful lady I’ve ever seen. Would you like to be more than friends?”

The best test? When a bombshell or super gorgeous babe sashays past, you need to alert him before he notices her. (Of course, this is really carrying it a little far ha ha…. what does it take to stop a man’s roving eyes? I can’t find the answer yet)

7. He prompts you

Every now and then, he will find a chance to ask you what type of guy you are attracted to and are looking for in a partner.

Unless he’s doing what I’m doing (which puts me in a really privileged position to ask ha ha), what business is it for him to know what kind of man you like if not for the fact that he is secretly plotting his way to become the most suitable candidate?

Don’t be surprised if he starts putting himself down or discrediting himself by saying things about him that don’t fit into the list you described. He is testing waters to see what your reaction would be, which will give him some clues on how you feel for him.

For example you listed “having a good sense of humor and making you laugh” as one of the traits which you will be attracted to, and he says “Oh, I’m a boring guy actually. I don’t know how to crack jokes or make girls laugh. I must be boring you then” be careful of what you reply him.

If you say “Ya, I don’t think you are the type of humorous person either” versus “Oh is that so? But I never find you boring at all. In fact, I feel we have lots of things to chat about” he will either be secretly weeping in sorrow or jumping in joy .

By saying things like that, he is kind of “forcing” you to give a respond, and either way you will be giving away clues on how you feel. So girls, if you fancy this guy too, you know what kind of answer you should give, right?

8. He is doing you favors

Yes, he doesn’t mind ferrying you around if he has a car. He will also volunteer to accompany you all the way to an out-of-the-way place to satisfy a sudden craving you have for a food delicacy that is sold there.

He wiil help you with your school work, express his interest in lending you a hand for errands you need to run, buy some things for your family etc.

If a man isn’t interested in developing something further than friendship with you, unless he is too bored with his life or he’s Mr Super Ultra Nice, then I wonder what could it be that prompts him to be everywhere when you need his help.

9. He’s very anxious about celebrating special occasions.

Like Valentine’s Day (if he asks you out on that day, I would really suspect his intention, wouldn’t you?) and your birthday.

He would long to celebrate this special day with you, and preferably alone.

10. He buys you gifts

Sending gifts on no apparent occasion and for no reason is the easiest way for a man to declare his interest in a girl without verbalizing it. By giving you something, he is testing to see how you react. Usually he will do this when he still isn’t sure of how you feel towards him, so at least he won’t feel rejected if you reject his gift.

At the same time, he is hoping to make you happy with that gift. And if you are happy, he will be too!

Summarizing the above, they may not be 100% fool-proof scientifically proven signs to show he’s into you. They came from pure experience and observation. I purposely didn’t include things like body language where he will check how he look before meeting you, pointing his leg and facing his body towards you etc because I just want to make this as non-scientific as possible.

So ladies, hope this gives you some clues to how this man who is appearing in front of you pretty often lately feels about you. Does he has only platonic friendship in mind, or something more?

I was watching a movie the other day and one of the central characters made a statement that caught my attention. She said “A person can’t help who they fall in love with.” I paused for a moment and wondered to myself, “how many people will be led astray by believing that bunch of nonsense.” The statement sounds very sincere and romantic, but it’s a notion that will rob you of experiencing the kind of love you deserve if you’re not careful.

A few days before I watched this movie I had received a letter from a woman and had been in deep contemplation regarding how I would respond to her. She was involved with a man who she believed to be a good catch, but he had gone through a traumatic relationship experience in the past she said, and was emotionally unavailable. He ran hot one day and cold the next, and she could never gauge his true feelings for her. The only thing she felt she knew for sure was that she was in love with him. I suspect that this woman’s letter is the reason why my ears perked up when I heard the actor make this very misleading statement.

Emotionally unavailable men are aloof, uncatchable if you will. This man will give a woman just enough of a hint of who he could be if he didn’t have issues. He enjoys the chase, may be charming and attractive, and he’s seemingly sympathetic to the fact that he’s stringing you along, but he lacks entirely the desire to commit himself to a relationship with you. Some women will flock to this kind of man because deep down the woman has fear. She is insecure and afraid of real commitment as well or else she would not indulge this kind of man.

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV) says “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” If you and I didn’t have the capacity to guard and protect our hearts from foolishness, then God would not have told us to do so, but we very definitely have this capacity and we must use it. As children of God, sometimes we have a bad habit of picking and choosing which scriptures we’ll heed. Well, you can’t get much plainer than Proverbs 4:23, and it would be a gross error in judgment not to heed it, especially when it comes to partnering. God is telling us to watch what goes in and what comes out of our hearts because what goes-in and comes-out affects our quality of life.

When it comes to guarding your heart, Sisters, you’ve got to put on your superwoman cape. Not only do you have to be able to recognize an emotionally unavailable man a mile away, but you must understand from the giddy up that it’s not a beneficial move to invest your emotions. The woman who wrote me fell for a man like this because she allowed herself to do so. Truth be told, the man didn’t give her enough to build a quality relationship. He gave her the leftovers and she accepted them. She accepted them because she thought that it was God who placed the man in her life in the first place; therefore, she reckoned that God must intend for her to be with the man. This is how we think sometimes. We think with our emotions instead of with our spiritual and mental intellect.

Every man that is interested in you is not sent by God. And every man that you are interested in is not sent by God. We can’t be so gullible, so needy for a man’s attention that we let ourselves invest in someone who will not yield a bountiful return.

1John 4:1 KJV says “Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God:” This is extremely wise counsel when you’re seeking a marital partner. God is telling us forthrightly not to believe every spirit, because that’s our tendency. We want to believe that just because the brother looks good, smells good, and talks a good game that we can give our hearts to him. Well, take a look at Ephesians 6:12 as well. It reminds us that the physical is just a shell and we would do well to look much deeper. It tells us that we are not wrestling with flesh and blood. In other words, our battles are not with a person’s physical being. We are wrestling against the spiritual wickedness that may have usurped the man’s mind and heart.

Understand that we fool ourselves into thinking that emotionally unavailable men will love us because we haven’t dealt with what’s going on in our own souls. And if you haven’t wrestled with your own stuff, how in the world can you wrestle with his. It is so incredibly important to develop a solid and strong relationship with Jesus Christ before we get married, because partnering these days demands that we are secure in our Lord and Savior at the very deepest part of our souls. We desperately need ALL of God’s armor. Without it many of us are tricked into latching on to individuals and situations that are harmful to our spiritual relationship with the Father.

We fall in love with the person’s physical attributes and this attraction causes us to be blind to the corruption in their souls. You can’t excuse this away, because no man can be responsible for emotionally feeding the barren places within a woman. Did you get that? Please make sure that you do. If your emotional well is empty and you are feeling a spiritual drought within, a human being is incapable of replenishing your reserves. This is a job that only Christ can fulfill. Only Jesus Christ can restore a soul.

My beloveds, love is a choice and we very definitely can help who we chose to fall for. So if you’re single, trying to love an emotionally unavailable man is not a winning strategy; it’s a poor choice. No one is perfect, and you can’t expect that the man you will marry will be perfect either, but you CAN expect that he will be as willing to wholeheartedly love you as you are to wholeheartedly love him.

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Tip 1 – Dress Appropriately

A sporty guy might ask you out for a sports session or a movie guy might just want to hit the theatre and watch a flick. Whatever it is, you need to dress correctly and make sure you dont “Out Dress” him! You want to wear something that is close to what he wears often so that other people will think that you are a couple and this will reinforce positive feelings in your relationship with him.

You should also show some cleavage but don’t overdo it! A rule of thumb is if you are wearing a low cut top, you should be “fully clothed” bottom and vice versa. You should also “expose” your best assets. If you have been complimented on having model looking legs, go ahead and wear that cute denim skirt!

Tip 2 – Wear A Scent; Put On Make-Up

As a rule of thumb, girls should always be smelling like flowers everywhere they go. Smelling good is very important as it gives an impression that you know how to take care of yourself and you doll yourself up for him. He will appreciate it. Trust me.

Cosmetics is vital to make any girl look good. You need not have 10 layers of foundation on yourself. Depending on your skin tone and looks, you should use cosmetics to your advantage. Conceal what is not nice, accentuate what is nice. Make your best features stand out. Also, choose the appropriate colors for the time of the day. If you are anticipating some kissing action, use a lipstick that doesn’t smudge! However, most guys like shiny and glossy lipstick as it gives a sexy feeling.

Tip 3 – Show Confidence

Guys like girls that knows their stuff, go on, show your intellect! Give an opinion! An intelligent mind is sexy. However, guys are more than often egoistic. Remember this: You can give an opinion but let him know that the decision to do anything lies with him. This will reaffirm that you are a “docile” girl and that you value his authority and image as a guy. Well, most guys like to be the “dominant” figure in a relationship but it is also true that after “consulting” your opinion, he will most probably go along with your suggestion.

Tip 4 – Touch Him

You can hold his arm as though you are his “property”. This makes guys feel very good about themselves. Treat yourself like a “hot chick” and he will be very proud to be your date. You want to make other guys (strangers on the street) jealous of him because of you.

Tip 5 – Let Him Think That He Impressed You

All guys like to think that they are really good with girls. They have a “I want to win” mentality deep down in their hearts when it comes to girls. A desire to possess. So act as though you are really impressed with him, choose your words carefully but be natural in your expressions. Mr Right might not be perfect in all ways but the fact that you like him shows alot. Make him feel that what he tells you is very important and interesting (Although at times, you might not even understand!). Ask him more and be interested.

When people lose large amounts of weight, often their entire face looks different. Body fat changes the whole shape and look of your face, taking away definition in the jaw and cheekbones in particular. Heavier people often have pudgy necks. Look at your average supermodel-nice long, lean necks make their faces more beautiful.

Your Face Can Reveal Your Body Fat Level

It’s not hard to tell if someone is at a low body fat, just look at their face. It’s not the lean arms or legs that give it away-you can still have fat and flabby abs. People who are in great shape just never have fat faces for some reason. If you are heavy and getting lean, it’s your face that people will probably notice changes in first, because you will be more attractive.

A Lean Face is Considered More Handsome

Most women really prefer that strong, masculine jaw line and defined chin. You know the look, “GQ Style.” Just look through any magazine, you’ll see that models like Tyson and Antonio Sabato Jr. have exactly this look. Check out the hottest Hollywood stars–Matt Damon, Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom-these guys are sex symbols! A man is less attractive with softer, more feminine features

Lose Body Fat, Get the Ladies – Just Like Jared Leto Does

Jared Leto doesn’t have to be a big, muscular guy to get the ladies. In fact, he just wouldn’t look right at all if he had another 30 pounds or so of bulky muscle. Most women actually find him more attractive than the super-cut Mr. Olympia bodybuilders. His lean look that’s right for his body size and looks healthy and natural is what gets him noticed.

Men and Women Both Look Better With Lean Faces

In my opinion, a woman can be too lean. Some women, particularly those in fitness competitions for example, can become too lean, making their face a bit angular and harsh. A healthy level of body fat (think Jessica Biel of Megan Fox) gives a woman’s face soft feminine features, while still being lean. That’s a look a lot of guys love!

Good News For Anyone Trying To Lose a Lot of Weight

Go ahead, do the work and lose the weight. You’ll be so glad you did. For sure, you have a more beautiful face hidden under your excess body fat. So, losing weight will not only leave your body healthier and more attractive, your face will look sexier as well. If you need further convincing, look at before and after pics of Charlize Theron and Jared Leto. Two people that got dramatically different faces when they lost a lot of weight-different meaning better. Even if you only have a small amount to lose, your face will look leaner and more attractive without the body fat. Wait and see how many compliments you receive.

Stay Lean to Avoid Double Chins

Nobody, I repeat, nobody wants a double chin. Staying lean for your entire life is one way to minimize the risk that you’ll get the dreaded double chin. Gravity can’t pull down any fat if it’s not there in the first place. Your youthful good looks will last a whole lot longer without excess fat on your face.

Leaner is Better When It Comes to Good Looks

The newest fashions and latest cars will do you no good if your face is not attractive. Leaner people look better in the hottest European and Hollywood fashions, it’s a simple fact. A man with a pudgy face just doesn’t look as good with hip, messy hair. Same thing goes for bald guys-unless you have a nice, lean face, it just doesn’t look right. This is not really just my opinion, ask anyone. So go ahead, get the expensive car to be cool, but get lean first.

Summary: In summary, getting a leaner body won’t just make your body look better naked, your face will look better, too!

It is not easy to find someone you like and admire in this world. But once if you found your Mr. Right, the next step you have to do is to ensure that he falls in love with you. And of course if you want him to fall for you easily, you need to have the personalities and attributes besides physical appearance. Remember, whatever you do, don’t rush him to fall in love with you. This will make him feel like being forced to fall in love with you.

Here are some tips for you – how to make a guy fall for you easily.

Physical appearance

First and foremost, you need to have a pleasant appearance and personality for a guy to fall in love with you. This doesn’t mean that you have to go for plastic surgery and change your appearance just to look pretty. Guys are easily attracted to the natural beauty of a person. What I mean here for a pleasant appearance is to look elegant and confident as a lady. Whenever you are going out for an outing, choose a nice simple make-up and presentable attire and make sure you look comfortable and cheerful. Don’t make yourself look too childish. And don’t ever choose a non matching color combination for your attire and accessories because this will show that you have a bad taste in fashion.

After choosing the right dress, you can apply a simple make up. An eyeliner and mascara with shinny lip-gloss is sufficient. You can also put on a light eye shadow if you want. Remember not to choose a pair of high heels just to make you look taller. This will only hurt your feet. Don’t overdo yourself too much as guys might get frighten or feel embarrassed. All you have to do is to be yourself and be confident. This is how to make a guy fall for you.

Attitude

Besides physical appearance, guys often look into your personalities and attributes. Do not project bad manners or bad attitude. Try to change yourself for the better. Remember not to be behave pretentious to be good as this might lead to misunderstandings in the future.

Guys like a girl who is well mannered and polite. Besides that, don’t easily get into a bad temper or be moody. Whatever happens, try to discuss and pursue amicable solutions. If you are looking for a secured long lasting relationship, be a more caring and understanding lady. Guys need someone sweet and loving as his life companion and not someone who is boastful and arrogant. If you have all these good attributes, he will fall in love with you at all means.

Be helpful

Guys are easily attracted to girls who are confident and positive. If you are someone with confidence, you will be able to judge things rationally. A guy would want a life companion who can help him in the future by sharing ideas and thoughts together. For example, if he is facing a problem in his workplace, he might want to share this with you. You can actually give him some rational solutions or some suggestions on how to make things get better. If you are not able to really help him to solve his concerns, your moral support is the best thing for him. This will definitely make him feel reassured and that you are important to him and care for him.

In conclusion, don’t ever expect a guy to fall for you in a day. True love takes time and effort. Just show him your sincerity to develop a long lasting relationship and he will definitely fall in love with you easily.