If you have set your eyes on a man from this astrological sign, you will have your work cut out. This man can be great fun and he is very charming, but he’s a player, an adventurer, a freedom-seeker, a socialite, always on the move in one way or another.

This type of man has the need to explore thus meeting new people, new territories and making new experiences. If you are a homebody who likes a simple, quiet, un-glamorous life (away from all those ‘frills’), you may find that this type of man may be a challenge for you; he will take you out of your comfort zone and, for a while, you will have great fun and excitement; but, in the long run, it may get tiresome for you.

Beware of the double nature ‘lurking’ behind this type of man, because you may at first meet one ‘side’ but not the other, which may surface soon or even after several years, catching you by surprise: on one hand he may be a conformist, a ‘regular middle-class’ guy who follows the rules of society in every aspect. On the other hand, he may be an anarchic, a rebel, wandering about like a ‘bad boy’. You may experience both these types in phases which can vary in length; it has been knows that some typical Sagittarius men, after years of conservative family life have ‘packed it in’ and become ‘free spirits’, at times looking for either the love of their life or adventure after adventure, in a life full of wondrous quests. Some other typical Sagittarius men, on the other hand, after years of being the ‘bad boy’ finally decided to seek one companion for life and settle for a very typical ‘family life’.

When this type of man is in love he may be the stereotypical (immature) male who idealizes love and romance; this is why he is likely to believe (and make you believe) that you are (at least for the moment) the most interesting, exciting, marvellous, beautiful woman in the whole world. Because this is what he needs to think (that you are absolutely the best in the world), he is attracted to experienced, ‘mature’ (at least in their behaviour) women; so, if you want to entice this type of man, you must shed silliness and girl-like behaviour and, instead, embrace womanhood, mystery, intelligence and emotional maturity. You must be self-confident (without being vain) and emanate sex-appeal and energy: this type of man responds well to these traits. Because he tends to think that every relationship is a step forward towards his emotional maturity and fulfillment, he tends to have a ‘utilitarian’ rather than ‘creative’ approach to relationships, in that he may get bored easily and move on to the next ‘step’ or ‘adventure’. If you want to ‘stick around’ you may have to create emotional challenges for him from now to eternity to keep him guessing and interested.

Whilst he is dating you and in love with you, he is full of energy and will definitely make you feel energized and excited; he is definitely generous, appreciative and courteous; he may buy you a series of gifts or take you to expensive or exciting holidays, trying to sweep you off your feet.

Whilst he is enamored with you, this is the time for you to create your ‘strategy’ to make him want you over and over and never get bored with you. It’s a huge job, but if you want to undertake it, you must become like a ‘beautiful, exotic country’ which he wants to explore, discover over and over, a terrain full of surprises and changes, even challenges, as long he has never time to feel ‘bored’. I would suggest to becoming more involved with yourself, your many projects, your own life discoveries, so that in turn you become a lot more interesting to him, over and over. As far as looks are concerned, you may want to change your appearance every now and then just to be a ‘new woman’ when the time comes and you feel he’s in need of a new challenge. The best seduction techniques for the astrological sign and the ‘strategy’ to conquer will ensure you will win whilst pursuing this man.

Technologically man has made tremendous advancements. From humble beginnings last century with the Industrial Revolution we have come to the stage where we have invented and built so many gadgets that our very existence is threatened by them, like the atomic bomb.

We cannot deny that technology has improved the quality of our lives immeasurably. A journey to anywhere on the globe now takes merely a few hours by airplane, whereas it may have taken many years to do so before. We communicate with one another with increased ease and efficiency. All it takes is the pressing on a few buttons and we are able to talk to anyone almost anywhere in the world. A flick of the television switch gives us news, sports, and entertainment in glorious color. Modern methods of cooking do not leave dirty messes behind. For the even more lazy ones, fast-foods are always available, some twenty four hours a day.

Modern computers have infiltrated into all aspects of business, governments and even at home. City traffic is also computer-controlled. So it is too with many other things where computers are virtually indispensable. Computer breakdown means also the breakdown of whatever system it controls. The computer has become almost all-powerful. Such is our dependence on it.

In war, our technological expertise has given us super-efficient weapons. Instead of swords and spears, we now have machine-guns, heat seeking missiles, cruise missiles, jet-fighters and other tools of murder and mayhem. Our ability to kill and destroy is frightening. We have become so powerful that the possibility of killing ourselves completely is very real indeed.

It is in the light of this possibility of self-annihilation that we suddently find ourselves most vulnerable and wanting. While we go about creating for ourselves millions of gadgets to fulfill our fancies we have neglected our basic self. We can make machine guns that fire a thousand rounds a minute but we do not take responsibility for our creation. So these guns fall in the hands of terrorists and war-mongers. What is the result? Death and destruction on an unprecedented scale now ravage the people of this earth. Few are brave enough to stand up to oppose this scourge. Manufacturers make profits from weapons. Armies use them to destroy one another but hardly anybody does anything to stop it.

We let our creations run riot. In the name of class, creed and religion we plunder one another with the most powerful weapons available. We kill innocent people without batting an eyelid. Morally we are no better than dumb animals.

In the short span of the first eighty years of this century, we have had two world wars and innumerable other wars. Millions have died as a result. Yet the wars go on, unabated. Some men stood up against this madness but, like many others before them, were assassinated, pushed aside or simply forgotten. So the majority of us, including the so-called world leaders today, remain quiet and let the violence continue. Some even aggressively perpetuate it.

Industrialization has brought us many benefits. It has also brought about environmental tragedies. Air-pollution, sea-pollution, acid-rain and other forms of threats may one day overwhelm our very existence. Yet few of these polluters are willing to face up to reality and do something concrete to end the pollution. They are more interested in making a profit. They do not want to spend their ‘hard-earned’ money to clean up the environment. Let someone else do the dirty job. Such is their moral responsibility.

In other areas too there are crimes committed against ourselves and mother earth. We reclaim land from the sea, level mountains and blast each other to smithereens. We do not know how to live peacefully and harmoniously with one another. Nobody wants to be responsible for that. We have no moral courage. Einstein once said that we have ‘a perfection of means, but a confusion of ends’. We are capable of great wonders, but we do not know how to wield such capabilities responsibility.

So we continue in our confusion, commit all sorts of crimes and blaming one another for them. It is high time that we assume responsibility for our actions, strengthen our moral courage and make the world a wonderful place to live in.

In “A Very Old Man with Enormous Wings” author Gabriel Garcia Marquez weaves the natural with the supernatural in an unexpected yet stimulating way. It leaves the reader with the question, “What would I do if I was confronted with something supernatural right outside my door?” By blending the most mundane and ugly parts of life – from rainy days to selfish crowds – with the miraculous, Marquez effectively uses a creative tone and a unique style to create a story that carries elements of everyday life yet supersedes it. His story invites the reader to look closer at daily events and determine one’s response to the normal and not-quite-normal events that have the power to change a life.

The tone of the story is set in the beginning, with the most natural and unwelcome of occurrences: a sick child in the midst of poor weather. In the first few sentences, Marquez’ writing style immediately grabs the imagination as he writes, “The world had been sad since Tuesday,” describing the drab and inclement weather in detail. In the first paragraph, he brings in magical elements by introducing the surreal character of an old man with enormous wings. Marquez immediately shatters any mindsets the reader has of powerful and holy angels by placing him face down in the mud and unable to extricate himself, “impeded by his enormous wings.”

With a hint of irony, the very objects that should have empowered this man to fly above earth’s elements – his wings – hindered him and brought him unwanted attention. Irony is part of the tone weaved throughout the story. It is seen in the “wise old woman” who determined that the old man with wings was an angel… and then suggested clubbing him to death. It is noticed in the wording that Marquez chose when he stated that the husband and wife “felt magnanimous” when they opted to set the angel afloat on a raft with enough food to last him a few days “and leave him to his fate on the high seas.”

In parts of the story, the author’s tone seems to convey a sense of regret that humanity, as a whole, often fails to appreciate the “magic” that is part of life. Instead of appreciating an experience and living fully in the moment, so many ask, “What’s in it for me?” When the husband and wife, Pelayo and Elisenda, decide to exploit the angel by having the onlookers pay to see him, this sense of selfishness and greed is apparent. Here, again, the reader has the opportunity to imagine what their choice would be if faced with a similar situation. Of course, no angel is going to fall from the skies on a sad and stormy day, but in the daily run of things, how does one use the opportunities presented? Gabriel Garcia Marquez invites the reader to ask questions such as these not through a sermon but in the form of a story.

Using magical realism, Marquez also takes those natural tendencies of humanity and weaves it with supernatural elements, creating scenes that let the reader wonder if perhaps the magic can spread into the world beyond the pages. For instance, the angel is so real that the local priest, Father Gonzaga, notices he’s “much too human.” He smells. Everything about him is opposite of everything one might think of as angelic and holy. But when looking closer, portions of the angel’s character can be glimpsed in the pages. His unending patience is made apparent when he endures mistreatment – being locked up with chickens, pushed around, poked and prodded. He doesn’t fight back. He waits… almost as if he knows it’s only for a time. This, if nothing else, is a sign of the angel’s supernatural origin – his bearing in the midst of trauma. Perhaps in spite of human and unsavory circumstances, the reader, too, can manifest those same attributes of patience and endurance. The tone of the story invites one to think that, yes, it is possible.

Finally, towards the end of the story, the angel’s patience is rewarded. With the dawning of spring, he begins to sprout new feathers in his wings. The setting of the story match the action. The long and dreary winter is over and new life is beginning all around, and within. Like the rest of the angel, those new feathers are unimpressive, “the feathers of a scarecrow, which look more like another misfortune of decrepitude” But they are enough. He looks to the sky, feels the breeze, and begins to fly, slowly at first but rising higher and eventually disappearing over the ocean, beyond the blue.

Elisenda watches from the kitchen and “she kept on watching until it was no longer possible for her to see him, because then he was no longer an annoyance in her life but an imaginary dot on the horizon of the sea.” The strange juxtaposition of her emotions against the clearly supernatural circumstances creates a unique effect. Elisenda is watching an angel take flight – the same angel that provided her and her husband with enough money to build a two-story mansion – and she feels nothing but relief that he is gone. At the end, just as in the beginning, a normal person is confronted with a supernatural event and fails to see it for the amazing happening that it is. Elisenda likely returns to her work, never appreciating the miracle that entered her life unexpectedly and left just as abruptly.

With the tone that the author sets in the ending, the reader is invited to ask, “How many times do I glance up for a moment, see a glimpse of something beyond the ordinary, and look away? How often am I confronted with something truly amazing and fail to see it for what it is because I pause at the question, ‘What’s in it for me?'”

With his use of magical realism, Gabriel Garcia Marquez opens the door to interesting dialogue and invites the reader to not only enter a place of imagination and mystery, but also to look into one’s own thoughts and actions and see how they measure up against the elements – normal and supernatural – of everyday life.

George Bernard Shaw’s Arms and the Man is a drama revolving around the War between the Serbians and the Bulgarians. The story depicts Bluntschili, a mercenary for the Serbians being rescued by Raina the protagonist. Raina belonging to the prominent Petkoff family is also in love with Captain Sergius who is able to secure a massive victory for the Serbians at Silivinitza. The rest of the play takes place in the home of the Petkoff family. Bluntschili returns to the home and returns a coat belonging to Raina’s father. In it was Raina’s portrait and a written inscription: ‘To my Chocolate Cream Soldier’. When Raina’s father demanded the coat, she was able to artfully dodge and remove the inscription.

War is portrayed as a semi-comic antic by Shaw. Both the comic side and the tragic side of war are depicted with an authentic tinge. Raina’s room is invaded by Blutnschili the Serbian mercenary. He is covered with mud and blood and is escaping the Bulgarians. Raina takes pity on him and protects him even though she is a Bulgarian. When the Bulgarian soldiers enter her room she brilliantly hides him behind the curtain. Raina becomes a pacifist.

As a mercenary soldier Bluntschili is portrayed comically. His revolver does not have bullets and like a small school kid he carries chocolates with him. When Raina hands him chocolate to eat, he goes to the extent of emptying the carton by scrubbing it with his hands and finishing up everything. Raina becomes affectionate towards him and labels him as: ‘My Chocolate Cream soldier’. Bluntschili is a child archetype who is least concerned about the seriousness of war. When his life is in danger, he takes protection in Raina’s room. Through Bluntschili we come to understand that war is a tragic comedy, an anathema, a volcano that injures peoples mind and bodies. Bluntschili is least bothered about whose side wins the war. He is not courageous enough to fight back and tries to save his own skin. Through Raina, we come to understand that even in battle enemies can be become friends, a quality that it is basic human instinct to be existentially kind to the other. Raina is prophet of non violence even though her romantic inclinations converge with men being in war and being intrepid, daring and courageous.

Sergius the would-be husband of Raina is characterized as a brave soldier. He by overruling the orders of his superiors makes bold cavalry charge and wins the battle for the Bulgarians at Silivinitza. Sergius is portrayed as a man with war like qualities. Raina and Catherine her mother rejoice at the Bulgarian victory and they feel proud that would be son-in-law and husband is successful at thwarting enemies. The serious aspect of war is given a room for thought through this character.

The two contrasting personality types engaged in war shows ambivalence in Shaw’s depiction. People by their very nature are peaceful and war is satirized as a comic adventure through the character of Bluntschili. On the other hand the seriousness of War is given vent through the psyche of Sergius. There’s nothing to admire about war except that it brings devastation on life and property. Shaw becomes an apostle of nonviolence and questions the integrity of nations to indulge in violence and cruelty.

Raina the protagonist of the play is nourished on the romantic fables of Pushkin and the opera. She is bursting with romance and there is a contradiction in her character when on the one hand she regards war as a spectacle to defeat the enemy and fight bravely and on the other hand she has no qualms in trying to protect her own enemy. She is gracious and merciful towards her enemy. She does this by taking great risks towards her reputation. She is an archetype of a compassionate other, a feminist who acts as a rebel of counter culture. When she finds out that Sergius, her would-be had won the war, she wonders whether she would be any more eligible. She idealizes Sergius as a romantic hero. The author in Raina has created a remarkable character that encompasses the ideal of modern feminism. She also develops a romantic attraction towards Bluntschili whom she addresses as ‘my chocolate cream soldier’. Later on in the play we realize that she goes on to marry Blutnchili.

Catherine the mother of Raina is portrayed as an aristocratic house wife with all underpinning of traditional maternity. She has no opinion of her own and goes along with her daughter and father Petkoff. Catherine can be considered as an archetypal mother who manages the household and who feels proud that her son-in-law has secured a brilliant victory. Feminists would argue that her character is obsolete and anti-feminist. Marxists would argue that her character is a stereotype of the consciousness of the bourgeoisie. She is a submissive character to masculine ideals, whims and fancies.

Louka the housemaid is a staunch feminist. When she sees the gun in Raina’s room, she keeps it a secret. But later on reveals it to Sergius. When Sergius tries to flirt with her, she protests vehemently. She has independent opinions of her own. Class consciousness works in her mind to a trauma and she feels that she belongs to the dignified and the aristocratic. In Marxian terms: the idea of aristocracy and class consciousness has to be deconstructed as a pathological symptom.

What is it about a married man that is so irresistible?

It must be something because so many women fall for it. Just this week I encountered two women who have slipped into the trap of fatal attraction for a married man. It is dangerous territory and I do not recommend that anyone go there. I speak from experience having invested part of my life in a relationship with a married man. Iam not writing about this subject to lecture or be judgmental or even to speak from my soapbox about what I know that you don’t. My intention is to expose the underhanded tactics, even if unintentional, of men and the naiveté of women that permits these relationships to flower.

What is it about women that make them susceptible to the charm and attraction of an unavailable man?

The unavailable man is very attractive to women who do not want to be controlled by a man. He can provide sporadic attention, sex, usually at regular intervals, definitely advice even when you don’t ask for it and gifts. You don’t have to live with him,which means no snoring, picking up after him, and usually freedom to comeand go as you please. The disadvantages include limited spontaneity,lack of availability on weekends and holidays and never being his number one priority.

This is not to say that men do not fall for married women. I am

certain that the statistics will support that almost as many single men fall for married women but the dynamic between themis much different than that of the single woman and the married man. Obviously, I have more experience with the married man syndrome.

Women in general are used to getting seconds.

What I mean by that is that women choose to settle for less than

what they want. Okay, I expect outrage from most of you who are

reading this but hear me out, please. In this country, men have the power. Look around you, how many women president’s do we have? How many in the Senate, Congress, CEO’s of Fortune 500 companies? How many women make as much money as men do? Consider teaching and nursing, two professions primarily occupied by women, what percentage of men are in the profession and what percentage ofthose are in charge? How many men choose to stay home with thchildren while their wives work and support the family? You get the idea. Granted there are many more women in positions of authority, in medicine, the law, entrepreneurs,real estate, finance, business than ever before, but if you are going to be honest with yourself, it’s still a man’s world. This is okay.

We can live with the fact that men run the world, because women run relationships.

Women, you really are in charge of relationship even if you don’t know it. You just need to raise the bar a little on what youexpect from your relationship. What I mean by women being used to settling is they don’t ask. Let me give you an example. A woman friend of mine works for a big company; she uses her own computer and pays for her own Internet access even though the majority of her computer usage is for her work activities. She has asked the men who run the company to be reimbursed for the cost of her computer andInternet access and has been denied. Her first inclination was to accept this, until she realized: How many men who use a computer in their job, use their own computer let alone pay for their Internet access? Men expect to be provided with the tools that they need to do their job, women provide their own tools and accept it when they are denied reimbursement. Where does this willingness to be used originate? I think that it originated when women first began to invade the workplace. Women weren’t greeted with open arms when they first arrived in the workplace. In order to be accepted, they worked twice as hard, longer hours, tolerated abuse in many ways that a man never would and were eager to please, seeking approval and acceptance by over responding. (Actually, women were welcomed in the workplace during World War II but only because men weren’t available. When the men returned, the women were expected to go back home where they belonged.)

Much of women’s acceptance of second-class treatment is their own fault, because they don’t even ask for it to be different.

Okay, I am a little off the subject of married men, but let me

follow this through to the connection. Let’s look at a wife. The

majority of wives work these days, they also are the primary

childcare provider, and most of them do most of the housework and laundry and cooking and shopping as well. They are also expected by their husbands to be sexy and ready for a quickie at the drop of his pants. Women do all this because they put these standards on themselves. They still expect that they have to do more and do it better because they are women. So where does a woman cut back? Usually it is in paying attention to her husband’s primary needs. A man needs sex and most married men will tell you that the amount of sex that they get dwindles after marriage and especially after children. In addition, the amount of time that a woman has to devote to the nurturing, acceptance, approval and attention to her husband decreases proportionately with the addition of children, job responsibilities and a bigger house.

So this leads us to the plight of the married man.

Who is the married man? First of all he is a man. Men are results oriented. Men have a lot of testosterone. They aren’t good at deciphering what women want, especially their own wives.The married man used to run his own life. He came and went as he pleased; he watched or played baseball whenever he wanted. He lived his own lifestyle. He could have his woman withhim whenever hewanted and she would pay all of her attention to him. Now he is marriedwith a couple of kids, a mortgage, a job he has because it pays themost, not because he loves it so much and a wife who used to cater to him exclusively who now has to divide her time between him, the kids, the house and usually her job. There was a commercial on TV not too long ago that shows a man thinking about his studly single days and how sexy he was in those days, with a child in a stroller. He is playing with his child and shopping in the grocery store and a woman is talking to her friend who comments he doesn’t even know how much more attractive he is now than he was when he was a stud.

Men are pretty unconscious about what makes them attractive.

According to most women it is not their looks that make them

attractive, it is who they are and how they produce in the world. So this married man goes to work and comes home and goes back to work the next day. At work there is this woman. She is single, attractive, smart, capable, speaks his language andsomeone who has time to pay attention to him. It starts as an innocent flirtation. What goes through his mind is something like “Let’s see if I still have it!” so he starts flirting just to see what happens. Not a surprise, she responds to the flirting by flirting back.

This is the beginning of the affair.

In his mind he is flattered, it is fun, and exciting and just a

little bit naughty. What could be more harmless? I’m married.I’m

safe. I can just have a little fun with this. So it continues.He

thinks he can just experiment a little. Let’s see how charming and creative I can be. Let’s see if I can get this woman to fall for me. In his mind it is not cheating. He hasn’t done anything wrong. In the beginning, he even tells his wife about this woman. He tells her about how smart she is or about some accomplishment, usuallywhat made him notice her in the firstplace. Wives usually miss the first clues. The thought of the effect of his harmless flirtation onthe single woman does not even enter his consciousness. So the harmless flirtation continues. It makes the married man feel good. He is happier at home and everything seems hunky dory. He tells the woman his wife doesn’t understand him, she doesn’t have time for him, or she just is cruel to him and the other woman becomes his confidant and starts to believe that he really has no choice in the matter. He needs her because his wife is so … whatever.

He now has both a wife and family and a woman on the side.

Recognize that this process may take several years and several

different women before anything actually happens in the way of an

affair. After several years of living a separate life from his wife while they live under the same roof, a married man is ready for a real affair. The reality is that an affair will occur whether it is an emotional or physical affair or even a cyber affair. No matter which way it goes, what occurs takes away from the married relationship.

What is true about the woman who gets involved with a married man is that she is looking for attention and affection.

Most likely she is not looking for a married man with whom she is plotting to have an affair. There are a few predatory women out there who do just that but the majority of affairs start out

naively. She is likely to have been previously hurt in a

relationship. She may or may not know that the man is married. What occurs first is she recognizes that he is paying attention to her. He may just listen to her. It may just be a momentary encounter where their eyes meet and a connection is made. They may be working together on a project and either of them may distinguishthemselves in some way. What initially happens is likely to be chemistry. What happens after that varies, however, it usually follows this pattern.

When the woman discovers that he is married, she will make it clear that she doesn’t have relationships with married men.

That is the signal for the man to go into conquest mode.

He will pursue her possibly for years because he enjoys the chase. She will continue to refuse his advances as long as she cantolerate it or until he catches her at a weak and vulnerable moment. If she has a good relationship in her life, chances areshe can outlast him, but if she is single, available or married and unhappy, she will eventually succumb. Why? Because the man is so charming, heis wonderful, he is a knight in shining armor, he is a hero, he is this wonderful dedicated family man who is wonderful with his children and attentive to his wife. So the woman asks herself what is she doing?

She continues to say no and the more she says no, the more

aggressive and charming and attentive he gets. This is the ultimate male challenge, to win over a woman who is saying no even though he knows she really is attracted to him.

A married man will work harder than any available man to make a

woman fall in love with him.

He will be more charming, loving, attentive and wonderful than a

woman can imagine that any man can be. So what happens next is this woman who finally surrenders to her feelings for this man, asks him to leave his wife for her. The response from him will almost inevitably be one of two, but I’m married and I’ll neverleave my wife or yes, I’ll leave my wife, but not yet (she’s not ready,my children are too young, I can’t afford it yet, my mother won’t approve etc.) Initially the woman will respond with anger. “If you love your wife what are you doing with me?” Here is the clincher that finally hooks the woman, he is committed to his wife and the woman buys into his honorable dedication to his wife and thinks if only I could have a man who loves me like that.

It is at this point in their relationship that the woman’s final act of settling may occur.

Either she will end it and go off to nurse her broken heart,

wondering how he could have been so wonderful and such a heel atthe same time, or she will continue the affair and settle forbeing the other woman in his life. Either way the woman is damaged. The man will go back to his wife who was either completely unaware of the romantic drama or who also chooses to settle by living in denial of his infidelity. Then life goes on.

The other woman plays a significant part in the perpetuation of this man’s marriage.

She makes it tolerable for him to remain in an intolerable

situation. She makes it possible for him to remain in a marriage

that doesn’t satisfy him. That marriage situation can range from

boredom to outright contempt, but a man won’t leave his marriage

until his wife has dismissed him, either consciously or

unconsciously. She makes it possible for him to deny that there is anything missing in his relationship with his wife. Therefore, the wife wins, if you can call it winning to stay ina relationship with a cheating man.

The purpose in discussing this at all is to emphasize the fact that women settle and men will cheat because they can. So, women, if you want your man to be faithful, you must pay attention and never settle for less than what you want no matter what the cost.

The essence of marriage is commitment. Why get married if you are not willing to commit to loving someone exclusively? The way that I see it, you don’t have to get married to be together, so why do it if you don’t mean it? I was married for 23 years and was strongly in favor of the concept of a renewable marriage license, similar tohow one renews a driver’s license. The point of that beingthat at least very 3 or 4 years people who were married to each otherwould have to take a look at whether they still wanted to be with their spouse. If people were honest about their feelings, it certainly would take a chunk out of the 50% divorce rate.

On a more serious note, however, I really don’t see any point in

getting married unless you are marrying someone with whom youhave sexual chemistry that you love totally, that you trust implicitly, and that you would rather be with than anyone else who alsofeels the same about you. That feeling of total trust isvery rare and itneeds to be nurtured. It’s also good if you have similar values and goals in life. If and when you find someone that meets all ofthe above standards, you probably couldn’t imagine wanting to bewith anyone else. That spiritual bond can be so strong andso valid that it would be out of the realm of possibility to violate it.

It is impossible to ever have that kind of trust if you enter a

relationship that originated with someone cheating.

So what happens to destroy that original bond? It is the woman’sjob to provide the appetite for pleasure and the direction for therelationship. This does not relieve men of any responsibility for it is their job to surrender to their woman’s power and to produce results for her based on what she requests. So, in a relationship that is working the woman must continue to raise the bar for her man and believe in him. What does that mean? That she wants a bigger house, more expensive car, more children? Not necessarily although thosethings may be part of the picture. What it does mean is that she raises the standards of paying attention even when life is busy. It means that they make time for sex even when they don’t have time. It meansthat each one of them stay vulnerable with each other even whenhe/she has done something that embarrasses them or is wrong.

In my marriage, I did it all wrong. I doubted his production,

thought I could do things better than him and lost my ability to

believe in him. When that happened, he quit producing for me and we spiraled downward into total mistrust of each other and

unwillingness to be vulnerable. I kept settling for less than what I asked for and he kept producing only what I believed he could produce. I just didn’t know any better.

It’s a fragile bond that must be protected and as far as I can see what will protect the bond of love is a woman expressing her

appetite that requests more than the man thinks he can produce and then even more vital is that she approves of him and believes in him until he produces it. The most significant element of maintaining a love relationship that works is that both parties must pay attention to each other and to what is happening in the relationship. Going to doubt or settling for less than what she wants is the beginning of the destruction of the delicate balance of the man/woman relationship. In this model of relationship, men and women are regarded as different entities with different needs. It relies on using the sex act as the metaphor for relationship, symbolizing men as producers and women as receivers.

There are no victims.

Daniel Defoe was born in 1659 at St. Gille’s, Cripplegate in London. He was a man of many shades. These different personal traits are reflected in his literary contribution. He had done a numerous occupation during his life time. Some of his important masterpieces like “Essay on Progects “(1698), “The True born English Man” (1701), “The Hymn to Pillary” (1703), “Consolidator” (1705),” Apparition of Mrs. Veal” (1706), “History of the Union” (1708-09), “Reasons Against Succession of the House of Hanover” (1712), “A General History of Trade” (1713), “Robinson Crusoe” (1719), “Captain Singleton” (1720), “Mole Flanders” (1722) “Rexona or the Fortunate Mistress” (1724) and other important literary works will remain glorious throughout the ages.

Man has control over everything except nature. But the fact is false in case of Defoe’s “ROBINSON CRUSOE”. Defoe’s hero Robinson Crusoe has total control over the environment. He is hardcore traveler. He loves to explore new and unknown places. Due to his bad luck, and also a storm, his ship has been destroyed and he comes to an unknown island. The island is not only unknown to Robinson but it is too lonely. Robinson does not able to find a single human being. He is totally confused. He feels confusion due to uncertainty of his destiny. He has no shelter, no food and no clothing. He is alone. He does not get even a rare shadow of any one in this deserted and lonely island. He finds nothing on the island to survive. He has no shelter, food, fresh drinking water, no proper clothing, and the very basic elements to live a life. He stands all alone and he has to face the Nature from now onward.

Robinson cries bitterly but there is no one who can give assurance. There is no one who can provide the best comfort and warmth. But he has to survive as he comes in a desolated island. Slowly and gradually he understands Nature. More over it can be interpreted that Nature some how plays a major role in bringing the required maturity in Robinson. Nature grooms Robinson to be responsible man. He is traveler, he runs from his much protected shelter, ignoring his parent’s warning but he never takes life as seriously.

He has been cast into an alien island and now he really understands the life how tough it is. But in the novel Nature has been portrayed as very polite character. Nature gives her ever thing to Robinson. Robinson learns to make adjustment with adverse situation. He wins over the hostile location. Nature makes him much more experienced, courageous, and skillful. Robinson should be thankful to Nature. She gives him every essential goods to survive decently on such a strange place.

Robinson goes back to the damaged ship to bring the goods. He finds biscuits, rice, bread, cheese, goat’s flesh, corn, wine, carpenter’s tool, ammunition, arms, barrels, clothes, money and hundreds of other essential merchandise. He needs a roof to protect him and also to preserve the most wanted goods. He finds a suitable place where he can stock his goods. He even gets plenty of fresh water near his shelter. He starts using and exploiting the Nature from now on wards.

Nature teaches him to do many kinds of chores. He learns farming, baking, fencing, ploughing, reaping and many other farm duties. He exploits Nature for his own purpose and Nature too helps him whole-heartedly. Robinson uses everything that he has brought from the ship but he cannot use money. As in such a deserted island he cannot able to buy or sell anything. Thus money or the wealth is just a useless thing to Robinson.

With the help of Nature he makes his personal life much more pleasurable and comfortable. He has everything. He prepares required furniture for his comfort, he reads the Bible, he learns that there are two farming seasons, he learns to make earthen utensils and also knows how to make them durable. He has goats, parrots with which he spends his leisure time. He remains busy all day with many kinds of works. But still he feels seclusion. Lonesomeness is the major problem for Robinson. He remains flourishing in utilizing the Nature. He makes all arrangement for his survival. He has full control over Nature. He remains victorious in the silent battle with the Nature.

Thus in Defoe’s “ROBINSON CRUSOE” the protagonist has full power and control over Nature that Nature which can destroy anything within a fraction of second and that Nature which can be calm and serene at the same time.

The story is written along the lines of Magic Realism and refers to a couple Pleyano and Elsendna who discover a man with enormous wings covered with grime and lying covered with mud. Is he an angel or a supernatural being or just a man masquerading as an angel? Marquez using the technique of magic realism portrays him as an angel.

Soon a crowd of people assemble in the house to watch the actions of the angel. The hoi polloi are rife with speculations about the angel’s plight. Some rant that he is a part of a supernatural conspiracy. Others accept that he belongs to the underworld. The crowds flock to the house to seek his blessings. Soon Pelyano and Elsenda lock him in a chicken coop and start charging a fee for watching this supernatural being. The parish priest also interferes and dispatches a letter to Rome seeking to give a status to this angelic being. Pelyano and Elsenda become rich and change their lodgings to a double storey house. They come to a point where they want to get rid of the angel as they have become fed up of it. To their surprise new feathers sprout on the wings of the angel and one fine day it makes a flight and disappears.

As a technique of magic realism the portrayal of the angel becomes a fiction where belief is left to the credibility of the readers. One has to be convinced that fairy tales are true. The reader has to force his or her imagination to live to the standards of fiction. The enigma of the created angel does not surprise the reader or astonish him or her. Marquez exploits the older genres of the fairy tale to create this bizarre concoction.

The creation of the Angel proceeds from Marquez’ hotchpotch Catholic beliefs and becomes an amalgamation of an archetype that has a cosmic dualism of the divine and the profane. This can be seen as a conjecture of a writer coming to terms with writing a fiction that is highly immature. All of the content in his fiction is highly hyperbolic and has the ambience of an aura that is carnal and frivolous. The creation of the archetype proceeds from the unconscious of the writer. Archetypes have a rational explanation that is a sublimation of unconscious instincts to a more conceivable and acceptable norm. On the one hand we can conceive his depiction of the angel to the fallen one and on to the other a human portrayed with majestic features. There is a gutter in the grandiose, a gutter with puddles of angelic fallibility.

The couple who discover the fallen angel belong to the proletariat. Their aspirations are caught up in the human thread for affluence. No doubt after the discovery of the angel, they rise in their social positions of class and become very rich by charging a fee to see the angel. The author has a false conception of class and promotes his ideal to belong to the bourgeoisie.

The plot of the story isn’t at all convincing. After being covered with grime and mud, all of sudden new feathers sprout on his wings and he starts to fly. There isn’t a credible plot at all. Postmodern fiction is moving to a realm of creating stories where the plot is a minimal construct. For one thing an angel is fiction and his resuscitation from the fallen to flight can be considered as a hyperbolic fictional adornment.

Back in ancient Chinese times, sometime between the 4th and 6th century BC, Lao Tzu was the founder of taoism, the mystical ‘way’ or ‘path’ that many have followed since.

And with him came the many sayings for which he is renowned.

One of the best known is the one quoted above, “Give a man a fish; feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish; feed him for a lifetime”, which has a wonderful analogy with the modern world of management today.

The metaphor of feeding someone and that sufficing to get them through one day, and one day alone shows that people can only be helped so far. If we help them and do things for them all the time, then they rely on us, which is not only unhealthy for their development of skills, but also potentially dangerous, if we are not there to help them one day, their very future is at risk.

The principle whereby we rely totally on the support, guidance and even nurturing of someone else, for too long a period, is typical of many modern management environments. The old-style ‘command and control’ management processes lead to employees only being required or even able to do what they were told, which puts great pressure on those doing the telling.

Not only that, but where employees are not provided with stimulating work and aren’t asked to challenge themselves mentally, this often leads to demotivation and then higher absence rates, as well as employee turnover that such boredom precipitates.

Lack of stimulation=boredom=frustration=leave to find something else.

Let’s look at the flip side, where we ‘teach a man to fish’. Not only does the man become self-sufficient and be able to survive without being provided for, but he has a sense of achievement and fulfillment. How good does an angler feel as he pulls a fish from the water?

Much better than when one is placed generously in front of him, merely to eat. Sure it may be good, for a while, to be provided for, but human psyche is bigger than that in a healthy human being. People need to be valued for who they are.

So – we ‘teach them to fish’. In the workplace, by teaching out people new skills, we validate them for who they are and the contribution they are able to make. They know they are useful and valued and with this confidence they do more. They learn that to stretch themselves is good. That they have within themselves untapped resources which show off the potential they have always had, now released.

Indeed ‘teaching them to fish’ realizes not just the material potential they have, but catalyses even bigger capabilities in them. Their development muscle has been stretched and exercised, so it becomes bigger and more capable.

The business upside for ‘teaching our people to fish’? Well, managers are able to offload some of their tactical workload to others who relish the opportunity. This frees managers to do more with more of their people.

A workplace environment that becomes the breeding ground for capable, committed and excited employees, straining at the leash to do more. Managers enable their business to become a developmental mixing bowl of ideas and capability like nothing before.

In a business world where the embodiment of excellent management is an operation that works at least as well (and sometimes better!), when the manager is absent is to be acknowledged as the purest quality.

And with that level of capability developed, all because the manager taught his people ‘how to fish’, business thrives.

How Lao Tzu would smile if he saw how his little saying was as important, in the hurly-burly of the business world today, as it was all those years ago!

There might be a lot of questions you have about ending a relationship with a married man is something that can be answered easily:

1.) Yes, you must end it, and 2.) you must end it right now.

While society and the law would dictate that you should end this relationship due to ethical reasons: the risk of breaking a family, most especially when there are children involved, there are also other reasons on how to end the relationship with a married man. In fact, these are reasons that have more to do with your genuine happiness than anything else.

So, regardless if you just found out that the guy you’re dating is already bound to the sanctity of marriage or you knew his relationship status but just went on with it without even thinking, remember this:

He might not leave: One of the many reasons why a lot of women prefer to stay with a married guy is because they’re promised with a marriage eventually. More often than not, mistresses are promised by these married men that they’ll leave their wife for her after this happens or after that happens. But even if your man promises you to meet his divorce lawyer this weekend or next month, doing it is an entirely different ballgame. As a matter of fact, most of the studies show that only 5 out of 10 married men who promised their mistresses to leave their wives actually do it.

Even if he does leave, things will be different: In the rarest event that the man you’re dating with opts to leave his wife, his family and his marriage, your relationship with him still has a very slim chance of surviving. This is the very reason why you have to end seeing a guy who’s already married: only about 5% of affairs end up working in the long run.

The-Other-Woman Label: In this equation, the man who’s being unfaithful and who’s cheating on his marriage, most especially on his wife is the guiltiest party. But if you still date someone even if you know that he’s already married, there’s no doubt that you share is culpability. Because even if you don’t believe all this, society will have its way in seeing you otherwise and will eventually label you as the “other woman,” this could haunt you and your married boyfriend whenever you go out on a date in town.

The once a cheater always a cheater adage: Another reason why you must stop dating a married man comes from the famous adage “once a cheater, always a cheater.” Your guy has already showed you a flaw in his character: he’s a two-timer. If he’s already done it once, there might be a higher chance that he’ll do it again (and it might be to you this time). Actually, it’s really simple: take a cue from what a person has done in the past; you’ll likely see what he’s going to do in the future.

You deserve so much better: To culminate the reasons why ending a relationship with a married guy has a lot to do with your own welfare: you deserve much more than this. Going out with a married guy means jumping through hoops, sneaking around hoping that no one he and his wife knows are around, acting quite immoral and hurting other people. On the other hand, dating a man who is not committed involves hearts and roses, weekend getaway and being able to go out in public without fearing of anybody. Dating a man who is not committed also means loyalty and pure and genuine commitment, something that a married man will never be able to offer you.

Going out with someone who is already bound in the sanctity of marriage means you need to compromise not just who you are but also your own happiness. To make it short, this can be summarized in just four little words: he’s not worth it.

Stargazers who believe in astrology know how potent dating advice by sign can be. If your crush is an Aries, or if your boyfriend is an Aries, you know how much help astrological data can be. It can tell you whether or not you are compatible with your crush, as well as what you should expect from the person that you are dating. Dating an Aries is no small feat – known as one of the most difficult star signs, they are notoriously difficult to tame. Here is some crucial advice on dating an Aries man.

Aries lovers prefer a woman who has a backbone but also knows when the point is moot. If you want to seduce an Aries man, make sure to keep it classy. Women who are from a good family, have a great career, and also look great will be more likely to seduce an Aries man. Why? Because Aries men and women both take pride in their trophies. This means that they will be more likely to choose a trophy wife or a trophy husband.

Don’t expect an Aries romance to start on your foot if you’re a woman. An Aries man wants to be a hunter, a pursuer, and will do what he can to win your heart. Giving him a good chase is what makes an Aries romance fiery. A date to an Aries man is supposed to be perfect… or as close as it can possibly come. Aries men are perfectionists, and they will take it as a personal flaw if the date doesn’t live up to their expectations.

Needless to say, an Aries man is a man who really, really cares about his ego. The easiest way to seduce an Aries man is to stroke his biggest gland – his ego. Keeping him means that you will be just as direct as he is with you. The easiest way to lose the interest of Mr. Aries is to act as if you are fooling around, or to act as if you don’t really care. Aries men don’t like stubborn women, but they don’t appreciate women who are unsure of which path they want to take in life.

Be careful when dating an Aries man – you never want to give him the idea that you might be interested in another man. Aries men are notoriously possessive, and can actually cause quite a stir if they don’t feel that they have been paid attention to. If you want to really make an Aries fall for you, make Mr. Aries feel as if they are the most important person in the world to you. (Once again, an Aries man’s ego is a thing that must be stroked if you want to get a place in his heart.)

An Aries romance is one rife with passion, adventure, and lust. This star sign is known for their deep love of rough, pulse-pounding sex. He loves his food just as much as he loves his sex, and you can bet that you will be in for a lot of hedonistic adventures should you decide to date an Aries man. As many people in the astrological community know, dating (and keeping) an Aries man is a surefire way to guarantee a life long adventure filled with passion, love, and emotional support. They are particularly good lovers for star signs who need a little “push” in the right direction.