Knowing what kind of text messages girls like is vital if you want to be successful with girls. The right messages will create attraction because she will think you are sexy and fun. The right text messages will make her feel like she can’t wait to see you again.

USE THESE 5 TIPS TO CREATE THE KIND OF TEXT MESSAGES GIRLS LIKE:

Tip #1: Your messages need to be short. Most men text the full 160 characters while a girl texts less than 20 characters.

Tip #2: Don’t come across as sounding too nice. Nice is the description girls use when they are not attracted to you. “You’re nice but… (boring).”

Tip #3: Give her mixed signals by teasing her.

Don’t let her think she’s got you wrapped around her finger. If you pay her a compliment, do a take-away.

For example, you text, “You’re fun – except when you can’t (something she’s not good at or feels self conscious about) dance worth a lick.”

Tip #4: Make sure your messages involve the girl so she has something to respond to.

For example, if a girl texts you, “Hey, what did you do last night?” and you text her back, “Went to the movies,” it leaves her with nothing – no emotion, no fun, just dullness.

Instead text this:

You: “Hey, I saw a movie and it got me thinking about you.”

Now you’ve given her something to respond to. She will likely text you back:

Her: “Really, what’s that?”

You: “There was this really cute puppy that wrinkled its nose just like you.”

You teased her in a playful way. Girls love this and she will be a little more attracted to you.

Tip #5: You create attraction by being flirty, fun, and playful in your messages. If you bore her, you lose her… and quickly.

Start putting these 5 texting tips into use today and see how quickly your response with girls will change. Your weekends will be booked up before you know it!

Fleur Britten is a British author who is commissioning editor of the Sunday Times Style newspaper. Britten has written 5 books on unconventional topics that have attracted a niche clientele of readers. Her book ‘Debrett’s Etiquette for Girls’ is her latest book. It runs into 223 pages and has some lovely photographs that enhance the appeal of the book.

Debrett’s is a specialist publisher, founded in 1769. The name Debrett’s honours the name of John Debrett a publisher who died in 1822. This publishing firm publishes a special class of books and all the books of Britten are published by Debrett’s.

What is Etiquette

Etiquette is usually defined as the customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group. Fleur Britten has written a marvelous book on etiquette for girls. It’s a topical subject and one that will interest a lot of readers, not necessarily girls.

In a nutshell Fleur Britten has written a book that will guide a girl in taking the right steps in her everyday life. Etiquette is not a constant code of behavior but changes with time and eras. What was good etiquette a hundred years back may not be so good in the 21st century. With the changing values in everyday life for etiquette, Fleur Britten has written a really informative book that guides a girl in all matters of etiquette in the present age.

Etiquette for Girls

The book ‘Etiquette for Girls’ is an essential guide for a girl in the 21st century. It explains how a girl should behave in her everyday life. Britten covers all aspects of a social situation that a girl may come across. She covers all social situations including man management. This is a term that is very important in the modern age.

By Man management Britten means all social situations from flirting to one night stands and love affairs, crushes and breakups. These are situations that can confront a young girl at any time. A whirlwind romance could land a girl in bed with a man about who she knows nothing. In addition she may love a man or break with him. Fleur Britten writes with confidence on these aspects. These are situations that a girl is likely to face in modern society. Britten writes reassuringly on these aspects and gives good advice to a girl. She stresses on how a girl should behave and react in such social situations.

Etiquette in Other Fields

Britten also touches on a wide variety of topics other than dating and love affairs. She advises a girl how to dress and behave on occasions like dining out, socializing or entertaining at home. She advises how a girl should behave so as to please everybody. Britten further dwells on the high flying aspects of social behaviors like attending polo matches or flying as a guest in a private jet. Such a situation could arise in any girls life as her poise and looks may bring her in contact with the cream of affluence people. Her chapter on office etiquette is particularly welcome and give sane advice as to how a girl can get ahead in her work place.

In the present times when many girls work in the office in a variety of jobs, this chapter by Fleur Britten is like a godsend and opens a door to the world of office etiquette.

Britten has a special chapter on conversation and how to avoid some dreaded bloomers. She emphasizes poise and demeanor with the right choice of phrases and words in a conversation. Her advice is excellent and sure to give greater confidence to a girl who reads this book and practices what is advised. Lastly her book has some lovely photographs that enhance its appeal.

Last word

Etiquette is subject that appeals to all and young girls will find this book helpful. Its presentation is nice and the book easy to read and understand.

Britten’s ‘Etiquette for Girls’ is a topical book and an essential guide for a girl about town. Presently the author resides in London. In addition to this book, the other books written by Fleur Britten are On the Couch, Hg2; a hedonists Guide to London and A Hedonists Guide to Milan. All her books are very well received by the public at large.

The question, “what is a promo girl?” is one which is often asked by people who have seen them at events, but are unsure about what they do. Put very simply, they will be employed by a business to promote their products or brand. This can occur at specific promotional or trade events, sporting events, or in bars and clubs. They work for a promotional company, who in turn will be contracted by large companies such as Budweiser or Miller.

What Is A Promo Girl’s Main Responsibility?

Their main responsibility will be to attract customers to a business. At trade shows this will involve attracting people to their employer’s stall or booth. They will enter into conversation with customers by offering them a friendly smile and a greeting. They might also offer customers free promotional material such as pens, key-rings, and baseball caps. If they are working for a drinks company they may offer free samples.

What Are The Requirements To Be A Promo Girl?

Businesses in general will be looking for attractive, healthy looking girls to promote their products. For the most part these companies are trying to entice men to become customers with them, which is why they employ girls who are physically appealing. Perhaps even more important than this, however, is that promo girls must have good personalities. They must be able to talk to a lot of different people, and to convince them that their employer provides a desirable product. They should also be fit, and be prepared to work hard, as it requires a lot of energy.

Why Become A Promo Girl?

There are several good reasons for wanting to become a promo girl. Firstly, they get to dress up and feel attractive, and secondly, this leads to them attracting a lot of attention from guys. For anybody who has an outgoing personality and who likes meeting new people this could be the perfect job for them. Thirdly, the job is never dull or monotonous, as promo girls often travel to different locations all around the country attending shows and events. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, it is very well paid. The girls who promote for globally recognized brands can command as much as seventy-five dollars an hour for their time.

How To Become A Promo Girl

For the reasons mentioned previously these jobs are very hard to come by. It is a very competitive industry to break into. The best way to get an interview is to contact the hiring manager for local promotional or marketing companies directly. Whether speaking to them on the telephone or in person, the quality of a girl’s personality has to be apparent or she will get nowhere. This is even more true if she gets invited to an interview. If she has the winning combination of looks and personality then any company will be keen to have her represent them.

This job plays an important role in the marketing of a product or brand. They have been shown to be very effective in increasing customer numbers for businesses. Being a promo girl is an exciting and well paid lifestyle, and for those reasons it is a very desirable job for many women.

If you live in a cold city you’ve probably noticed that people tend to socially hibernate during the winter season. I knew it all too well as I lived most of my adult life in Chicago. In my opinion, there is no better city in the world to pick up girls during summer in Chicago, it’s like a Mecca for hotties. Yet as the months wear on into the fall, then later into the winter, the nightlife slowly dwindles down. Bars that were shoulder-to-shoulder packed in July become ghost towns by January. I don’t blame anyone either. Walking to the bar when it’s 3 degrees out, with the piercingly cold wind hitting your face, trying not to slip on your ass from all the slush on the ground… IT AIN’T FUN! When you’re cuddled in a warm bed watching Family Guy, it feels like such a better option.

Consequently, most guys drop off when the winter hits. It’s just too easy to be lazy. This is a huge mistake that can really take a hit on your development. Progress that was being made during the summer and fall go out the window once you take a 4 month leave of absence. Once you go out to pick up girls in the Spring, it feels like you’ve starting all over again. So treat the winter just as you would the summer. Continue getting your butt out of the house and meet as many women as you can.

Since the nightlife does take a hit during the winter months, your game plan needs to change with the season. In this article, I’ve outlined some killer strategies on how to pick up girls during the cold, grey, stay-at-home winter season.

Find a Rotation During The The Fall

To many guys, winter season = girlfriend season. It’s just so damn convenient to be in a relationship when it’s sub-zero weather out. Again, dealing with the bar scene during the winter isn’t the most fun in the world. When you’re sitting at home in your boxers watching the snow pour like it’s no tomorrow, calling up a girl and chilling at home is just too convenient. In fact, this is something I would recommend if you’re in a position to do so. It’s okay to sit back and reap the rewards of your labor during this time.

During the fall, start transitioning a woman you’re seeing into girlfriend status. If you don’t want a girlfriend, then start building up a solid rotation of girls to “hang” with – preferably at least 3.

Online Dating Is Key

If you’re not in a position to have a “winter girlfriend” and are looking to meet new women, online dating is one of the best routes you can take. You’ll be able to pick up a plethora of new girls during the cold winter months in the convenience of your warm home. There are millions of women who are just as lazy as you in dealing with the cold and are also looking to meet a new partner during this time of the year. In fact, online dating services get their peak activity from users in the months of November – February, with Christmas/ New Years season being the highest. This can be a goldmine to meet women so take advantage of it.

Popular Bars Of The Week

Although bar/club activity hits a rock bottom in the winter, there’s usually at least 1 venue each day of the week that is still popular. You pretty much don’t have a choice but to go to these places during this time.

Find out where the drink specials are because that’s where people will go. Dealing with the weather sucks, but the motivation to go out kicks in once people find out there’s a bar that serves $1 beers. I’ve been to bars where it was packed even when there was practically a blizzard outside just because the drink special for the night was so good. Go to metromix.com and find where the best drink deals of the week are. More than likely there will be a good amount of women congregating at these places.

Work With What You Got

This isn’t the time to be all picky with the women you approach. I’m not saying to throw your standards out the window and start dating fuglies, but you have to work with what you got. This isn’t the summertime where there are an endless supply of women to go up to. Winter is a different ballgame and you won’t have as many chances to approach. So take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself.

As long as there’s 1 or 2 women in the venue, that’s all you need to work with. Sack up and go talk to them. I’ve seen plenty of success at places where it was a hardcore sausage fest and there was only a handful of women to talk to.

Work Your Daytime Routine

Since the night scene is often times non-existent, make the best use of your daytime routine. On your way to and from work, there’s A TON of women walking around that you can approach. If you work in a big office building, then try and meet new women in the common area during your lunch break. You’ll find at least a few cute girls to talk to at the supermarket, especially during weekday nights.

During Christmas season, shopping malls are filled with women shopping for gifts. Go up to them and have them help you pick out a gift for your little nephew. Health clubs are packed with women, especially during the winter time. Right after New Year’s, EVERYONE is trying to shed those extra holiday pounds, so you can meet more women there than you can at a night club.

If you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to pick up girls during this time. When I was working on this stuff, I’d look at ANY part of my day as an opportunity to meet women, no matter how ridiculous. I remember I’d be in a traffic jam on the highway and see a cute girl alongside my car. I’d tell her to roll the windows down and start talking to her then and there. To me, as long as there were a female in my vicinity, I didn’t have an excuse not to make it happen.

Use The Weather To Your Advantage

The cold weather can be used to your advantage. Since it’s such a pain to walk outside, this is a perfect excuse to stay inside the house. If you’re meeting up with a woman, tell her to meet you at your place. Since the weather sucks say “Yeah I don’t feel like dealing with all the cold right now, let’s just watch a movie in.” Think about it, her being at your place is just that much closer to the bedroom that it would be if you were at a Starbucks. Often times the biggest logistic you have to work around is just getting them inside your house in the first place. This isn’t an issue when the weather sucks.

Don’t Stop, Get It Get It

The most important point is to NOT-STOP what you are doing during the winter season. Guys naturally get lazy and want to stay inside the house when the weather starts getting colder. This can kill whatever progress you were and leave you just as bad with women by the time Spring hits. I’ve given you enough ways to pick up girls during the winter season in this article so you have ZERO excuses not to get off your butt and start having some fun. Once you do, you’ll often find winter season really is the season for giving… and for receiving.:-)

If you’re reading this article, I will assume that you’re wanting to conceive a baby and have a specific gender on your wish list. This article will focus on the variables necessary to conceive a girl or a boy and how to manipulate them using inexpensive, natural methods at home. Although choosing your baby’s sex is possible at an expensive gender selection clinic, my personal experience lies with natural methods.

Differences In The Difficulty Between Conceiving A Boy Or Girl: Statistically speaking, the odds are almost even, giving you an approximate 50/50 chance for either sex, but this doesn’t tell the whole story. Having boys or girls can run in families and there can be a reason for this, which I’ll get to later. However, because of the characteristics of female (X) and male (Y) sperm chromosomes, it can take longer or require more planning to conceive one sex / gender over the other, but it’s never impossible.

Girl (X) Versus Boy (Y) Sperm Chromosome Characteristics: When a couple is trying to conceive, a man’s sperm contains chromosomes that will result in a girl baby (X) or a boy baby (Y). However, there are numerous factors that will influence which chromosome containing sperm will get to the egg and fertilize it first. Boy sperm are faster, but not nearly as hardy as girl sperm. Girl sperm are slower, but can survive for much longer in hostile (acidic) conditions. You can use these factors to your advantage when trying to chose the gender of your baby.

Variables You Can Manipulate To Help You Have A Son Or Daughter: There are really three main variables you can influence / control when trying to conceive a boy or a girl. These are: the time in your ovulation cycle when you attempt to conceive (earlier will favor a girl, as these sperm can survive for longer); the intercourse / sexual positions you use when trying to conceive (closer to the cervix for a boy, further away for a girl); and the vaginal environment / PH that the sperm encounter when attempting to reach the egg (acidic for a girl, alkaline for a boy).

So, Which Sex / Gender Is Hardest To Conceive?: Well, that depends upon the status of the variables mentioned above already in place. If the mom to be is naturally acidic (easy to determine with testing strips) and wants a boy, she’ll first need to alter her PH through specialty douches and / or through the very diligent eating and avoiding specific foods to get in the “boy zone.” Likewise, if she’s naturally alkaline and wants a girl, the same thing is true. This natural inclination to be either acidic or alkaline can be one reason having boys or having girls can run in families. However, this is very possible to rectify so that the cycle stops.

Likewise, if a couple is dead set on a girl, it’s best to try to conceive before you ovulate, which leaves some fertile days on the table until the next month. However, the same is true if you want a boy, as you have to wait longer in the month to begin trying.

As you can see, whether you’re trying to conceive a boy or a girl, all of the variables can be altered to create the scenario that will encourage the daughter or son you want. Depending on your situation, one is not necessarily harder than the other. It just takes a bit of very specific knowledge about your fertility / ovulation cycle and your unique vaginal PH / environment. Once you have this information, with careful planning and by following instructions, your efforts that could last for only months could well be rewarded with the son or daughter who you will enjoy for a lifetime.

Proper nutrition for boys and girls varies due to the differences in body structure, size and physical needs. The problem that often arises is determining the major differences between growing children and thus creating a diet plan that works best for nutritional necessities. While many know that girls need more nutrients like iron and calcium, confusion often arises when it comes to the appropriate amount of protein.

Young Children:

When children are between the toddler years and seven years old, the protein requirements are roughly the same for boys and girls. During the first few years of life, children have similar nutritional needs because their growth rate is similar. At this age, boys do not have the testosterone levels that come with older age groups and thus their muscular growth is similar to a girl of the same age.

Young children who are not yet at the stage of puberty will need plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains and protein for healthy growth. This applies to boys and girls, so parents should strive to ensure their children are getting a variety of foods for proper nutrition.

Early Puberty:

Boys and girls usually start having rapid growth and physical development starting around age eight or nine. This is when boys and girls will start having different nutritional needs. In particular, boys will need more protein to keep up with the rapid development of muscular and skeletal structures while girls will usually need more calcium and iron to balance out menstrual cycles.

Around age eight, parents should ensure boys are getting a little more protein in their diet. This does not necessarily mean adding more meat, which might have higher fat contents. Instead, parents should consider adding beans, eggs, brown rice and nuts to the diet. Girls will need slightly lower amounts of protein because they do not have the same muscle growth that boys experience during puberty.

Late Teen Years:

During the late teen years, boys will still need more protein than girls for proper nutritional value. When children are around 14 years old, they will need more calories to support changes to physical activity, growth and physical development. This means that boys will need more protein than their younger years and girls will usually need more iron.

Adulthood:

Protein levels during adulthood vary between individuals, but most men will need slightly more protein than women. On average, women will need around 46 grams of protein while men will need roughly 56 grams instead.

While these general numbers are a good average, other factors play a role in the amount of protein needed by the body. Physically active adults who often exercise or athletes will need more protein due to the activity level. Women who are pregnant or nursing will also need higher protein levels to properly supply nutrients to the baby and produce milk.

While a wide range of factors are involved in the appropriate amount of protein for proper nutrition, boys usually needs slightly higher levels to support muscle growth. Girls will need less protein due to the lower muscle mass.

Why do girls always leave me? I am 25 years old. I always find it easy getting a girl to fall in love with me, probably because of the good time I give them. Each of the girls I dated never stayed beyond five weeks with me and when I try to find out why, their answers are always almost the same “nothing”. This problem is causing me sleepless night. Is something wrong with me? This is one of the several emails I have received from several men seeking answers to a common problem.

Why do girls always leave me? I know this is the question currently causing you sleepless night. With the right approach you will become a master in the act of keeping girls to stick to you until you are no longer interested.

The first thing you need to do right now is to do an evaluation of your appearance. How is your personal hygiene? No beautiful girl will like to hang around with a guy who smells so badly, especially when he opens his mouth to talk. You need to ensure your breathe smells nice and there is no foul odour from your armpit.

Examine yourself objectively and closely to find out why girls always leave you. What about the way you talk? Are you the type that is boastful about your success and talk so loudly to cause embarrassing moments? Do you argue loudly and unreasonably in public to embarrass your girlfriends?

Most girls do not like a stalker. You should learn to give your girl some space to do her own thing. If you become too obsessed with any girl, she may begin to resent you. Trust and allow her to go places alone if she prefers that. do not question her all the time when you see her chatting with other boys.

Girls like men who are confident and achievement-driven. If you do not have any plans for the future, most serious girls will not take you seriously and they may dump you for a guy that is ambitious and hard-working.

In this article, I teach you how to start a sexual conversation with a girl without telegraphing sexual intents.

Your conversation with a girl you’re interested in should be geared towards sexually suggestive topics.

In other words, if you’re talking to a girl you feel attraction for and want to get into a romantic relationship with, you will want to make your conversation or interaction with her sexual in nature.

In addition to the friendly conversation you will be having with her, you have to move towards sexual suggestive topics to bring you closer to an intimate bond.

The goal here is to introduce sexual tension and generate attraction with her.

Truth is, if you keep talking to a girl you’re interested in on the level of a friend, she will categorize you as a friend in her mind.

She will see you as just a friend, but not someone she feels sexually attracted to.

Now, the drawback to this is that, women or girls know that men want to have sex with them. So any tentative suggestion or advances from you can cause a woman to raise her defenses.

So how do you go about this? How do you start a sexual conversation with a girl without raising any red flags?

Exactly as the title says, in this article I teach you how to start a sexual conversation with a girl without sounding awkward or creepy.

You’ll learn the 3 best ways to introduce the topic of sex without telegraphing any interests.

Before you begin…

Know that, women love to talk about sex…

But most of them are reluctant to talk about it with men they don’t feel comfortable with, or don’t have an emotional connection with.

So before you initiate sexual topics with a woman or a girl, make sure you’ve gained rapport with her first.

It’s even better if she’s giving you some indications of interest. For instance, when she’s playing with her hair, touching you, or leaning in close when conversing.

With that said, let’s get started… on how to start a sexual conversation with a girl.

Here’s how to start a sexual conversation with a girl:

Tip #1: Talk about things from the sexual perspective

Let’s say you’re talking about a movie.

Don’t tell her how much you liked it for its car chase and how some dude got to kick some more ass.

Instead, tell her about how you liked the love relationship between the characters.

And how you loved the sensuality of their scenes together. And then you ask her if there are any other movies that has affected her that way, and have her explain why.

Tip #2: Feed her mind

Slip in sexually charged words or phrases into your normal conversation with her.

A great way to do this is by using sexual innuendos or double entendre. This is when you say something innocent, yet can be deemed dirty or sexual.

For instance:

• “Boy, this is really hard.” (When you’re talking about a popsicle.)
• “I didn’t come with her.” (When you’re talking about a party you went to.)
• “He almost rear-ended her.” (When you’re talking someone getting hit by a car.)

Another effective way to feed her mind or gradually bring up sexual topics is to use “That’s what she said jokes” and “That’s what he said jokes”.

When she says something like:

• “Put it inside“
• “It’s much better when it’s wet“
• “Do you want to come inside” (when she’s inviting you into her apartment)

… then you respond with:

• “That’s what SHE said”

Or when she says something like…

• “You’re making it hard (for me)”
• “It’s getting really hard“
• “I want to eat the whole thing”

… then you respond with:

• “That’s what HE said”

When she says something dirty on purpose, then tease her for having a dirty mind.

Of course, you don’t want to go into this territory during the early stages or when you’ve just met.

You start with superficial conversation, then build it up to a more sexual conversation.

Again, make sure you’ve gained rapport with her first. Then you start using words that are sexually charged in your conversation.

And with time, she’ll be comfortable talking about sexual topics with you.

If she doesn’t play along, then she probably isn’t comfortable with you yet.

Next on how to start a sex conversation with a girl…

Tip #3: Bring up a sexual situation of a friend of yours

For instance:

You can tell her you have a female friend who is complaining that her boyfriend doesn’t like going down south during sex. And she thinks her boyfriend doesn’t like the idea of going down on her or isn’t taking the hints she’s giving him.

Now, ask her how women can suggest things like that to their men.

• “So how do women hint that sort of thing?”

(You see what you’re doing here… you’re getting her to specifically talk about sex)

Now, if she talks freely on the subject of sex, then she’s comfortable discussing sexual situations with you.

And from here on, she’ll start initiating sexual conversations with you.

So there you have it… how to start a sex conversation with a girl or a woman.

Understand this: Don’t make the girl or woman you’re talking to the subject of sexual conversation. Only talk about other people’s sexual situations.

Conclusion: How to start a sex conversation with a girl

If you can bring up sexual topics or start a sexual conversation with a girl in a way that doesn’t hint you want to sleep with her, she will be more interested and open to talking about sexual topics with you. (Again, women love to talk about sex)

And again, as mentioned earlier, make sure you’ve gained rapport with her first.

Pay attention to her when using the above 3 tactics.

If you can tell she’s comfortable with such conversation and she plays along, take it further. But if not, back off a little and continue with your normal conversation.

When all’s said and done, when a woman is open to talking about sex, it doesn’t mean she’s ready to have sex with you. It means she’s comfortable around you. And it’s a green light to move things into the romantic arena.

So again, that’s how to start a sexual conversation with a girl.

I copied this super short story from a scene in a dream I had. I woke with a bubbling feeling, excitement brewing in my belly, and, slowed by heavy eyes and tired fingers, punched it into my phone. I forgot all about and surprised myself a few months later with its discovery… Here it is, Girls Can Punch, by Nick Adigu Burke

The word “Wench” came into Billy’s mind. That word made him laugh. He didn’t really know what it meant, as he began repeating it in the bathroom mirror. He was always doing that – practising words he didn’t know the meaning to.

He knew it was an insult though. He heard his dad shout it at his mum in the heat of one of their street arguments. He rubbed his chin thinking. Or perhaps it was his mum who’d used it, when his dad waddled back drunk from the Duck and Firkin last week. What the hell was a firkin anyway? That sounded funny too. And could it be wielded as an insult he often thought.

“Wench” He said, strong, bold and free in the mirror. He loved the way his lips felt wrapped around the “W” – stiffened lips, bottom and top puckered together in circular motion as though committing to a whistle. Then the “E” exploding out of the “W” like Usain Bolt out of his starting blocks. Now his lips were no longer heavy and puckered, but free, apart and wide, looking almost like a sarcastic smile. Like the fake smile his father uses on family photographs after his mum has moaned for him to smile. The “E” sound was equally as pleasurable as the “W” as too was the crunch of the “NCH”. He loved the way it made his tongue hit the roof of his mouth like a mule kick, and the way his tongue slid down his mouth’s roof like a downhill skier. Sliding toward the back of his bucked-teeth for the finale. That finale misting his immediate vicinity with a spray of spit.

Lovely, he thought, hopping from side-to-side like a chimp on burning coals. He then turned to his twin sister Daisy. “Wench,” he said with a huge grin. The cried when she punched him in the eye.

The shiner came up a real treat, with their dad saying it looked like a Salford sunset. Billy didn’t know about that. All he knew, is that it bloody hurt, and next time he would practice the word “Firkin” instead. But he did learn something new… That girls can punch.

Tamil girls, Punjabi men: The best thing for India

As a subaltern, I had the privilege of being posted in the Tamil Nadu state. To be precise, I was posted at the Air Force Station at Tambaram and the unit was Air Force flying Instructors School (AFIS). It was a baptism which I have never forgotten. To start by virtue of being a member of an elite service. I was immediately given the membership of the Madras Gymkhana., one of the premier clubs in India established by the ‘Goraji’ during the days of the Raj.

Getting into this elite Institute was like the opening Ali Baba’s cave, it gives us the magical key to social intercourse with the elite of the city of Madras, the name Chennai came much later. I was not new to the state of Tamil Nadu as I have had my early education at the Stanes High School at Coimbatore. Later as Squadron leader, I had the privilege of attending the Defence Services Staff College in the Nilgiri mountains at Wellington close to the hill station of put Ootacammand.

Relationships

I observed another major social more, my flight commander and the CO of AFIS had both married Tamil girls. Later I came to know they were Brahmins. Obviously, they were very happy. This was my first brush with the social interaction where I observed that many Tamil girls were marrying North Indian Punjabi men or boys. This phenomenon is not confined to the film world, wherein right from the time of Vyjayanthimala to Sridevi, not forgetting Hema Malini have married Punjabi men. One can say that there is some fetish for Tamil girls and Punjabi men. During almost two decades of my service in the Air Force, I have the distinction of observing this singular aspect where many officers had married Tamil girls. I will add that as far as the Airforce is concerned an equal number have married girls from Meghalaya, which has the Eastern Air Command, at Shillong

Talking about personal experience, I had the fortune or being introduced to some of the top echelon society girls. My facilitator was a local Tamil friend of mine who had studied with me at the Stanes High school and was now a fairly big merchant involved in export-import in Madras. It is not important to take any name but I can add that this was the most relaxing time of my life. I had a senior colleague a Flying Officer and he confided that he was going to marry Tamil girl brahmin. I accepted to be his witness at the court marriage which subsequently took place. The girl’s parents were against the match but later relented and give a big reception to their guests and relations. Now that so many decades have passed, I have been wondering as to what could be the reason that so many girls from Tamilnadu who come in contact with Punjabi men end up being their wives. Basically, I feel this is a good thing and a sign that such unions help the so-called north-south language divide to weaken. I think this an excellent recipe for national integration. I hope in the years to come, the question as to which state or which caste you belong to will go away. India would be one big Cauldron like the USA.

Mutual attraction

Just as Tamil girls are attracted to Punjabi men, so also North Indian Punjabis have a fascination for Tamil girls. There is a big language divide but this is overcome by the natural attraction that exists between these two classes in India. I wonder If sociologists can study this aspect of the relationships in India. As already mentioned there are also a lot of young Khasi girls from Meghalaya who marry Air Force personnel while in the army Naga girls marry many army officers. Most of these marriages endure and that is the best part of this entire scenario. My personal memories have been the subject of many of my stories which have been published abroad and in India, I will just say that there seems to be a mutual attraction between Tamil girls and Punjabi men. Why should it be there is a question that is not worth answering and one can only say India has a nation has to move forward. Closer home my nephew just had a love marriage with a Tamil girl who a student from the IIT at Madras.

This is just a light heart article, and I hope many will read it with an open mind.