Common Factors in Psychotherapy: Myth, Belief, and Charisma

In my last two articles, I described some of the common factors that make psychotherapy effective (or ineffective) no matter what theoretical orientation it is approached from. Those factors were:

  1. The therapeutic relationship. This is the degree to which the therapist and the client feel aligned with each other in working toward a mutual goal.
  2. The therapist. Some therapists are consistently more effective than others. Few researchers seem willing to study the differences between the really good therapists and the really bad ones, but the degree to which a practitioner adheres to a particular treatment protocol does not appear to contribute.

In this article, I’m going to draw those two factors together into a third, connecting factor, which I believe constitutes the primary basis for effective psychotherapy. Jerome Frank, the pioneer of the Common Factors approach to psychotherapy, referred to this connecting principle as persuasion.

I’ve had some arguments with other therapists in the past who disagree with the explicit use of persuasive tactics in psychotherapy, because they feel that therapy should be an egalitarian enterprise — the client should be given the full freedom of choice regarding how to respond to treatment.

My argument is that people often come to therapy specifically because they want to believe something that they have not been able to make themselves believe. They want to be convinced that life is worth living, or that the world is ultimately more fun than it is scary, or that they have more options available to them than they feel like they do.

But there is more to psychotherapy than this type of direct persuasion. For me, psychotherapy is about the reasons why people are not able to believe those things. It is about the belief systems which prevent them from accessing those possibilities. And so the task of psychotherapy is to help someone accept a new belief system. It doesn’t really matter which belief system they accept, so long as it is wide enough and deep enough to accommodate the types of experiences they were missing before. That’s why all theories of psychotherapy yield similar results — they are all myths about the way the human mind works.

Because of this, the main determinants of growth and healing in psychotherapy are:

  • the degree to which the therapist is able to successfully proselytize for their myth (charisma)
  • the degree to which the client is able to engage with that myth (belief)
  • the degree to which the therapist and client are able to apply that mythical system to the problems the client is facing in their own life (the therapeutic relationship.)

Beating Depression – It’s Your Subconscious Choice

Being afflicted by any emotional disorder gives your life a very different meaning. Discovering ways of beating depression will not only help with the feelings of sadness, hopelessness and lack of motivation and purpose, but will also make you so much better equipped to handle any of life’s troubles in the future. It’s a matter of changing the way your head works – and believing that you can do it for yourself.

With a number of ways to treat depression with drugs, (self-prescribed or medically prescribed) it seems to be what many people turn to out of desperation. However, there are a number of ways to deal with depression that will put you in a much more empowered and self-confident position. When you succeed in effectively beating depression, you will have a whole new set of skills that will be useful in other areas of your life as well. Below are just a couple of appropriate measures you can take to use the awesome power of your mind to overcome the mental negativity of depression and various other emotional issues:

  • Use a few effective techniques to influence your subconscious mind. Your belief system is a part of you that is mainly formed in your subconscious mind. You can think of it as the way see the would around you and it is mainly formed by the people and situations you’ve been around since childhood. Although, your subconscious is formed without you really having to actively think about or even judge concepts that you’re around – it is a thought process that can be changed by your purposeful effort in being influenced by new thoughts.
  • You can affect your subconscious mind with positive affirmations, subliminal audio, and meditation.
  • Be selective in what you allow in your presence. This is referring to people and what you watch and listen to. Since you will always be influenced by the people and experiences around you, it is most helpful if you get rid of all those negative people and anything else that does not provide some quality experience in your life. There are some people and situations that you won’t be able to completely eradicate from your life. For those instances, just be more mindful of whether you want to take on the beliefs and concepts of others. For those people and situations in your life that are expendable and negative, make the empowering choice to not have that in your life anymore.
  • Making the purposeful choice to allow, or not allow, certain things in your life creates a subconscious feeling of self-confidence and will be huge step towards creating more purposeful things in your life.

Controlling your thoughts, controlling your life and controlling your future is an instrumental part in the healing process of beating depression. Any emotional imbalance can be effectively dealt with through the power of your mind and by directly affecting your subconscious thinking.

Pseudoscience of Philosophies – Part 2

Everything is a “mental illness”. Increasingly, alibis gather around the social spectrum, from the movie making capital to the U.S. capital, mitigating and capitalizing on theoretical conjectures allegedly supported by substantial scientific credibility. So many excuses for maladaptive behavior have appeared over the years, which anyone can hardly be held accountable for anything. Politicians and pundits, as well as “reality” TV, news shows, movies and soup operas, perpetrate a debasing discourse of magical thinking. Claiming a scientific basis, the pseudosciences fall short on evidence.

In such fields, for instance criminology, psychology and sociology, many adherents, as well as upcoming proselytes, assume such philosophical perspectives are real sciences. By contrast, outspoken claimants become very sensitive when confronted by the reality they are not the same as astronomy, nuclear physics, chemistry or biology. The arguments one way or the other will likely accomplish little. Realistically, it is too late to make radical changes in contemporary mainstream thinking. As the human species enters the high probability of eventual extinction, little progress will be made.

Pseudoscience is simply a point view, belief system, practice or philosophies that are presented to be scientific, but do not undergo the rigors of scientific methodology are required in physics for example. Further as to that point, the “scientific community” must generally agree the credible and authentic science behind the claim. In American jurisprudence, that is a requirement. Absent the evidentiary criteria as required in a court of law, to prove and issues beyond a reasonable doubt, a mere opinion is exactly that, an opinion. A court might consider such a view as “expert opinion”.

Yes, many “experts” claim many things. However, since the U.S. operates under an adversarial legal system, both sides, and other associated parties get to challenge and otherwise disagree with those opinions. As such, a question arises. If a particular school of thought has an opinion as to “why” a person committed a horrific tragedy, then how is the other side of the controversy allowed rebuttal evidence? Answer, because it is opinion, not science. Science must rise to a higher standard. This means the one offering the defense of one philosophical perspective can be debunked and challenged as to the efficacy of their conjecture. And, there are many “schools of thought” or opinions.

As such, the debates rage on, many are unhappy, fearful and contentious, as their cherished notions come down to wishful thinking. For the public, politicians and pundits of infotainment and mass consumption marketing, the sound bites are crucial to sales and ratings. The more simplistic, people feel good, feel safe and feel assured the human species is still in control of planetary forces. That of course is deceptive. Instead, humankind continues to plunder the environment, dumb itself down and cascade into an avalanche of stupidity racing toward eventual extinction. The pseudosciences are notorious for the perpetrations of misleading conjecture disguised as “science”.

The debauchery continues, as criminality surges in more diverse ways and means. At the same time, the fraudulent promotion of “mental illness”, perpetrated by pseudoscience, supported by nebulous “diagnoses”, foster the gluttonous self-indulgence of a devolving society. The myriad swindles are cleverly cloaked in the “addictions” of everything. Even though a few credible researchers and serious scientists shun such use of the word “addiction”, mainstream quackery continues to promulgate the salesmanship. Corporate and political collusions of one sort or another, along with a vast pharmaceutical industry, rely on the promotion of non-science sleight of hand.

Of the culprits, the offenders can be found in the not so hallowed halls of academia. If you are a “social philosopher”, as in the fields of criminology, sociology and psychology, and primarily a theorist, as opposed to real world practitioners, questionable conjecture is easy to conjure. For instance, people who have never left academia have written most college textbooks in these fields. Then again, scrutiny of claimed “real world” experience must be carefully analyzed. Where did that alleged expertise come from?

What are the scientific basis, credible evidence and authentic proof for validation of any claim? What mechanical, chemical and electrical proofs are there? Such as, is there a blood test, an x-ray, or an EKG, for “mental illness”, or any subsequent “diagnosis” of anything non-organic? Does it show beyond any doubt such a thing exists in the DNA structure? The complicity for such speciousness extends to corporate boardroom and the cloakrooms of politicians. Business interests pursue the avarice of moneymaking opportunities in the suffering of others, while politicians see perpetuity of office holding. Vast numbers of people, fearful of their own self-evolutional and psychic liberation, acquiesce easily to their own enslavement to a debasing consumer culture.

Given the range of foolish behaviors unfolding, across a diverse international spectrum of people, there are alarming numbers of “anti-thinking” perpetrations every day. Purposely naïve and intentionally gullible it is easier to consume that which is simplistic, trouble-free and a convenient superficial excuse. Along with that, is one study that has suggested a decline in I.Q. scores over the past two or three generations. Meanwhile, another body exploration offers discouraging ramifications as to a rise in superstitious beliefs and a moving away from serious scientific inquiry. As extreme ideological perspectives gain greater influence, intellectual capacities suffer.

In other studies, according to findings in a major online journal, there is mounting concern over the perceived “dumbing down” of American society. As suggested, some researchers and futurists present convincing speculation that the public is growing increasingly inclined toward “anti-intellectualism”, as opposed to scientific evidence. Along with that, a number of claimants from the scientific community lament an increased reliance on unsubstantiated conjecture, as opposed to data driven critical analysis. Typically, people prefer quick and easy answers to complex issues.

As to belief systems, especially those steeped heavily in magical, legendary and mythical thinking, the criticality of social progress and human advancement devolve to primordial levels. The continuing rise of superstitions, the paranormal and the occult, interplanetary conspiracies and religious dogmatism, to name a few, presents dangerously regressive prospects for a more enlightened and advanced species. Disturbing implications for a “culture of ignorance”, simply stated as stupidity, threatens political and social instability on a broad scale. An unsteady grasp of basic intellectual capabilities portends a dark future, in which entire social systems collapse.

With regard to a “conflict model” of social interaction, one journalist has referred to the current situation as “idiot America”, whereby virtue has been replaced by stupidity. As a result of intentional idiocy, the assertion is made that commercially and politically, the advantage goes to those more powerful. As such, there is profit for the profiteers and power for the politicians to have a stupid consumer populace. Purposeful ignorance is the easy way out of having to be self-reliant and shrewdly intuitive. It is hard work to thinking independently, conduct original research and insist upon evidentiary criteria. In particular, the pseudosciences help perpetuate the devolutionary process.

What joy there must be for the folly of theory leaping to the hasty generalizations of pretentions factuality merely based on someone’s opinion? Yet, it happens every day throughout an allegedly “education” American culture. When theory becomes actuality, absent solid scientific evidence, or substantial proof in reality of the real world, there are devastating social consequences. Nonetheless, commercial interests have been constructed upon such pretentious claims, assertions, and illusions to science. Unproven hypothetical conjecture has fueled wild speculations in crime stories, television dramas, documentaries, as though such are accepted evidentiary standards.

Entire academic careers have fostered an array of non-practitioner “experts”, who offer the “expertise of opinions” on network news shows. Of marketing schemes and masked themes, the social nexus is rife with all manner of ideology screaming for viability without earning evidentiary universality. In the commonplace public meetings, the hopeful town hall sessions, and the social network satiations, unwise, unproved and unearned notions gain illicit respectability. As a result, the ravages of social stupidity win in the contest of dumbing down, and the refutation of scientific validity.

According to some futurists, most of whom are real scientists, as in physics, biology, anatomy and genetics, likewise assert a dismal outlook for the human species. Nonetheless, that does not prevent the increasing number of proponents in philosophical realms of the pseudosciences to reinvent nonscientific notions. Take any textbook for example over in the spheres of alleged “social sciences” and assess the background of the authorship. Start with criminology for instance. What might one discover?

More often than not, authors tend to be non-practitioners in terms of the topics they write about. Yet, given their anecdotal shortcoming, they spurt and spew unscientific rhetoric in documentaries and news casts. They re-report, re-state and re-write with regard about what others have already said long ago, and typically only challenge those aspects that do not line up with their particular school of thought.

Likewise, pundits of every description tend to be from younger less real world experienced and savvy by matured perspective. Older ones, who ought to know better, have selfish agendas that perpetuate devolving thought processes. As each is at his or her own state of immaturity, regressing to primal condescension, the probabilities for insightful enlightenment fades to black and white defenses of status quo.

Worst of all, with a few notable exceptions, as in the real sciences, engineering and techno-innovative possibilities, academia stumbles in the primordial regurgitation of selfish perpetrations. Not to forget of course, the tradecrafts of brick, mortar and repair technical specialties of hands on learning dedications. Or, for that matter, the protective and security specialties that serve as sentinels against premeditated malevolence. Again, a few labor to ensure the safe mediocrity and devolving regression of the many.

For a minority of questioning travelers, some discover, as some students do, the arrogance of pretentious politicians, infotainment pundits, and pompous preachers, authoring, editing and theorizing psychobabble demonstrates little or no real problem-solving substance. As a result, academic text materials tend to be little more than regurgitations of past resuscitations, with limited applications in the reality of serious socio-economic issues. In one criminology text for instance, the phrase “scientific method” is constructed in such a way to suggest the field is “serious science”.

In the chapters that follow, not unlike many others, the dangerous fallacy of inference races headlong into an exceptional number of theoretical constructs. Of which, the alleged science, or lack thereof, is accepted at “fact”. Theories, often spiced with mythical implications, are offered to show the diversity of opinions regarding human behavior theory. Yet, such historical assertions fail to claim the factual authentication in the reality of the natural world. Proof in the evidence, beyond any level of doubt, or at least a reasonable doubt, is often suppressed for the satiation of opinion. To object, and demand to see the evidentiary substantiation invites oppressive retaliation.

Nonetheless, the assertions claimed, relative to criminology, are anecdotal at best, and worse, pretentiousness to the very idea of being “scientific”. Instead, what is more profound, yet below the surface, is how year after year, decade after decade, not much has changed in terms of earlier historical propositions regarding criminality. Each year textbook offerings are mostly the same redundancy of previous editions published. Typically, controversial issues, such as whether or not theories such as alleged “mental illness”, or a “psychological diagnosis”, can be proved by science, are not discussed. Likewise, supernatural beliefs, cult behaviors, extremist ideologies, extraterrestrial visitations, which claim the believability of 85% of the population, seldom receive mention. Educational materials are tamed downward to appease special interests.

Meanwhile, over in the hallowed halls of pretentious “scientific research”, the revered and iconic temple of “peer review” has been seriously called into question. For instance, to propose the ideation of doubtful acceptance, one skeptical researcher as said, it is all a matter of opinion, learned or not, based on anecdotal assessment and influenced by “peer consensus” of collective conformity. As bias influences conclusions, based on limited observations, which affect that which was observed, the final design of a matter devolved to subjective validation. Hope springs eternal in the simplicity of conjecture. Given personal perspective the claims is quickly tainted from start to finish.

Unfortunately, nothing will be resolved. As opposing perspectives, based on the views of fragile humans, anxious in self-doubt, tainted by supernatural beliefs, given to dubious interpretations, cannot reconcile a singular theory of absolute certainty. As correlation does not equal causation, the more society slips into a less intellectual state of affairs, viewpoint with be cursed by the degradations of self-righteous superstitions. It is one thing for the pseudosciences to boast about alleged “peer review”, and quite another in the real sciences to claim a similar process of scientific validity. Meanwhile, serious questions are being raised about the validity of previously held assumptions.

So called “peer review”, outside the lawful applications in the rules of evidence, and substantiation of scientific validity, speculative claims remain mere opinion, as exceptions always apply. Nearly without question, in the annals of American academia, the invocation of the almighty “peer review” is readily tossed about as sacred ideology. Yet, it is more academically political, opinion based, turf protectionism, and tenure assurance, rather than about sufficiency of “scientific authenticity”. Yet, what validity can be given to historic regurgitation in one reference source after another?

Certainly hard science can be tested in the crime lab for instance. However, “getting inside the criminal mind”, of which the “mind” does not exist, is an entirely different matter. As matter of fact, the grey matter is quite a complex matter. In alleged research data relative to the pseudosciences, College textbooks have many citations, sometimes called “anecdotal evidence”, which is an appeal to the “authority”, or opinion, of that being cited based on what someone else asserts. Nonetheless, some will claim philosophical assertions, thought to be real science, is always testable to prove the claim of ideological viewpoint. Such is the bias that claims the conclusion.

Respect For Individuals is Important at the Workplace

"Respect for the individual" is about the need to value diversity, foster an environment that's open and inclusive and to be able to treat each person in a respectful manner, a manner that reflect our culture and values. Respect for the individual, is the ability to treat each other with respect, listen to each other's points of view and support each other when the need arises (both professionally and personally).

Being ethical means "saying what you will do and doing what you say you will." Being ethical denotes having highest integrity, respect for individual, loyalty and courage to do the right thing. It also means being honest and forthright with people in all dealings. There are several factors which influence an individual's ethics in the workplace, the root of these being an individual's personal belief system and the pervasive culture in the work environment. It is important for an individual to be ethical by being able to align their belief system to the shared values ​​at work and this becomes easier if we have definitively articulated our culture through the culture essentials and people promises. Each company clearly articulates culture essentials which help set expectations on what kind of behaviors are expected of us, such as "taking ownership, being accountable and outcome driven", "create, harvest and use ideas" and "learn, teach, nurture, involve in teamwork and recognize ".

Deciding between the right and the wrong ethics – I always found that making a choice between right and wrong ethics is best done by writing down what is best for the client, for the company, for our team and then for us n that order of priority . Any change in this order leads to a sub-optimal decision. Being accountable is deeply ingrained in the core of how things get done. Our performance anatomy must demand a sense of ownership and integrity. We hold each other accountable with access to all people to raise concerns and be recognized for doing the right thing and not to be afraid.

Neuroplasticity – You Teach An Old Dog New Tricks

Today in the western world, Alzheimer’s Disease ranks high as a cause of death. This is increasing at a rapid rate as the population ages. By 2050, it is going to be a real crisis. The costs alone to society will be staggering if the trend continues. The good news is that we can do something about it. If you are thinking that there is no cure for Alzheimer’s, that is true. However, we can do certain things to prevent or forestall its development.

We’ve heard the expression, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. We used to believe it to be true for humans, but science has turned that belief system on its head. It has been found that you can indeed teach a young or old brain “new tricks” at any age. Science has discovered through technological developments such as functional MRIs, that the brain does grow new connections at any age, even in our 70s and 80s.

What has been intriguing is the mechanism that stimulates this new production of nerve pathways. The science is neuroplasticity in which the brain has the capacity to restructure itself and create new neuronal (nerve) connections. This occurs in response to new thoughts, feelings, learning new things, and experiencing new activities. In other words, the brain is flexible or “plastic” and, therefore, can remold itself.

There has been a tendency for society to dismiss people in the older age groups, as “too old” or not being capable of handling certain tasks in the workplace. Over the years, many seniors have been retired from companies because they were made to feel unwanted or the company had policies setting a certain age as the time to retire. Thankfully, this is changing. There is a recognition that people in their 60s and even 70s can be productive in the workplace if they so choose.

So how do we achieve neuroplasticity? How do we create the environment where new connections are formed in our brains? The necessary component for this to occur is to do something different. It means changing from what we have always done to something new and different, and doing something that is challenging.

This process affects not only mental capacities but also physical ones. For instance, when victims of stroke become paralyzed or semi-paralysed, challenging them to stress their body’s muscles to work results in neuroplastic changes in the brain. This allows adjacent areas–that haven’t been damaged–to take up the slack and start taking on new functions, giving the person the ability to walk again on their own.

The important thing to realize is that anytime you do something new and different, you will create some degree of neuroplasticity.

Here is a list of some things that you can do; you can probably come up with many of your own:

  • Take up a musical instrument or singing
  • Write a book
  • Take up a new exercise regime
  • Do brain exercises such as crosswords and use online apps such as Lumosity
  • Take up dancing
  • Go on a different sort of travel adventure
  • Learn a new language

You may be thinking at this point, “Do I have to?” or “I just want to relax and enjoy life”. Spending your time relaxing will not activate your brain. There is just so much research now showing that we need to be active mentally and physically as we age. By doing so, you can also enjoy life more. If you have disabilities, do what you can to your level of tolerance.

We are all different, but we have an incredible potential beyond what many of us believe.

So get your brain and body active, and just do it!

6 Types of Health That Make Up You Part V

“Take Control of Your Health Naturally”

Spiritual Health

Spirituality, one of the six components of health needs just as much attention as the rest. Those who take care of their spiritual health have been known to thrive better in difficult situations than those who don’t.

Spiritual Health is a personal matter involving values and beliefs that provide a purpose in our lives. While different individuals may have different views of what spiritualism is, it is generally considered to be the search for meaning and purpose in human existence, leading one to strive for a state of harmony with oneself and God.

Your religious faith, values, beliefs, principles, and morals define your spirituality. Finding the ability to have compassion, the capacity for love and forgiveness, joy, and fulfillment help with spiritual health. The path to spiritual health may involve prayer, church, meditation, or specific spiritual practices that support your connection to a higher power or belief system.

Things to do to enhance your spiritual health:

Pray and talk to the Lord or whoever you worship – take time to voice your thoughts.

Meditate – Focus on a peaceful thoughts

Have a good relationship with yourself – Give yourself a break

Deep breathing sessions – It’s a good time to come in contact with your inner thoughts and feelings.

Listen to your inner voice and follow your gut – Your gut is almost always right!

Watch or read something uplifting – It will inspire you.

Laugh a lot and sing a loud to your favorite song – Simple things can really improve the way you feel towards yourself and life in general.

Don’t take anything for granted -It helps you to realize how well you have it.

Do something for someone else everyday – it will make you feel good with the added bonus of making someone else feel good too!

Statistics show that people with good spiritual health are able to make it through adversity better than those who don’t. Just like all the other aspects of our beings, physical, mental, social, and emotional, our spirit has to be taken care of.

FAITH HOPE AND LOVE AND THE GREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE

1 Corinthians 13:13

Include EFT in Your Recovery Toolbox

Overcoming addiction requires the willingness to accept sobriety, the courage to face formidable physical and emotional challenges, and the belief in one’s ability to get sober despite self-doubts and past failures. It also requires the support of loved ones, friends, an effective program with a dedicated staff, a team of medical and mental health care practitioners and a great deal of self-fortitude.

It has been said that addiction is a response to a problem that it yet to be identified and solved. Could the problem stem from a subconscious belief, often formed in childhood, that has the person believing they are unlovable, unworthy or not good enough?

Harboring a negative belief(s) about yourself is not usually the result of one or two isolated events. These detrimental beliefs take root and grow gradually as a culmination of many events, one disappointing, embarrassing and traumatic memory at a time.

We have all experienced painful and tragic events and have often felt like we’ve “been there, done that, dealt with it.” True enough, many old events and traumas no longer hold the emotional charge they once did. Sometimes, however, despite our best efforts to pick up the pieces and move on, they retain their emotional intensity, ultimately leading to physical or emotional pain or dysfunction.

But how can you heal old, trapped emotions if you can’t see or remember them? How do you dredge up the remembered horrors that are too painful to revisit? One energy healing modality that is gentle and effective at uncovering past incidents and neutralizing their charge is EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique.

EFT stimulates acupressure points along the body’s energy pathways or meridians. Instead of using acupuncture needles, you tap on designated points with your own fingers while focusing on the troublesome event, all the while affirming your self-worth. EFT addresses the negative aspects of an issue before inserting positive phrases into the tapping sequence, and it’s amazingly effective!

Based on healing principles dating back 3,000 years, EFT’s popularity blossomed in the 1970’s and continues to expand. Today, 6 million people worldwide use EFT, and its success with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) has launched numerous studies to ascertain its scientific basis.

One component to overcoming addiction is dismantling limiting beliefs and neutralizing the charge of old traumas, big and small. Too many to tackle? No worries. Once you tap on the most significant events, lesser events simply lose their charge. That is called the Generalization Effect, and it ensures we don’t have to tap on every yucky thing that has ever happened to us!

EFT supports treatment at every step of recovery. It takes away the over-the-top emotions that trigger us and that cloud thinking and beg for soothing at all costs. It softens or eliminates resistance to treatment, and it allows a perceptual shift that supports a belief system that empowers instead of destroys. With EFT in your recovery toolbox, your sobriety is easier to achieve and maintain. Tap on!

Fear Part II – What Is Fear and How to Release It

Fear is an emotion, just like any other. The thing that makes it different and often seem much worse than other emotions like anger, for example, is the physiological response I described in Part I of this article series. You can be angry, know that you’re angry, and be in complete and total control of your physical body. But when you become afraid, truly afraid, your body seems to take on a mind of its own. The chemicals adrenalin and noradrenalin flood through your body, and make it almost impossible to function in a normal, non-dangerous situation. That is their job. They make you focus, they divert all of your attention and energy to the task at hand: getting out of danger. The problem occurs when we’re not really in danger, yet have that response anyway. In that case, the fear response mechanism has been high jacked by our emotional guidance system.

When you harbor a “negative” belief that doesn’t serve you, something your inner being does not agree with, this causes a vibrational discord. The negative belief vibrates at a much lower frequency than your inner being, which is always holding steady at a high vibration. This vibrational discord then causes you to have negative emotions. The more negative the emotion, the lower the frequency of the belief you hold, or thoughts you’re having. The stronger the intensity of that emotion, the stronger the frequency of that negative belief.

If you are having panic attacks, there is something in your belief system that isn’t serving you. Given the intensity of your reaction, this is something that has been with you for some time that you haven’t been paying attention to. Because you’ve been ignoring these thoughts for some time, it’s going to make it that much harder to find.

Keep in mind that this belief does not necessarily have to be a fear. You may be having a fear response, but this is simply an emotional response to a low frequency you’re holding within you. Let’s say that you become very anxious in closed spaces. This does not necessarily mean that you have a fear of being squashed to death. The underlying belief may not be a fear of something at all. Fear is simply an emotional response to a low frequency you are carrying around with you. It is an indicator, one that cannot be ignored to be sure, but an indicator nonetheless. Even if it feels like it’s trying to take over your life, or that you’re somehow being punished (fear can be debilitating), it is simply your emotional guidance system letting you know that there’s something you REALLY need to be paying attention to. Don’t confuse the symptom (the fear) with the disease (the belief). So, if you have been asking yourself “What am I so afraid of?” and not getting an answer, this could very well be why. You may well not be afraid of anything. But there is something you need to fix.

If you’re holding a negative belief that has escalated to the point that you’re having panic attacks, it’s very likely that you’re going to need to get some outside assistance in order find it and release it. There is a reason that surgeons don’t operate on themselves, psychiatrists don’t treat their own neuroses, and healers call their friends when they’re ill. Even shamans will call in another shaman to perform a healing on them. If you’re too close to the issue, it can be damn near impossible to figure it out on your own.

I can, however, give you some guidelines on what you’re likely to experience. The important thing to remember is that you’re dealing with a negative belief, just like any other. The only real “issue” is the intensity of the physical fear you’re experiencing. And that can be so distracting, it can literally shut you down. When you’re intensely afraid, it can be impossible to begin to focus on something else. Remember that the chemicals running through your system are designed to impede your ability to change your focus – in order to save your life. That same mechanism is now hindering you from changing the path of your thoughts while you’re having the fear response, and therefore keeping you from stopping that response.

So, with that in mind:

  • Don’t try to do any of this work while having a panic attack. As explained above, your body is physically disabling your ability to change your focus. Deal with the panic attack in the moment (see Part I for tips), then deal with the underlying issue once you’ve calmed down. If you cut yourself, you’d stop the bleeding first, then try to make sure you don’t cut yourself again. You wouldn’t worry about safety protocols while you’re bleeding to death.
  • Pay attention to what is triggering your fear response. While your underlying belief may well not be a fear, there could well be a pattern in the types of situations that cause you to become afraid. This pattern will be a clue to what your underlying belief is. For example, an anxiety that comes up in social situations, business meetings, any kind of performance situations, could well point to a belief of “I’m not good enough.” Situations which activated thoughts of inadequacy triggered a response – in this case anxiety.
  • Be prepared to give this process some time. You are likely uncovering an old, deep seated belief here. It’s been with you for a long time and shaped a great deal of your life. Be patient with yourself. You subconscious won’t allow anything to come up that you’re not ready for.
  • Be prepared for your symptoms to get worse at first. This is often the scariest part. When you get ready to release a belief, especially the really ugly ones, they begin to “fight” for their lives. What’s really happening is that you’re activating that vibration; you’re looking at it and bringing it out into the light. And the closer you get, the more you’re going to feel that discord. As much as it is possible for you to do so, stick with it. Don’t give up. I say as much as is possible, because I know how debilitating fear can be. If it becomes too much for you, back off. This is also why it’s important to be patient. Take your time. If you run at this head first, you might well become overwhelmed by the intensity of your response. Again, having someone to help guide you through this process can make all the difference in the world.
  • Pay attention to any insights you receive. As you go poking around this issue, you’re going to get some messages – insights about what you’re dealing with. Pay attention to these. If you journal, keep track of them here (if you don’t journal, you might want to start). You’ll often be able to see a pattern over time.
  • Be prepared to have your most important breakthroughs when you’re least expecting them. Often, you’ll experience huge insights while relaxing, washing the dishes, meditating, watching TV, or doing something else that puts you in a mindless, meditative state. So take some time every day to relax and breathe, and don’t obsess about your “issue”.
  • Don’t expect the belief, once you find it, to make any sense. Beliefs formed in childhood, as many of our most insidious and limiting beliefs are, usually make no rational sense to us as adults.
  • Understand that it isn’t necessarily important to know when or how a belief was formed. A belief of “I’m not good enough” could’ve come about as a response to a seemingly unimportant event on the playground. You may never know what happened, but you don’t need to. Make peace with that.

The hardest part about releasing beliefs is figuring out what the belief is. Once you’ve done this, there are a variety of ways to release the energy. Take your time with this, get help if you need to, and know that you absolutely can succeed. You were not ever meant to suffer. You were not ever meant to live in fear and pain. You were meant to be joyful, to have fun, to live with passion and to be happy. Don’t accept a life that is any less than that – not for one second. And remember: As soon as you start the process of moving towards that natural state, the entire Universe will support you in finding your way.

Is Change Really About Behaviors in Public Schools?

Much is written about behaviors in elementary schools, middle schools and high schools. The question is to ask is it really the behaviors that need to be changed? Are not behaviors the desired end result? Doesn’t our society long for young people whom demonstrate the behaviors of respect as well as being engaged students? Would not our schools be far better off with students whose behaviors consistently contribute positively to the overall goals for the school district? If our young people could consistently behave in a way that leads to a balanced life and achieve their dreams, wouldn’t that be incredible? From the answers to these questions, then behaviors are truly the desired result and hence are the end and not the beginning.

What prompted these questions were several recent conversations with clients. A school administer had contacted me about providing some consultation work around bullying. Schools across America are facing an increased in “bullying” and have instituted numerous programs. Some of these programs have been successful, but the bullying isn’t going away even when the perceived causes change.

After several minutes of listening to the issues within this school, I made the observation that “Bullying” behaviors appeared to be more of symptom than the real problem facing this school. The real problem was the presence of a multitude of belief systems that existed within the school. These different belief systems remind me of the Bumper Cars carnival ride where the cars consistently bump, nudge and slam into each other. Continuing with this analogy, the bullying behavior is the outcome of these forces working against each other.

Of course in today’s political correct world, we cannot use the word beliefs because someone immediately thinks of religion and how church and state must be kept separate. Yet, beliefs simply are those foundational, internal thought processes that determine what we do as individuals. A variety of attitudes or what some call habits of thought support these beliefs systems.

For example, in education there are many resources devoted to helping at risk children. These resources have been in place for over 40 years and have developed a belief system that at risk children need these resources and without these resources they will not be successful. However, the outcomes of improved academic performance continue to elude many of our schools. The recently released Nation’s Report Card showed no progress during the last 33 years in reading scores for 17 years old and these students’ average scores were not even close to mastery of the reading skills required in today’s knowledge driven workplace.

One of the newer belief systems in education centers focuses on the behaviors of young children. Never in our history have we had so many children on medication to treat active children or what some call hyperactive children. One would think that this phenomenon is an anomaly given that 40 to 50 years ago this problem was fairly insignificant. Now if a child acts up, a belief system reinforces the need for medication and special education. Can you imagine what classrooms and schools will look like in another 40 years?

Until belief systems are first acknowledged and then identified, sustainable change will continue to allude our educational institutions.. But what is even more important, the persistent application of traditional solutions will drain our critical resources and continue to harm our young people and set them up for a life of failure instead of success.

Believability Makeover – Do You Need One?

“You’ve got to ask. Asking is in my opinion, the world’s most powerful and neglected secret to success and happiness.” ~ Self-made Multimillionaire and Philanthropist, Percy Ross

A big challenge faced by many entrepreneurs is feeling alone and isolated. And often, the isolation stems from the limiting belief that we should be able to figure out the challenges we face – on our own.

Not knowing the answers is frustrating, it makes us feel inadequate, like a failure. The new question I want you to consider is… are these feelings & thoughts based in reality? Are these thoughts true?

Some years ago I listened to a tele-class with Stephanie Franks, author of The Accidental Millionaire where she talked about this limiting belief that we should be able to figure it out on our own.

Your ability to ask for help may suggest that you have subscribed to this limiting belief.

Remember back to when you were in school. During exam time, students were required to complete the exam alone, in silence. The expectation was that we should know the answers or be able to figure them out – on our own.

If we dared to ask a fellow student anything concerning the exam it was a no-no and viewed as cheating. Our teachers didn’t encourage us to work in groups or “mastermind” with students who were top of the class.

These experiences impact our belief systems and as entrepreneurs a belief that once served us well and kept us out of the Principals office no longer supports our success.

Your belief system has years of background story just like this one. Sculpted and molded through experiences, our culture, influential people and more.

If you’ve caught yourself doing things that sabotage your success or, not doing things to support your success and you can’t figure out why, start to listen to your inner voice.

Our beliefs influence our thoughts, dictate our habits, affect our decisions and ultimately create our results/reality.

Are you living a reality that you love?

If not… it may be time for your believability makeover!

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