Are you worried with the thought "my wife does not desire me".

If you've been thinking of ways to get her to want to be intimate with you again, then you should be commended for not wanting to give up.

Here are some steps you can take today to start to make that happen again …

Why It Hurts to Think That Your Wife Doesn't Desire You Anymore …

Marriage gets really tough when you think that your wife doesn't feel the way that she used to anymore. It's frustrating and it just really hurts your feelings, and frankly makes you feel pretty insecure.

It leaves you wondering why, what's wrong with you, and it leaves you wondering if there's someone else that she is desiring. Am I right? Are you feeling these things?

Not to mention that you just might like to get some every now and then. But let me not digress into high school humor …

Reasons Why You May Be Having to Say My Wife Does Not Desire Me …

Here's the thing. There are tons and tons of reasons why it may seem as though your wife doesn't desire you anymore.

Maybe she doesn't. Sure that may be a possibility … but likely there's some sort of other reason why she's having these feelings. Or should I say not having those feelings.

First of all it's important to realize that women don't look at intimacy and sex the same as men. For us guys it doesn't take a whole lot actually. Little cleavage, tight pants, and a cross breeze and that's usually enough for us. Basically as men we're more visually stimulated, and that goes way back into our genes … and into our reptilian brain. Basically it's an ancient mechanism put in place so we could procreate like crazy.

But women need a little more to get into the desire frame of mind. Women actually have to be stimulated mentally more than physically. There has to be other things in place than just visual stimulation. Women need to be stimulated emotionally in order to feel desire.

This means that there are a lot of things that can act as a barrier to your wife's desire for intimacy with you. This is of course a good sign if you're my wife does not desire me. Because knowing this gives you the power to remove some of those barriers and hopefully that will do the trick.

You see many men will try and try to get their wife to desire them by doing the wrong things, simply because they feel like it should work since it would work on them.

It's the same reason that women don't like porn. It's does nothing for MOST women. However most really do enjoy a good romance novel. Why … because it gets them emotionally involved. It plays on their senses.

Now let's talk about some of the barriers that might be causing your wife not to desire you.

Stress … Stress is a biggie these days. If your wife's mind is tied up in thinking about bills, kids, job, dinner, and whatever else she's not going to feel much like being intimate at all.

Security … When your wife is not feeling secure in life then her intimacy and desirable feelings will be blocked. So making your wife feel secure either financially, and or physically will make her have much more desire. That's frankly why you see guys who are ugly as heck … but look like they'd clear a bar without batting an eye usually has the hot women all over them. That's also why rich guys have no problem creating desire in women. Guess Chuck Lidell is doing pretty well with the women huh?

Desirable … If your wife isn't feeling desired then she's not going to feel desirable, which means she won't be showing any desire for you. Basically, if your wife isn't feeling good about herself then it's going to be very hard for her to 'get in the mood' so to speak Insecurities are one of the biggest reasons for lack of intimacy in a relationship. Unfortunately as years go by and a women is feeling older, and with busy schedules she's not making to the gym as much she may not feel as though you feel the same about her.

So these are just some of the things to keep in mind if you're feeling the wife does not desire me .