Ego also means personality, character, self-image, sense of self, opinion of self, self-worth and self-esteem. A man’s ego or sense of self is so important to him that he uses his all to defend and protect it from all impact, including the result of his own mistakes.

When a man’s ego is hurt by his superiors, he has a hard time picking himself up again. He usually transfers aggression to his subordinates or spouse and even female friends.

If a man’s ego is rubbished by his subordinates or spouse, he punishes the act in such ferocious ways that are; most of the time, not comparable to the hurt he has suffered but always in measures far worse. This is what translates to high-handedness in the conduct of many a man. It makes women and children wonder where the love the man had professed for them traveled to.

Man is a pack of ego. This understood, wives can keep their husbands close to their hearts’ desire if they could but be meek enough to deliberately massage the ego of their husbands regularly. This is not to be done derisively. It should be done as a normal duty. All considered, a woman is actually supposed to focus all her attention and desires on her husband. Putting the man up as the lord and master out of the woman’s own volition appears, in my opinion, as a cool way to focus one’s attention and desire on one’s husband.

There should be no fear of subjugation. Praises move even the gods to do more for mortals. How much less mortal men? Experiences have shown that when men are put up as wonderful they behave exactly that way and when they are put up as rags, they behave exactly the same way.

In fact, it is the physical, verbal and mental effort of women to prove equality with men that lead to subjugation. Intrinsically, women are superior to men, especially in the spiritual and emotional plane. These two areas rule the life of human beings more than the sheer physical superiority of most men.

Men would resist any efforts to prove superior to them in the physical and mental sense. But when the superiority is on the spiritual and emotional plane, they do not even understand exactly what is happening. They don’t stand a chance. In fact, they view all acts by the female folks that enhance their spiritual and emotional capacities and superiority as a sign that women have acceded all powers to them. Think about some of the time when women cry, men’s hearts are melted naturally.

It seems to me that a woman would get the best part of her man if she set him up as superior in the mental and physical aspects while she rule him where it mattered most – with her spiritual and emotional superiority. This means that women would need to enhance their spirituality and sharpen their emotional language skills.

It is possible for a woman to very easily sharpen her emotional language skill and her spiritually be reading from the best books and applying the principles contained therein. It is the duty and place of every woman to work her relationship. This is basically what is being required here. Many a woman has erroneously believed that getting a husband is the end of the journey. Actually, getting a husband is just the beginning of a long story.

Attitudes, character and disposition of both men and women in a relationship need continuous improvement. Deliberately looking out for what to do to improve and support your spouse is what best describes marriage which I have just recently learnt that it is not a noun but a verb meaning a doing word.

This is a new theory. Let us share our understanding of it, criticize it, review it and prove it worthwhile or useless.