In swinging there is a style of sexual activity to fit every occasion. There is no right or wrong style, it is just a matter of whatever is preferable to each couple, and choosing what works best for you:

SOFT SWINGING

Many couples choose soft swinging, also known as “soft swap” as a great way to begin exploring the Swinging Lifestyle. They feel that soft swinging allows them to add a little spice to their relationship without the risk of jealousy. Couples do not exchange partners at any time during the session because they prefer to keep actual intercourse between themselves, rather than sharing it with other people. Couples can have sex with their own partners while another couple is having sex in the same room, and at the same time. Soft swinging involves teasing, foreplay, and even oral sex with another couple before returning to your own partner for actual intercourse. These things are usually negotiated between the couples in advance. Soft swinging can also include girl on girl play only while the men watch.

OPEN SWINGING

Also known as “full swap – same room only”, this kind of swinging allows couples to swap partners and have sexual intercourse in the same room, and quite often in the same bed. Couples who prefer to be together at all times during sexual play will choose this type of swinging activity. The male will be with the female of the other couple and the female will be with the male of the other couple. Depending on choice of bisexuality, there can also be sexual contact between same sexes. One of the main benefits of open swinging is that because everything is done together for all the parties concerned there is no question of what is said or done.

Open swinging is also perfect for exhibitionists and voyeurs. It can be very erotic to both watch your partner receive pleasure from another, and to look up and see your partner watching you receive pleasure from another. Open swinging can also possibly lead to some variations of group sex and techniques that are not possible in closed swinging.

Many swingers find that open swinging allows for the total release of their sexual desires and fulfillment of fantasies. Because open swinging can only be successful when there is no jealousy demonstrated by any members of the group, it is usually only recommended for couples who have been swinging for some time.

CLOSED SWINGING

Also referred to “full swap – completely open”, this kind of swinging allows couples to swap partners and have sexual intercourse in separate rooms. Swingers who choose this type of activity for sexual play feel that it allows the freedom and privacy to “discover” their swinging partner in a deeper way without the distractions of another couple in the same room. Another benefit of closed swinging is that is allows the freedom to act out various fantasies without feeling like you are being watched. Closed swinging is usually practiced by couples who have been swinging for some time, and have built up enough trust and understanding between each other to make it an enjoyable and successful experience.