There are no good or bad emotion, what makes them either good or bad is the way that they are used. That is especially true in the case of anger. Anger can save your life in time of crisis but if left unchecked, it can also bring a world of misery.

Anger usually happens when a person feels not in complete control or overwhelmed by a condition or situation. The feeling of anger kicks in an effort to rally personal resources that would otherwise not be available. In other words, anger is spawned by a feeling of helplessness and not by a sensation of strength. Sadly, that is not how it is sometimes perceived.

In some circles, the propensity to get angry is viewed as a sign of character, strength and power. Nothing could be further from the truth. Strong people are not prone to anger. They are not prone to anger because they are very seldom in conditions where they see themselves vulnerable so there is no need for anger.

It should also be noted that anger robs a person of a great portion of the ability to think clearly and rationally. It is also well know that the angrier a person becomes, the more irrational will be the behavior.

Most mature people will see anger as a sign of personal weakness therefore will try to avoid it at all cost.

It is certain that the emotion of anger has its place. In cases of physical aggression, anger will monopolize brute strength that would not otherwise be available. As previously said, there are no bad emotions, even anger has its time and place.

When I was much younger I used to have an issue with anger. And, the worst part is that I used to take pride in the fact that I could fly off the handle at the slightest provocation. I felt that it was a way of gaining respect since people around me were constantly walking on eggs and afraid that they could set me off.

Luckily, I began to read biographies and started to emulate my heroes. That’s when I realized that the smartest and brightest among us were not prone to violence or anger. That was an epiphany for me. I knew then that I must change.

The way that I changed was by associating a profound distaste for lack of personal control and much admiration for self-control. Almost overnight I changed. I cannot recall the last time I got angry and I feel much better and a whole lot worthier because of that… and also much more effective in “delicate” situations.