I am an impatient person, which explains why I don't want to wait for a reply most of the time. I once took part in the online dating process and I was coerced to use email. It put me through the agony of sitting around and wondered what is going to happen next. Sometimes, I didn't even get a response.

Instant messaging eliminates all of this suspense. Once the person is online, you are able to send that person an instant message. When he or she responds immediately, you are engaged in a conversation.

True, instant messaging is an immediate process but that doesn't mean that your initial communications don't have to be intellectual. If you don't give much thought before you speak to others, it is unlikely that you will get a response.

Women in particular receive instant messaging messages and winks from males of all categories. So, if you are a guy who is interested in a hot woman, what tricks do you have up your sleeve that will make her notice you?

It isn't too difficult. I always suggest that you take some time to read her profile meticulously and think about something that interests you. Maybe it is a shared experience? Or maybe it is a quality that you admire? Expanding part of the profile that is special to the individual is a good enough way to make sure this person notices you.

Such an approach is almost guaranteed to get a response if she is online. It's better to carry out some research about that topic to make sure that you know the subject well. Giving opinions is a good ice-breaker.

Another way to do this is to simply ask the person whether you can ask a quick question in regards to the person's profile. It is also a good way to make that person know that you are paying attention to other details; the good news is that you are not associated with the other superficial people.