Is Assisted Fertility or Surrogacy Natural?

Because fertility is such a private experience and one that can lead you to question your whole sense of self, your masculinity or femininity, your relationships, your body, your worth, even the very meaning of your life, it is something that many of us suffer in silence.

Many of the women I work with really want to have their baby naturally… without any outside assistance to support conception or implantation and without requiring another woman’s body in which the baby can grow until he or she is ready to be born into this world. There is a sense that because the traditional way of having a baby is the most common, it must be the best way.

What I have found working with women with fertility challenges, is that a lot of the pain that comes up around considering Assisted Fertility, surrogacy or adoption stems from our ideas about what is natural and what isn’t.

And it is clear that this very strong desire to have your baby naturally is happening in a world in which most people probably believe that Assisted Reproductive Therapy, IVF or IUI and surrogacy just don’t fall into that category.

We believe that natural means the way things have always been done or the way things occur without any medical intervention or assistance from others.

A Deeper Understanding of Natural Family Creation

But that interpretation is not really accurate when one has an understanding about how the Universe works and what is natural from a broader perspective.

We are living in a Universe in which everything is expanding and growing. Everything is changing all of the time. Change and development are what is natural and normal for everything in the universe. Change is fundamental to life and change is fundamental to new life.

This applies to changes in the ways in which we can conceive, create new life, have a baby and expand our families. It is absolutely natural that these develop in new ways.

It is part of healthy, normal evolution.

You can have your baby. You can become a mother or father. And you can do it naturally by embracing the idea that newness, change and evolution are the most natural things in the world when it comes to baby making.

So the next time you think of IUI, IVF, Assisted Reproductive Therapy, surrogacy, adoption or any other way of creating family I invite you to remember and celebrate just how wonderfully natural that is!