One of the most perplexing situations to deal with is how to win your ex back when you think you may have driven him away. What you have to remember is that couples go through all kinds of stages during the course of a relationship, and most of the time their troubles are the result of some sort of confusion about something that was said or done. Confusion about something, not what really went on. If this is your situation, this article will show you how to win your ex back without delay.
It is a fact, misunderstandings are the primary reason why people break up, so the first thing you have to do is look back at what you think might have gone wrong and try to discover how your boyfriend might have misinterpreted something that you said or did. You probably already know in your gut what might have made him get the wrong idea enough to want to break up with you, but here are some additional common reasons that you may or not have thought about:
1. Have you smothered him to death with attention? Have you tried to do everything in your power to please him? As examples, have you prepared the meals he likes, cleaned up after him, gone to the events he cares about with no regard to doing the things you enjoy? If after looking back on your relationship, you discover that you have indeed been a living doormat, then this may be the reason your guy bolted.
Men, of course, do like attention, but they also like to have a woman who not only knows her own mind, but actually acts like her own person. Sure they like to be respected, but they want you to respect yourself as well. In order to win your ex back, you will have to change back to the person you were when he first fell in love with you. Show him that you do still care about him, but now you also care about and respect yourself.
2. When you think back over your relationship, did you talk about the other men in your life before him? It is okay to mention that you dated other guys before him. But it is not all right to give him all the glorious details. If your history of dating before him was limited to only one guy, and you keep going on and on about how terrific he was in basketball, how well he danced, how many times he was the top scorer, or what a neat dresser he was, the man you love may have felt you still had feelings for your ex. Maybe he felt like he was always competing with him. Is that possible?
Or, maybe the guy you dated before your ex was a terrible louse. Did you talk about all his negative aspects? That can be a real turn-off because your ex may have always been trying not to come off like your previous boyfriend. It could be that he analyzed his behavior so much that he got sick of it.
3. What image did you give off? Were you flirty with other guys? Were you to business like? Did you dress and behave like a guy? All these things can make a man run for the hills. The ideal woman is feminine, kind, and conservative in her appearance. I don’t mean that she dresses like a prude, but she should avoid showing skin down to the belly button. She should not come off cheap or act superior to her man.
4. Were you always badgering him? Were you trying to get him to tell you how he felt about you and what the relationship meant to him? Guys do not like to be pressured into saying things about their status in the relationship.
5. Did you tell him how stupid some of his ideas were? Or, even though you knew they were insane, did you hold your tongue, and phrase him for at least having an idea, hoping against hope that he wouldn’t put it into action? Men do not like to be challenged, and for that matter neither do women. Just treat him like a human being and you will be fine.
6. Evidently, when you first got together with your ex, you thought he was terrific. Did you try to change him? He thought when you were attracted to him that you loved him for who he was, if you started wanting to change things about him, and then he starts beginning to think that you think there are some serious problems with him.
When you analyze your relationship with these six things in mind, I’ll bet you will see that your past behavior exhibited one or at least some of these tendencies. Learning how to get back together is only a matter of pinpointing the things you were doing wrong to send him packing. You can win your ex boyfriend back by changing your own behavior to suit what he wanted in his woman.
Learning how to get back together is simple, but if changing to this extent to win your ex back is just more than you are willing to do, then you probably need to get on with your life and find someone who suits your personality better because most men will want a woman who behaves in the manner we’ve discussed in this article.
