In the swinging lifestyle you can be having sex with new partners regularly. Sometimes there is a feeling of anxiety when meeting up with someone new for sex and you may struggle to keep an erection whilst swinging. If you cannot keep it up for long enough then this can become a problem. But do not stress about it as there are several things you can do to help treat this issue.
Firstly you need to have a look at the cause of your penis not staying hard. Sometimes you may have had a hard day or week at work and may end up quite tired when the time for intercourse arrives. At swingers parties it can be around midnight when it is time to perform and by then you may be more looking forward to going to sleep than trying to keep an erection. Also at a swingers party you may have been trying so hard to meet new people that mentally you are not focused on sex and by the time it is about to happen you are absolutely drained of energy.
Another reason for not being able to keep an erection is due to the condom. It can be annoying to wear because it can dull the sensitivity in the penis causing it to go limp, but it is essential protection that should always be worn.
So how do you keep an erection whilst swinging? There are several ways to help this situation. Firstly you need to look after your health and fitness by exercising regularly. This will help with the fatigue you may occasionally experience and may help to keep you harder late in the evening. You will also be in better physical shape so this will mean that you can carry on having sex for longer due to the fact that you are fitter.
Other lifestyle factors such as too much alcohol and smoking may also be contributing to the issue.
You could visit your doctor and ask for a script for some medication that will help you keep an erection, but avoid becoming too reliant upon it. Use a very small dosage that is just enough to keep you hard. The only downside to medication is that you need to take it about an hour before you plan to have sex, so it can take away the spontaneous nature of having sex.
A thinner condom will also help as it will not reduce the feeling and sensation as much as a thicker condom. Bear in mind that a thinner condom will increase the risk of breakage, so do be careful.
Abstaining from sex for a period of time in the lead up to a swingers event can also help, as you will be more excited about the upcoming experience that you are about to have and be more likely to keep an erection. You will be more focused upon your new partner for the evening and your mental state will be much sharper.
The best way to help you keep an erection for longer whilst swinging is to change what you are thinking about and what you are focusing on. Your mental state is by far the biggest key to help you keep an erection provided there are no medical reasons for you to not become erect. If you are having anxiety and performance issues regarding swinging then altering your mental state will also help with this.
So your answer to keeping hard is in your thoughts and what you are saying to yourself. You need to be thinking the right things to keep your erection whilst swinging.