Well for one thing there are no surefire ways to get your girlfriend back. There are only guidelines and tips. You can use these guidelines and tips as sort of a framework or blueprint to follow. But in the end it is important to remember that every situation is different and unique. You must use this outline for your framework or blueprint and then go and fill in the blanks according to your situation. You can use the following outline to complete your blueprint according to your situation…

1. What was the reason for the break up?

Here you must try and understand why the relationship was ended. Maybe it is clear cut like

there was cheating involved or maybe you were told something like “I think it is time we see some other people!” Whatever the reason given you must try and understand these reasons.

If you understand why the relationship ended you can get to the root of your problems. Then you can work on these problems to ensure that these mistakes are not repeated. Not only if you reconcile with your girlfriend but also in a new relationship. Working on your problems will not only show your girlfriend you are prepared to better yourself for them but you will also be more committed in a new relationship with them.

2. Take a step back?

This is a good time to take a break from your relationship. I know it is easier said than done. You are in a panic. You want constant contact with your ex girlfriend. You want to plead and make promises. But in this panic state your emotions will run wild with you. And when your emotions can not be held in check you might just say and do something which will only damage your chances of getting your girlfriend back. Now here you must focus on clearing your head of all your panic. You must write down things you can do to keep yourself preoccupied from wanting to phone your girlfriend all the time. Keep yourself busy and use this time to also plan your next moves. With a clear mind and a mind in strategic mode you can approach getting your girlfriend back with more confidence. And believe it or not this time away from your girlfriend will also be a time where your girlfriend will think about you a lot. This is human nature. You will miss someone more when they are not there compared to someone who is there all the time in your company.

3. Why did we fall in love in the first place?

Go back to the beginning. Why did you fall in love with each other? Write down the things that attracted your girlfriend to you in the first place. You can also write down some positives and negatives of your relationship. Through this process you can gauge your true feelings about whether you truly want your girlfriend back. You may just be surprised that your feelings may change here. This step is not to change your mind about wanting your girlfriend back but it will ensure that whatever you do from here on you do it for the right reasons. There must never be regrets in your life.

4. What is my next move?

Now you must decide on how to make contact with your girlfriend after the time away from each other. What will you say and do to make sure your girlfriend answers the phone and are prepared to get together with you. Here you must have a clear cut plan to follow. One suggestion is to create curiosity with your ex. When you phone your girlfriend or write to her make sure you put in something like “Something great happened to me, remind me to tell you about it sometime”. You see this will make them curious and certainly will ensure that they respond to this curiosity. You must put some thinking into this. This is why it is important to have a clear plan to follow.