Women ask me all the time “How do you know he is into you?” I tell them that we all have “radar” or women’s intuition upon meeting someone for the first time. It’s that little voice that speaks to us in the first 5 to 10 minutes and if we listen to our women’s intuition, it passes some gut judgement about what our inner gut (our Soul) knows and we should pay attention to. Your radar can tell you how to find a nice man. The trouble starts when we ignore it if it is not saying something we (our Ego) wants to hear.

Let me give you an example. I met a man for the first time a couple of years ago. We met in a restaurant – actually by mistake we met in the parking lot early and laughing agreed to make a quick detour into a grocery store before it closed – me for some special crackers and him for some pomegranates. I had more groceries than he did and offered to pay for his (no biggie). His radar went off right then and there that I was a “kind person who thought of others” – the type of woman who was the opposite to those he had recently dated. I was just focused on getting the groceries paid for and in the car. He kept his mouth shut though and off we went to dinner.

When I sat opposite to him and finally showed up mentally and physically and turned all my attention to him, we started to chat easily and gracefully. That VOICE showed up probably within the first 15 minutes. It was telling me… “He’s the marrying type.”

It turned out he was older than I was by about 11 years ( yes, he had fibbed on his online profile) and he had been married before (he had grown children and grandchildren), got divorced, and married another woman who had died in an accident 2 or 3 years earlier.

I didn’t know any of this though when that women’s intuition voice spoke to me. It was intuition that said that we were looking longterm for different things. But my demeanor changed once I heard that voice. I engaged him and entranced him he says as I was unlike any other woman he had met. He wanted a shot at me – he wanted to date me. He knew at the end of that dinner date though that I probably didn’t want to date him. He says I was very gracious and kind but he sensed that might be the last he would see of me.

He was heading off on a trip to Barcelona for 3 weeks vacation the next day and he kept emailing me throughout the trip. He knew what he wanted and he wanted a shot at me. Through his words and stories, he sparked my funny bone and engaged my mind. He asked if I would meet him for a drink when he got back and I agreed – one drink…

Well 18+ months later – some fabulous months by the way – he was generous and kind and the life of the party (and there were parties!) and a couple of semi serious attempts to see if I would marry him – I asked him to break it off. He needed someone who was going to be his GIRLFRIEND (we argued over that word as we both saw it framed very differently) and whom he could hopefully make his Fiance and ultimately maybe even his Wife. My woman’s intuition was correct. Ten minutes into meeting him, my psyche told me that he was the marrying type and it took me over 18 months to work it through to really listen to it.

I have no regrets. We had some great times together and yet still my woman’s intuition was right all along. I later found out that prior to us officially “breaking up” he had been emailing another woman who is probably more in tune to his lifestyle and who will hopefully enjoy the moniker “girlfriend” and maybe even at some point, “wife”. Who knows what her woman’s intuition said to her when she met him (smile).