If you’ve ever experienced a man getting really intense with you because you were connecting then disappearing, I know it leaves you confused.

You’re looking at his behavior and wondering why he’s no longer into you. Guys disappear for many reasons. 95% of women do not know that when a guy comes on strong, they need to pull back and keep at least two steps behind him.

Most women spend hours responding to a man’s attention. They’ll do things like talk on the phone for hours or spend the whole day texting because the man is making them feel special and important. If you’re doing this, a man’s attention is making you feel desirable but sooner or later he will get emotionally exhausted and will pull back.

The trick is to pull back before he does. When you stay a few steps behind him, it will be much easier for him to have the comfort of your connection without feeling overwhelmed. You should never respond to a man or your boyfriend with the same intensity as he is responding because this causes men to withdraw. Women often fail to understand this and many are left completely heartbroken when a guy decides he’s going to pull the plug.

Your boyfriend or the man you’re seeing will be more into you when he sees that you are not as eager because you will always appear confident and self-assured when you allow him to lead the relationship. Pulling back does not mean that you should dumb yourself down or go along with everything he says, it just means that you’re not hopping like a school girl high on sugar and making him think you’ve never had anything this good.

If your guy seems as if he’s no longer into you, your pull back has to be even greater. You can’t make it appear that you’re into him when he’s not showing signs he’s into you. In this case, you have to match his actions.

The rule is, when he’s into you, stay a few steps behind with your actions and and when he’s showing signs that he’s losing interest, make it appear that you’re also not that interested. I know you’re wanting to know how to get him back if he’s rejected you but your emotions will make you look more like a fool if you keep showing him you’re still way into him when its obvious he’s not.

Your best bet is to use logic and this has a way of getting a man’s attention faster than acting on your emotions.