One fiction that has been spread a lot by the media and people who honestly don’t know what they are talking about is that orgasms are really difficult to give women. Nonsense! Orgasms are something that relies on you getting a lot of small things right, then the big things mostly take care of themselves. That is why this article is dedicated to a list of small things to make sure you get right. This guide is our ‘Better Sex’ guide!
1. Make sure you use the correct fingers. Whenever you insert any of your fingers into her, you could be making a mistake that hurts her. To reach deep inside for the G-spot many people think the middle and index fingers are the best to use. Because of the shape of these fingers, you often end up hitting sensitive places of her body with your knuckles and have less control to boot! Instead the ring and middle fingers are far more effective as you can use your pinkie and index finger to brace against her vulva. This also allows you to use the power of your arm to really make her explode.
2. Talk dirty like a movie star (Kinda!). Yeah, for a lot of guys this can be kinda tough. The best way to make sure that you calibrate everything to her. Try out a lot of things and see which get a reaction. Usually most sex talk comes in 4 flavors: explicit (You tell her exactly what you are about to do to her), profane (You basically say as many swear words as possible), dominant/ recessive (‘I’m going to do something to you/ please do something to me’) and revealing (‘I’m going to tell you a sexy secret or desire’). Once you have discovered what turns her on, say it confidently on one of her highs and thank me later!
3. Be as difficult to predict as possible. When I teach people my ‘Better Sex’ guide tips, I usually get out a big marker and circle this point. Women love the unpredictable! Therefore make sure that you always keep her on her toes sexually. Pull down her panties while she is cooking; jump on her one day, then have sex as gently as possible the next; etc. Really keep her constantly wondering what you will do next and the whole day is mental foreplay for her.
4. Don’t get carried away. Whenever people write to me to brag about giving their girls 10 orgasms and having sex all night every night usually one of two things come to mind: they are lying (Even porn stars need a break!) and they are probably not making it all that good for her. In other words: don’t show off, give her what she wants. Sometimes you have to give her a quickie and she will be happy with that. Basically make it about both of you and not about you showing off.
5. Kegel, Kegel, Kegel. What ‘Better Sex’ guide would be complete without discussion of these exercises. They help many couples becoming orgasmic and can even help with things like multiple orgasms. On top of that they have so many extra benefits that you should be doing them anyway.
6. A Woman Has Unlimited Erogenous Zones. This is one of the best things that I ever found out about women, when they are turned on, every part of their body is a massive erogenous zone. The spine is a great example. Next time you are in a rear-entry position, try rubbing your tongue up her spine and watch the response. Some girls will also have ones that you have never even considered (Such as the wrist or armpit), so try everything out and see what you come up with.
7. Don’t be the good guy or the bad boy. This one has been the subject of about half a million books and articles, however it is really important. The entirely Good Guy is predictable and boring to most women and doesn’t give them the excitement they need. The Bad Boy gives her the excitement, but is too unpredictable and unreliable. Basically you can really ramp up your sex life by being both, switching the roles to make sure that she is always looking forward to your next visit.
8. It is okay for the woman to initiate sex. If this ‘Better Sex’ guide really stresses anything, it should be to let your woman initiate sex sometimes. Make sure that when she does, you make the sex great as a ‘reward.’ This helps to eliminate the ‘sex is the reward the woman offers the guy for good behavior’ dynamic that plagues so many otherwise good relationships. In addition you get more sex as a side benefit!
9. Dressing up can help your woman unleash her sexual side and really lead to amazing orgasms. Whenever I give couples the ‘How to: Orgasms’ guide it seems that people often have a view that wearing costumes is about schoolgirl outfits and nurses! This is a fun part, but not the whole picture. Try changing your image a little and see the huge results. Wear a suit when she is expecting you in jeans. Dress as ruggedly as possible to surprise her. Once that release happens, great orgasms naturally follow.
10. Follow Her Cues. Ever notice that girls do strange things like push your hips to the side or move their hands over their body in a strange way. Guess what? She is giving you some major hints. Try touching her in a similar way or in that place and see what happens. Or link your hands with hers and let her guide you. It also adds to the intimacy between you.
Anyway those are the ten things to work on. Remember that sex is something that you want to enjoy. These techniques are just things for you to try out that should work on most girls. Once you start to take care of the small things, soon the big things become easier as everything follows the same rules. The most important part is to consume as much information as possible as each woman is different but similar, so by knowing all the tricks you can easily find one for her. Once you are calibrated completely to her, the magic starts.
