So, you have broken up with your ex girlfriend, and now you want to call her and don't want to mess it and turn it into a begging session. Yes, you may call her, but you have to understand the psychology of breakup first. Remember that breakup is not easy for some people. Your ex girlfriend might not be willing to remember about it, let alone talking to you. So, when you call her, you have to make it as if the calling has nothing to do with the breakup. In this way, you can make her want to call you back or at least consider talking to you. Here are 5 tips to call her without being needy:

1. Don't plead, don't beg

When you grab that telephone and before you enter her number, you have to remember that you are not calling her to beg for her to get back with you again. You are also not pleading with her to go out with you again, or even to forgive you. You are going to maintain a steady voice.

2. Don't act as if you are on the state of emergency

Don't tell her that it is an emergency call and she needs to call you back immediately. It's an old trick, and it doesn't work well for her in any way. There's no emergency that you need to push to her. You call her simply because you want to call and hear her voice.

3. Ask her to meet in person

If she is answering your call, don't chat with her for too long on the phone. You have to ask her to meet you in person. It is important because it is better for you to talk with her face to face. In this way, you can work your way to attract her interest back to you more effectively. Remember, don't talk too much on the phone.

4. Don't push her to answer your call

If she doesn't answer your call and instead you get her answering machine, just don't push her to answer your call. Leave the choice to her. Just let her know that there is something you want to talk about and you want her to call her back. Keep your calm voice.

5. Raise her self-interest

You have to make her feel interested toward you. So, you have to leave a message that will raise her self-interest. For instance, you can tell her that you appreciate her for the things that she has done to you, but you don't tell her what that thing is. This will make her want to call you back just to confirm about what you're talking on the phone.