All most everybody worries about what will happen if they are in a stressful and scary situation. The prospect of not knowing what to do can be frightening. As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on how to manage the fear of an upcoming situation

The first thing a person can do is to visualize yourself doing the scary task in your mind. For instance, you and your team have to play in the championship volleyball game in front of a large group of people in the next few days. Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large audience. By playing the game in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform for real when the time comes. Self-Visualization is a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a coming situation.

Try to find the motivation from within before performing the task. You will be more successful if you have a solid reason for doing the task. If you are not sure why you are doing a certain task, then the fear will get the best of you. Having the motivation and enthusiasm will help you to manage the fear and increase your chances of success.

When encountering a scary situation that gets us all upset, always remember to get all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on the facts, a person can rely on what is reality and what is not.

Take it one step at a time. Don't try to do too much at the same time because you will be easily overwhelmed. Take it slow and go at your own pace if you are able.

Don't forget to Pray and ask God for help. A person can only do so much. Asking God for help can give us additional resources to help manage our fears and anxieties. It is not always easy, however God is in control and he will help you if you ask him.

As a Layman and author of an anxiety book, I have faced many situations that made me anxious and fearful. I realize it is not easy to deal with the fear of the unknown, however sometimes the fear can be worse than the situation. If you have trouble managing your anxiety, then talking to someone who can make you feel better.

There are many reasons a person may not be able to verbally communicate. The answer could be as simple as a stubborn will. More likely, it involves Alzheimer's, dementia or other medical issues including reactions to certain medications. When words are gone or memory fails, even for a short period of time, we have to learn other ways to communicate so people will feel valued and loved.

We all have been around people who find it difficult or impossible to speak. If they have been long-time friends, we wonder how to respond if they do not recognize us. If we look the other way or find an excuse to leave quickly, the end result may result in embarrassment, rejection, or hurt feelings.

Follow these basic guidelines to improve communication in any situation.

1. Always take time to acknowledge someone you meet in public.

Have you crossed the street to avoid meeting an old friend with Alzheimer's? Greeting the hurting couple with a handshake and sincere smile might boost their confidence and help them cope in awkward situations. Depending on circumstances, you might offer to carry bags, buy a cup of coffee, or promise to pray faithfully for them.

2. Acknowledge each person you meet in a home setting.

Jenny was caring for her elderly aunt who was deaf. On my first visit, no one introduced the aunt although she was in her wheelchair in the middle of the room. Before greeting anyone else, I went directly to the frail, little woman whom I had not met before. With a broad smile, she took my outstretched hands and gave them a good squeeze. She needed to be recognized and encouraged.

3. Find creative ways to communicate non-verbally.

A young man will drive all day to spend a few hours with his grandmother. Her days of visiting with him verbally are gone forever and yet this is a special time for each of them. Before the grandson visits his parents or anyone else in the home, he heads directly to his grandmother's chair. Her quiet little world suddenly brightens as he smiles, hugs on her and asks, "Would you like a candy bar, Grandma?" Excitement will mount as he slowly unwraps a Hershey bar. No words can describe the very real, very intense "conversation" that follows as he makes sure Grandma knows she is loved.

4. Accept the situation as it is; not as you wish it were.

When a mother says bluntly, "I am not your mother", you have to accept the fact that, in her mind, you are a stranger caring for her. Whether she knows you as her daughter or not is not the primary issue. She needs to know the person taking care of her loves her and she needs to be assured she is in a safe environment.

A need for acceptance is built inside each of us. We long to please, to be a part of the activity in our surroundings. We need to feel loved.

Experience has taught me, when my own feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, or exhaustion surface, all I need do is find someone to love on a bit. There is truly healing in a kind word or hug. Jesus said, "Love one another." I trust you will find someone needing a big hug and a smile and share with them today. It's contagious.

Fact is guys do not get pregnant. No arguments there. The truth is though just because guys do not get pregnant does not mean that a guy would get away with allowing the teenage pregnancy situation. Here are my summarized reasons on why guys should not allow this

1. As a younger person in high school or university or even early in your career you are either very satisfied with the girl that you are dating or you want to meet more girls (yeah that's reality). Either way you need to avoid getting a girl pregnant early on because if you are satisfied with the girl that you are dating chances are you still want to enjoy her youth, have her dress hot, go out and not get into a serious parenting situation prematurely . Well if you are not satisfied with the girl that you are dating and you are still looking it's even worse because if you get her pregnant early on then you are complicating the situation for yourself because someday you might meet the girl that you are really crazy about and want to settle with. Having a child might complicate your situation. Sometimes when guys score a hot chick that becomes their girlfriend they kind of relax and almost don't mind the premature pregnancy situation. The truth is girls change over time so the fact that a girl is hot at 21 might not mean she will be the same at 28 so why not wait until you are ready to settle.

2. As a guy you probably cherish your freedom. This is true whether you know it or not. Guys are about freedom, they like fast cars, they like hanging out late, and they like buying gadgets. If you get a girl pregnant early-on in a way you are compromising on that freedom because instead of doing whatever you please you will have to remember to stash a few bucks somewhere to provide for your junior or buy them toys or celebrate their birthdays. Yeah all the adult stuff. You do not want to get to that situation prematurely.

3. Being a guy is also about being in control of your life and taking charge. The truth is sometimes allowing the premature pregnancy situation might take that away from you as a guy. People and relationships change over time, sometimes you might find that you have impregnated the wrong girl so she gives you drama, make demands, claim maintenance … all the negative situations that adults should be dealing with. You do not want to be in that position

There is more that I could write about this but I know you probably tired of reading cause that's all you do really schooling and working. So yeah I wanted to keep this brief and short. Good luck

The Difference Is What We See And How We Interpret It

When was the last time you experienced a negative situation? Recall the event as best you can and think about how you responded. Did you get caught up in negativity or were you composed? Depending on the event, can you see how the worry and anxiety draws you into despair? It's natural to respond negatively when a condition spirals out of control, particularly when we least expect it. A tirade of negative thoughts emerge and we find ourselves unable to break free from it. I want to reassure you this is normal because of the mind's inherent negativity bias. It is an evolutionary mechanism that has helped mankind evolve over thousands of centuries. However, it becomes a hazard when it works against us.

Each of us has experienced a negative situation at some time. Regrettably, some people experience them more than others and get caught up in victimhood thinking. Perception is everything because what you look for, you will find. The power of free will means we can perceive something as bad in a good situation and complain about it. Someone else will find the good in a negative situation and use it to their advantage. What's important is how we interpret what we see. For example, I was reading through my book reviews on Amazon recently and noticed someone had left me a one star review on my book, Awaken Your Authentic Self. If you buy books on Amazon, you will be familiar with a feature called Look Inside. This allows the user to preview the contents of the book before they buy it. The reviewer mistakenly attributed this feature which was not working as something I had a part in.

To be clear, this is Amazon's domain since they create, manage and host their own website. As an author, my publisher lists the book on Amazon and I am divested of any involvement in the sale or management of its content. I felt a wave of negative emotions come over me when I read the review, since there was little I could do to resolve it. The point I'm trying to make is, sometimes things happen that are out of our control and while we may be innocent, we still have a choice in how we respond. Getting caught up in negativity is of little use because it won't change the outcome. Even if I got upset, I am allowing external conditions to dictate my happiness.

Life Is Neither Fair Nor Unfair

Can you identify with this narrative in your own life? Has something similar happened where you were innocent and though you tried to rectify the situation, it was of little help? This is when we may succumb to negativity because we have been wronged against. However, we have a choice and it may not be the easiest one to make, but it is the better choice for our peace of mind. Anger and negativity reinforces a despairing mindset because we feel transgression is perpetrated intentionally. Listen, bad things happen to good people sometimes. Equally, people believe life is unfair. Life is neither fair nor unfair; It beats on regardless of how much you try to change its nature. I don't mean to say we are insignificant in the scheme of things. Rather, things are bound to happen, and it is not the event itself that fuels our suffering but in choosing our response that dictates whether we remain at peace or get caught up in the storm. Are you comfortable with this idea that perceiving life as fair or unfair does little to help you through difficult times? The questions we ought to ask ourselves is: What am I called to know about this situation? How can I evolve from what is taking place?

Therefore, you win every time you remain positive in a negative situation because life will pull us into despair given the chance. Negativity is only a stone's throw away. Everyone will tell you how difficult life can be but rarely do we hear stories of life being filled with joy and happiness. Even comments on social media nowadays have become an outlet for moral outrage and social injustice. But this is not helping anyone, other than pulling us into hopelessness because we are drawn into this fictitious sense of injustice in the world. Assuredly, what you read enough of is bound to create your reality and for some, social media is their only platform for information. I knew of a client whose only information outlet was Facebook, so all her news and information was catered to her area of ​​interest. She did not read books but preferred Facebook as her source of knowledge, regrettably most of it was negative. With this in mind, I'd like you to think about the earlier example of a recent negative event in your life. Ask yourself the questions I put to you in the second last paragraph and journal what comes up for you. It is by remaining positive in a negative situation we win the day and overcome the negativity of the world. What will you choose?

In participative learning, it is important that each learning activity be debriefed to give the participants an opportunity to reflect on their experience and reinforce their learning.

It is just as important to have those involved in a critical work situation take time to assess whether the actions taken were effective and, if not, what should be done differently in the future.

I've always thought that it made sense to debrief a learning activity or management situation by asking these three questions:

1. What went well?

2. What did go well, and why not?

3. What did you learn?

Recently, I read about an approach that the US Army allegedly uses, called an "After Action Review." This Review also uses three questions for debriefing purposes, but the first two questions differ significantly from my questions:

1. What happened?

2. Why do you think it happened?

3. And what can we learn from it?

Upon reflection, I prefer these questions over my own for three primary reasons.

First, my first two questions approach a situation from a black or white perspective. They require a judgment call: either things went well, or they did go well.

Second, my questions do not delve into why things might have gone well. They only ask why things did not go well.

Third, my last question focuses in on what the individual learned from the situation, rather than on what anyone who will encounter a similar situation in the future needs to keep in mind.

The After Action Review questions generate a much more complete and rich narrative. The first question does not ask respondents to force aspects of a situation into good or bad boxes. When they respond to "What happened?", They have to describe the entire situation from a factual and objective standpoint.

"Why do you think it happened?" requires respondents to reflect on the situation as a whole, looking at causal relationships. The question cannot be adequately answered with a subjective response. Instead, it asks for an objective assessment of the situation.

"What can we learn from it?" moves reflection away from the impact on the individual. Instead, it broadens the learning to identify more universal truths that others can apply to similar circumstances.

Needless to say, I plan to use these "After Action Review" questions in my debriefing activities in the future.

Are there other debriefing questions that you have found work well?

The cells in the human body require energy to run, and it is a nutrient known as CoQ10, or Coenzyme Q10, that processes this energy into a usable form. The body produces this important chemical itself, and this process can be interrupted by the use of very popular medications intended to lower cholesterol, such as Lipitor. The research clearly shows that CoQ10 is important in the health of the heart, as well as a strong antioxidant. In addition, the drugs that may cause deficiency in CoQ10 are also some of the most prescribed. In this article we’ll look at the current deficiency crisis in CoQ10 and what you can do about it.

Coenzyme Q10 is used by the body to process energy, and the more energy an organ uses the more Q10 is contains within its cells. The body produces it through a complicated synthesis of other chemicals, and a lack of CoQ10 has been associated with a variety of heart ailments, many of which can be quickly treated with a supplementation of the nutrient. And since it is a powerful antioxidant, it may help reduce the chances of getting cancer. Unfortunately, there may be a serious lack of CoQ10 in a certain segment of the population.

It has become well established that a class of medications used for lowering cholesterol, known as statins, has the negative side effect of keeping the body from producing enough CoQ10 (Current Drug Therapy, Volume 2, Number 1, January 2007, pp. 39-51(13)). In Current Topics in Nutraceutical Research, a 2005 study was published that suggested physicians be more aware of the effect of statins such as Lipitor on CoQ10. And this may be a large problem.

Why?

Because Lipitor is one of the most prescribed anti-cholesterol medications in the U.S. There are almost 20 million users, and doctors continue to prescribe it as a “magic bullet” in the treatment of high cholesterol to stave off heart disease. Many physicians may not be familiar with Lipitor’s effects on CoQ10, and may actually end up doing more harm than good. There is in fact a program in place to study the side effects of the use of drugs like Lipitor and covers the CoQ10 deficiency problem.

At the University of California at San Diego, the Statin Effects Study collects information on the side effects of statin use. Some of these include muscle pain and cognitive problems such as memory impairment. The study has attributed some of these symptoms to low levels of Q10, directly related to the use of Lipitor and other statins.

So if you’re taking Lipitor, what can you do? Even though CoQ10 supplementation along with statins is not an established procedure at this time, the research clearly shows a serious lack of Q10 in Lipitor users as well as beneficial results from having a higher Q10 level. So should you take a supplement? We of course always recommend discussing any new medication with your doctor first, but it seems to be a reasonable thing to do at this point. In the future, the problems with statins may finally be accepted in the mainstream and the problem of CoQ10 deficiencies can be directly addressed.

In life, when we are confronted with a bad situation, there are actually two outcomes.

The first outcome is obviously negative since it is a bad situation and we may feel distraught or emotionally affected by it. This is an outcome that is fixed by fate – being at the wrong time and at the wrong place. We cannot undo what has happened to us.

However, how the second outcome turns out depends on our thoughts, words and actions. It is not fixed. In fact, we can choose the outcome in our favor. This is destiny in the making and we have the power to make the best of the situation. And the power we have is over our emotion.

Depending on the situation, our emotions can manifest in various forms through our words and actions.

If it is anger over a misunderstanding, the temperamental type will lash out verbally at people whom they perceive has done them wrong. The words they use can be hurtful to the other party as they let their emotions overpower them. They lose their sense of control and as a result, they make the situation worse. Physical altercations can ensure. This is the second outcome and it comes swiftly.

If it is disappointment over something they failed to achieve, they may be conditioned by their lack of ability and perceive themselves as unworthy and undeserving. Such self-defeating thoughts will break their spirits and make them lose their confidence in whatever they do. If they let such thoughts to spiral out of control, they will be filled with pessimism and have a cynical view of the future. This is the second outcome and it is slow but insidious.

Whatever it is, we need to remain calm and be in control of our emotion. A bad situation can only get worse if we let out emotion gets the better of us. A calm state of mind and equanimity will help us to think and act better, thus making the second outcome a positive one, whether immediately or later.

Be mindful of our thoughts, words and actions as they can create results that can be detrimental to us in any negative situation. The second outcome can be worse than the first if we do not learn to control our emotion and cut our losses. Our emotion is controllable and we must subjugate it to our conscious mind by conscious effort. This is not easy to do as our emotions are deep-seated within our subconscious mind and waiting to pounce on us whenever it is triggered by any external stimuli. Our reactions stem from our emotion which pushes us to say or do things without any thoughts to the consequences. Our subconscious mind is much quicker to react to any given situation compared to our conscious mind. This is because of our emotion.

The only way we can think faster than our emotion is by knowing consciously that with every situation, there are two outcomes. The first is fate – things happen for a reason and the second is destiny – we can choose our response.

The Four Pillars of Destiny, a branch of Chinese Astrology, teaches us the difference between fate and destiny. By choosing our responses based on rational minds, we have the power to decide how the second outcome will turn out in any given situation. To create your own destiny, you should know your useful elements and the useful gods based on your birth chart. Please visit us at bazidestiny.yolasite.com .

Imagine you’re in this situation. You’re a professional hockey player. You’re playing in the Stanley Cup Playoffs. It’s the deciding game; you’re in overtime. There are 10 seconds left, and suddenly, one of your teammates passes the puck to you.

What would you do? Would you panic? Would you choke? Would you rise to the occasion and save the day?

How would you feel? Nervous? Alarmed? Excited? Confident?

Overtime in the deciding game, 10 seconds on the clock… and it’s all up to you.

That’s a high-pressure situation.

Do you want to know what all-time hockey great Wayne Gretzky said when asked how he felt in that situation?

Wayne said: “I live the whole season for that moment.”

How is that possible? How is it possible to be in one of the highest-pressure situations most of us could possibly imagine – with the season on the line, your team putting their future in your hands, and millions of fans watching your every move – and feel great about it?

It’s possible because, in that moment, there are two things that are indisputably true about Wayne Gretzky:

He’s really, really good.

He knows he’s really, really good.

And that’s why Wayne Gretzky could feel great about being in the middle of a high-pressure situation. Because he knows that that’s when he can shine the brightest.

So let’s take a closer look at those two attributes of Gretzky’s, and see how they can apply to you.

He’s really, really good.

In other words, he has competence. He’s up to the task at hand. So where does competence come from? Natural ability? Sure, that may be a part of it – but the research shows that it’s only a small part, and that we tend to overrate it. The bigger part of competence comes from things like study, practice, and experience. Study means you’re continuously learning – from colleagues, from coaches, from mentors, from books, from videos, from your successes and mistakes. Practice means simulating the high-pressure situations before they arise, honing your skills, playing “What if” scenarios. And experience means putting yourself in these situations over and over and over again, to the point where “high-pressure” becomes part of your comfort zone.

So if you’re not really, really good at what you do, get really, really good at it. Study, practice, and gain that all-important experience.

He knows he’s really, really good.

In addition to competence, Gretzky also has confidence. The reason he can feel great in a high-pressure situation that might cripple the rest of us is because he’s been there before, and he knows he has what it takes – he knows he’s up to the challenge. So when the adrenaline hits, it manifests itself in electrifying excitement rather than paralyzing fear.

And where does this confidence come from? It comes from competence. It comes from experience. It comes from having been there before – successfully.

“But Bill,” you say, “I know people who are supremely confident in their abilities while at the same time being supremely incompetent at those same abilities.”

Yeah, but for the most part they’re either dilettantes or jerks, aren’t they? And the difference between them and Wayne Gretzky is that, when it’s crunch time, Gretzky could deliver the goods. And have a blast while doing it!

So yes, it is possible to feel great in a high-pressure situation. When you’re really, really good – and you know you’re really, really good – you, like Wayne Gretzky, will start to see those high-pressure situations as opportunities to shine your brightest.

A friend of mine got a flat tire on the way to the airport last week. It was a crisis, and she missed her flight.

I got a flat tire on the way to the airport several years ago. It was an inconvenience, and I made my flight.

What was the difference between the two incidents?

Planning.

When I have an important flight, I get to the airport ridiculously early. My travel mantra is, "I'd rather be bored at the airport than panicked on the highway." So I plan for the unexpected. Because if there's one thing I know about the unexpected, it's that you can expect it.

Tires go flat. Traffic jams happen. Roads close. The unexpected happens. My friend who missed her flight doesn't plan for the unexpected. She says, "It only takes 20 minutes to get to the airport, so if I give myself a half hour, I'll be fine." And she's right – if everything goes perfectly. Which it does … most of the time. But not last week, when the unexpected happened.

And that's when, for her, a routine trip to the airport suddenly became a high-pressure situation.

In a sense, she created the high-pressure situation by not planning for the high-pressure situation. Planning is paramount because the best way to deal with a high-pressure situation is to avoid the high-pressure situation.

Let me say that again.

The best way to deal with a high-pressure situation is to avoid the it.

Look, some high-pressure situations are unavoidable. That's just a part of leadership. But a surprising number of high-pressure situations can be avoided – or at least mitigated – by simply planning for them.

If you have an important presentation to give on Monday morning, don't wait until Sunday night to start writing it. If you think the economy might fall, put some money into savings. If you think you might get a flat tire on the way to the airport, check your air pressure and tread regularly, and give yourself plenty of time, just in case. Because even if you have great tread, you might run over a nail.

Look, stuff happens. Sometimes nasty stuff. Like running over a nail and getting a flat tire. But if you get a flat tire because you did not properly maintain your tires – that's on you. That's a situation that could have been avoided.

If your boss comes to you and says, "Hey Kim, you know that presentation to the executive committee that I asked you to give two Mondays from now? Yeah, I'm gonna need to you give it at noon today instead," that's a legitimate high-pressure situation. But feeling pressure because you had two weeks to prepare and you procrastinated until the night before? That's avoidable; That's on you.

Stuff happens. Sometimes nasty stuff. But if you plan for it in advance, it can just be an inconvenience instead of a high-pressure crisis.

Many people never think about being in a urban survival situation. They certainly don’t think about being in an earthquake survival situation or a tornado survival situation. However those who have had the unfortunate experience think about it now and probably for the rest of their lives. Once you have been in an urban survival situation such as a tornado or hurricane situation you begin to realize how important it is the plan for the possibility of such a situation occurring in the future. You also realize the wisdom of having some sort of survival kit on hand to help the through the situation.

There are different types of urban survival kits that can be purchased or you can make up yourself. What you put in the kit depends on the purpose. a basic urban survival kit will contain things like water, food, ways to keep warm like a simple shelter, rain gear, blankets and a fool-proof way to start a fire. This type of survival kit is designed to stay in the same location for three or four days until the lights come back on other the authorities can make contact.

Other types of urban survival kits include the bug out bag. The get home bag is designed to have in your place of work, such as your office. It will contain a pry bar, breathing masks, water, radio and dried food. These items will help you and others escape the building and eventually find your way home. The bug out bag is like the general urban survival kit and designed for mobility. Being able to move quickly is key to finding a safe place to reside especially after such events as an earthquake or tornado.

The bug out bag can be useful for escaping the urban area in times of crisis. Of course you will have to prepare this survival kit properly. This type of survival kit will aid you in getting to a safe rural area until the crisis situation is over and things are returning to normal. Returning to normal could mean having to exist in a substandard situation for days or even weeks. Just ask the survivors of various hurricanes and earthquakes. Having to rely on government assistance could take longer than you think.

Being prepared for various disaster situations is possible. Thinking ahead to the types of situations your area of the world could be in could be essential for your well-being. There are a number resources on the internet that can help you to prepare for these situations in just one month only taking minutes a day.

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