The T Rex School of Hypnosis

The Tyrannosaurus Rex was an intimidating creature. Was? I should say ‘is’. Get up close to a skeleton of one and you can feel its power in your waters. A tiny voice warns you that, even in death, this thing is terrifying. And in that fear is an important lesson about marketing yourself as a hypnotist.

People often say the T-Rex is history’s deadliest predator. This is wrong for a couple of reasons. First, it wasn’t the deadliest dinosaur. There were bigger, meaner, scarier animals running around. The T-Rex is famous, or perhaps infamous, but fame doesn’t equate to ability.

The second reason why it isn’t the greatest predator ever? I doubt it was a predator at all.

With apologies to Spielberg and Crichton, computational biomechanics suggests that ol’ Rexxie couldn’t run. Its size and weight made it awkward.

And how many jokes are made about their tiny arms? You can’t beat a triceratops with just your jaws.

If not a predator, my guess is that they were scavengers. Predators need to be able to move. Scavengers just need to hold their ground and scare off other scavengers. If you saw that much muscle waddling towards you, you’d choose escaping over lunch.

All the meat with none of the risks of fighting.

Does this shatter your childhood? Does it upset you if I demote the mighty killing machine to a common thief?

If so, I’d better start making up for it. Here’s how this applies in marketing your hypnotic services.

Because even if I knew that no Tyrannosaurus Rex ever hunted…

Even if I could verify that they were cowardly flesh-stealers…

That wouldn’t change how I’d react to staring one down.

Not one iota.

There are two things going in any T-Rex’s favour: truth and reputation. The truth is that an adult is about three metres tall, 12 metres long and ten tons. It’s also true that it has a huge, powerful jaw loaded with teeth. And so, thanks to Hollywood magic, it has a reputation for chasing down jeeps and ripping them to shreds.

Like dinosaurs, hypnotists have truths and reputations. The truth is that hypnosis works for a huge range of issues. It’s true that hypnosis is faster and more effective than most forms of therapy. And, I assume, it’s true that you’re a great hypnotist.

What’s your reputation?

Well, that’s up to you.

You can (and should) base it in fact. Don’t lie and I don’t recommend exaggerating. But think about it: ask someone to name a deadly prehistoric creature and many will name the T-Rex. That’s what you want – when someone thinks of people who solve problems, they think of you.

Figure out what your reputation should be and work it into your marketing. All of your marketing.

How Boys Prepare For Circumcision Among The Meru Community Of Kenya

Kenya is a country in East Africa. It has forty two tribes each with a distinct culture. The Meru tribe is one of them. It is a Bantu ethnic group which resides on Mount Kenya’s agriculturally rich northeastern slopes, in Kenya’s Eastern Province. The name Meru refers to both the people and the location. The Meru are primarily agrarian, raising a few domestic animals.

Initiation into adulthood is a very important cultural practice among the Merus. Boys undergoing circumcision prepare seriously for the rite. They are normally ready at the age of sixteen.

Before the boys are ready for the rite, they will have undergone an initiation ceremony and several feats of endurance among themselves. Each village has its own gang of boys but all are coordinated by leaders elected among themselves. There is a strict code of discipline and any disobedience is met with appropriate punishment, ranging from small fines to being ostracized from the group.

Prior to the great day, the boy will have paid visits to all his distant relatives. The parents direct him where to go because he may not know all of them. He is usually accompanied by friends walking in a single file and singing. These songs are poetical narratives passing messages on what the boy has gone through, what he anticipates and begging pardon to anybody he had wronged. Elders and women are greeted through the songs when found on the way.

On the eve of circumcision, there is dancing in the homes of the boys who will undergo the rite. The songs are meant to instill courage, scorn and mock the cowards. They harden the boys and make them ready to face the circumciser’s knife. The dancing is conducted by young men who have already undergone the rite and are enthusiastic to usher others into manhood. They dance with swords and clubs, chain of jingles firmly fastened to their legs and blowing huge horns from kudus. Young women also join in dancing.

In the same night, the boy has to get someone who will take care of him after circumcision. Usually he is directed by the family to choose a man of good moral conduct and should not be his father’s age mate. This man will be the boy’s guardian. He will tend to the boy during the period of seclusion, guide the young initiate and introduce him to the mysteries of manhood and ways of the tribe. The boy will always be expected to refer to him as “father” as long as he lives.

One only needs to visit Meru which is an exciting place and learn more about its people.

Dark Represents

Darkness is compared to blindness

Pessimism is termed as darkness

Permanent blockade of mind is considered as dark zone

Anything which h is not subject to change will prove prone

Yes darkness prevails where no future exists

No good things take place where morality lacks

There is absence of clear thought and insight

Future seems black and no hope to look it bright

Transformation form darkness to light is called new birth,

All means are available and there is no dearth

There should not be any hindrance to change

There exists ample chances and you must manage

Number of examples is there to site

You may find the direction from left to right

It may sometimes cause you anxiety and pain

Your efforts may pay you will never go in vain

Darkness goes away with the arrival light

It is not simple light but show of strength and might,

The goal can be seen clearly and path lay wide

You must catch the wind and successfully ride

Continue to strive hard and avoid fight or unpleasant things

You must have zeal power to cross the sea on powerful, wings

You should not feel caged as animals in circus rings

You can become mighty person on earth as king

Darkness is transitory period and can never last long

To think truth may not prevail is totally wrong

It may prove very difficult to go near the aim

But it may be felt sweet when you definitely claim

Bright sun shine spreads and illuminate the soil

All opportunities and chances are open to avail

One should not loose hope and remain in dark

Even dogs run for chance and continuously

Fortune favors the brave and eludes the cowards

The can never expect in their life any rewards

Righteous approach may rule but not the wrong,

Many may understand the truth and try to walk along,

No one needs to look back and think of dark,

You may try to search right things but not wrong side of the park,

It is always good beginning and humble start,

You jump in with good intention and start

The failures some time disappoint us and push to the corner

You are left with no option but to go all out and garner

It may prove very crucial if you stand fast and face the rough weather

You will come out with success and add to the glory with feather

Never remain gloomy with little setback

Gone days might be over and can’t be brought back

The switch over should be smooth and quick

You must go all out and easily pick

The Question of Dignity in The Remains of the Day

One of the prevailing themes throughout Ishiguro’s novel is the question of dignity. This article will explore the notion of dignity as it relates to moral judgments and moral character and to what degree (if any) it is embodied by some of the major characters in the novel.

We will begin by looking at Stevens’ description of a great butler by defining him as one who is “possessed of a dignity in keeping with his position”. He goes on to say that “great butlers wear their professionalism as a decent gentleman will wear his suit”. There is no question that Stevens’ role as a butler is much more to him than a mere occupation, it is the embodiment of who he is. As such, it has a profound impact on his moral character. We will now look at some of these instances.

Steven’s total immersion into his role as a butler causes him to appear, on the surface at least, as something of a programmed automaton rather than a human being. This is evidenced by the cold manner in which he reacts to his father’s death and depicts him as a man of limited human feeling. His duties as a butler call to him more resoundingly than do his duties as a son. Another example is his cold attitude towards Miss Kenton when he receives word of her aunt’s death. In this scene where Stevens is debating whether or not to comfort Miss Kenton when he hears her crying, we see him almost crack the veneer of his role for the first time, but once again, his duties as a butler supersede his duties as a human being.

Iris Murdoch would probably not see Stevens as virtuous or dignified because he fails to put human emotions into the equation of his moral decision-making. Murdoch thinks it is wrong to make a distinction between thought and action and Stevens does exactly this on many occasions. At this point in the novel, Stevens would have defined himself as a dignified butler, But Murdoch would probably have defined him as a human being lacking all dignity.

Stevens can also be viewed as a tragic character because his entire set of values is based on a tradition that is coming to pass. Stevens strives for the impeccable standards of a “great” English butler, but he is left solely to judge his accomplishments since he is one of the few remaining individuals who have retained the set of values to be able to gauge the performance of a butler. Stevens’ new employer, Mr. Farraday, is in no position to ascertain the quality or standards of an English butler and, in fact, strives to engage Stevens in “bantering”, which falls far outside the realm of professional duties in Stevens’ eyes. To do so would take Stevens outside of his role, therefore, outside of his dignity.

At the point in the novel where Lord Darlington fires the Jewish maids, this raises moral questions on the part of Darlington himself, Stevens, and Miss Kenton. Stevens describes the hierarchical society in which he lives as a wheel where the gentlemen reside at the hub and where the rest of society strive to get as close to the hub as possible without crossing the boundary. I prefer to think of it as a giant swimming pool in which the upper tier of society is splashing merrily about and making the decisions that will affect all of the land-lubbers, while the middle-class and perhaps the “great” butlers reside on the outskirts of the pool, and the hierarchy continues all the way out into the desert where society’s dregs reside. Darlington, obviously, defines himself first as an elite member of the pool party, and second as an individual. This becomes evident when he fires the maids in spite of the fact that he may very well think it is wrong on an individual level. Darlington justifies his decision by saying that “there are larger concerns”, but later realizes that he has, in fact, peed in the pool. One gets the impression that Lord Darlington’s intentions were noble; he thought that he was performing an act for the greater good. But as a proponent of utilitarianism would say, his intentions do not ameliorate the consequences of his actions.

Stevens’ reaction to the firing of the maids is predictably apathetical when he reprimands Miss Kenton for her outburst, “Miss Kenton, I am surprised to find you reacting in this manner. Surely I don’t have to remind you that our professional duty is not to our own foibles and sentiments, but to the wishes of our employer”. Some would say that here, Stevens is deferring a moral decision to his superior. However, we later learn that Stevens found the dismissal of the maids distasteful. Therefore, his decision to defer to the wishes of Lord Darlington is a moral decision in itself. He decides to do nothing in the face of what he, himself, finds unjust.

In contrast to Stevens, Miss Kenton voices her outrage to the injustice being done and threatens to leave the employ of Darlington Hall if it is carried through. As we learn later though, she fails to act on her threat. Many would see this as an act of cowardice on the part of Miss Kenton for failing to carry through on her moral convictions. Indeed, Miss Kenton herself even says, “It was cowardice, Mr. Stevens. Simple cowardice. Where could I have gone? I have no family”. It is because of this passage, however, that I wish to argue that Miss Kenton is not necessarily a coward as much as she is a victim of the hierarchical system of which she is a part.

On this note, I am compelled to reveal a trapping of personal experience to clarify this position. During my years in the broadcasting business, I encountered a number of situations which I found morally distasteful. To give a specific example, while I was working as a newscast director at a local television station, we were providing coverage of one of the shuttle launches. On this occasion, we were flipping back and forth via a split-screen double box from reporters in our newsroom providing commentary to a direct feed from NASA of the launch. At some point during the coverage, the news director came into the control room where I was stationed and asked me to superimpose the logo for our local satellite truck over the NASA video. Obviously, this would be an attempt to make our viewers believe that our station had a live local crew in Cape Canaveral, and just as obviously, it would also be a blatant lie. I voiced my objections but the news director was persistent in his request and after some sarcastic mumbling, I finally deferred to the wishes of my superior.

There are numerous other examples that could be cited, not the least of which would be local media involvement in such altruistic causes as collecting food and clothing for the less fortunate, blood drives, etc. The moral goodness of these acts would seem to be unquestionable since the end result is unmistakably positive. However, altruism, in my estimation, is doing something for the common good for its own sake. Local media will unfailingly have numerous cameras and/or reporters present at these events to immortalize the “goodness” of their employer and to subsequently use it for shameless self-promotion. I daresay that if a law were passed to prohibit the use of community service to promote ratings for the media outlet who sponsors it, we would see a marked decrease in “altruism” on the part of our golden-hearted local media.

So, the questions raised here are these: Did I lose my dignity when I, like Miss Kenton, failed to act on my moral convictions? Is there dignity in an act of altruism which has a selfish underlying cause?

In response to the first question, I believe that it would have been impractical for me to have quit my job over this issue. As a young man in my early twenties, my opinions concerning morality had just as much spit and vinegar as other young bucks. However, when one gains a true insight as to how the world actually operates, and learns that the phrase “all men are created equal” is little more than window-dressing in one of our most revered documents, one must necessarily dilute the vinegar in his bottle of moral judgment. Would Miss Kenton have had more dignity as a pauper who acted on her moral convictions? Would I have had more dignity standing in an unemployment line wondering where my next job would be, and knowing that I will inevitably face the same kind of moral dilemmas there also? The answer to both questions, I think, is “no”. As to the second question, it comes down to a matter of motive and consequence. The moral goodness of the act of community service by the media can be arrived at by whichever of these, motive or consequence, is assigned the greater value.

The truth of the matter is that the vast majority of us temper our moral decision-making in deference, to some degree, to the world and life as it actually is. Ideals are fine, but they will not pay the bills. In this regard, most of us are no different than Miss Kenton. So, if Miss Kenton is a coward, I daresay that the vast majority of us are also cowards.

A thinker such as Nietzsche would probably find little dignity in any of the three main characters. Certainly, he would associate Stevens and Miss Kenton with the slave morality. Stevens’ entire identity is bound up with serving his master, and Miss Kenton’s actions (or lack thereof), reflect little better. Here, a Marxist viewpoint can be put forth that a socio-economic system that depends on servants requires that a segment of the population be denied its sense of self. This is exactly what Nietzsche disdains most vehemently. The Marxist view can be taken a step further when we recall that Farraday presents Stevens as a commodity, “I mean to say, Stevens, this is a grand old English house, isn’t it? That’s what I paid for. And you’re a genuine old-fashioned English butler, not just some waiter pretending to be one. You’re the real thing, aren’t you?”. Nietzsche would say that Stevens was Darlington’s slave and now he will continue to be Farraday’s slave as evidenced by his commitment to master the art of bantering at the end of the book.

Darlington would appear to be associated with the master morality, but Nietzsche would probably find little dignity in him either because Darlington defers his moral decisions to “larger concerns”. Nietzsche would disdain the notion that value grows out of our relation to one another or with the community.

Finally, it can be said that Stevens is a character who drained himself of individuality in order to perform his role, and during his road trip, he begins to realize the high price that he has paid for this. Stevens’ epiphany occurs when he breaks completely out of character in making a poignant confession to a total stranger, “All those years I served him, I trusted I was doing something worthwhile. I can’t even say I made my own mistakes. Really-one has to ask oneself-what dignity is there in that?”. In saying this, he finally rejects his justification of living not as a human being, but solely as a butler. Also, I disagree with the notion that Stevens’ desire to banter with Farraday is an indication of his continuing slave morality. Indeed, bantering requires the individual expression which had given Stevens so much trouble throughout the novel. I believe that Stevens’ first showing of true dignity occurs when he finally strips away the veneer of the perfect butler and shows himself to be a thinking, caring, feeling individual. To think as an individual is the greatest dignity that can be afforded to any of us, and this is exactly what Stevens has deprived himself of until he is confronted with the remains of the day.

Self-Defense Tips – Be Ready For The Unexpected

In the first instance in any dangerous confrontation you should try to run away. Escape, evade, SURVIVE. If things get physical then you should expect to sustain an injury of some sort, even if it’s just a scratch or a bruise. Running away means no scratches and no bruises. Do not be too proud to run.

All self-defense training should put plenty of focus on running away, because by running away you stand the best chance of survival. That’s just the way it is. Humans have the “fight or flight” mentality built-in, but you should reverse those words and think about the flight before the fight. If you are fortunate enough to see a good escape route running away is definitely the smartest thing you can do, whether you feel cowardly or not. Which would you prefer to be, a sensible living person or a brave dead one? No brainer.

When confronted by an attacker think, adapt, and act fast

In any confrontational situation you should expect the worst and be prepared for it, that is why you train yourself, but you should also expect the unexpected. Learning to escape from a knife attack is one thing, but what if your assailant has friends coming around the corner just as you turn to run away? What if you manage to stop your attacker and knock him down, only to slip and fall as you make your escape? In seconds he is on top of you, and you are in a more dangerous position than before. Be alert, be aware, and be prepared to adapt to any situation and use any advantage you can find.

Any training that you choose should incorporate methods to deal with unexpected twists and crazy scenarios. The simple but effective techniques that you can teach yourself fairly quickly will work in a lot of situations – that is why these techniques are taught, but at some point you may find yourself in a far less straight-forward confrontation where you need a little bit extra. Life throws random difficulties at us all the time, so it’s important to be as ready as you can for something to happen that makes the dangerous scenario you are in even worse.

A distraction could be the key to your escape

If somebody nearby shouts and it momentarily distracts your attackers you can use this to your advantage. If a crowd of people turns the corner and starts walking your way should you shout for help? A police siren in the distance may provide enough of a distraction for you to turn and run. Expect to be shocked, expect to be scared, and be prepared to make quick, smart decisions. Taking advantage of an unexpected event might make all the difference.

Think about what you do, where you go, and who you go with, and try imagining what you would do if two men with knives attacked you. Or maybe they grab your companion and threaten her. How about the difference between being attacked in an open space versus a tight, cramped alleyway? Maybe you work in a shop and are worried about somebody jumping over the counter and what you should do. Put yourself in complicated situations and think of ways that it could get even worse. Picture yourself there, and use your training to work out how you would survive.

  • Is there anything you can do to distract your attacker?
  • What do you do if your attackers are a group of females?
  • What do you do if you are carrying an injury and can barely walk?
  • What do you do if your assailants surround you?

Always remember, the key to every situation is to SURVIVE. You are not trying to look good, you are not there to be brave, your only intention is to survive by any means necessary. If you are in a position where somebody is threatening you with a knife or gun, then your attacker is demonstrating that he is prepared to KILL YOU if you do not comply. You need to know what to do and you need to be prepared to act quickly and decisively. If your survival means running away then do it, but if you are forced to protect yourself, or to fight off an attacker, then ensure that you are as prepared as you possibly can be.

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5 Common Myths About Suicide Exploded

Suicide. Most of us know little to nothing about this tragedy. What we think we know is also probably wrong. More than a million people all over the world die by suicide each year. Suicide risk is partly genetic and often accompanies agonizing mental problems.

Suicide isn’t cowardly, vengeful, or selfish. It’s not about “suppressed rage”. Many threats of suicide are eventually followed by successful attempts.

A few problems with some common myths about suicide:

  • Suicidal people are crazy: Actually, they’re just in a lot of pain. You don’t have to be drunk, psychotic, demented, or delirious to be suicidal.
  • It’s only a cry for help: People who talk about suicide often do kill themselves. It’s pretty useless as a risk indicator.
  • People who want to kill themselves are just trying to manipulate others: These people really need help. They’re unwell. Saying they’re “just trying to get something out of it” is ignorant and insensitive.
  • It happens without any warning signs: There are almost always warning signs.
  • Kids never think about doing it: Does a child of 10 count? Suicide’s the 3rd leading cause of death for youth aged 15-24.

What I hope for is a more balanced, compassionate view. Let’s foster empathy and education instead of ignorance and judgement.

Why learning the facts helps others and even saves lives:

  • Wanting to die means you’re in pain: People who think death is their only option are suffering terribly. They’re deeply troubled and deserve help.
  • Take the talk seriously: If you believe someone is suicidal, urge them to call 911 or go to their local emergency room. Encourage them to call a suicide hotline like 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255).
  • View them with compassion: Wanting to die is burden enough for these poor people. They shouldn’t carry the weight of our combined judgement as well.
  • Look for red flags: There are almost always signs that someone is suicidal. We often just don’t see them. Warning signs include talking or writing about killing or harming yourself, talking a lot about / obsessed with death, and seeking out dangerous pastimes like drugs or guns.
  • Educate your children: Young people should be taught that feeling suicidal isn’t shameful. They should be encouraged to talk about these feelings, as much for our own well-being as for theirs.

Unbearable suffering is what suicide tries to escape. A suicidal person can’t imagine relief except through death, yet most suicidal people are conflicted about ending their lives. They may not really want to die, but to have the painful feelings stop. They want an alternative they often just can’t see.

Grief Verses Willpower

Through sheer force of will and human spirit you can breathe life in to impossible dreams – like happiness again. Even after horrendous grief after seemingly impossible circumstances your outright willpower can not only makes impossible possible but accessible and reachable. Although at the time it may appear unreasonable change creates opportunity.

“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” ~Walter Anderson

Crossing A New Finish Line

Sometimes to cross the grief healing finish line you need to rely on your entire will to do so. Willpower is that inner fire that gets you past the finish line, past the naysayers, challenges and unhappiness. Your will is your secret weapon. No one can take it away nor can they give it to you. Circumstances cannot take it away. Even though your candle of will power may be dim because of the happenings in your life use it. It can shine brighter in your life than you think.

The Power Of Willpower

Through the mirror of your willpower shines an untapped empowerment. It all comes down to drive which can strongly urge and propel you to step out beyond what you think is possible and triumph over your grieving circumstance. Perhaps your awful grief has caused you take one step forward and five steps back. Have confidence that for each circumstance of life there is a willpower within you for every condition, often not sourced until needed.

“Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards but they will bluff you if they can. If they see you are afraid of them, they are liable to spring upon you; but if you look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight.” ~ Orison Swett Marden

Getting Past Challenges

There are many thoughts that you can have to keep you going. During my time of grief my thoughts were I have a wife who depends on me. I have a family that I certainly don’t want to leave. As I held on to those thoughts mentally it was surprising and perhaps a little amazing how I began to stop grieving and start healing. Think about ways to be happy. Here’s and idea to help you: Decide that six times a day you will use your willpower to have happy thoughts and ideas to find peace. Do the arithmetic (6 X 365 days over 12 months = 2,190 happy thoughts). Do you think happy positive things could happen? If 6 times a day is too hard for you, try 2 times a day thinking about how to find happiness. That is still be 730 happy efforts over 12 months. Something happy can result.

Long-Desired Rewards

Perhaps you have experienced grief beyond your most vivid imagination. You have felt torn apart, disheartened and hopeless. How to bring back happiness appears impossible. After all you can’t have your old life back the way it was. What to do and how to do it? There is no magic formula. Nevertheless, where there is a willpower there’s a way. You manage by employing your secret weapon: willpower, the ability to exercise self-control and withstand the challenges that come with your grief.

Your grief circumstance has caused you take a brief hiatus from many pleasures of life. This interruption has given you time to light your flame of willpower and find happiness. It is not easy but possible through the sheer power of your will. Have faith in yourself to gain the reward of happiness again. You can.

The Real Secrets About Prison Fitness and Strength

So why is everyone so juiced up about prison fitness? What is prison fitness? And why is it so effective? Prison fitness seems to be a real interest to a lot of men and the reason is the so called level of fitness these prisoners achieve behind bars.

Do these prisoners have some type of secret? Do they have some type prison fitness coach? So why do these prisoners get this reputation as being super human?

What tricks do they have? To the average man the prisoner level of fitness is legendary, but what makes the prisoner fitness different then other training programs?

So what secrets do these criminals have? How many super conditioned prisoners are educated in the book sense? Do you think there are certified strength coaches in prison? Do you think most prisoners were long time fitness trainers who got a bad break?

Do you think most prisoners that were murders, drug dealers, sex offenders, drunk drivers, men that are in jail for any violent crime were going to the gym on the outside? It’s a well know fact that men that live life drinking and doing drugs are health conscious, not to mention fit ( a joke ).

If these men enter prison having abused their bodies through booze and drugs most of their lives what makes so many think that these men go to prison and become super fit, what gives them the key to the fitness kingdom?

Do these men stop being criminals and become super athletes? No, most become and stay violent criminals and most criminals are weak minded cowards that could not live in today’s society without stealing, robbing, running in gangs and trying to hurt weaker victims.

The only difference these men have is time; they have nothing else to do. The men that get really physically fit spend more time at it than most other people; you don’t go into prison 130lb weakling and become a 200lb super criminal in a month.

If you spend all your days in a small prison cell, what could you do with no job and nothing but time? You may here of a few prisoners that are super strong and super fit but the reality it’s a very small percentage.

Super fitness is not for the weak minded it takes time and a lot of sweat to get to a super level of fitness whether you are in prison or on the outside, there is no difference and no secret training program building a super race of super prisoners.

So if prisoners are doing the basics of pushups, pull-ups, situps, squats, leg raises, handstand pushups, prisoner squat thrusts what’s the secret to the so called super level of fitness? It’s the time put in, it’s doing the exercises hundreds and thousands of times over many, many years building a hardening of the mind and body.

Most prisoners are not in shape, most are still out of shape and will never be in shape because just like in the street they were lazy in prison they are lazy.

Over years and hundreds of thousands of reps is what builds an extremely strong body, not the 3 days on one day off type of training or the split training it’s the everyday training that makes the difference in real physical fitness and strength.

So, instead of thinking the prisoners have some secret training method and secret training coach just know it’s the time put in on an everyday basis and training for survival that makes the difference.

Here’s a workout you can do in small place with no equipment and using only two exercises.

Do 25 Prisoner Squat Thrusts – 25 4- Point Jump Squats ( legs a little wider, squat down touch the ground with your finger tips and jump 2 to 3 inches off the ground)

Switch back and forth as long as you can, do as fast as possible try and keep the time for each round under 1 minute and 15 seconds meaning 25 Prisoner Squat Thrusts and 25 4- Point Jump Squats should take no longer than 1 minute and 15 seconds to complete and go as long as you can, if you can go for 5 minutes with no rest that’s great.

This will be to brutal for most people but see where you are and how long you will go most will have trouble with 2 minutes.

Toughness Builds Winners.

Public Speaking – Beat Nervousness and Control the Adrenaline Rush

If you can speak you can improve your public speaking. What is your passion? When you are doing a presentation think about how it will lead you to what makes you happy. Maybe use a story about your favorite thing to do to describe what you are trying to say. Relate what you are trying to say with something you are passionate about – or perhaps something your audience is passionate about!

Let’s talk about fear!

The fear cycle: How we create it – How we use it – How we lose it?

  • Nobody lives without fear. Trying to rid yourself of all fear is not only taxing and frustrating but ultimately deprives you of an important source of motivation and energy. I have been a professional keynote speaker for over 10 years and I still feel that adrenaline surge each time just before I go on stage, but I use that energy to improve my performance. Fear causes most of our stress. If you have no fear you are playing it too safe or you are out of touch with your feelings..or maybe dead. Something to think about: Heroes and cowards feel the same fear. The only difference is the action they take.

You succeed by facing your fear. Don’t be afraid of fear: Look the monster in the eye! If you deny it or run from it, it will track you down and torture you in one of its many disguises.

Let’s take a look at the fear cycle

1. Fear exaggerates everything

  • Imagined consequences: People will walk out or I’ll put them to sleep.
  • They will not like me: They will think I’m an idiot or amateur.
  • They will feel pressure that I’m trying to sell them something and not like me.
  • Fear run amok destroys confidence.

2. Fear distorts perception

  • You SEE what you BELIEVE. Your perceptions are based on your belief system. You look in the front row and everybody looks like the jury that just found you guilty. You see one person look at their watch and you think that NO ONE is interested. Somebody made the mistake of not giving anyone a bathroom break for two hours and you see people getting up to leave right when YOU begin talking.
  • You see imagined obstacles.

3. The physical response

  • Heart pounds, mouth dry, palms sweat.
  • Your larynx tightens, you drop stuff and your voice voice gets high.

4. The fear response: Freeze or frenzy

  • You stop and procrastinate or you make fast bad actions.
  • You slow down or speed up and your mind starts racing. Most likely you will say say “weird stuff” and will wonder later why that came out of your mouth.

5. Thumbs down: Your worst expectations fulfilled

  • In the mist of fear your performance matches your bad expectations.
  • Your performance is below your actual ability.

Then the next time you perform you remember your last time and worry even more! It’s not a lack of skill. Fear took control.

How to use the fear of public speaking to your advantage

  • Use the fear for excitement and energy and channel it into positive action.
  • Fear is a survival tool not a handicap.
  • Remember that fear tells lies and lies cause failure!

Stage presence: Commanding attention

  • Know what your are going to say.
  • Practice makes polish and polish makes money.
  • If you have stage presence they will forgive you must anything else.
  • Do you desire to have attention? Is it important that people pay attention to you when you speak?
  • What do you think you can do to have people notice you more when you speak?
  • What do you think people see when they look at you, what do you think you sound like?
  • Practice talking about your favorite thing.

Practice letting your passion out

  • Don’t be Mr. Meek, Mr. Fake or Mr. Boring. Be yourself – only LARGER
  • Finding your voice: Where does it go? Try talking as loud as you can and then back down to a natural leve.
  • Practice theatre style warm ups like saying over and over as fast as you can: red-leather-yellow-leather or you know you need unique New York
  • Everybody is charming: somebody somewhere thinks your charming (your mother at least).
  • Let’s talk about ourselves: “Enough about me, what do you think of me?”: Remember that no matter how interesting YOU are, the audience is always going to be more interested in themselves!
  • Get feedback from practicing: Ask friends, family, co-workers and especially a coach if you have the opportunity to work with one.

Do you have to be funny?

  • No! you have to be sincere If you really want people to respond when you speak, speak from the heart, speak with passion. When you speak with passion you are a lot more likely to be funny charming and touch an emotional chord. Talk about real stuff.
  • What’s Funny?: Words that have K sounds, short stories, making fun of yourself.
  • Praise people’s ability and honor them, listen and look for the similarities
  • Be yourself! People are attracted to people who are themselves, plain and simple.

Let’s go over the specific techniques: Make it happen

  • Never talk with your back to a window.
  • Never talk when people are eating.
  • Get all the information you can about your audience.
  • Lower your voice to make an important point and look people in the eye.
  • Tell stories that describe your information (True stories are best).
  • Give wisdom from your point of view.
  • Do your best not to say anything anyone has ever said.
  • Repeat important points: Use call backs.
  • Make good use of natural hand gestures: Don’t point at the audience.
  • Remember to channel fear into energy.
  • Enjoy the attention!
  • Each point you make should have three parts: Say what you are going to say, say it and then tell them what you said. Don’t worry about the audience being impressed with you, let them be impressed by what they can do with your information.
  • Memorize your introduction: It should include: Your topic, why your topic is important to the audience and speaker qualifications.
  • Be real, be yourself, tell the truth.

The structure of your speech

  • The first and last 30 seconds of your speech will have the most impact.
  • Answer the questions that keep CEO’s up at night: It’s not their job to remember you. What have you done today to make them remember you?
  • An intro is meant to get their attention. Memorize you intro.
  • Back Ground: What are you going to talk about
  • Body: Cover 3 points or one central point that everything relates back to.
  • Using a point-story-point format is very effective.
  • Conclusion: Summarize so that they understand where they have been and what they got from it.

Practice: What professional speakers do

  • Hone your skills in front of a mirror, if you have to memorize information, do it one sentence at a time, get in front of a real audience as much as possible practice in the car.
  • Fear tells lies but YOU don’t need to. Remember to tell yourself: I am an interesting person and I have good information
  • Practice makes polish and polish makes money.
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