Aquarius men are like the air that we breathe-always moving, ever changing, flowing along through life. People born between January 20th and February 19th are born under the sign of Aquarius, the water bearer. Very social, very talkative, very communicative, they are the life of the party, yet there is a certain self-imposed aloofness about them, which makes then stand out in a crowd.

Sensitive, Yet Strong Personality

While exhibiting a strong attractive and attracting personality, Aquarian men can be easily demoralized if things don’t go the way they think they should. They are generally optimistic about life, practical, philosophical and frank-sometimes too frank for their own good. They mean well, but sometimes don’t understand that what comes out of their mouth can hurt. To them it’s objective or constructive, never personal.

Love Traits

It takes dedication to win an Aquarius male, you must be loyal, and a light hand to keep them. The best way to win is to befriend him, get to know him well. Give him his space, and freedom. Don’t be clingy, too possessive and jealous type. If you are a possessive lover you will become an ex-lover too quickly. Aquarians are unconventional as lovers but true lovers, nonetheless. They do always remember your birthday or anniversary, just not necessarily on the day it happens.

Likes And Dislikes

Aquarius Males are always on the prowl for a happy, stable and passionate relationship. Deep down inside them, there is a zest for life and exuberance, waiting to be let out. But you’d never know it from the surface. The Aquarian male most of the times keeps everything to himself, and open up only to the right people. They like to welcome new acquaintances with open arms and are ready to see the best in them no matter what race, ethnicity or diverse culture you came from. They like cleanliness and exceedingly particular about appearance, clothing, and most importantly personal hygiene. Dirt under your fingernails will turn them off, whether he likes your vegetable garden or not.

How To Attract An Aquarius Male

The Aquarius man could rightly be called the chameleon of the Zodiac because of his shape shifting abilities. He is uncomfortable with “emotion,” preferring to approach everything, including women, objectively. Getting emotional or attempting to draw an Aquarian male into a conversation about “deep feelings” will only send him running for the door with his hands clasped over his ears. It is best to let him come to you.

Sexually Opportunistic

Aquarian men may not be in hyper-drive when it comes to sexual desire, but they do like trying new things and unconventional things that are experimental and a bit unorthodox. They are not afraid to follow their desires. They are attracted to taller partners with a similar love of the unconventional, with a willingness to explore. Best compatible signs [that can go along with], Aries, Libra, Gemini, Sagittarius. Opposite sign: Leo. Famous Aquarians: Michael Jordan, John Travolta, Eddie Van Halen, Bobby Brown.   Lucky numbers: 1,11, 7, 56

Social worker and home economist Constance R. Nabwire is best known for her heavily illustrated books on African cooking and recipes and the cultural connections. “Nabwire” is a feminine name that is of southeastern Ugandan and southwestern Kenyan ethnic origin and is traditionally associated with one who was born at night. “Bwire” is the male version.

During the early 1960’s, after her high school education in her native Uganda at Buddo (Budo), Constance Nabwire traveled to girl-student Spelman College in Georgia where she would eventually earn a bachelor’s degree in sociology and psychology. Her studies and upkeep were funded by the African Student Program for American Universities. Thereafter she moved on to the University of Minnesota where she graduated with a master’s degree in social work.

By chance, Constance Nabwire was placed to room with future Pulitzer Prize for Fiction winner (1983) and National Book Award winner (1983) Alice Malsenior Walker at the black historically prestigious Spelman College in Atlanta. They would become close friends, would become so intrigued and impressed with each other, and they would forever change each other.

Evelyn C. White writes on their relationship and academic interaction. Academically talented Nabwire noted, but was not surprised that Alice would adeptly write a superior essay on renowned Russian literary authors. It was also of significance to Nabwire that Alice was quite different in many ways from the other students at Spelman. Nabwire recounts that Alice was quite well versed in foreign affairs, her perspective on international affairs was a rarity at Spelman, she worked hard to befriend African students, and she did not overly dwell on “Friday night dates” like the other students. Indeed Nabwire felt so privileged and enriched to have been placed with Alice whom she upheld as one who was intellectually stimulating and was engaged with the world (White: 73-74).

Walker and Nabwire were so close that they shared items like clothing, and they together went to intriguing places and other settings to practically experience for themselves. An incident illustrative of racism and discrimination in the white church, shocked Nabwire to tears and to other forms of psychological restlessness. White airs Walker’s view on the whites who attended church in Eatonton in Georgia where she was born in 1944, and on Nabwire’s reaction when the two were denied entrance to a white church in Atlanta. Alice recalled that the church-going whites in Eatonton were segregated. The day Alice, wearing the vaunted pink faille dress (purchased by Nabwire), ventured with Nabwire to church services at a church in Atlanta, would be quite troubling. Evelyn White would note Nabwire’s reaction.

“The white… missionaries had come to Uganda and taught..it was important to worship God… read bible… pray.’… ‘When Alice and I tried to enter… church… door was slammed in our faces. I didn’t understand… months, I did nothing but cry'” (White: 161).

Nabwire and Walker shared “the pink dress,” which Walker described as “divine” (White: 76).

Walker, together with all of her women’s council and Nabwire would intimately and emotionally venture to pay respect and to take flowers to the discovered grave of an ancestral Walker. Nabwire’s impact on Walker was so profound, that she would later visit Uganda. Alice describes Nabwire as, “… a wonderful person… wise and gentle beyond her years and… of most of the other girls at… school” (Walker 2010). Alice also recounted the incident of the grave as she spoke at the Organization of African Writers, a conference held at New York University in 2004.

The ancestral grave that had recently been discovered in Georgia was that of Alice’s great, great grandmother Sally Montgomery Walker (1861-1900). To formally pay respect, Walker returned to the grave with flowers and among those with her was Constance “wonderful woman..who made me care deeply about Africans and African women” (Goodman 2004). Amy Goodman recorded more of Walker’s speech regarding her visit to Uganda in the mid-1960’s: “… I went to Uganda… to understand how Constance had been… produced by… country which before Idi Amin was very beautiful… tranquil… green” (2004).

Those who accompanied Alice to the grave of Sally Walker also included all of her women’s council and another friend Belvee, most of who whom had histories of pain and suffering. At the graves they wept, and poetic Walker summed it up: “We watered those graves with our tears… happy to do it” (Goodman 2004).

Intrigued by Nabwire, Walker would venture more into understanding African culture and society, and to read more into the writings of renowned African writers. Passages on her website offer her opinions, reactions, and readings on Africa; and also comparisons with black America. The passages are part Walker’s speech of September 13th 2010 delivered as the 11th Annual Steve Biko Lecture at the University of Cape Town. Walker had achieved the comparative realization that while racism was profound in the United States during the 1940’s and 1950’s, she delved with intense curiosity into what African-ness was, given that “Africa was shrouded in… profound mists of distortion, racially motivated misperceptions, gross exploitation, and lies” (Walker 2010).

Alice noted that Africans were “cheerfully despised, considered savages.” Also at Spelman College, reinforcing her important friendship with Nabwire which she cherished as sisterly, Alice admired the African song, “Nkosi Sikeleli’Afrika” which exuded “that sound of so much humility, love, devotion and trust” (Walker 2010). Beyond people, countries, and culture, Walker’s interest in Africa was environmentally encompassing whereby she became interested in other aspects like the rainforests and the animals. through the works of African literary giants like Elechi Amadi, Camara Laye, Ama Ata Aidoo, Buchi Emecheta, Bessie Head, Okot p’ Bitek, Ngugi wa Thiong’o, and Ayi Kwei Armah, Walker revealed that she “began to encounter an intellectual and moral thoughtfulness that bordered on [and] often embodied the most astonishing profundity” (Walker 2010).

On her visit to Uganda in 1964, Alice Walker she was amazed at the courtesy, the peace the kindness, the greenery, the reception, and the patience.

“Uganda… referred to by Winston Churchill as… ‘Japan’ of Africa, because of… people’s courtesy… kindliness. This… a colonialist view, but… it was also a land of… greenest hills and valleys… there… a palpable feeling of peace and patience with the stranger” (Walker 2010).

The names of the people in the Uganda family where Alice Walker lodged are not mentioned, but they lived near Kampala the capital.

“I was taken in… by a Ugandan family who sheltered… cared for me… dispelling… any sense I… had that I would not be recognized as one of Africa’s children” (Walker 2010).

But as Melanie L. Harris explains, though Walker admired Ugandans for their compassion and care, and kept in touch with Nabwire after transferring to Sarah Lawrence College, “the depths of poverty and impact of colonialism made Walker’s pilgrimage… [to Africa] hard to endure” (Harris 2010: 34).

The renowned and academically debated short story, “Everyday Use,” is part of the collection of short stories written by Walker. The collection entitled “In Love and Trouble: Stories of Black Women” was first published in 1973. “Everyday Use” references the Deep South of the United States, the black family and the societal transformation, and Uganda.

In the story, the beautiful Dee who is older than her bodily disfigured and shy sister Maggie who has remained in the deep southern tradition with their mother Mama Johnson visits home after a lengthy stay in an urban setting. The introverted and audacious Dee views herself as a transformed woman now embracing modernism and black radicalism. At the beginning of her visit home with a stocky fellow Hakim, Dee utters the greeting, “Wa.su.zo.Tean.o!” This is apparently Walker adapting to writing the “Wasuz’otya nno/ Wasuze otya nno?” which in Luganda means “How did you sleep?” In Buganda it is the most commonly used morning phrase that equates to, “How did you sleep,” “How was your night,” or “Good morning.” Sometimes the greeting is shortened to “Wasuz’otya/ Wasuze otya?” While in Uganda, Alice Walker must often have encountered the native morning greeting. Also, the greeting carries a question mark, other than the exclamation mark that is attached to it in the short story.

In “Everyday Use,” Dee also declares that she is no longer Dee, and has Africanized her name to Wangero Leewanika Kemanjo. In Luganda, “Wangero” can be a personal or place name, and it means “the one (or the place) of stories.” In some of Walker’s recounts, her friend Constance Nabwire is referred to as Constance Wangero. Is this a typographical error or was Nabwire also known as “Wangero?” Also Wangero Hill is in Buganda, so Walker may have visited or known the place or name and went on to use it in her short story.

The closest African name to “Leewanika,” is Lubosi Lewanika who was the king or paramount chief of Barotseland which is the western part of present-day Zambia. Lewanika reigned from 1878 to 1916, and he was deceived in 1890 by Cecil Rhodes into ceding the land to British protection through the British South Africa Company. Still, Lewanika would visit London in 1902 where he was embraced and attended the coronation of King Edward the 7th. Rhodesia was named after aggressive and notorious colonialist Rhodes, and would later be renamed Zimbabwe (after the legendary “Great Zimbabwe”) within weeks before Robert Mugabi became the country’s first black Prime Minister in 1980.

“Kemanjo” may well be an African name, or adaptation of one.

Works Cited

Goodman, Amy. “Alice Walker on the ‘Toxic Culture’ of Globalization.” Democracy Now! October 2004.

Harris, Melanie L. Gifts of Virtue, Alice Walker, and Womanist Ethics. London: Palgrave Macmillan, 2010.

Walker, Alice. “Coming to See You Since I Was Five Years Old: An American Poet’s Connection to the South African Soul;” 11th Annual Steve Biko Lecture. September 2010: http://alicewalkersgarden.com/

White, Evelyn, C. Alice Walker: A Life. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, 2004.

If you’re a beach person, definitely go to Malta. Situated off the coast of Sicily, the officially-named ‘Republic of Malta’ is a small island, so it has tons and tons of beautiful beaches to choose from! In fact, Malta’s beaches are one of the reasons this destination is so popular among tourists.

There is no shortage of aquatic activities to choose from in Malta. You can go paragliding, windsurfing, wakeboarding, water skiing, snorkeling, or take a Malta Diving tour and explore Malta’s diverse underwater world of reefs, caves, and wrecks.

Malta is not all just fun and sun, though. Malta Sightseeing Tours will open your eyes to all there is to see and do on this memorable island – Malta possesses a rich cultural history that has rendered it a virtual open air museum.

Malta tours will reveal some of the oldest known structures to mankind. As a Malta tourist, be sure to check out Hypogeum, a UNESCO world heritage site. This temple was discovered in 1902 when a stonemason uncovered the remains of over 7,000 people, dating back to 3600 BC, while he was laying the foundations for a house.

If you’re more of a city person (the idea of sitting on a beach all day bores you) then head to Marrakech. With so many things to do in Marrakech, boredom will certainly not be one of the sentiments you experience during this trip!

From the beautifully-decorated riads hidden behind inconspicuous doors in dusty alleys, to the wonderfully chaotic and colourful souks, Marrakech is just so wonderfully different. This city simply exudes an exotic feel.

If you’re looking for what to do in Marrakech, you won’t have to look for long. Chances are you’ll end up at the Djemma el Fna square, located in the Medina (or old quarter of Marrakech), without even trying. Here, snake charmers and performers will enchant you while henna artists and vendors try to befriend you.

Sightseeing in Marrakech will undoubtedly be a jam-packed activity. The Koutoubia Mosque, Yves Saint Laurent’s Jardin Majorelle, the Marrakech Museum, and the Palais de la Bahia are only a few of things you must see in Marrakech. And if you have any energy left, the nightlife in Marrakech can be quite lively, if you’re willing to look for it.

So, take one of many Malta tours and lounge about on the beach in between visits to some amazing historical sights or go to Marrakech and wonder at the beauty of its culture. Either way, a marvelously exotic vacation is only a few hours away.

A lot of people experience psychic feelings and are not aware that they are experiencing them. Almost every person that you speak to can tell you a story about a time in their life when they had a feeling that something was wrong. Maybe they felt like something was wrong with someone else and sometimes they were not sure what was wrong they just knew that something was. That sense of impending doom is actual psychic feelings or intuition. You sense that something bad is about to occur but you cannot quite put your finger on what it is.

Other psychic feelings that people have and do not realize happen when they meet someone. We have all met people who immediately made us feel uneasy or on edge. We have all met people that immediately made us feel as if we had known them for our whole lives. We all get these feelings and intuitions when we meet people. Some of us say that we are good at reading people and some of us say we are good at judging character but in fact we are experiencing psychic feelings about the individual we just met.

Sudden urges to do something or to not do something happen to everyone. People are quick to tell you that children automatically know when someone is a good person that likes kids because the child will automatically befriend the individual. This is because children are more in tune with their psychic feelings than the majority of adults are and they pick up on the little vibrations the other person sends out. As we grow older we lose our child like faith and we stop trusting our own intuitions but really we should be embracing these feelings and learning how to read the ones we have.

Women have powerful senses of intuition about dangerous situations but frequently they overlook these feelings because they were taught to be polite and to not hurt people’s feelings. Actually everyone should tell their daughters that if they meet someone and something tells them the other person is just not right then avoid them. It does not matter if the other person is a friend’s father, the pastor of the church, or a teacher. If you have psychic feelings about a person you should trust your feelings at least until you see what they are all about.

There are people who have these feelings and they are so strong that the individual can actually predict things that are going to happen. They can even sense illness and the presence of spirits from other realms. These people are generally thought to be gifted to be able to perceive these things and to understand their perceptions.

Did you ever find yourself in a situation where you saw someone just becoming successful or achieve a certain breakthrough and you thought to yourself, “I can never do that.” Most of us probably have, even the successful individuals, at some point in our lives experience this feeling. This is the result of something called self-limiting beliefs that has been rooted in your mind.

So what are self-limiting beliefs? Self-limiting beliefs are mental blocks, negative thoughts and beliefs, psychological hindrance or even inner monsters stored in your mind. They tend to have negative effects on you, greatly limits your ability and programs your mind to discard all possibilities of ever achieving your goals and ultimately your success.

There are numerous detrimental self-limiting beliefs but I will touch on the top seven ones that I personally feel have the worst effects on people. Let us explore them first before I go into the negative effects they have on you.

1) Believing that you are not good enough to achieve anything

This probably stems from the fact that you first thought that you are not smart enough and had no special abilities or qualities and since you don’t have them, then you are not worthy or you can’t achieve anything great.

2) Believing that people generally don’t like you

Before I tackle this, I need you to understand that I am explaining this in terms of a normal natured and perhaps even well-manered person and not in terms of a obnoxious, rude, insensitive, bad-mannered person who deserve to be loathed by people. Even then, there are ill-mannered people that are liked by others. Anyway, back to the subject matter. This belief lead you to think that no one likes you or wants to befriend you because of a flaw or flaws you have. You generally accept that you will never be liked and hence stamped that belief into your mind.

3) Believing That You Will Be Rejected

This is a very common self-limiting belief that exists in many different types of individuals from different walks of life. It exist in a student who is fearful of asking her teacher for assistance, a worker asking her colleague for help, a disciple seeking advice from her mentor, a child desperately wanting her parents to get her a new toy and especially a person trying to ask another person of the opposite sex a question or out for a date. People with this belief is driven primarily by fear; the fear that the other party might not reciprocate the way she intended and will immediately say no to her.

4) Believing that certain tasks are impossible to achieve

It is prudent to note here that I am not talking about universally/psychologically impossible taks to achieve such as humans flying, a child being older than her parents or a fan being on and off at the same time. Rather, the tasks I am focusing are those that have been proven time and again to be very possible to achieve yet people with these belief limit themselves by saying they simply cannot achieve these tasks because they lack the qualities, knowledge, tools, resources, et cetera. In fact, this self-limiting belief can be regarded as a complement to self-limiting belief no 1).

5) Having a one sided track belief

People with this thought believe that there is only one solution to a particular equation or simply put that there is only one way to perform a certain task or to do things. A very appropriate example here is the current employee mindset that is rooted in most wage-earning individuals. However, please note that I am not attacking employees or I have anything against them. In fact, I sincerely admire their determination, perseverance and strength. Anyway, back to the example. Most employees believe that the only proper, “ethical” way to earn money is to work long, hard hours, sacrificing their energy, time, interests, family just so that they can earn a monthly pay check from their employers. What they fail to understand is that there are many alternatives to earning money such as running a business and investing.

6) Believing that you are destined for failure

This is one of the most damaging self-limiting belief anyone can possess and sadly it exist in a huge percentage of us. People with this belief deeply believe that whatever they do will end up in failure and because of this, they don’t set out to try anything beneficial or stop halfway when trying it and ultimately they do fail. They fail not because it was their destiny to fail but because they believed it was so, they did not take the relevant effective actions and consequently fail.

7) Believing that you cannot be successful

This belief basically encompasses all the other 6 beliefs mentioned above and all the other self-limiting beliefs that are not tackled in this post. Believing ultimately that you cannot achieve success is the stepping stone towards a chain reaction of events that will steer you away from your core desires, propel you to not take effective actions and prevent you from seeing favourable results and outcomes.

So there you have it, the top seven detrimental self-limiting beliefs according to my book. Now then, while knowing these self-limiting beliefs are good, it is imperative that you are aware of the harmful effects they may have on you.

In a nutshell, self-limiting beliefs can have these effects on you:

1) lead to procrastination and laziness,

2) destroy and dampen your hopes and aspirations,

3) bring down your morale

4) make you lose complete focus of you goals, dreams and aspiration

5) deviate you from your intended successful path and goal.

And tons of other negative effects that is not covered here. I’m sure all this information has been enlightening to you. But what is it that you should do next to ensure that you will be armed and ready to counter and ward off these self-limiting beliefs?

There are many methods but the ones that I recommend are the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and the Sedona Method. They are free, easy to implement and can be implemented in under one minute. In fact, I have come up with a hybrid technique utilising both EFT and Sedona which you can check out in my resource box below.

Perception is a compilation

Of your past history

Through which you see

Erroneously or correctly

Your present reality

Perception affects your identity

Positively or negatively

Based on what you think

People believe you to be

Perception leads to projection

The good, bad, and ugly

As that which is within

Comes forth in expression

Whether it be embracing love

Or walls of rejection

Before you can proceed

Your inner self first must precede

To frame its image

And settle within

To be transparent and befriend

Or be reclusive and center in

To unconditionally accept humanity

Or prejudge and condemn individuality

Projection evolves into conception

Where thoughts, words and actions give birth

To what you’ve already contextualized within

Resulting in an outward manifestation

An invitation to all of creation

To coexist with you

Help make your dream come true

Or confirm your nightmare too

To walk along with you

From conception to maturation

From coincidence to confirmation

From self-awareness to personal revelation

To give you a sneak preview

Of what your perception can do

How it can brighten or cloud you

Right or wrong

You carry it all day long

Projecting it in word and song

Continually conceiving from night to dawn

Not knowing why people respond

Some distant, others fond

Of you the perceiving one

Whose world within and without

Have come and gone

Sometimes in the company of friends

Other times with nobody to lean on

So judge nothing before the time

Though there be no reason or rhyme

For God is sublime

Knowing man must first discover himself

Before he can find

The presumptuous perception

That misleads him much of the time

A prison or paradise

You can have through perception

It’s all up to you

Your illumination

Your imagination

Your stimulation

Your inner sensation

If it’s going to be

It’s up to me!

As a man thinks in his heart

So he is

This is no pop quiz

Come out therefore

From behind the bars

Take rest in paradise

And reach for the stars!

by Paul Davis

Sports can play an important role in your child’s aging and maturing process. A common and fun sport to start with is basketball. This sport can be played by women, men, girls, or boys – it doesn’t matter.

The reason why this sport is such an effective one to begin with is because it teaches the importance of team work and team spirit, while helping your child get in shape. Your child can start playing as young as six or seven years old too with an organized team.

Organized teams are a great way to start off, but as you grow older you’ll be able to participate with others you don’t know in a pickup format. All you have to do is show up at the park, ask if you could join in, and you’ll be able to have some fun while meeting new people.

Meeting new people is one of the many great advantages of playing this sport. It’s not uncommon to befriend these individuals off the court in the future, so it’s almost as if you can meet potential friends anywhere there’s a basketball court.

Even though these relationships just begin on a small basketball court, they can develop into a close friendship for many years to come. It’s such a common scenario to happen too.

Although it’s arguably much more enjoyable playing with others, you don’t even need to play with anyone. You can practice shooting, dribbling, and get better at the game by yourself. Then show up your friends or acquaintances.

You could also just play with one other person if you wanted to, and have just as much fun. There are many games out there that you can enjoy for hours on end, like five-three-one or horse. You could also just play a one on one game, maybe two on two if you found some more people, and so on.

If you don’t feel like running all the way down the court you can play half court too. With this much flexibility, it’s easy to play basketball and have fun doing it. Not only that, but you’ll be keep in shape as you do.

If you are a gay traveler or visitor to Belarus, do not be dismayed by the socially restrictive culture you will find here, as Belarus gay bars do exist. This state is one that does not offer the gay life that you will find in neighbouring countries such as Russia, Poland, or Lithuania, however, Belarus does have a strong gay community and is home to many gay hotspots. Be prepared, however, to have to search out these hotspots. You won’t be disappointed.

Minsk is the capital of Belarus, and offers a more cosmopolitan flair to life than many other Belarus towns. Here you will find the hottest gay bars. Minsk is probably your safest haven if you are a traveler, and you will find many underground organizations supporting your vacation, as well as a plethora of rotating gay nights at Belarus’ bars and pubs. The community in Minsk is determined, and if you are able to connect with a resident, you will have the time of your life.

Most openly gay bars in Minsk face some form of discrimination and many have been forced to close by the Belarusian government. The advent of the internet has resulted in the gay community being able to flourish more and more and the web spreads word about specific bars and clubs which are gay friendly. Business owners have also switched on to the fact that there is also money to be made from the gay community in exactly the same way as the straight community – and frequent organized gay nights are becoming more popular.

Cautiousness about your lifestyle and discretion is paramount even when you are visiting Minsk. Your best bet to access the gay bars when you are in Minsk is to befriend students from the local universities. Money speaks loudly here in a very poor country of Belarus, so offering monetary tips to residents is not illegal, and will definitely help you access the gay scene during your stay.

The Czar Alexander Park in Minsk is one of the most widely known public meeting places for the gay community. Here you can access people that will direct you to Minsk saunas, bathhouses, and gay bars. Gay life in Belarus is not a bust by any stretch, you simply need to know where to look.

Some other pubic places are active meeting places for gays such as the saunas (called “banyas”) but be careful. Vigilance is required since these places are also frequented by prostitutes and the criminal fraternity. There is also a nudist beach in Minsk, but again some care is required since its open to all and not just gays.

How To Steal Your Man Back From Someone Else

So your boyfriend’s left you for another girl. It happens to the best of us. When this happens there is a period of time where you want him back. You may want him back because you truly miss him (poor, foolish you), or you may want him back so that you can torture him (sneaky, underhanded you). Whatever the reason you’ve stumbled on this article because that is what you intend to do, for better or for worse. If you want your ex back and he is already in the arms of another girl, then you will have to play dirty to do it. If this is acceptable to you then here is a diabolical step-by-step method to get the cheater back.

1. Make Nice With Him.

You must befriend your ex-or at least, pretend to. This is very important in the grand scheme of things. He must believe that you are fine with what has happened and that you just want to be friends if possible. Use the old: we’ve-been-in-each-other’s-life-too-long-not-to-be-friends spiel. Whatever you have to say to make this happen… say it.

2. Living Well Is The Best Revenge.

You need to act as though you’ve moved on and are much happier without him. Make him believe that he has done you a favor. This is critical. Continue emailing him but keep it light with no talk of reconciliation. If you do see him make sure that you are dressed to kill and look rushed as though you have something more important to do.

3. Drop Hints About Trust, Character and Karma.

Make sure to create a scenario where the ex must come to your place and you have a beer. Strike up a casual conversation with laughs and then make light of his being a cheating asshole and say something like: “Seriously, I’m not even worried about it anymore. Karma will sort it all out. You cheat on me, you’ll get cheated on.” Then after you say it, act like you can’t believe that you did and then apologize and say you drank too much. Then tell him he should go.

4. Double Date With Destiny.

Borrow, hire, or steal the hottest guy that can act straight that you know to go on a double date or accidental meeting. Make sure that the man has been prepped to give her the once over then the “you left this for that” look to your ex.

The sort of man who leaves one girl for the next is the sort of man who wants to be respected by his peers. Seeing his ex looking better than his current girlfriend is a blow to the ego. Knowing that another man knows what happened and looks down on him is a blow to the ego. Knowing that his ex is happier without him is a blow to the ego. All of this will create a trouble in his garden paradise for which you will be a sympathetic ear. Eventually, he will tell you that he made a mistake. What you do from there is your own business.

When you want to learn how to attract a guy, who has a girlfriend, you are trying to defy the laws of ethics. It should be unethical to attract a guy who is already committed to somebody else but this is not entirely impossible. It is just a limitation that you might want to consider before you actually heed the things that I will mention here.

Before you try to learn how to attract a guy who has a girlfriend, you might want to put yourself into the shoe of the other girl first and imagine what you would most likely feel if your boyfriend gets attracted to another woman.

But, since you want the information, I would gladly shoot the hoop and give you the details right now.

1 – Show to the guy that you are more attractive and sexy than his current girlfriend

Let us face it. You will most likely feel that she is your competition and there is no better way to describe the current scenario. I am sure you get the picture of what I really mean. She is your competition and you will be her competition. It is the battle between two fierce ladies and the prize is to keep the guy you like.

2 – Get to know more about him and his girlfriend

More likely, you will be able to uncover some secrets that either give you the advantage or push you further down the drain. The first phase of erasing the competition is to get the information that will take you to the edge. If you get to know more about him and his relationship, you would likely see the flaws and you might want to fill that in.

3 – Invite him and his girlfriend to a group date

It may be a good idea to befriend the competition while you work your way to attract her guy. I am sure you would agree that the easiest way to creep between relationships is to get close.

It may be really devious to learn how to attract a guy, who has a girlfriend already. But, I know you would want to know if this is possible. The answer would be yes.