What is the key to a happy marriage? This is the million dollar question and depending on who you ask you will get a ton of different answers. Some people think the key to a happy marriage is more money. They think if they had more money, their wife could shop all she wanted and they would never have to argue about it.
If they could just hit the lottery, all of their relationship problems would just go away. Let’s think about the more money less problems theory for a second. Would having more money help you out? Probably so, but would having more money solve your relationship issues?
Not likely.
Take a minute to think about the celebrity couples with the looks, the nice big house, fancy car and the perfect love story. These people usually have just as many marriage problems as the folks without nearly as much.
The only difference is between them and us is they are able to go buy some expensive gift to say “I’m sorry” and we cannot afford to do that. These type gestures are simply putting a band aid on a serious wound. The underlying problem still exists and it is usually just a matter of time before the relationship falls apart.
Make no mistake about it, everyone has relationship problems and having an unlimited source of money is not the key to a happy marriage. Put your lottery dreams aside for a second and let’s talk about a few simple steps that actually work to help your relationship.
While you may not be able to afford that five carat ring as an apology for hurting your spouse, you still have the ability to make her happy on a shoestring budget.
How?
At the end of the day, most women are not as materialistic as they may lead you to believe. I am not saying women do not like all the flashy things, but I am saying there are other ways to win her heart. What a woman really wants is to feel appreciated. She wants to feel like she is the Queen of your Universe. This is the key to a happy marriage.
There are a few simple steps you can take to make her feel this way and I will share them with you now.
Pay Attention to the Details
A lot of guys tend to listen to other guys that say don’t worry about the details dude. For example, it is her birthday so you go to the store and buy the first cake you see. It is a red cake with vanilla icing. However you know your wife’s favorite color is blue and she prefers chocolate cake.
You present the cake to her and she does not seem very excited. I wonder why? You missed all the details! Life is all about details. While you feel like you should get a check in the box for getting the cake in time for her birthday, you completely missed the mark by not showing her you cared enough to get her exactly what she likes.
Often the details are what gets overlooked, while you are busy looking for the big ticket items, you have overlooked 100 ways you could have showed her you love her by paying attention to the details.
Let’s move on to the key to a happy marriage tip number 2.
Give Her A Hello and Goodbye Kiss Every Day (No Excuses)
Our lives are extremely busy. We have work responsibilities, family obligations, pets, friends, extracurricular activities etc. It gets very easy to forget about the details at home when you have 100 different responsibilities to take care of. No matter how busy you are, you need to make sure you are taking the time to kiss your wife every time you see her and every time you leave her.
Is this the perfect answer for making her feel like the queen of your universe?
A lot of you may be saying no, this is not a good solution because you kiss your wife hello and good bye every day, but she doesn’t seem to care. When you kiss your wife in the morning before you go to work are you doing it the same way every day? The kiss you give her once you return home from work, is it the same kiss you have been giving her for years? Of course it does not work anymore.
Try picking her up in your arms and kissing her on the forehead next time, or how about giving her a good bye kiss on her neck instead of her lips? I bet you will get a different reaction.
A kiss is free and also sends a powerful message. Pucker up and give her a kiss she will think about until the next time your lips meet again.
Give Her A Night Off Each Week
Is your wife just as busy as you if not more? Is she a stay at home mom? Try getting off from work early one day and surprise her with a dinner or put on your chef hat and cook for her. It does not matter what the food tastes like, she will be blown away that you cared enough to try to cook for her.
Give her a night off from her daily routine at least once per week. Plan out the meal for the day, get the kids bathed and ready for bed. Run her a hot bath and clean up the kitchen while she is enjoying her bath.
She will feel like someone set her up on a mini vacation and it will show her just how much she means to you.
Send Her Funny Love Notes
I know this seems pretty lame to you and it may even require you to swallow some of your pride, but sending your spouse a silly love note is the fastest way to melt her heart. You will be surprised how many times she will read your note time and time again. She might even go as far as collecting them and reflecting on them when times get rough between you two.
Sending her funny love notes is another inexpensive way to back up the words, I love you.
Conclusion
You do not have to spend enormous amounts of money to prove to her she is the queen of your universe. Paying attention to details, giving her special kisses, surprising her with a break, and expressing your love on paper are all simple ways of showing her you care.
And that my friend is the key to a happy marriage.
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