Earn Good Money With Forex Money Trading

People have been earning good money with forex money trading since many years. More and more people are getting into forex trade to make money. Forex trade involves the buying and selling of different currencies. If the market trend shows that the value of dollar is going to rise in the coming weeks, then one can buy the currency and vice versa. There are different perceptions by different people. Some might feel that the value of a particular currency will rise while some might feel the opposite. So, there is an element of risk involved. The person who is able to analyse and make correct judgements is the winner. One needs to follow the markets consistently, keep updating and analyzing the market trends and make sound judgements that yield profits.

Anyone can enter the forex trade. There are even different software solutions that help in buying and selling of currencies. So, even if you are not glued to your computer monitor, the system installed by you takes care of the trading. It is very imperative to buy a good system and get it installed on your computer that not only manages the trading aspect but also helps in updating market reports, analyzing the market and projecting future trends. One needs to do intensive research to get the right system. You can ask your colleagues who have been in the business of forex trade for a while and take their sound advice. There are manufacturers who give demos and trials before you buy the system.

If you have a good system and play safe with small amounts of money in the beginning and gradually increase the volume as you gain more knowledge and experience, you can make good money in forex money trading.

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Ten Ideas to Reward Teams and Members

Teams are used to increase work production, solve problems, develop improvements, and lots more for business organizations. Getting people to work together often requires a different set of rewards to motivate the team to do their best. Here are ten simple ideas for rewards that recognize and motivate team building and work contributions.

  1. Put team and individual member appreciation and accomplishment in writing via a letter or some fun certificate of achievement that is given out at a team meeting.
  2. Offer team-building, communication, conflict resolution, and meeting training to improve their future working together and give them time away from current work to attend.
  3. Vocalize appreciation for the work they do by giving group and individual praise appropriately.
  4. Provide rewards and recognition that are specifically tailored to the team and its individual members.
  5. Invite team members to celebrate their accomplishments together with a pot-luck lunch, pizza at a meeting, or an after-hours party.
  6. Give little office gifts or books to team members or consider a bigger gift idea for the entire team.
  7. Provide training and growth opportunities not just for team-building, process improvement, and problem solving, but other skills as well.
  8. Arrange occasional times for a fun outing such as short trips like going together to a game, movie, a picnic, community event, or the option of breakfast or lunch in a popular restaurant.
  9. Offer bi-yearly or yearly options for a few hours, half day, or full day facilitated team building event or retreat that gets them away from the job but closer together as a group.
  10. Use a small amount of meeting time or the team’s lunch time for team-building activities like icebreakers or thought-provoking exercises.

These ten easy to implement ideas for team rewards can be a starting point for recognizing and motivating teams and its members. Appropriate rewards are important for getting people to work together to do their best as a team. This is important to business organizations that want to use their work teams to increase production, for problem solving, and to implement improvements to processes and products.

NOTE: See also article on “The 3 P’s of Reward and Recognition” when designing programs.

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The Bigger Picture in Overcoming Adversities

Our lives present us with a multitude of challenges from the clock that needs a new battery or the computer that won’t talk to the printer to arguments over teenage children’s bedtime, how to pay this months bills, being made redundant, a family dispute, looking for a new place to live, coughs and colds, terminal illness, a broken arm, divorce, an accident where a family member dies, the dog swallowing something it shouldn’t have been chewing in the first place… the list goes on and on.

Sometimes the challenges can feel overwhelming and we get lost emotionally in what is going on. Before we realise it the smallest problem feels like the biggest challenge in the world. We can recognise when the challenge has got out of proportion when we step back and see that the amount of stress caused by needing to find a battery for the clock far outweighed the true importance of having a working clock. But when it gets to things like family disputes or problems that interfere with us doing our work (such as the car breaking down so we can’t get to where we need to be) then the line around what is important becomes very blurry. In the moment it can feel like the problem is the most important thing in the world and that nothing else matters. Yet is this really true?

One of the ways of overcoming adversities is to step back from the problem itself. When we are able to step back from the centre of what we are experiencing and stand on the edge, then we can see a bigger picture and we can see how the challenge fits in our life. It is easy to get drawn into challenges which don’t really matter and it is only when stepping back that we can see where this challenge fits in proportion with everything else in our life. In letting go of the emotions which are overwhelming us and seeing the problem with perspective, we can see how it really fits in. Does it really matter if we don’t get to do the work we planned to do today? Do I really need to keep on arguing the same point over and over just because I don’t want to lose face? Is anyone going to die if I don’t get help in overcoming adversities such as these? When we put the challenge into perspective and realise that actually the problem isn’t really that significant, then we can instantaneously overcome the problem: we may see that there is no problem after all or we may see a simple solution we hadn’t noticed before.

Of course, not all problems are overcome in this way because they are really significant and important in our lives. So what happens when the problem in our lives is big and significant such as the loss of a job or a home or the break up of a relationship or the loss of a child or other loved one? Here the challenges are real. They aren’t challenges that can be resolved in 5 minutes and the way to overcoming adversities such as these is in reaching a place of acceptance

Once we reach a place of acceptance, then we will have worked through a range of emotions which could include anger, frustration, sadness, depression and others. And coming to this place of acceptance takes time. It cannot be rushed. It’s not a place you can pretend to be. And yet you can work to get yourself on the road towards acceptance. The route that you take is one for your personal choosing: talking to friends, professional counselling, meditation, visualisation, reiki, journalling – whatever works best for you and your lifestyle.

Overcoming adversities and reaching this place of acceptance is a real gift. Along the way we will have learned much about ourselves, our friends and family and the world around us as we strive to come to terms with the life changing events and to understand why they happened. Everything happens for a reason and out of everything that happens in our lives there is something for us to learn. It may take us time to unravel the reason, and one thought which has sustained me through some of the most challenging times is that we are never presented with more than we can cope with. At times it certainly may not feel like this, and if we are able, in those most difficult moments, to centre ourselves, to come back to who we are by simply taking a deep breath in and out, then we can really feel that we have survived that moment, that we are still alive, and that ultimately life will be ok.

Big changes in our lives often mean life changing events where nothing is quite the same for us ever again. And within this there is continued scope for us to learn, to connect with our hearts and to live in the most beautiful and connected way we can. It is through overcoming adversities that we learn most, that we truly know ourselves and that we are given the gift of being truly connected to our heart. When we reach the place of acceptance, we reach a resting place: the emotions are stilled and we have found a way to meet our emotional needs. From here comes the beginning of the path to peace.

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Save Money While Conserving Energy

In today’s economy it seems homeowners across the country are doing their very best to cut costs by conserving energy. Conserving energy in your home can be very beneficial for a variety of reasons. Some of those reasons include saving money by reducing the high costs of monthly utility bills; preserving the environment for a cleaner, greener tomorrow; reducing carbon dioxide emissions and enhancing the quality of indoor air. There are many ways people can safely conserve energy in their homes, and beyond.

Here are a few easy ways to cut costs in your home while conserving energy:

Lighting

The old saying applies, “Shut the lights off when you leave the room.” When you leave a room for a minimum of five minutes, turn out the lights. This small step will save you money and conserve energy at the same time. Long-term, it will greatly cut costs and put money in your pockets.

Also, consider replacing the incandescent light bulbs in your home for new fluorescent light bulbs. These energy efficient bulbs can offer the same light levels for significantly less energy.

Weatherize The Windows and Doors

By simply weatherizing the windows and doors of your home you can significantly save energy and cut your monthly cooling and heating costs. This simple task can be achieved by sealing the windows and doors of your home using a plastic film cover, weather stripping, and an inexpensive tube of caulking.

The sealing helps prevent cold drafts from entering your home through the windows and doors, conserving the energy used for cooling and heating.

Thermostat

During the cold winter months it is best to set your thermostat between 68 and 70 degrees. At night, it is best to try to reduce the thermostat down 5-10 degrees. It has been suggested by experts that it is best to sleep under cooler conditions.

During the hot summer months, consider installing ceiling fans throughout your home for an increased air circulation instead of leaving the air conditioner run constantly; day and night.

Electronics

Always unplug electronic devices that are not in use. This is one easy way to conserve energy in your home.

Some examples include televisions, radio, stereos and battery chargers. All of these electronics combined use the same amount of power, daily, as a refrigerator.

Kitchen Appliances

It is just as important to unplug unused electronics in the kitchen, as it is in the rest of your home, especially when preparing food. It can be very beneficial to utilize smaller kitchen appliances when preparing meals, including toasters, toaster ovens, microwave ovens, hot plates, and slow cookers. These small kitchen appliances tend to use less energy compared to electric ovens.

Hot Water

There is nothing like a long, hot shower after a hard day at work. Did you know by simply decreasing the use of hot water in your home, you can conserve energy, greatly. Experts claim, the average shower should only last about five to ten minutes.

One of the easiest and simplest ways to conserve energy is to wash clothes in a washing machine using cold water. Also, consider washing bigger batches of laundry instead of so many small loads. Also, clean the lint screen well after every use, which will help conserve energy.

Homeowners should also be aware of hot water heaters and their high amount of residential energy consumption!

Natural Gas

Natural gas is more energy efficient for homeowners than electric so when possible, use gas cook stoves, hot water heaters, dryers, and other appliances instead of electric ones.

Recycle

Did you know that long-term recycling will actually save you money? All you have to do is recycle old newspapers, magazines, cans, plastics, and clear and colored glass. This will save you money, conserve energy and provide a better, brighter future for tomorrow.

How to Choose the Perfect Buck Hunting Knife

Buck hunting knives have become tremendously admired because of their usability. Most might believe that knives are merely designed for chopping or else cooking, but in reality they contain numerous uses, which render them really intelligent investments.

When Buck hunting knives first came on scene, they were an instant hit with many people and now, there are more options for customers to choose from depending on their specific needs.

You should be able to pin point the innovations you need in a Buck hunting knife or any knife for that matter. For the most part, you have to ascertain what your work for the knife will be so you can acquire one that will be most advantageous to you.

In general, folks who take pleasure in the outdoors desire hunting knives. If you savor to camp out in the forest every weekend or squander the summer in log cabins out in the woods, you will demand outdoor gear including that which you will utilize on behalf of cutting.

What to Look for in Buck Hunting Knives

Blade Quality – The indication of a dependable and effective knife lies within the characteristics of the blade. Buck Hunting Knives encompass highly strong stainless blades that can cut through things such as hardwoods as well as lines. When you are going camping, you ought to assert a knife that is trivial enough to set within your cargo shorts but sharp enough for all-around service.

Handle – The knife handle is very important especially when you are out in the woods or handling very tough materials that need slicing. Always go for non-slip handles that will be able to prevent serious injuries such as accidental cuts that would really be inconvenient when you are outside the city.

Size – Just because a knife is large, it does not necessarily mean the blade is powerful and useful. Every so often, you will discover that the miniature variety will function better. In any case, you continually have to establish your selection depending on how much cutting, scraping, and skinning you will perform.

Total Usefulness – For the best flexibility and overall utility, then Buck Hunting Knives are the finest you can select from to suit this exact desire.

Cost Versus Service – A prudent buyer will try for a knife because it has a decent price. The versatility and ability to preform various functions make Buck knives extremely solid purchases.

Whatever your needs are in the outdoors, you can count on the fact that you will find a Buck hunting knife that will suit them to a T. What you need to do is shop around, and decide which one is the best to buy.

For more than one hundred years now, Buck hunting knives have continued to bring a sense of ease and convenience to the modern hunter. Remaining as an iconic figure in this industry really shows that Buck has consistently brought new technologies and innovations into their knives for no other than there end users.

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St Lucia Honeymoons

St Lucia Honeymoons are extremely popular judging from the fact that we have won the coveted “World Leading Honeymoon Destination” from the World Travel Awards 9 times in the last 14 years. In fact St we’ve won this award every year over the last 5 years!

So what makes St Lucia honeymoons so special? Well let’s start with our spectacular natural beauty plus the fact that getting here is a bit more difficult and expensive than going to Mexico, or even some of the more northerly Caribbean islands. As a result we are considered a very exotic destination and hence the perfect location for a honeymoon.

Then add to this the fact that Sandals Resorts has 3 all inclusive properties on here and that Sandals is a resort for couples only. So with more couples seeking out a St Lucia honeymoon the votes that push us over the top just keep racking up.

In addition to this lots of couples elope to Sandals for St Lucia weddings as their wedding can be had for free once they stay at the resort over a set number of days. And with so much to do while here choosing to stay for a few extra days is always very appealing.

With so many weddings and honeymoons happening down here destination wedding and honeymoon photography has become quite popular and with the advent of digital photography it is easier than ever to get and share your great island photos. Some hotels offer on site photography and in addition there are quite a number of competent professional destination wedding and honeymoon photographers available to you.

While it can be convenient to go with the hotel’s photography be sure to seek out independent reviews of both your hotel’s photography as well as the photography of any of the professional photographers whose services you may consider. That way you will be well informed and thus able to make the best choice, which is most important as you will have to live with your pictures, whether good or bad, for the rest of your life.

And with so many St Lucia honeymoons and weddings “Trash The Dress” photography is gaining popularity. This is a really exciting, high energy twist to the time old tradition of wedding photography. And the nice thing about it is that because a trash the dress photo shoot comes after the wedding there’s no need to be formal and careful, but instead you are free to let your hair down…

In These Present Times How Worried Should We Be?

Read Matthew Chapter 6 verses 24 to 34. Over these past weeks the interviewers’ oft repeated question has been – “How worried are you?”

In the early part of Chapter 6 – from “The Sermon on The Mount” – Jesus has been speaking about – Giving verses 1 to 4 – Praying verses 5 to 14 – and Fasting verses 16 to 18. ‘Secret’ appears in each of these activities.

There is One who sees and hears. Jesus makes this so clear. God the Father sees when we mean business with Him. Those who did all this to be seen had already received their reward in full. There is One who watches and listens and notices and responds.

When we meet for worship and prayer – is this just something which only a few people do in our land today, which many consider irrelevant? God wants our heart and our love and our mind – and He wants to hear our voice.

Yes, it looks as if it could be a grim and bleak winter – but it needn’t be so for you.

Jesus speaks about storing things up – and then our vision – and our service – and whom we will serve – God or money – a better word is ‘possessions’.

Jesus draws contrasts – we can store up treasures here or in heaven – our vision can be clear or clouded – we can either serve God or mammon. How we decide affects the future – whether we are aware of it or not.

Jesus did not want these disciples to be spiritually bankrupt when it was all over down here – and we can apply that to ourselves. The challenge here to invest – investing money and time and ability and whatever else we have to invest.

Jesus wants His disciples to choose wisely.

It was Thomas Chalmers who started The Savings Bank movement in Glasgow for poor people to have something for when needed. Notice how Jesus says that we are not to save up for ourselves! In a sense Jesus is speaking about coveting. Are we able to give things up, or do they have a hold of us?

Verse 22 – our vision – imagery that has to do with lights and lamps has to do with our understanding.

Sin has a cataract effect – our spiritual sight goes that bit more cloudy. Jesus did not want His disciples to have a clouded vision. Where is our spiritual vision?

If there is something wrong with our spiritual sight, Jesus is able to correct us.

There are two treasures – two visions – two masters. What we focus on is important.

Verse 24 – Who has won your heart? Jesus does not want a little bit of our time or our talents – of our zeal or our thoughtfulness. He wants the lot. He came to buy the lot – to rescue and purchase everything – every part of me.

Jesus wants to bless every part of our lives – and that is why we cannot really serve God and possessions.

We can try and serve materialism – the tyrant of success – the slave master of achievement. We can serve all kinds of things – people’s opinion – what others think of us. These are all possessions in a sense, and we can serve them – and Jesus says that just can’t work.

It is no surprise that Jesus addresses these matters of the heart right at the beginning of His ministry. Matthew 22 verse 34 to 40 – Love the Lord your God.

This section is really all about our heart – Jesus wants us to be different on the inside – in our heart. Who is your master? What owns you? You could not have two masters then, and you cannot have two masters today.

Therefore – because of what I have already been saying – regarding giving and praying and fasting – do not worry – be different. He does not say – try not to worry or have you considered looking at life differently? No – it is a word of command – and also a word of comfort – a word to fortify and fortress.

Verse 25 – Jesus says to His disciples – “Do not worry”. Jesus is not teaching His disciples not to care – nor to do nothing – but He is teaching them not to worry.

The birds have to go and find their food. Do not let your lives be dominated, ruined, or spoiled by worry – Jesus tells us why. Jesus is teaching disciples about anxiety.

Some six times, in this short passage, Jesus refers to being anxious – or worried.

Worry come from an old English word meaning to strangle or choke.

Jesus is challenging disciples about our pride – our faithlessness – the ways in which we can be so easily distracted.

This is not a nice psychological message. This is not some sweet and honey coated teaching. He is challenging our pride and faithlessness and independence.

Jesus sets before us a path – and a way to live – so that we can be fruitful disciples.

These things mentioned here are important, but they are not ultra-important.

“Therefore” – because of what I have been saying, let this follow.

Food and drink and clothing are necessary – but they are not the most important.

This all flows from which master we choose to serve.

He is comforting His disciples as He draws alongside them to strengthen them, and us – to heal the world that will be reached through His disciples.

We live among people who are so anxious, worried and pre-occupied.

The seed can grow – but thorns and thistles can also grow and choke the seed – the cares and worries and the deceitfulness of riches. Jesus did not want His disciples to be like that. That was not what the light of the world was to be like. Disciples were to be different. Matthew 13 and Matthew 5.

These things can be causes for worry and anxiety for many – but they are not to matter most in your lives. Jesus gives three reasons as to why we should not worry. Jesus provides a cure for anxiety, as He points out how valuable we are to God. Look at how important you are to your heavenly Father. God knows what you need, and He can deliver.

He feeds the birds and clothes the flowers. He looks after His pets and His garden.

Our worrying is saying – I do not really believe that God is able to look after me in these different ways. Peace and calm and poise are all involved as we accept these words of Jesus. So many people are anxious.

Look at the Cross if you want to know how much you mean to God.

He re-orders our priorities – is life not more important than food – and the body more important than clothes? We become worried about things which are not really very important. Jesus wants us to have a sense of what is truly important – His kingship – His rule – His government demonstrated.

He is so realistic. Worry does more harm than good. He seeks to establish a daily trust – give us the bread we need for the next 24 hours. You cannot do anything about tomorrow anyway.

To sum up – Jesus is teaching about – a cure for anxiety – re-ordered priorities – a realism to be established in the minds of His disciples – so do not worry.

Do not be anxious about tomorrow – do not worry about tomorrow – because that can paralyse your today.

What is preached points us to the preacher – Jesus so depended upon the Father. He knew His own worth in the eyes of God the Father.

“Do not worry about your life – what you will eat – or about your body and how you will clothe it.” These words are being spoken to disciples – they are for us.

Jesus is saying to us – Follow Me and I will help you avoid all worry.

Wealth can be as much a problem to those who have a lot of money as well as those who do not have much. Those who have plenty and those who have very little – tend to worry. Jesus is saying “Don’t worry – rather trust.”

Life is more than food and clothing. Life is more than physical and material. Food and clothing should not be a priority concern.

There is a spiritual dimension which must not be neglected – rather, it has to be fed good food. Jesus is encouraging His disciples to be concerned about their spiritual growth and development and well-being.

Look at the ravens – they don’t do a lot of work – they don’t sow or reap – they accept their allotted place in the economy of Creation – and GOD feeds them.

“How much more valuable you are than birds!”

Jesus is warning disciples here about the futility of worrying. Can you do anything by worrying about it? Can you lengthen your life by worrying about it? No – rather the opposite – you will shorten your life by worrying about it.

Jesus is teaching us that worry is absurd – pointless – it will wear you down and achieve nothing. Jesus wants to deliver us – release us – and save us – from worry.

On He goes to say to us – look at the flowers – they are beautifully clothed – and yet, they are so temporary. And it is GOD Who clothes them in all their splendour.

Do you think our Heavenly Father will take more care of His garden – His animals and pets – to the neglect of His children? No. No.

Jesus teaches us that worry is simply the result of a lack of faith. Worry is a choice.

Have faith in God – be dependent upon GOD – rely upon Him – trust Him to provide.

Do not be over concerned about what you are going to eat and drink and wear.

The pagan world runs after all these things.

And if you really need something – ask DAD. Your heavenly FATHER knows that you need food and clothing! Wonderful!

Listen to Paul in Philippians Chapter 4 – Worry about nothing – Pray about everything – Thank God in all things – Keep your mind on good things – and be content.

These produce – quiet thoughts – and a heart at rest – guaranteed by God.

“Do not be afraid, for I have redeemed you.

I have called you by your name – you are Mine.

When you walk through the waters, I’ll be with you,

you will never sink beneath the waves.

When the fear of loneliness is looming,

then remember, I am at your side.

“Do not be afraid, for I have redeemed you.

I have called you by your name – you are Mine.”

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Effective Land Reclamation Of Brown Field Sites Using High Efficiency Sand Filtration

In the UK, brown field sites are defined as being “previously developed land” that has the potential for being redeveloped. It is often (but not always) land that has been used for industrial and commercial purposes and is now derelict and possibly contaminated.

There are various reasons that owners of brown field sites have for the reclamation the land. Owners of such sites include manufacturing plants, petrochemicals and utilities and these businesses may require reclamation based on decisions made about the future use of the land. Such decisions may depend on whether to better the land in its current state in order to keep it operational or whether it will be sold off for public or private development, such as housing.

Land reclamation for sites that have previously been used for industrial processes may, on investigation, identify contamination of soils and groundwater, the processing of which may also involve dealing with difficult natural background chemistry such as, for example iron. Iron may be oxidised during the process, thus complicating the treatment process, particularly where petroleum hydrocarbons are also present.

Remediation of such sites can require the extraction of contaminated groundwater using submersible pumps and the treatment and disposal of these segregated wastes. This may necessitate the bespoke design and engineering of a treatment plant capable of handling the contaminants and local groundwater chemistry.

In order to undertake effective water particulate separation to handle effective filtration of the oxidized iron high efficiency sand filtration has been developed for this purpose. The ancillary use of such water filtration technology as part of the overall treatment process can reduce operational costs and be highly efficient.

Treatment plants are more often than not designed to run 24/7 for the continual remediation of land. Previous water filtration methods can lead to the requirement for continuous or very frequent site presence to service plant works and keep them operational.

Through applying high efficiency water filtration as a bolt on to the overall operation of the plants, the backwash process becomes very efficient and reliable. With the volume of water needed for a successful backwash being less and because it is automatic, operative site visits can be reduced significantly.

Costs are also significantly reduced whilst increasing the operation of the plants which ultimately becomes of benefit to the land owner.

The water filtration technology necessary for this purpose filters below 1.0 micron – reliably – even achieving down to 0.45 micron to ensure cleaner process water. Such technology has been shown to provide a high efficiency removal rate of over 86% at 1.0 micron in one single pass whereas conventional filters have to undertake multiple passes to get anywhere such efficiency.

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Cheap Airline Tickets – Get the Same Deals That Airline Employees Get! – Secrets Revealed!

I bet you have often wondered how airline employees get such great deals on airline travel. Well, actually they use many of the same methods that are available to the public! These methods are not very well known, but I am about to blow the lid off of these methods in this article.

1. The first thing that you can do is check the departure times for flights leaving to your destination. If you really want to save money on airline travel then you can fly when most other people do not want to. Often times the tickets on these flights do not sell out, and you can actually negotiate directly with the airlines to get some great deals!

2. Contact the airlines directly to get deals, but with a twist. Most people overlook one of the easiest methods for saving money on airline tickets. If you want to get cheap airline tickets then you need to contact the airline hotline at midnight. These are when the “specials” are automatically updated for the next day, and they go fast. This is something that many people “in the know” have been doing for years.

3. Get to know someone on the inside. Ex-airline employees are great if you want to get cheap airline tickets. The hard part is finding someone who will actually reveal their methods for cheap airline travel. Many people keep these secrets closely guarded, but if you get to know someone in the industry like I did, then you will be able to find out the exact methods that they used to save a ton of money on airline travel!

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Yoga and Love – Part I

Tales of love surround us. Popular songs, amorous movies, romance novels, grocery-store tabloids-all sell “love.” Yet do these starry-eyed dramas rife with reckless and chaotic emotions truly portray its ways? Passion and possessiveness, jealousy and infatuation – can these be love? Don’t these actually reduce the expansive love of the Spirit to grasping, grabby desires of the ephemeral flesh?

To truly love, we must discard common notions, dispense with the appearances of love, and discover where true love lives. We will then find that, although true love is freedom, popular styles of love are gilded bondage. I know this from my own experience: When I first fell in love at nineteen, every time my beloved left me in India to return to America, something was wrenched out of my body.

I walked around in a daze for months, bumping into walls and tripping over curbs. In those rare moments when I wasn’t obsessed with my beloved, my thoughts were fuzzy and my actions weak. For four years, I wrote her at least one letter a day, filling it with poetry and romantic thoughts from my heart. I needed to love her, and I needed her love in return; only then did I feel complete. People thought of me as romantic – passionate, loving, and wonderful. But this intense neediness, this desperate desire, was not wonderful at all! It was pure powerlessness.

The emotional frenzy called love is completely alien to true love, the nonpossessive, liberating embrace of another. When we love truly, there are no attachments. We expect nothing back. Love is only joy.

What is this rare kind of love? How do we find it? Are we ready for it? Isn’t it easier to just dismiss this as New Age hoopla and go back to familiar mediocrity, back to the way things were, to passion and pain, fondness and frustration, desire and despair? Yet when we pause, when we listen deep inside, our heart tells us that we are tired of the old game, that there is so much more.

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