You broke up… you went your separate ways… and suddenly from out of nowhere there’s a text from your ex boyfriend. What does he want? And why would he choose text-messaging as a way to re-open the lines of communication?
Well for starters, an ex boyfriend who contacts you is showing definite signs of interest. Don’t think for one minute that he’s bring friendly or curious, because when a guy calls or texts you after a breakup he’s looking to accomplish a very specific task.
Depending upon how your relationship ended, there may be some unfinished business. Your ex might have had time to think things over, and sending you a text-message might be his way of testing the waters before jumping right in. A phone call would be too personal, and would give you more of an advantage over any conversation the two of you might have. This is why your ex texted you – so he could choose his words carefully and to even up the playing field.
Reasons Your Ex Boyfriend Might Send You a Text
A guy will text you when he’s bored, lonely, or thinking about your past relationship. Maybe his single life isn’t turning out to be quite as rosy as he thought it would be, or maybe your ex boyfriend just plain misses you. Whatever the case, the fact that you’ve been apart has changed his perspective. His text message is an indication that he’s not yet ready to let the door close on your relationship, or at least, not completely.
Keep in mind however, that a guy will also text you when he’s looking for something a little more specific: sex. The reason why your ex boyfriend is texting you could very well be because he’s trying to sleep with you again. If you suspect this is the case, make sure you’re ready to handle it. If you’ve been trying hard to get your boyfriend back, you don’t want to let him take advantage of you by jumping back into bed with him.
Most times though, your ex will begin texting you with seemingly innocent small talk. This is his way of breaking the ice, and feeling you out as to how you still feel about him. An ex boyfriend who’s thinking of getting back together or reversing the breakup will want to know that you feel the same way before making a move in your direction.
Does Texting Mean Your Ex Wants You Back?
If your ex boyfriend chose text-messaging as a means of getting back in touch with you, he’s probably a little timid about approaching you in person. That said, sending a text could be his way of finding out whether or not you’re still mad at him, especially if the relationship ended in a heated way.
Your ex boyfriend also wants something important here: information. He wants to know where you are and what you’re doing. Ideally, he’d like to find out that you haven’t moved on (i.e. still hung up on him), and that you’re not dating someone else. This puts him in prime position to get you back, should he decide he wants to reverse your breakup.
For this reason, it’s always important not to reveal too much. Give your ex everything he wants, and you might not hear back from him for a long while. But make your ex feel as if you might be moving on without him, and suddenly he might start paying a lot more attention to you. Making your ex boyfriend jealous to get him back – by keeping yourself a mystery – is a great way of putting yourself right back in his head again.
In the end, there are many reasons why an ex boyfriend would send you a text message. Almost all of them are good, if you’re trying to get him back. Yet before you make any moves you might regret, make sure you know exactly what to do and when to do it. Walking the path to reconciliation is fairly tricky, and the more you can educate yourself the greater your chances for a successful reunion.
