Are you in a dilemma over your recent breakup with your boyfriend and contemplating the possibilities of getting back together with him? While it’s obvious that you are still in love with your ex or you wouldn’t be concerned about getting back together with him, there is however something that you must avoid at all means as you try getting back together with your ex boyfriend. You must not be pushy.

This importance of this issue cannot be over-emphasized as you attempt to get your ex boyfriend back. Being too pushy has a very high tendency of backfiring on you. You should first and foremost understand that getting your ex back is not something that you accomplish overnight. The process requires a good dose of patience and careful planning on your part. The urge to quickly get back together with your ex has to be kept in check.

The truth is that most guys do not like the idea of being pressured even by their own folks not to talk of the opposite sex. It is just part of their nature. Thus his reaction when you attempt being pushy in getting back together with him might easily result in him feeling pressured and pushing back against your attempts. Being pushy simply increases his resistance against your attempts to get back together with him.

A wiser option therefore, would be for you to toll the path of caution, and gradually work your way back into his life. Use a gentler and less pushy approach to reach out to your ex boyfriend.

The most common mistake most ladies make when trying to win back their ex boyfriend is that they keep on calling him repeatedly over time. This is simply irritating to most guys and frankly constitutes a nuisance. I know you want to talk to him, hear voice and all that, but ladies, you run the risk of losing him altogether. You need to give him some space either to think or concentrate on his work.

When you persist in calling him too often like this, what happens when you see him in person? Don’t you think he will simply be resentful towards of you because your frequent calls might have ended up making him irritable towards you? If you are not careful, you might just reduce your available communications channels with him in the future. Obviously, you really need to think again before making that next call.

Let’s face it; the worst part is that it makes you look so desperate and needy. And for sure, nobody likes anyone acting out of desperation. It is so unattractive, appalling, and such a big turnoff to avoid.

Another tendency during this period to be wary of is that of constantly arguing with your ex boyfriend over the breakup. Arguments will only add more heat to an already heated situation. It achieves nothing. When you start arguing with him like this, you are essentially giving him more reasons why he should avoid coming back into the relationship.

You may have your facts to buttress your arguments but to what end are they being raised? Are you trying to convince him that he was wrong leaving the relationship and therefore should come back into your loving and waiting arms? These arguments will only make the situation more tense for you and that is the last thing you want as you try to get your ex boyfriend back.

You need to therefore tread carefully and in a more affectionate and calculated manner. Try avoiding these actions and you will greatly increase your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.