So you screwed up and your boyfriend broke up with you. And you would do anything to make it up to him. But now he won’t talk to you, or worse, he says that it’s over for good and he doesn’t want to hear anything you have to say. How do you get your boyfriend to forgive you and take you back? How do you show him that you have changed and will never let him down again?

It can be hard to get your boyfriend to take you seriously, especially if he isn’t talking to you right now. In this situation, you have to start slowly if you want to get him back. Here are three tips that will help you go about getting him back the right way, and for good this time!

1. Take a break. If your boyfriend can’t forgive you, and he doesn’t want to talk about it, the last thing he wants right now is to be reminded of what happened every time his phone rings. Give him a break, and don’t call him or contact him at all for a few days. Use this time to really decide what needs to change and what you are willing to do to move your relationship past this rough spot.

2. Start changing. Even if your boyfriend won’t see that you’re changing things, you will know that you are. And this will give you confidence when you talk to your boyfriend about forgiving you and getting back together. If you really screwed up, make sure that you have learned from it. And make sure that it is a true change — not just one that will stick until your boyfriend takes you back.

3. Start slowly. Once the trust has gone from your relationship, it can be hard to gain it back. If you want to get your boyfriend to forgive you, you can’t push him too quickly. Let him see that things are really different. Don’t try to push him back into a relationship right away. If you can get him to meet with you, do it in a public place, over coffee or lunch. Don’t just try to talk him into dating you again. Show him that you are the girl he fell in love with and that the two of you can be happy again. Respect his feelings and let him see that you have really changed.