I recently got an email from a wife whose husband had been becoming increasingly distant and cold to her. He had begun hinting that perhaps they should try a trial separation or taking some space from one another. Of course, this was the exact opposite of what the wife wanted. In her mind, the best case scenario was that the two of them would be able to pull together, work things out, and ride the storm as a team.

But, the more the wife make her stance clear to the husband, the more he pulled away from her. It was as if her affection and longing were only turn offs at this point. The wife wasn’t sure which strategy she should take. More and more, it was looking as if he were going to take the space with or without her blessing. But she suspected that once he began to move further away, he might not ever come back to her. So, she was understandably resistant to this.

Actually, there’s a reasonable happy medium where both people can at least get some of what they want. And the result will usually give you your best chance of getting your husband back with you, back with the marriage, and back on board with making things better. I’ll discuss this more in the following article.

Sometimes, The More A Husband Is Pushing You Away, The More You’re Tempted To Pull Him Toward You: This is just human nature that is most commonly driven by fear. Afraid that you’re going to let him get away, you only cling more tightly. But, if he’s not receptive to this, then his inclination is going to be to intensify his efforts to get away and break free. You run the risk of him seeing you as something that is too confining and must be escaped. This is not the position that you likely want to place yourself in.

If this is the scenario that you’re finding yourself in, it will often be in your best interest to change the dynamics of this as soon as you possibly can. You really can’t afford for him to see you as something that is standing between him and his happiness or freedom. You will usually have to set it up so that he suspects or hopes that both things can exist at the same time.

Changing Things Up When You Can Feel Him Moving Away From You: Believe me when I say that I completely understand your reluctance and fear. I was in this situation and I remember exactly how scared, unsure, and vulnerable it left me feeling. But, I also know first hand that is you portray yourself as the person who is so scared that you have so little to offer that he’s going to leave you and never come back, then you’re coming from a place or weakness rather than strength.

If you portray yourself in this way, your husband will often see you as unattractive. After all, in his mind, why else would you be so afraid to give him a little time and space? You will actually appear to be much more attractive and appealing if you can portray confidence in yourself and in his love for you. You’re much better off saying something like “listen, I love you and want you to be happy. Of course you can take the time that you need. I could probably use the same time to sort things out on my end. Along to way, we can check in and see where to go from there.”

As risky as this might feel, you’ve accomplished many things here. You’ve set yourself up as someone who wants for him to be happy, not someone who he sees standing in the way of his happiness. And, you’ve set it up so that you will have some access to him during the time apart. (In some situations, he won’t even need to leave to accomplish this.) Plus, you’ve hinted that you will be taking time for yourself also. This will make him wonder a bit, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Setting Things Up So That You Get Him To Come Back To You Very Willingly: Often, when women ask me how they can “make” their husband come back to them, I have to explain that really, you can’t “make” someone do what they are truly resistant to. Even if you are able to, they will resent you for you. But, what you can to is to set up the environment and circumstances so that it is conducive to them wanting to come back.

You can do this by portraying yourself with dignity and positive emotions. Whatever you do, do not dwell on the negative. Try to show him the vibrant, happy go lucky, and laid back woman that he likely fell in love with. You don’t want to show him the fearful, insecure, and struggling person that you perhaps feel like right now. You want the environment to be a light hearted one when you together. Do not place additional pressure on the situation. Don’t cling. Don’t ask for reassurances. It’s very important that you portray confidence that it will all work out in the end.

Often, this attitude will intrigue a husband and he will want to spend more time with you to see just what brought about this change of heart. And when he does, you’re best bet is to continue to move slowly and to not let down your guard until you’re both equally committed and ready to start again.

The fastest way to change your emotions is through your breathing.  Each time you exhale, breathe out fear.  Each time you inhale, breathe in peace.  After you do this three times you will notice your body already feels more relaxed.  It happens quickly. Continue to breathe this way.

Your heart must be open, not closed.  Breathe fully into your chest and feel your heart open.

Picture in your mind’s eye the positive relationship you want.  Create an image of you and your spouse in your dream relationship, the way you would like to look when you are together and loving each other.

Whenever you think about your anger, hurt, or pain with your spouse you must immediately focus instead on something you appreciate about your partner.  It may be something he or she said or did recently, or something you have neglected to appreciate until now. 

The more specific your appreciation, the more your spouse will take it in.  Instead of saying, “I love your smile,” you might say: “I loved the way you smiled at me this morning as we sat down for breakfast.  You eyes sparkled and I could feel your caring.”

Tell your spouse what you appreciate while looking him or her in the eye.  Eye contact is essential for your spouse to know you mean what you are saying.

Your tone is just as important, even more important, than your words.  Your spouse will resonate with your feelings, which will come through in your tone.  You must be sincere.

Once you have broken the ice by sharing your first appreciation with your spouse, continue to appreciate your partner twice every day.  First thing in the morning and last thing at night, or whatever works for you and your spouse. 

By appreciating your spouse daily you will change your relationship.  Notice how you are changing already, how your body feels energetic and lighter, how you feel better about yourself for having appreciated your spouse.

I counseled a couple who had been married more than fifteen years who were headed toward divorce.  By sharing appreciations with each other every day they kept their marriage together.  They sat down together once each day and held hands. While looking one another in the eye, each told his or her spouse something they loved and appreciated about each other.  They did this daily for a year.  They not only headed off a divorce, but at the end of the year they were back together in the relationship they both wanted. 

Here is the secret: what you give to your partner, you do for yourself.  The love you give your spouse comes back to you. What you give is what you get. You end up feeling better and your spouse does too.  You have your mojo back again. 

Enhance your holiday celebrations with this new trilogy of short Christmas stories. Best selling author, Joanne Fluke, headlines this entertaining, feel-good tribute to seasonal literature. Fifteen mouth-watering recipes complement the story lines; sure to add pleasure to any holiday feast or forthcoming Super Bowl party.

Gingerbread Cookie Murder by Joanne Fluke

It’s a month before Christmas in Lake Eden, Minnesota and Hannah Swensen is anticipating the holidays. As owner of The Cookie Jar, a local eatery and coffee shop, she’s already begun her seasonal baking.

Hannah resides in the same condo development as Ernie Kusack, a recently divorced father of two teenagers. His ex-wife, Lorna, lives in the same complex.

Christmas music blasts from Ernie’s condo daily, given all his free time. Ernie, a former driver for the Shamrock Limousine Company, won 8 million dollars in the Super-Six-Lottery; and quit his job.

Ernie agreed to Hannah’s request to lower the music volume while visiting her shop. Hannah gave Ernie a dozen of her gingerbread cookies to seal the deal.

When the music’s volume becomes unbearable, and Hannah’s attempts to reach Ernie fail, she enlists the help of policeman, Mike Kingston. Hannah and Mike enter Ernie’s condo with a key supplied by his ex-wife Lorna. There, they find Ernie dead on the floor near an open refrigerator door; Hannah’s earlier gift of gingerbread cookies is crumbled among the floor.

Who killed Ernie and why? Was it his ex-wife, Lorna, using his condo key? What does a cell phone number matching Ernie’s lottery winning picks, and a framed copy of the lucky ticket hanging in Ernie’s guest bathroom have to do with the crime?

Hannah Swensen is Fluke’s recurring character in her books, incorporating food in the plot and titles. Fluke weaves thirteen mouth-watering recipes into the story, including ‘Gingerbread Cookies,” and “Magic Chocolate Caramel Cookie Bars.” “Game-Day Oven Burgers,” and “Smokin’ Willie’s Crispy Crunchy Coleslaw” would complement any Super Bowl party.

The Dangers of Gingerbread Cookies by Laura Levine

Jaine Austen, and her cat Prozac, visit her parents for the Christmas holidays at their Tampa Vistas Retirement Community. Hank and Claire Austen are still madly in love after all these years despite their quirks. Claire repeatedly calls Prozac Zoloft, and spoils the feline with table scraps, much to Jaine’s chagrin.

Jaine pens commercials in Los Angeles for her livelihood; and her parents insist on introducing their daughter as a famous Hollywood writer: “She wrote “In a Rush to Flush? Call Toiletmasters!”

Edna Lindstrom has written this year’s Tampa Vista’s holiday play entitled, The Gingerbread Cookie That Saved Christmas; and insists Jaine critique the dress rehearsal. It is as Jaine describes, “A shameless rip-off of both A Christmas Carol and Peter Pan, the tortured plot involved a gingerbread man who comes to life and helps a lonely older woman discover her many blessings.”

Preston McCay, a recent plastic surgeon retiree from Cleveland, joins the association. A womanizer, he quickly charms Edna into believing marriage is in their future and lands lead role in her play. Preston’s dialogue can’t be heard through the gingerbread man’s costume head, so they use facial make-up instead; making him look like a “molting bear with a human head.”

After the painstakingly long dress rehearsal, Edna suggests leading lady, Laurette Kendall, director Gloria Di Nardo, Preston and Jaine grab a bite to eat. Preston declines, claiming he’s too tired.

There at the Chinese restaurant, the quartet discovers Preston dining with Tampa Vista’s young, svelte water aerobics instructor.

Jaine watches in awe, as spare ribs fly, and each lady claims Preston had planned to marry her.

The play’s Opening night proves tragic, as Preston’s suspended pulley breaks during the finale; crashing him to the stage. He dies of a broken neck.

Who murdered Preston McCay? Was it one of his jilted romantic interests or some other Tampa Vistas resident? Levine keeps you laughing till the mystery’s end.

Laura Levine is a Hollywood comedy writer, touting major television credits to her name. She’s currently writing the next Jane Austen mystery.

Gingerbread Cookies and Gunshots by Leslie Meier

Lucy Stone is a wife, mother, grandmother and part-time reporter for Tinker Cove Maine’s Pennysaver newspaper.

While doing some holiday grocery shopping, she’s reacquainted with four-year-old, redheaded Nemo Anderson, and his mother Ocean at the bakery counter. Nemo wants a gingerbread man cookie and his mother cries poverty. Nemo and Ocean live at the Aquarizoo, an abandoned, run-down aquarium that was previously a tourist trap. Ocean, with a shaved head and numerous facial piercings, is unconventional to say the least.

Lucy catches up with Ocean and Nemo in the store parking lot after buying Nemo a cookie. There, Ocean’s boyfriend Rick Juergens, is picking them up in his Porsche. Rick too sports a shaved head, various rings and studs on his face, gold tooth and barbed wire tattoo around his neck. Townspeople peg the couple as drug dealers.

Lucy asks herself, “How can they afford a Porsche, but they can’t afford a dollar forty-nine cookie for their kid?” Her newspaper reporting experience reminds her that things aren’t always as they appear; and she suspends judgment.

The next day while driving, Lucy hears an AMBER Alert on her car radio announcing Nemo’s disappearance. His abductor is described as “a large African American woman wearing a quilted maroon coat.” She’s driving a gray Honda CR-V with Massachusetts license plates.

What becomes Nemo’s fate? Is he found, and if so, dead or alive? Why is Nemo’s last name Anderson and not Juergens like Rick’s? What accounts for Lucy discovering Rick’s body in his Porsche at Blueberry Pond, shot in the head, Nemo’s half-eaten gingerbread cookie that she’d given him nearby, and no sign of Nemo?

Leslie Meier is the author of sixteen Lucy Stone mysteries and has written for Ellery Queen’s Mystery Magazine. She’s currently working on the next Lucy Stone mystery.

Gingerbread Cookie Murder makes an entertaining seasonal read whether at home, or during your train or bus commute to work. All three stories are steeped in feel-good holiday fanfare despite being murder mysteries. The authors showcase their simple, crisp writing abilities, including well-hidden plots. Complement your holiday celebrations by reading this trilogy; and consider it for early gift giving for anyone on your list who enjoys literature.

To review select recipes by Joanne Fluke, visit http://www.murdershebaked.com./recipe.htm.

If you have just separated from your wife, there is a good chance that things are not going to be resolved any time soon. For her to take a drastic step like that means that she has obviously agonized over the decision and is taking it very seriously. After all, there is a lot on the line.

That’s why you aren’t likely to smooth things over with a bouquet of flowers or some smooth talking spiel. Unless she is bluffing, such tactics are doomed to failure. It is a little more serious than that.

Okay, so what about talking? Well, that might work if you can discuss things as two rational adults that stand to lose a lot if the marriage dissolves. However, what you don’t want to do is make things worse by looking desperate. If your big plan simply involves begging her to come back, you are throwing yourself at her mercy and the outcome may not be that great.

If you are able to come across in a mature manner, there is a very good chance that you will make some headway in the future. Acknowledge the breakup and let her know how saddened you are by it, but leave it at that. Make sure that you let her know that you are prepared to live up to your obligations as far as child support/alimony goes. This is going to send the message that you are prepared to take responsibility and do what needs to be done. This is what she needs to hear – not some insecure guy begging for another chance. It is the adult thing to do.

During the separation, make sure that you live up to your obligations. Keep up your payments and make sure that you are still a big part of your children’s lives.

If there is any consolation in being husband and wife, it is that a married couple have a lot more on the go than a boyfriend/girlfriend arrangement (i.e. children, home ownership). Thus, it is very easy to stay in touch with your ex wife. You can take your time and work your plan slowly. She is likely going to be a part of your life for a long time, even if you don’t get back together.

For the time being, be the person she can rely on. Show her that you are still there for her even if you are not a couple any more. Don’t try to force things and allow it to play out on it’s own. Before you know it, you could be reunited and living happily ever after.

Recently separated with your wife and trying to get her to call you back? If you have been leaving messages for your wife and she won’t return your phone calls, I would like to offer you a technique that literally works like magic. It’s very simple, it’s not sneaky or manipulative, and it will arouse her curiosity. Ladies, feel free to use this one as well.

First off, I want to briefly discuss the typical phone calls that are made after people break up. These techniques don’t usually work very well, and if you’ve been guilty of these, please stop:

• “Please, please, please call me back!!”- Where you plead with your husband or wife to return your call. This is a desperation ploy, it surrenders all power to them, and it makes you look weak and pathetic. And above all, it doesn’t work!
• “I really need you to call me. It’s an Emergency!” – Telling your spouse this is a dirty trick and if they do fall for it, it better be a true emergency. In either case it’s an awful way to get their attention and will undermine your case anyway.

What I suggest instead is to leave a message that will arouse curiosity in your spouse and do it in a way that flatters them. Next time you get their answering machine or voicemail, say something to the effect that you are sorry you missed them but you wanted to thank them for what they have been doing for you. You wanted to share it with them in person, so would they please call back when they have a chance.

That’s all there is to it! A message like this will drive them crazy wanting to know just what the heck it is you are talking about! This combination of curiosity and flattery usually proves to be too tempting and hard to resist returning the call.

OK, so now your husband or wife, crazy with curiosity, calls you back wanting to know what it is they have done for you. What do you do now you ask me? Be very careful here. This is make or break time. One false move at this point could screw it up totally! You will need a cleverly conceived and perfectly executed plan for what to say when they call you back. This part is more important than getting them to call you in the first place.

Have you tried using remote seduction to get your ex back? If you are serious about getting your ex back, then I suggest you look into the powerful practice of remote seduction. Remote seduction is the art of sending thoughts to the object of your affection, or in this case your ex, and you intentionally create sensual thoughts to arouse the ex.

In order to successfully transmit sensual thoughts to your ex, you are first going to have to completely clear your mind of the clutter that gets in the way of your mental message being sent. To do this, you are going to need to meditate until your mind is clear, and then you can begin with your remote seduction.

Once your mind is clear, you should focus on the face of your ex. Visualize their face and hold that image for as long as you can stand. When the image of your ex is burned into your mind, your mind has established that your ex will be the recipient of your mental message. (Just in case you don’t believe this works, have you ever been thinking of a person, and all of a sudden that person calls you or shows up at your house? Oh yes, it works).

After you have established the recipient, you need to mentally make love to your ex. Picture your ex being aroused by you. Mainly fixate on the more sensitive parts of your ex to ensure you achieve maximum arousal. Be careful, however, that you don’t allow yourself to become too aroused as this can cause your message to be fuzzy. Like static and it will not be received as clearly as it should be. The more often you perform this practice, the more clearly it will be received by your ex, and subsequently, your ex will think about you more and more in a more sensual and physical way. Your ex will begin to crave you and your touch. Your ex will not know why this is happening, they will only know that they want you, and the next thing you know your phone will be ringing.

It is not uncommon for tension, compromise, and confusion to rule when the role of parent is shared between a step and biological parent. Some people still feel that stepparents aren’t “real” parents, but our culture has no norms to suggest how they are different. And the less our roles are defined, the more unhappy we are as both parents and stepparents.

Another role ambiguity is that society seems to expect acquired parents and children to instantly love each other in much the same way as biological parents and their children do. In reality, however, this is often just not so. A stepparent might feel a tremendous amount of guilt about his or her lack of positive feelings (or even the presence of negative feelings) toward the spouse’s children. Discipline might be a constant source of family conflict: You might, for example, think your ex-spouse isn’t being strict enough, when in fact, most stepfathers and stepmothers think the real parent is not being strict enough.

As a stepparent, you might feel like an unbiased observer with a grudge because you’re an outsider and the very thing that’s making you “unbiased” is something you resent, biology. Stepchildren, as well, often don’t react to their parent’s new spouse as though he or she were the “real” parent. The irony of expecting instant “real” parent-child love is further complicated by the fact that stepparents are not generally expected to be “equal” in discipline or otherwise controlling their stepchildren.

Another reason for a difficult stepparent-child relationship might be that your child does not want this marriage to work, and so, acts out with hostility. Commonly children harbor fantasies that their biological parents will reunite. If children had reservations about or strongly disapproved of your divorce, they may sabotage your new relationships in the hope that you will get back together. Children who want their natural parents to remarry may feel that sabotaging the new relationship will get them back together. Stepchildren can prove hostile adversaries, and this is especially true for adolescents.

Although all stepchildren and stepparents are to some degree uncomfortable with some aspect of their new family role, certain difficulties are more likely to affect stepmothers, and others are more common to stepfathers. Conflicting expectations of a stepmother’s role make it especially hard. As a stepparent, your best shot at happiness is to ignore the myths and negative images and to work to stay optimistic.

As a stepmother, yes, your work is cut out for you. In fact, the role of stepmother is thought by some clinicians to be more difficult than that of stepfather. One important reason is that stepmother families, more than stepfather families, may be born of difficult custody battles and/or have a history of particularly troubled family relations.

Society also seems, on the one hand, to expect romantic, almost mythical loving relationships between stepmothers and children while, at the same time, portraying stepmothers as cruel, vain, selfish, competitive, and even abusive (Snow White, Cinderella, and Hansel and Gretel are just a few bedtime stories we are all familiar with). Stepmothers are also often accused of giving preferential treatment to their own children. As a result, a stepmother must be much better than just okay before she is considered acceptable. No matter how skillful and patient you are, all your actions are suspect. Is it any wonder that stepmothers tend to be more stressed, anxious, and depressed than other mothers and also more stressed than stepfathers?

Some researchers have found that stepmothers behave more negatively toward stepchildren than do stepfathers, and children in stepmother families seem to do less well in terms of their behavior. In fact, the relationship between stepmother and stepdaughter is often the most difficult. Yet, other studies indicate that stepmothers can have a positive impact on stepchildren. Because stepmothers are much more likely to play an active part in the lives of children than stepfathers, perhaps there is simply more to go wrong.

Still, some step-mothering situations can make this role especially complicated – such as a part-time or weekend stepmother if you are married to a non-custodial father who sees his children regularly. You may try with all your heart to establish a loving relationship with your husband’s children, only to be openly rejected, or you may feel left out of part of his life because of his relationship with his children. In addition, a part-time stepmother can feel left out by her husband’s relationship with his ex-wife; for example, non-custodial fathers need to spend time communicating with their ex-wives about their children’s school problems, orthodontia, illnesses, and even household maintenance and repairs.

Yet, well-run by knowledgeable, confidant stepfamily adult teams (not simply couples), this modern version of an ancient family form can provide the warmth, comfort, inspiration, support, security-and often (not always) the love-that adults and kids long for.

When a marriage goes through a crisis, it can either be the breaking point of the relationship or it can be a vehicle for moving forward as a stronger couple. Everyone makes mistakes within their marriage but some mistakes are more monumental or life changing. Such is the case when a husband has an affair, lies about something critical or hides things from his wife. Even though he may not have set out to hurt her, the consequences can be devastating not only for the woman he married, but for the family, in general. Overcoming this is a unique challenge unto itself, if your wife is so hurt that she can’t forgive you, it’s time to evaluate the marriage and pinpoint how to move things in a more positive direction.

Before you become too focused on the fact that your wife can’t forgive you, it’s wise to seriously consider the severity of what you did. Some women are more forgiving by nature, so they have no problem getting past an occasional white lie told by their spouse if they believe that fundamentally he’s a good and honest partner. Other women are devastated by even the slightest hint of dishonesty in their marriage. These are the women who will hold onto things indefinitely and won’t allow the feeling of forgiveness into their hearts.

You need to look objectively at your marriage and decide whether your wife is genuinely struggling with her desire to forgive you or if she’s using her anger and resentment as a vehicle to make you suffer for your actions. If you cheated on your wife and you’ve come clean about everything, broken off the other relationship and have made your life an open book, it’s understandable that you would hope for forgiveness at some point in the near future. However, if your wife still can’t move past the fact that you sought comfort with another woman, even though you have demonstrated your remorse, her feelings may be tied to the fact that she’s unwilling to let things go.

There should be small glimpses of hope visible in her behaviour from time to time. If she allows the wall of resentment to fall at times and you two actually enjoy each other’s company, there is definitely a chance for your marriage. Often, a wife will forget about her husband’s shortcomings when they are having fun, engaged in an interesting discussion or just spending one-on-one time alone. If this follows your wife’s behaviour patterns, there is hope for the two of you. Even though she may allow the negativity to seep back into her mind and heart at times, she’s still trying to move the relationship to a better place.

If your wife can’t look at you without her rage boiling over or without tears flowing, it may be time to consider whether the pain she is in is worth trying to save the marriage. Therapy can do wonders for a marriage that has been devastated by the actions of one partner. If you’re willing and you’re committed to improving the relationship, speak to her openly about the idea of you two seeking professional help to mediate your issues and get past the difficult situation that has brought you to this place.

Only you can tell for certain whether your wife will have the emotional strength and desire to eventually forgive you. If you feel it’s a constant uphill battle and you’re making little to no headway, really think about what’s best for both of you. Emotional turmoil to the extreme your wife may be in could be doing even more damage to your marriage than you realize. Put her first and speak to her about what you both feel is best for your family’s future. By getting on the same page, you can then work together to understand what your next mutual step should be.

“My wife says she regrets marrying me,” said the man completely and utterly confused about his relationship. There is little doubt that hearing your wife tell you that she wishes she hadn’t married you stings. It makes you question the time you two have spent together since your wedding, you feel unsure about what’s on your horizon and you may even wonder if you ever really knew the woman you married. You’re justified in feeling all of this and much more. Your world, as you knew it, has been turned upside down. You may feel a temptation to hide and to wish it all away, but that won’t accomplish anything. Now is the time to face what’s not working in your marriage and forge ahead with a plan to fix it before your wife decides that a divorce is really what she wants and needs.

Gain Insight Into What is Causing Her to Have Regrets

You can’t really move forward towards healing your connection with your wife until you understand fully what is causing her to have feelings of regret. In some instances, it’s going to be painfully obvious as is the case when there is infidelity in the marriage or you two are facing a major conflict with no resolution in plain sight. In these types of situations, it’s important to discuss honestly where the marriage stands and if there’s any chance you two can get over the issues that brought you to this place. For instance, when a marriage is rocked by adultery it’s common for the hurt partner to feel regret. They wonder endlessly what they might have done differently and they are bound to imagine their life without their adulterous partner.

You two must sit down together and hammer out what has happened, and what you both envision the future to be. If you are intent on saving the relationship, compromise has to be part of the equation for both of you.

If your wife’s regret stems from her general unhappiness with the marriage, that requires a different approach on your part. Some women simply reach a point within their relationship in which they feel they aren’t getting the attention, adoration and recognition they deserve from their spouse.

Become a More Sympathetic and Understanding Partner

It’s very easy to fall off the track of being a good spouse when life throws many curve balls in your direction. Your wife may be guilty of the same and you may not even realize that you don’t feel as close or as emotionally connected to her as you once did. Many of us will subconsciously push our spouse to the back of our priority list. We do this because we feel secure in the relationship but over time when the bond isn’t being nourished, things can go astray as is the case in your marriage now.

You don’t have to undergo a complete overhaul of who you are as a husband. You just need to put in more effort to be more emotionally available and attentive to the needs of your wife. This has to come from a place of genuine desire. You shouldn’t do this if you resent your wife and feel that you’re having to give more than she’s willing to.

Marriage is truly a relationship that centers on compromise and sometimes that means things aren’t as balanced as they could be. If you take the initiative and become the more giving and loving partner, you will likely notice a strong and desirable change in your wife as well. Sometimes it’s all about having the emotional courage to take that first step.

Make Your Wife Your Absolute Number One Priority

There’s undeniable satisfaction that comes with proving someone else wrong. It’s simply part of our human nature to prove that we are right and whoever doubted us or our abilities is wrong. That’s exactly what you need to do, right now, within your own marriage.

Even though your wife has expressed to you that she has real regrets about her decision to marry you, prove to her that she’s wrong for feeling that way. You can do that by switching your priorities so that she always falls at the top of the list.

Make your wife the most important person in your life, beginning today. If you have to rearrange your work schedule to spend more time with your wife, do it. If you need to arrange a caregiver to tend to your children one night a week so you can spoil your wife with a dinner you cooked, arrange that now. Show your wife that you’re an even better husband than she thought you were when you two first married.

Actions are going to help her see that you mean it when you say you love and cherish her so get to work proving that point. If you can become the husband that she knows she can rely on in every way, those regrets she’s experiencing now will soon be nothing but distant and unimportant memories.