Sometimes it pays to be selfish. At least, when you’re going through divorce or marital separation, it does. Most of the time in a marriage, people continuously consider the feelings of their spouse. How will he or she react to this or what will they think about that? When a divorce or separation comes up, you’re left wondering what in the world you’re going to do and how you’re ever going to deal with the pain. One of the best things you can do is get selfish!

Focus on You and Your Needs

This sounds like we’re grasping at straws here, but sometimes you grasp at what you can reach. When you’re separated, you have the time you need to focus on you. Do some of the things you’ve been wanting to do but haven’t because of your spouse. Go on a trip or start a new hobby. Make it something great; something you’ve wanted to try for a long time. Just being able to focus on you and pamper yourself a little bit is enough to keep you pushing forward. Just like a child needs his bruise kissed to make it all better, sometimes we need to make our pains all better with a bit of coddling as well. Try your best not to wonder how your actions would affect your spouse.

Give Yourself a Little Extra Time

So many people are so hard on themselves when it comes to marital separation. They may feel as if they are a failure or they have done something wrong to deserve such heartache but the truth is that sometimes these things just happen. Allow yourself the time to deal with the pain and emotions you are facing with marital separation. If that means you don’t want to go out with your friends, don’t go out with your friends. If you don’t feel like entertaining, don’t entertain. There’s a catch though – give yourself a time limit. Once that time limit is up, you have to get up and get on with your life. You may be moving on with or without your spouse, but don’t allow yourself to dwell on all the negative.

Remember What Fun Is

Another very important thing you can do to deal with marital separation is have fun. Sure, it sounds impossible but it can be done. It’s OK to laugh and have a good time. Get out with your friends, go see a standup show, watch a movie or something that you enjoy doing. Having a good laugh is very, very healing and healthy for you. It’s a good way to relieve some of the stress that you’ve been dealing with.

By taking the time that you need to pamper yourself and allow yourself to get rid of some of the stress you’re dealing with, you can better deal with marital separation.

When I was faced with going through a divorce, I immediately began teaching myself the guitar. I had had one for years, but never put the time into it, mainly because I always considered myself too busy. But once my wife left, I found myself playing for hours, and as I improved, the more I played. It became almost an addiction, hearing a song earlier in the day, then going home and looking up the tabs to see how quick I could pick it up.

After about a year, I joined a band and played with them for about another year, doing the gig thing and enjoying the nights out. But it was more than going out and partying. After leaving the scene, moving on and getting remarried, I realize how much that part of my life helped me get through my divorce. I never noticed at the time, but there were benefits I was experiencing and I never even knew.

Increase Confidence

When you’re left alone facing a divorce, your confidence can be the first to suffer. Learning something new, like playing the guitar, can help restore that confidence, but you have to stick with it. In the beginning it can be difficult and frustrating trying to get your fingers to do something they’ve never done before, but stick with it. Once you play that first riff, it opens the floodgate and you’re off running. You’ll feel good about accomplishing something and others will notice a change without you even saying anything.

Increase Social Interaction

Your social interaction can suffer along with or from a lack of confidence after going through a divorce. Some may be ok, but if you’re anything like I was, you may shut down socially. Learning the guitar assisted in getting me back out into the social scene, meeting new people. In fact, that’s exactly how I met my new wife. Besides, when you learn the guitar, you will definitely want to show off a little. Women respond very positive to someone who shows an interest in something, and music is a wonderful talent to share.

Distraction

In the beginning of going through a divorce, finding a distraction was a necessity for me. I didn’t want to sit around and think of what my future ex wife was doing. There was nothing worse than being home alone and wondering what your ex is doing early in the separation. this distraction helped divert my attention away from negatives and focus on developing a positive outlet.

Getting through a divorce for men can be filled with uncertainty and anxiety, causing worry and stress. After going through a divorce myself, having something personal like playing the guitar made me realize how important having my own interest was. We may get caught up in life and set it on cruise control, but we’re the last to know when we begin to lose touch with ourselves.

An extended family is quite an ordeal and many adjustments would need to be made. Special care toward the Stepchildren is needed to prevent offenses, which can make living together a very difficult situation.

Dealing with Stepchildren is hard all by itself and if their parent always takes their side things can really get out of hand. I believe the reason why a parent would take the Children side is because the other Parent is not around. He could feel responsible for that in some way or he might feel that he was powerless in preventing the absence of the other Parent such as in a case of death, so he might overly indulge the Child or Children. No matter what his reason is, it is still not a reason for him to neglect us.

I am in an extended family and this was a problem in my home. My Husband would take his Children side over me. He said that it was not true but I could see that it was and it really caused some problems between us. I was at one point thinking about getting a divorce because I was not willing to stay in a relationship where Children were in charge. Then the Lord spoke to me and said to assert myself.

There is an order by which a relationship should go. God should be first then the Husband or Wife and then the Children. No Child should come ahead of the spouse. If he is then it will sure to be tension in the marriage.

As I said, the Lord told me to assert myself. I began by standing up for myself as a Wife. I prepared myself in the event of a disagreement my focusing on what was right. I talked to my Husband calmly and pointed out areas where he had taken his kids side over mine. Initially it went well however, this is a process and it takes time to undo especially when a habit has formed. Therefore, every time I would see it happening again I would bring it to his attention. It did not go well every time but I did not back down because I had the word of God upholding me.

It is easy to become resentful towards the Children in situations like this but it is not the right thing to do. I continued to treat them nice and with respect in order to maintain a good relationship with them but I also would let them know and show them that I was in charge because I am an Adult.

My Husband is a professional truck driver and often time he is away from home, which meant that the Children and I were home along. In the beginning, they thought that they would not have to do what I asked but I asserted myself with them. I would mean what I said, if I promise to do something for them, I would do it. I talked to them with respect and told them the right thing. If they were wrong, I would let them know it and above all else, I did not fear them or what they would say to their father. They soon got my message as to who was in charge and now they are less likely to go over my head to their father.

My Husband has taken his Children side over me but when I discuss it with him it is in private. I do not want the Children to use it to their advantage. In some cases, the Children will not like their Stepparent and if they know their Parent would always take their side, they will certainly use it to hurt the Stepparent. This is why the discussion should be private.

We should give our Spouse a chance to change things with his Children. We should not expect it to happen overnight because there is a bond between them. He needs time to figure out a way to deal with them. It should not be a long time because that would mean he is not trying to change things but if we see little things happening that has not happened before then that is an indication that he is trying to work it out. One important thing that we should look for is these simple little words; let me talk to (you) first. That indicates that we matter to our Spouse and he is not just going along with what they want without asking our opinion.

This process might take a while but the main thing is to remember that we are the Spouse and we come ahead of the Children. If we need to assert ourselves then do it because it will make the relationship a whole lot better.

So long you understood what psychology was, but what on earth is reverse psychology and that also use reverse psychology in getting your ex back? In very layman’s terms, using reverse psychology in getting your ex back actually translates to doing exactly the opposite of what your ex is expecting. You could call it playing interesting mind games, to get quick results. After all love, romance, getting together and then splitting has everything to do with the minds of the individuals!

First of all, after your ex has split from you, what is he or she expecting most from you? That you are as eager to keep in touch with your ex as your ex is. You work opposite. Do not answer calls, mails or messages. This is the primary step to use reverse psychology in getting your ex back. By adopting this No Contact strategy, you are announcing that you really do not care about the break up and you are ready to move on. This is the least that your ex expects from you. Your action makes your ex curious, frantic and anxious. He or she is desperate to know how you are coping with the situation. When your ex finds that you are pretty cool about the break up – you are indirectly arousing interest in your ex, by occupying a lot of mind space!

The next step to use reverse psychology in getting your ex back, is to do another opposite action – go out and engage your mind and body in other activities. A break up with your ex has not caused the sky to fall on your head. Meet friends, play sports, watch funny movies and do all the things you wanted to do but never had the time since you were spending most of your waking hours with your ex. The world is a wonderful place to live in, but it all depends on what we make it to be. In other words using reverse psychology in getting your ex back, in this case would mean that you go out and enjoy yourself, instead of being alone, moaning, moping and pining for your ex. More because, this is exactly what your ex is expecting would happen to you after the break up.

What happens most of the time when we are seriously involved with someone is that we forget to love everyone else. This includes even keeping in touch with family and close friends who have stood by us most of our lives. While using reverse psychology in getting your ex back, use this time to catch up with all those who you had ignored and you would be surprised at the kind of happiness you derive out of this simple gesture.

But frankly speaking is using reverse psychology in getting your ex back easy? The answer is both yes and no. Yes because the approach is very result-oriented and can be very effective if applied in measured doses. For example if the No Contact strategy is continued for an indefinite period of time, your ex might just decide to move on further. Using reverse psychology in getting your ex back might be difficult for the faint-hearted and the insecure amongst us. If you are very scared that by playing on the mind of your ex is risky, then either your relationship was not very strong to begin with or you are too weak to take any definitive stance in the matter.

Essentially what using reverse psychology in getting your ex back means is to play on the human mind and focus on the demand-supply situation. Whenever there is scarcity of something in the market, people run to get the ‘rare’ thing. Similarly, you can make your ex desperate if you continuously and consciously work against her expectations and become ‘rare’. This makes your ex desperate enough to see you if not get back to you.

The other benefit of using reverse psychology in getting your ex back is that at the end of the day, it makes a man out of a mouse. You emerge as a stronger, level-headed and self-confident person who may not bend backwards to accede to the endless demands of your ex. That itself is an attractive attribute which can pull our ex towards you.

Everyone wants to be in love. Everyone wants to find that special someone that they can spend the rest of their life with. Sometimes it just happens unexpectedly. Someone catches your eye across the room and you are drawn together instantly. But this type of fairy tale meeting is the exception rather than the norm. For most people, finding a mate is a lengthy process that involves searching, dating, contemplation and elimination. The process usually works quite well; however, if you are desperate to find a mate, there is plenty of room for error.

Why? Desperate daters meet potential mates with blinders on. They are unable to see the flaws that are so obvious to others. They create a false persona and attribute it to the person they are dating. They dream about the future, and that future is always set in a fantasy world that cannot possibly exist or come true because it has been created on false or “dreamed up” data.

Unfortunately, many people have fallen into this trap only to realize their huge errors in mate selection later in life. The truth is that desperate dating never has desirable results. But how can you tell if you are a desperate dater? The following signs will help you determine whether you date with desperation or trepidation:

• Ignoring Facts – Desperate daters tend to ignore facts that are right before their eyes. When something unpleasant about a potential mate is discovered, they sweep it under the rug and act like it doesn’t exist. They only focus on the good qualities that they discover. This can lead to an unbalanced view of the person in question.
• Making Excuses – In addition to ignoring unpleasant qualities, desperate daters tend to make excuses for them. For example: “He only cheated on his ex wife because she was emotionally unavailable and insensitive to his needs. He would never do that to me.” This kind of thinking can leave you heartbroken later on when he does do the same thing to you.
• Rushing to the Finish – Desperate daters have a tendency to rush the relationship. Instead of taking the time to get to know someone and enjoy the dating process, they start dreaming of their wedding day after a few dates. Remember; a person’s true character is revealed over the test of time. Plus, if you rush the relationship, you will miss out on the excitement of getting to know someone and falling in love with them.

When you date someone it is a journey. It is not a now or never proposal. You should never feel desperate or overly anxious. Take your time; get to know someone. Let them reveal themselves to you. See them for who they truly are. Accept them for who they are. Avoid spinning fairy tales. If you do all of this, you will discover a mate for life and not an illusion that will evaporate at the first sign of trouble.

Nowhere in the Bible do I see the statement that we need to just pray a sinners prayer, go to church and continue in our sin and lusts and we will be welcomed into heaven.

This verse describes the people who will be found in heaven

Hebrews 12:14 (New King James Version)

14 Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: Does this look easy to you? Is there anyone that you don’t like? Do you not love Catholics and show them the true gospel every time you meet them with no judgmental tones but do you lead them into a full saving knowledge of Jesus?

How are you with Muslims? Do you love them and are you full of grace and peace with them? What about Asians and the Chinese especially when they push in front of you as they get on the bus and they seem rude the way they chat in their language in your country? How’s your attitude there? Do they have to speak your language in your country or are they allowed to speak in their mother tongue?

How is that relationship with that man that molested you as a child? Have you got a loving word and smile for him also? Are you at peace with a vile man that hurt you in so many ways? Do you have any racism in you and that colours the way that you treat people? How does a junkie fair with you when he asks you for your spare change? Does he get it with a smile and a little tract that you keep in your bag?

How is that ex wife of yours? Are you happy with her knowing she took your house and your children and made you look a fool in front of the world? Have you got a smile for her and are you willing to slip her a couple of hundred for a fridge when hers breaks down? How do you treat that man that married you ex wife? Is he welcome for a game of chess, or welcome for a beer with your friends? Do you love him and shake his hand with a firm friendly shake even if he seduced her out of your bed and into his?

I suppose I am talking about this verse

1 John 5:18 (New King James Version)

18 We know that whoever is born of God does not sin; but he who has been born of God keeps himself, and the wicked one does not touch him.

If you have bitterness or racism or unforgiveness in you then the wicked one has touched you and you are sinning. Your foe does not need to repent, you need to forgive and turn the other cheek. The wicked one wants you to go to hell and he wants your prayer life to be stale and he wants your prayers to be ineffective and if you are knowingly in sin you can be sure God will not feel obligated to answer any of your prayers.

We have to love everyone as this is part of being holy and set apart for God. We have to be different people. We have to be a people who do things strangely and different to the rest of the world. We have to have light in us and we have to have that light burning so bright that people come to us. The love of Christ has to be manifest in us and it must draw all people to speak to us about why we are joyful and we always smile at them and love them no matter their sin or race or culture.

1 John 4:7-8 (New King James Version)

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

We are commanded to love all men and especially show grace to our enemies so that with continued forgiveness of them Christ might melt their hearts with our example. I don’t know about you but it is hard sometimes to show love to someone who is determined to take your reputation down and slander you all around the world you live in. But love you must and you must feed him and bless him, it’s the only way to have peace and have your prayers answered. If we do not show mercy to another who has wronged us we hate them.

1 John 4:19-21 (New King James Version)

19 We love Him because He first loved us. 20 If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? 21 And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also. Oh you’ll buck at this scripture and say I don’t hate him. I just don’t like him. But if you don’t set him free and forgive him you are doing the opposite of love. This is the verse God brought me to, to give me the breakthrough with a former friend who has made himself an enemy of me. I had a love/hate relationship and God showed me I had to drop the hate out of it and change it to love/mercy

Hating and fearing others is of the world. If we can’t trust God to fight our battles and go into all sorts of ways to solve our problems by gossip and slander and unforgiveness we basically are bound up with fear from our enemy and our situation. The only way through is to get God’s love in our heart and apply that love and grace to the person hurting us.

1 John 4:15-18 (New King James Version)

15 Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. 16 And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.

17 Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We need to get on our knees and fast and pray and seek to abide in Jesus and get back to walking with Him. We are to love God and repent of our fear and our stupid ways of dealing with our enemy the way we think best and then when we ask for the grace to love our brother God will grant it and we will find ourself overwhelmed with tears and love as we pray that our brother sees the error of his ways. Jesus prayed for us on the cross and we were His enemy mocking Him at the bottom of the cross. Don’t be a mocker today as you read this. Respect Jesus and forgive your brother who is harming you and turn from your childish ways of justification and dealing with things in the flesh.

If you do not turn the other cheek and forgive 70 times 7 then you are not doing the right thing and therefore you are not righteous

1 John 3:7 (New King James Version)

7 Little children, let no one deceive you. He who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous. Don’t be deceived and don’t deceive yourself. If you throw a person into prison that owes you a little then the Master who let you off a lifetime of sin will throw you into hell. Want to prove this correct? Simply hold bitterness in your heart to your death bed and you’ll go to hell and then it will be too late. This is why only the people pursuing peace and the holy life will see the Lord. And don’t put off the fast and prayer so that you can forgive, repent and get on your knees as the Master is at the door right now and He is only going to take the obedient holy people with Him. 2 Peter 3:10-11 (New King James Version)

10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night, in which the heavens will pass away with a great noise, and the elements will melt with fervent heat; both the earth and the works that are in it will be burned up. 11 Therefore, since all these things will be dissolved, what manner of persons ought you to be in holy conduct and godliness,

There are no excuses for not obeying Jesus. No excuses! We have to cease from sinning and start to obey the Word of God and walk with the mind of Christ

1 Peter 4:1-2 (New King James Version)

1 Therefore, since Christ suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves also with the same mind, for he who has suffered in the flesh has ceased from sin, 2 that he no longer should live the rest of his time in the flesh for the lusts of men, but for the will of God.

We need to be set apart and not walking like the world and its lusts. We should not be drinking and partying and taking wives and making it merry. We should be getting clean and holy and putting on our bridal wear and the right clothes and be doing the works of righteousness that we were saved to do and we should have the pure religion in our lives that is full of giving and mercy and different to the world.

James 1:27 (New King James Version)

27 Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world. This is not just going to the help of widows and orphans. Though your money going to missions who are looking after orphans overseas is a good investment, this is the church making sure single mothers without a job and divorced mothers and children have enough support and their children have a good father figure supporting them from the church.

Being unspotted from the world would be putting at least ten percent of your income in the offering plate each weak instead of 3% of the Western giving. Want to give to another ministry? Let that be an offering above your 10% tithe. You don’t think your church is worth your money, well find a church that is and go there. If you think tithing is not relevant in the New Testament consider what Jesus said about denying oneself, taking up your cross and following Him. If you are not tithing 10% you are saying you don’t trust God and you are spotted with the world in this behaviour. An apostle rebuked me in love in this area and now I tithe.

You may have false teaching saying tithing is not something we have to do these days, well you are essentially saying that, I will repeat, you have more faith in your money then God as a provider.

I didn’t have enough money for a coffee at my favorite coffee shop today where I read my Bible each day and where I pray and I was sitting on a good seat without a purchase. The owner politely asked me to move to another seat as his paying customers needed mine. As I am a regular I apologized that I had no money today. He said that was okay and I moved.

One minute later a man came up to me and gave me four dollars and said that it’s for my coffee. He had heard me talking to the manager and the Holy Spirit had put it on his heart to shout me a coffee.

Don’t tell me the Lord can’t provide for you if you tithe 10%. You are just lacking faith. Try the Lord out for six months and tithe and watch the overtime and miracles start to happen in your life.

If you have been convicted so far in what I have said so far, you need to obey the Word of God I have used to support what I have said. If you don’t, Satan is not your enemy, it is yourself.

James 1:22 (New King James Version)

22 But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. Don’t be tempted to ignore my advice on forgiveness or on tithing, because that temptation is not coming from God. Go ahead and start to tithe. If you are giving to some ministry withdraw your support if you can’t afford both. No ministry has a right to ask for your support without admonishing you to first be tithing to your church.

Tithing is hard, but you’ll be surprised that Jews tithe more then you still. You might be surprised that even many non Christians tithe 10% of their income and teach it in their books quoting the Bible as a source. It’s just that these guys often give their money to good charities.

Jesus said we are to put our hand to the plough and not turn from it. He told us to preach the gospel to all men. He told us unless we are prepared to leave our family, friends, houses and property for His sake we are not worthy of Him.

He said that He is the Pearl of great price and we should sell everything to buy Him. He said He is the hidden treasure in a field and we should, when we find him, sell all we own to possess Him. He said if we want to be perfect we should sell all, give to the poor and follow Him. Jesus was not a man of money and left no bankroll to the apostles as they went back fishing.

Is Jesus worth forgiving your enemies for, is He worth doing a study into the other faiths and their strong points so you can love them more? Is He worth giving 10% of your money to, and is He worth following and obeying in all you do and say?

If you have been convicted, if you need to forgive, take the time to do it. If you don’t tithe, don’t delay it just step out in faith and start.

“My girlfriend just left me because I was a jerk. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. I miss her and I want her back. But how do I do it? How can I get my girlfriend back if I’ve been a real jerk.” 

Let’s face it, we all make mistakes in life. And unfortunately we don’t always appreciate someone special until they’re gone. 

You treated your girlfriend unkindly and heartlessly so she walked out on you. You acted like a jerk and thus didn’t deserve her. But now you realize that you care for her and truly miss her, and you wish you wouldn’t have treated her so callously. 

Don’t despair! There is still a chance that you can get her back. But it will take some work on your part.

The first thing you will need to do to get your girlfriend back is to admit to her that you were a jerk. So if she calls you a jerk, a loser, a womanizer, and various other slimy names, agree with her. You’re not going to get her back by arguing with her. Let her have her say. Being contrite and humble will help get her back.

And of course you will need to change. Every person, especially a woman, wants to be treated like they’re special. Make her feel important. Make her feel like a queen. Act like and become a gentleman. Don’t tell her but show her that you have changed.

Do the little things that are so important in a relationship: 

·         Open the door for her.

·         Be kind and considerate.

·         Tell her how lovely she looks.

·         Value her ideas and opinions

·         Show her you really care about her and her friends.

·         Give her a gift, card, or flowers for no special reason.

·         Be and act proud when you are with her.

·         Respect her feelings and be there for her when she needs comfort. 

Because you have been such a jerk, you’ll also need to convince her friends and family that you have really changed. If they too can see that you have altered your ways, they will be on your side in your quest to get her back.

And finally, reflect on the future. Will the “new and improved gentleman” you be a permanent thing? If not, then you will soon lose her again, but this time it will be forever!

The choice is yours. You can change for the better and get your ex girlfriend back, or you can continue being a jerk living a lonely and forlorn life.

How would you feel if you could regain your power back from your ex girlfriend? Would you feel a surge of confidence and assurance? Would it position you to swoop back in and get your ex girlfriend back?

If so, then pay close attention to this article as it will reveal to you the wimple but powerful steps you can use to do just that.

First let’s talk about relationships. They are somewhat of a power struggle right? When the relationship is great you feel amazing. But a separation can leave you feeling as if she has taken a piece of you away from you that you must reclaim. It is important that you reclaim your power because it belongs to you and you only. If you allow her to hold it captive then you will not feel competent enough to engage in future relationships and even sometimes your chosen profession.

Here is the first thing you must do. Accept the break up! This is something that you must embrace. Not for her, but for yourself. As uncomfortable as it is to not have her as your girlfriend, it is important that you realize you were losing yourself.

Tell her that the separation was the best thing. Whether you and your girlfriend decided to split for good, or just take a break from each other, whatever the situation, you MUST agree to the breakup. In order for this to be effective, you have to believe it yourself. This is why you MUST take some time and convince yourself that this was the best decision for not only her, but for yourself as well.

Once you have done this and communicated this to her, be patient. Things will not change overnight. You have to allow this reality to hit her. Most guys get to this point and then give in because they feel the minute they agree to the breakup their ex girlfriend should just come running back. It doesn’t work that way.

Just as with everything else, persistence is the key. In the meantime, continue working on yourself and developing yourself into the best you that you can be. A woman loves nothing more than a man who has his own identity. A man who knows himself. This along with you agreeing to the breakup and giving her space, will allow you to reclaim your power, and it the best method for getting your girlfriend back.

The key is to accepting that when you truly love someone patience is born. Love has significance. The matter of the truth is, are you ready to stand by the true meaning of love and winning back your ex? Love is a powerful motivator far beyond people actually realize. It allows us to withstand the test and overcome any obstacle.

The foundation of any relationship is based on love. Patience and kindness are characteristics of love towards the other person and allows you to draw closer to each other. This may not happen overnight. This is okay. Don’t rush or expect your ex to get back with you right away. Give it some time. You may get rejected but continue to love unconditionally, and you shall receive in time. Never pay evil with evil. Rather when you’re rejected continue to love.

Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you choose to strengthen your weaknesses it will help you respond positively in your situation. Rather than over reacting and having a demanding attitude, love will help you to restore your heart, slow to anger, and stay away from negative thoughts. Patience helps you become strong while facing the storm of losing your ex. Nurture your mind with positive thoughts and constantly remind yourself, your battle is on its way to victory.

Is your ex offending you and constantly reminding you about what you did wrong? Do you react or do you stay under control? If you’re reacting with anger, you’re corrupting yourself and headed in the wrong direction.

Patience makes us wiser. Patience allows you to listen to other person and be slow to anger. Patience brings peace in the atmosphere. Its helps you be strong rather than walking out and calling it quits. Few of us practice patience and for some of us it comes naturally. This characteristic is necessary in your relationship. Patience is love and definitely a starting point to win your ex back.

Like any relationship it will have its ups and downs. Everything in life is a process. It will take time to restore your relationship but remember the key is patience. Think of it as a test of endurance, not a race. But it’s a race worth running.

I pray and hope these tips help you back to your ex. Remember Love, Patience, and Kindness are the keys back to the heart of your ex.

Has your Gemini girl lost interest in you? Never one to stay still for long, the Gemini girl is notoriously flighty and restless. Bored easily, the Gemini female will avoid the familiar and mundane, and needs her brain to be occupied around the clock. If you have lost her, don’t despair, here are a few ideas on how to win back a Gemini girl.

Trying to pin a Gemini down is the quickest way to lose her, so being possessive is something that you will have to keep in check. Gemini’s are ruled by the planet Mercury, the planet of information and communication, and anyone born under this star sign will quite happily spend the evening talking their way through an entire room of people, and any attempt to stop them will be met with thinly disguised contempt. Gemini’s have a sharp intellect and appreciate a witty comment, so you’ll have to be on good form to hold her attention.

There is nothing worse for a Gemini than to be stuck with someone who doesn’t stretch her intellectual boundaries, so find out what interests your Gemini girl, and don’t skimp on the details, for it is these trivial bits of information that she is most interested in. Finding out that you are quite well versed on a subject that is close to her heart will definitely grab her attention.

Gemini’s as a rule, enjoy freedom in a relationship, and do not like clingy individuals. The way to give a Gemini pause for thought, is to take a leaf from the Gemini book and become a social butterfly yourself. If you have recently split from your girl, she will be curious to know why the person you are talking to finds you so interesting. Don’t try pushing her into action, the Gemini’s curiosity will nearly always get the better of her.