Marriage has been compared to prison. Getting ‘hitched’, and ‘tying the knot’ have negative connotations. Men (and some women, I suspect) refer to ‘the old ball and chain’. Men call their spouses all manner of unflattering things: The old lady, or the warden, or worse. They refer to collaring, and chaining, and castration. They complain about restrictions on their financial, social and sexual freedom. Is it any wonder people speak of avoiding marriage?

Here’s the truth of the matter. We don’t avoid it. We Americans marry–a lot. Fully 95% of Americans marry at some point in their lives. Second marriages, too, are ubiquitous: 95% of people who divorce remarry within two years. However much we protest and whine about restrictions in marriage, we keep coming back to it. Why would we do that? Is there something about marriage that we find appealing? There must be, or we’d stop doing it.

It seems there is something that keeps us asking for marriage. And, odd as it sounds, it isn’t the ease of finding a date for Friday night, or not having to be on our best behavior all the time, though that’s part of it. It’s not even the easy access to sex, which access exists for singles these days with little or no effort.

Marriage is simply part of who we are, a status we find appealing despite our protestations to the contrary. Could it be that marriage is a secret formula for real happiness, and we instinctively know it? It does appear to be true. Oscar Wilde wrote that every tragedy ends in a death; every comedy ends in a marriage. He’s right; there’s a connection between happiness for ourselves, and increased pleasure in society. Call it communal contentment. Marriage is part of who we are.

In my own marriage, the gratifying essence of it is just its constancy. In our society, we’re programmed to move from one thing to another–the next (bigger) house, new car, new wardrobe, latest vacation spot. We’ve even codified this national restlessness, calling it our right to ‘the pursuit of happiness’. Not happiness itself, mind you, but only its pursuit, almost as if, getting there, we’re expected to move on and try again, the old carrot on a stick thing.

But marriage solidifies this itinerary of the soul. The institution has been around forever, it seems. It’s always been associated with solidity, and stability, two attributes that seem to oppose our need for constant change. Indeed, the ball and chain description may be entirely accurate–if we allow it to be. Since words, and therefore attitudes are critical in life, those who use such terminology to describe their union necessarily experience dismal, prison-like marriages.

But a study of truly happy marriage reveals something quite different. Happily married couples are in a constant, and purposeful, state of change. The more change and variety we find in a marriage, the happier it is. Joyful marriages are identified with the new idea to please; the latest twist in greetings and adorations; the avant garde method of recognizing one’s spouse; yes, even the newest and possibly most exotic sexual endeavor, or at least intimate interaction. Changes in a marital state are what make it happy, not the other way around.

Happy marriages are innovative, fresh, surprising. They create, by their very nature, the ongoing happy challenge of ‘getting there first’ in the marriage with a heretofore unexperienced gift, acknowledgement, or titillation. It’s the hidden note card in a spouse’s luggage, a flower delivery at the office for no reason, the preparation of a favorite meal when they least expect it. Happy marriage is the tender greeting, with words that penetrate a spouse’s soul because of their delivery, and the depth of their feeling. Happy marriage is attention through focused listening, the almost lost art of truly hearing what the spouse is saying–or not saying. Happy marriage is the ability to anticipate what a spouse will do, say, want, need and ask for next, and the ability to provide it. Happy marriage is…happy, because it’s a recognition that a spouse is happy, and, maturity being required, it’s knowing we’re only part of the union. Happy marriage is its own reward, and our ability to change that keeps it fresh.

Additionally, happy marriage is currently evolving to include everyone who understand this description, and that means–everyone. This new understanding of what constitutes a happy marriage has little to do with gender, or children, religion or socially accepted traditions. It’s an acknowledgement that people marry the person they love, and that includes everyone, gay or straight. Indeed, the evolution of marriage is looking more and more like a flood of affirmation for the real reason marriage makes us happy. And opposition to this marriage equality tide, even though futile, is beginning to seem anti-marriage by its focus on narrow definitions. If marriage makes two people happy, it appears to be performing its role, and we need to celebrate that.

It’s no secret, then, why we continue to marry. It’s simply because we want to be happy. So tell your spouse you adore them. And if you’re not yet married, come on in, the water’s happy.

It’s what we women want to know. How to get a great butt, fast, with what really works, long term, and regardless of our age. Let’s face it; it’s the Holy Grail we endlessly seek.

We’ve tried creams, lotions, crash yo-yo diets, pills, flaky fad fitness trends, rollers, body wraps, weight lifting, stair steppers, aerobics, spinning classes, kickboxing, and in extreme cases we go into surgery to have liposuction, which is expensive, dangerous, and does not last. Can you identify?

Nothing seems to work. In our frustration, we give up and accept that a great behind is something that is, in fact, behind us, left to our teens and twenty-something years.

But not anymore…

The overwhelming demand of busy women for something that works long-term and fast has finally produced a real, proven solution: Russian Kettlebells.

Okay, so what exactly are Russian kettlebells?

A ‘kettlebell’ or girya (Russ.) is a traditional Russian cast iron weight that looks like a cannonball with a handle. Its simplicity and ease of use makes the kettlebell the ultimate tool for extreme total body fitness for women of all ages and body types.

Thousands of women, and more in droves, are discovering that nothing, bar none, works faster, better, and more completely than Russian Kettlebells for toning hips, thighs, and yes… the butt. Finally!

So how and why do kettlebells work to get a great butt fast–when nothing else does? (a tiny bit of science for you)…

• Recent studies, such as the one by the American Council on Exercise, (ACE, America’s leading authority on fitness and one of the largest fitness certification, education and training organizations in the world) reveal that working out with Russian Kettlebells burned about 400 calories during a typical 20-minute kettlebell workout.
• Researchers say that’s equivalent to running a six-minute mile or cross-country skiing uphill at a fast pace. All from a handheld piece of iron with a handle!
• This rapid calorie burn is due to the interval-training format of kettlebell workouts.
• Also, kettlebells provide a more intense workout than standard weight lifting, without the bulky equipment and having to go to a gym.
• It is the combination of the weight resistance stance, rapid calorie burn, maximum oxygen delivery, and intensity of workout that in 20-minutes, blasts cellulite, and tones hips, thighs and the butt faster than anything out there. The results are cumulative and-best of all–they last! There are many, many more scientific sounding reasons why they work, but does it really matter? Kettlebells just flat out work!

Who doesn’t have 20 minutes to get a great body?

What types of women can benefit?

Now, a concern might be that only those who are already in shape can workout with kettlebells. Nothing could be further from the truth. Women (and men) of all ages and fitness levels are transforming their bodies, self-image, quality of life, and indeed, getting great butts fast, with Russian Kettlebells.

That’s nice, but what about post-baby weight?

Maybe you have just had a baby and are wondering if that stubborn weight can also be blasted off, or if you just have to accept it and suffer. Visit the site below, and you will find women all over the nation who have obliterated their post-baby weight in no time at all–with these convenient, space-saving, brief Russian Kettlebell workouts. And as if that wasn’t enough, these delighted women find they now possess an even sexier-looking butt than they had before they got pregnant!

Oh and, a side benefit… your abs will also become ripped in record time. (Just look at the photos of the ripped kettlebell goddesses you’ll see on Dragon Door.) All of your girlfriends will be jealous and wonder what your secret is!

But, I’ve had cellulite and flabby thighs and a saggy behind for years and nothing has ever worked.

You and 90% of all the rest of the women of the world…

That is why the demand for something that really works became so strong that Dragon Door had to answer with specialized Russian Kettlebell workouts just for women’s specific needs. Take a look at some of the pictures and unsolicited, honest testimonials from the women on the website. The evidence speaks for itself. We women like to stick to what works. And Russian Kettlebells work like nothing else for getting a great butt workout that defines a woman’s body and creates sleek, sexy behinds fast.

And men?

It’s not just for women either. Ever salivated over the great body of actor Gerard Butler? His secret? He used kettlebell workouts to train for his role of King Leonidas of Sparta in the movie 300. So get your man involved too and both of you can increase your confidence and look great in jeans together. Countless couples are experiencing a stronger closeness and bonding by working out with kettlebells together.

So how to get a great butt fast?

Go to the site below. Read what the kettlebell women have to say. Decide that you want a great butt now. Then, get yourself some kettlebells and one of their thorough DVDs, and join the community, where you will have full support from women all over the nation and world just like you who used kettlebells to get the butt they’ve always wanted. You deserve it!

Even though your heart is breaking and your mind is screaming at you to make contact with your ex, don’t do it. Your ex decided to end the relationship for reasons of his/her own. You need to respect this. You cannot force someone to feel about you the way you want him/her to. Even so, there are things that you can do that will raise your chances to get your ex back.

It could be that you and your ex became an item too soon. Maybe you didn’t take enough time to get to know each other properly first. If your ex feels that he/she does not know enough about you, then it is up to you to let your ex see just what a great person you really are.

Start off by showing your ex how mature you are. Send him/her a message saying that the relationship was great while it lasted, and that you really hope that he/she finds the person he/she is looking for. This will stun your ex! Instead of you being all bitter and twisted about the break up, you are wishing him/her well for the future. This is a great point in your favor – it will count for a lot when you try to get your ex back.

Now what you do is, just carry on with your life as you normally would. Get back into your hobby, spend some quality time with your family, and above all, have plenty of fun with your friends. Remember too, just to be yourself. Your aim is to let your ex know exactly what type of person you are, to help your ex to decide whether there is a future with you or not.

Everything about you will get back to your ex – the way you dress, the way you behave, and just what type of person you are generally. As long as everything your ex hears about you is positive, your chance to get your ex back will get better and better.

There is absolutely no pressure on you to try to be someone that you are not. You must give your ex an honest picture of yourself, so that your ex will have the opportunity to decide whether you are the person he/she really wants. Remember, you cannot get your ex back by force – just be yourself, and your chances are good that you could get back together again.

When, as an organizer, or a DJ, considering audio visual rentals, there are several visual additions to your audio equipment for the dance party that you can use to enhance the experience of the participants and to make the party an even greater success. It is important to consider these audio visual equipment rental enhancements, especially in the context of renting audio and video equipment. The AV equipment rental is not cheap, and you need to find value and justify the cost in each piece of added AV rental equipment.

Sure enough, the audio component to the AV system is of primary importance. However, when you add simple, unexpected, powerful, and emotion enhancing visual effects, your dance party will rise to the next level.

What visual effects are there to add to your dance party setup? We will go over laser illumination, pin spot illumination, black color illumination, spot illumination, mirror balls, strobe reflectors, projection screens and projector rental, as well as introduce a more modern set of LED ribbon illumination, LED moon flower illumination, multi color strip illumination, rope illumination, rotating LED moon flowers.

Traditional dance party light effects

The dance party light effects that your parents may have enjoyed thirty years back that are still going strong today are:

• Laser Lights brings on sharp laser beams adding to the unexpected perspective.
• Pin Spot Lights serves sharp light rays for added color.
• Blacklight illuminates white fabric only, bringing up a mysterious view.
• Spot Light will provides unexpected, powerful, and audience engaging colored light effects.
• Mirror Ball such as the classic disco ball adds unexpected, playful rays of light and brings on the nostalgia.
• Strobe Light gives an unexpected time-lapse effect that changes the way we perceive motion. Tough on the eyes, so be sure to use in moderation.
• Lighting Truss System brings the heightened place to affix most of the lighting fixtures mentioned here.
• Large projection screens and DVD projectors can add memorable images and clips.

Modern dance party light effects

The newer technologies that became possible with the development of the powerful all-color LED diodes and especially blue LED diodes include:

• Rope Lighting Kits generates great soft white lights for casual illumination.
• LED Mushroom Lighting System will cause a vertigo effect through a rotating set of multi colored sound activated lights.
• LED Ribbons And Lighting Strips provides powerful and amazing LED illumination.
• Rotating LED Moonflower Light is great for dance clubs.
• Sound Activated Multi Color Strip Light produces live rainbow images.

The visual effects including lights, video lighting, and projected videos that you can include in your audio visual systems rental can truly bring the dance party to a new level of enjoyment. The memories that the audience take home from an event like this are priceless.

Filming for 2012, the movie, has been completed and is now in post production. Created presumably because of growing interest in the predicted events of 2012 now that the date draws nearer, it is due to be released world wide around November 2009.

The movie portrays the idea that the government fails to or is unable to prepare the billions of people on Earth for the disaster that they know is to come. As the time draws closer it becomes apparent that there is nothing that can be done and the world’s leaders start announcing the end of the world.

The people in the movie experience disasters of many varieties. In it we see massive earthquakes, tsunami, volcanic eruptions and the ground splitting and huge fissures opening up. Could this be what we really face?

Well, these events could most certainly happen. We have seen such things happening throughout history and, in fact, they are common events as reported in the world’s media. But for them to happen on such a massive scale would require a massive driving force.

With 2012 also being the predicted time in which the next magnetic pole shift will occur then this is possible. The shift is thought to be possible in one of two ways-the pole shifting or the Earth’s crust shifting and hence leaving the poles in a different place relative to the crust.

If the tectonic plates were to shift in this way, the resultant stresses would be huge and be released in the form of earthquakes. Tsunamis and volcanic eruptions are often found in accompaniment to earthquakes.

There is also a predicted planetary alignment that will fall at that time. If that were to occur, altering the gravitational forces at play on the planet at the same time as a pole shift occurred, then is it not feasible that the result would be spectacular?

Whether or not 2012 really plays out as shown in the movie will only be known after the fact. However there is nothing to suggest that it is impossible and a great deal that stands in favor of these events.

Do you adore the sight of adorable hamsters, gerbils, rabbits or chinchillas in a pet store? They have certainly found their way into cartoons, stories, and cute greeting cards. Rabbit lore brings to mind the literary work of Beatrix Potter, especially the one about the fuzzy little miscreant Peter who sneaked into a farmer’s garden and had a feast before getting chased down. They area farmer’s foe, but pet rabbits are a different story. They are equally sought out as pets as are hamsters, guinea pigs, gerbils, and rats-all members of the rodent family.

Do you still maintain the notion that pet hamsters are more of a “starter pet”, given to children who are angling for a dog, but the parents want to make sure he is up to the job of caretaking, so he is allowed a smaller type of pet needing less upkeep or attention. I’ve seen more than enough classified ads with people looking to rehome a gerbil or guinea pig because the kids have gone off to college and the dorm they will be moving into does not allow pets. That’s a real shame. As a rule, small rodents generally do not live as long as cats and dogs, but they do have some lifespan in them, for them to end up being left behind. If you are all grown-up and subscribe to the mindset that pet rodents are “just for kids” you will miss out on the fun and enriching experience of rodent ownership. Lots of devoted pet enthusiasts of all ages own and enjoy the company of a small furry pet mammal. There are many shows, ownership clubs and competitions to attest to this.

As someone who once owned pet hamsters and a white rat, I can tell you a good bit on their habitat needs. Now while hamsters and gerbils will be content to live in a cage that is well-ventilated and plentiful with fun activities like tunnels and mazes, rabbits need a much bigger home than that. As a matter of fact, rabbit habitats are called “hutches” not “cages”. There needs to be plenty of romping room. However, the structure of a rabbit habitat is very similar to that of their smaller cousins’. The construction of the home must be made with certain durability in mind: Rodents are notorious chewers. Most small rodent homes are made out of durable plastic or wire construction. Rabbit homes are made the same way. Hamsters chew on cardboard (think toilet paper tubes-which I always kept for them) and rabbits need a steady diet of wood due to the nature of their ever-growing incisor teeth. That’s point one-very important.

Rodents are also herbivorous, meaning that they subsist on a diet of veggies and fruits. Nuts and seeds also should supplement their diets. There’s a few baddies here and there that you do not want to give to your pet. Onions should not be given to hamsters and romaine lettuce is a much better bet than iceberg due to greater nutritional content. If we are talking about raw standards such as broccoli, carrots, kale, or cauliflower, you can’t go wrong; but fruit should be offered gradually into their diets so as to not cause potential for diarrhea. They also need plenty of good, fresh water, that must come from a hanging cage type of bottle, not the kind of water dish given to your cat or dog.

Rodents also need soft bedding. Cedar chips are commonly used; although I switched to a brand of bedding from a pet store that supposedly had much better odor control. Odor control is definitely a must: these furry friends of yours will do some major pooping! That is one reason many pet experts do NOT recommend glass aquarium tanks sporting a screened lid as is common with reptile habitats as good homes for mice, gerbils, and hamsters-ventilation is very important. They also need a “hideaway” they can scurry away to for safety when they feel threatened, as rodents have many enemies in the wild-it is part of their natural instinct to hide from perceived danger.

The smaller the pet, the shorter its lifespan may be, so ask yourself if you can prioritize your time to accompany a small critter’s needs. Hamsters, mice, and gerbils can live up to five years, guinea pigs, chinchillas and rabbits may easily make it to 10 years; however, these are just averages. Now, on to the question of having more than one- rodents like having a buddy around, so two can be better than one – ideally of the same gender, mind you, or they will breed (like crazy!) So if you can keep in mind the main pointers above and never underestimate their importance, you should be well on your way to successful furry small pet ownership. Have fun and don’t forget you can always find other critter owners to interact with on discussion groups to share ideas, new information, or even participate in a club or contest!

I sometimes hear from people who feel deep regret about a past affair. Often, with the passage of time, the depth of their mistake becomes more and more clear. This, coupled with the fact that they are now facing the consequences of their actions, can make them feel the weight of their mistake.

I heard from a wife who said: “I would give anything that I own if I could turn back time and make it so that I never had an affair. I have ruined my life with one mistake. My husband found out and left me. He won’t take my calls. The kids are asking me every day where their father is. I am now realizing how much I put at risk over just some short term diversion. I am starting to worry that I have destroyed my marriage and that I will never get my husband back. And I know how much my husband loves our children and it wouldn’t shock me if he were to fight me for custody. Regardless, I don’t want to be alone. And I don’t want to be a single mom raising my children by myself. I wish that there was something I could do to negate all of the damage that I have done. Because right now, I just feel hopeless.”

I felt compassion for this wife even though in my own situation I was the faithful spouse. Her true sorrow was obvious and it’s very common to be overwhelmed by this outcome when there is nothing that you can do to change it. Unfortunately, there is no way to completely erase the affair. It happened and you can not take it back. So, you now have to look to the present and the future instead of the past. I will discuss some tips on how to do that below.

Your Sole Focus Should Be On Your Life Moving Forward: I know that it is very easy to keep looking back with regret, especially if you feel stuck right now. But it honestly doesn’t do you any good. It only keeps you from progressing. Since you can’t change the affair and it’s memory isn’t serving you in any way, it is time to turn your attention to today and to right now. Admittedly, this wife was in a sort of holding pattern as far as her marriage was concerned because she didn’t know what her husband was going to ultimately decide to do. But, there was plenty that she could do to pick herself up while she was standing still. Just waiting on his decision while being consumed with regret wasn’t helping her cause. It was important to try to be as positive as she could for the sake of her children and for the sake of herself.

Don’t Allow Your Anger At Yourself To Keep You From Doing What Is In Your Own Self Interest: It’s not uncommon for me to see people who are so angry at themselves for the affair that they are willing to accept whatever punishment and negative things come their way. They feel undeserving of anything positive and they do not feel worthy of understanding or forgiveness so they are not proactive about improving their situation. What I didn’t want was for this wife to just stay at home surrounded by her sorrow and her regret. Yes, she made a mistake with far reaching consequences. But no good would come of her becoming so discouraged that she didn’t try to improve her circumstances.

Every day, try to do something that is going to help you to rectify this situation. Vow to be the best parent, the best person, and the best spouse that you can. If you need counseling or self help in order to determine why you may have acted this way, then please get it. Because until you deal with anything that might have contributed to this, then you can’t be one hundred percent sure that you will not be vulnerable to this again. And in order to give your marriage the best chance, you are going to need to be as healthy and as strong as you can possibly be. Be very proactive in making yourself as emotionally healthy as you can.

The Best Way To Negate The Effects Of The Affair Is To Rebuild And To Heal: Admittedly, you can’t change reality. There is no way to erase the affair from your own memory or the memory of your husband. But, what you can do is to do everything in your power to ensure that complete healing takes place. You can do everything that you can to rebuild a healthy family. Because limping along and dwelling on your mistake weakens you and make you less of an effective parent, person, and spouse. And you and your family doesn’t less of the whole of what you have to give.

I realize that sometimes you can’t control every aspect of the future. Sometimes, your spouse will have some reservations about resuming your marriage. And you can’t always control this. But what you can do is to heal yourself as much as is possible, show your spouse your sincerity in making this right again, and being kind and gentle to yourself. Every one makes mistakes. Yes, this is a big one. But the biggest mistake would be to allow for this to ruin your life. You have a lot of living left to do. And the best thing that you can do is to grow and learn from this and to make any necessary changes so that this doesn’t happen again.

The remorse that this wife was feeling indicated that she was a good person willing to own up to and learn from her mistake. So no good was going to come out of her punishing herself any further.

What could you, as a real estate agent, learn from the conman who sold the Eiffel Tower twice?

Back in the good old days (the 1920s) there was a man named Victor Lustig who was a smooth-tongued criminal that went from one con to another, always looking for a way to separate people from their money.

He was involved in many scams throughout his career. But the scam that would make him famous throughout history involved the Eiffel Tower.

In 1925 Lustig, who was always looking for a new con, was in Paris and happened to noticed an article in the newspaper describing how the French government was having a hard time maintaining the Eiffel Tower. Being the consummate conman that he was, an idea popped into this mind. Why not sell the Eiffel Tower?

The first thing he did was have a counterfeiter create official government stationary and personally “appointed” himself to the prestigious position of Deputy Director General of the Ministère de Postes et Télégraphes. Then, letters were sent out on the official looking letterhead to five different scrap iron dealers; they were purposely vague and simply invited them to discuss a possible government contract.

When everyone arrived for the meeting, and after entertaining the men for a bit, Lustig made the surprise announcement that the government was indeed scrapping the Eiffel Tower.

He noted that the tower had been built in 1889 and was never intended to be a permanent structure, which everyone knew was true. He mentioned how the government could no longer afford the upkeep, something that the men had already read about in the paper. The paper had mentioned that the Eiffel Tower was in great need of repair, the cost was very prohibitive, and there was a brief comment that the government was actually exploring the idea that it might be cheaper to rip it down than to repair it. He was careful to stress that this was a very controversial decision on the government’s part, so the men had to keep quiet regarding the tower’s demise or risk public outcry.

Lustig then arranged to take each man on a tour of the tower to establish rapport, determine their emotions and select his “mark”. After interviewing each scrap iron dealer he selected a man named André Poisson and worked his sales magic.

After the sale was complete, Lustig immediately left for Austria. He made no attempt to hide and lived the life of luxury at Poisson’s expense. Each day, Lustig checked the Paris newspapers for news of his con, but it was never reported in any of the papers. He concluded that Poisson was too embarrassed about falling for the con and had decided to eat his loss. Knowing he was in the clear Lustig headed back to Paris a year later and pulled the same exact scam again.

Yes, you read it correctly, Lustig sold the Eiffel Tower a second time! But he wasn’t as lucky that time around. His mark went to the police and the story exploded in the press. Lustig was forced to leave Europe and head to the United States. There would be no third sale of the tower.

What does this conman have to do with you as a Real Estate Agent? Well, a lot actually. While selling the Eiffel Tower Lustig used specific techniques that Natural Born Sales people use; sales techniques that you should be using too.

Con-men and natural salespeople have exactly the same abilities. However, there is one significant difference between the two and that is intent. Con-men use these techniques of psychology to harm people in a win/lose proposition. The conman wins and the person they are working with loses… sometimes everything.

On the other hand, the Natural Born Salespeople use the same techniques to help people in a win/win proposition, helping their clients obtain their dream and buy a home, while becoming the top 10% of real estate agents doing it.

They are both experts at using psychology.

They are both experts at using the client’s emotions to sell.

They are both experts at using and gaining rapport.

They are both experts at finding out what the client’s unconscious mind wants.

They are both experts at finding out what emotions are driving that person and using those emotions to make a sale.

The difficulty comes when you try and get a natural born sales person to teach you to sell like them, and they can’t. They can’t because most natural born sales people have absolutely no idea how they do what they do. It comes naturally to them and they don’t even have to think about what to do to make a sale. This is why many top sales people make the worst trainers. They can’t teach what they do.

Now for the good news. These psychological sales techniques can be learned and mastered, and once mastered can propel you to the top.

For example, one psychology of sales principle is that people buy based on emotion and justify with logic. I am pretty sure you are even familiar with this principle, but do you know how to use it to make sales?

Imagine if you knew exactly how the principle worked, you could use it to help your clients while becoming a better agent yourself.

One of many natural skills, sales professionals and con men use, is to listen and ask questions until they understand exactly what the person wants, not only consciously, but more importantly unconsciously. This is one of the biggest mistakes many, if not most, real estate salespeople make, they listen but they don’t really understand.

In a sales situation, and even in everyday conversation, people use “Code Words”. For example a client might tell you that they are looking for a house with a view. The word “view” is a code word. You might think you know what it means but you really don’t. You understand what “view” means to you but not what it means to your client.. The Natural Salesperson instinctively knows they don’t know what “view” means and are able to extract the real meaning from the client.

Not too long ago this happened to a brand new agent I was working with. I was teaching her about code words. She seemed a bit confused at first and then suddenly you could see the light came on in her head. She told me that over the last couple months she had been working with a couple looking for a home. She had asked them what they wanted and they told her a house with a view. With that in mind she kept taking them around and showing houses with views. The agent happened to live in the Great North West where there are killer views of the mountains, valleys, and rivers, so there was a lot to pick from. But no matter what she showed them the wife was never happy.

One day while showing them a houses, they passed a neighborhood and noticed a sign leading to a house that had just that day gone on the market. They decided to call the listing agent and were able to go see it that day. While going through the house the wife commented on what a great view the house had and the agent was shocked because the house was completely surrounded by trees, and there was no view! The agent, while looking out the window at all the trees, asked what she meant and the wife said, “I can’t see any cars”.

For months the agent had tried to find a house that had, what the agent considered, a view, but it was never what the wife considered a view, and the agent was clueless. By “view” the wife meant she wanted to be able to look out the windows and not see any of her husband’s cars, equipment or tools… that’s what a good view meant to her.

Maybe if you understood code words and the other techniques used by the Natural born Salesperson you’d be able to sell the Eiffel Tower too. And if you could sell the Eiffel tower a couple times when it wasn’t even for sale think of how many houses you could sell that are.

Oh and as for our conman Lustig, he ended up dying in Alcatraz prison (where he was sent after being convicted of a counterfeiting scheme) and his death certificate listed his occupation as salesman.

It’s a tragic story that’s repeated each semester in nursing schools throughout the country. The increasing frequency of those occurrences has even drawn important media attention in many communities. People are left without hope or any one to turn to.

If you’ve never heard of these injustices, you probably are experiencing curiosity. I believe that this could be a priority for all Americans. Suppose you had to travel to the hospital tomorrow. What are the probabilities of an extended delay at your hospital or doctor’s workplace?

If you’re eventually admitted to the hospital, you lye in your bed unattended for hours. Of course, this is often unacceptable and something has to be done concerning it. The drawback is that the critical shortage of registered nurses in the United States.

The average registered nurse is forty-five – 50 years old. An alarming statistic reveals that fewer than 5% of RNs are less than thirty. Our nursing institutions aren’t keeping up with the number of people needed to cover the retiring nurses.

This creates an incredible opportunity for those inquisitive about training to become a registered nurse. Healthcare agencies are fiercely competing for RNs and are even paying out ethical fees to qualified RNs to start work for them.

You seize on the chance and begin investigating nursing schools. After such an achievement follows twenty-four months of school designed to position you for the nursing courses you must have to graduate. Excited, you press on to start the meat of the nursing program.

However, most nursing colleges place you on a waiting list of anywhere from 2 – three years! They merely do not have enough instructors to teach these classes. Community colleges appear to experience less of a problem with this, but you are solely receiving a 2-year degree.

Finally, your 1st nursing session starts. At 1st, things are rolling along quite nicely. Now, three years are behind you and then an unforseen drawback arises. It’s probably that med-surg class that many nursing students struggle with.

What seemed as a cake walk suddenly becomes serious as you conclude that nursing course with a mere 70%. You see yourself facing the Dean, who warns you that another grade duplicating that can lead to being expelled.

This is frequently a common occurrence in America’s nursing schools. When the second “C” comes, they are indeed dismissed from college – generally after completing three years or more of difficult work!

For those whose dreams are crushed, assistance looks impossible. The media reports stories such as this all over the country. Is it beyond reason to expect the nursing institutions be concerned?

The truth is that they do not have to. It is simpler to turn to any of the dozens of people happy to take your seat. After all, there’s always another individual waiting in the wings. You’ve simply become another nursing institution casualty. Unfortunately, most move on to something else – forever surrendering their opportunity. Quite understandable given the financial resources, effort and time expended.

Still, the media continue to report the outcomes. Eventually, I became fixated on resolving the problem. So what are your options if this happened to you?

At the end, I came up with a few options. One means to undertake is to enroll at a totally different nursing institution and start the nursing courses anew. I concluded that this was the most expensive, time-consuming option – and you’re positioning yourself to potentially be expelled again!

Another approach would be home-study. The upside of this was the power to maintain a versatile schedule and test out of courses. Still, my research was alarming as the failure rate was virtually 75% and graduates were hard to find.

Eventually, I found this link, nursing schools TN, giving a combination of flexibility and structure. This combines the home study approach with classroom tutoring, increasing the success rate to over 94%. An excellent example are these nursing schools in Nashville, although I found like centers in many states. Check out this nursing school TN for details.

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Do you enjoy a glass of wine with dinner? Many of us like a glass of red or white wine with our dinners. Whether it is with steak, seafood, or pasta, many types of dishes seem to taste better with wine. However, several studies now indicate that wine is not only tasty, it is also healthy! Health experts suggest that drinking a glass of wine every-other-day can provide us with several health benefits:

1. Red grape skins have anti-aging effects

Studies have shown that along with the skins of cranberries and blueberries, the skins of red grapes contain a chemical called Resveratrol. What is so special about it? It has antioxidant characteristics that provide several health benefits to humans, such as as an anti-aging agent. The Resveratrol is released during the fermentation involved in transforming grapes into wine.

2. White wine may improve lung function

A study that the University of Buffalo conducted has revealed that drinking white wine in particular, could help to maintain the health of one’s lungs. In the study at Buffalo University, the researchers learned that the lungs of regular wine drinkers performed better than those who did not drink wine. White wines in particular provided benefits to lungs, due to the antioxidants they contained. The wines in your wall wine racks could provide this benefit to your home’s guests.

3. Red wine reduces coronary heart disease

Researchers have discovered that various substances in red wine seem to benefit the heart. Studies indicate that alcohol may provide benefits to hearts, such as through lowering the likelihood of suffering from coronary heart disease.

4. A protein in red grape skins can kill cancer cells

Researchers at the University of Virginia have discovered that a protein contained in grape skins, can actually help to kill cancer cells in humans! The protein, NF-kB is located in all cells nucleus. The researchers discovered that drinking a single glass of wine 3-4 times weekly, is enough to block cancer cells from feeding on a protein that they need to survive. On the other hand, drinking more than that dose could actually increase the likelihood of getting cancer!

5. Red grape skins can keep arteries clean

Yet another benefit of the chemical Resveratrol is that it can clean the arteries of a particular type of unwanted plaque.

Finally, the million-dollar question is: is red wine or white wine healthier? You may need this question answered before loading your wall wine racks. While both types of wine help to increase our bodies levels of