Orgasm denial is a two-edged sword for most men who crave it. On the one hand, they DO crave it (and I mean really crave it — I have hundreds of emails from men who tell me they have had this burning desire since adolescence and in many cases have suffered in silence through marriage, divorce, remarriage and so on, before summoning the courage to ask for it from their lovers).

But let’s get one thing straight:

Orgasm Denial

Is not cruel, dangerous, kinky or even very unusual. Before the Internet I am sure ‘the community’ was confined to small groups and fetish magazines, but nowadays there are hundreds of blogs and forums dedicated to the practice of male orgasm denial and a dozen or more companies making a tidy living from manufacturing devices ranging from cheap (and not so cheap) plastic chastity devices to stainless steel chastity bets, made to measure and costing over a thousand dollars.

In other words, male chastity and orgasm denial is BIG business and there are LOT of men wanting it (and please, don’t swallow the hype about men who say they ‘have no choice’. They ALWAYS have a choice, even if they choose to pretend that choice has been taken from them).

So why does a man want it?

Well, in truth we can never know.

There’s a certain amount of physical pleasure under the suffering (a bit like when he takes his time bringing you to your own orgasm), but much of it is in the illusory loss of control. Many men who like this play are in “real life”, in positions of power and authority (my husband, for example, is confident and manly and runs his own business, yet he has asked for — and receives — long term strict orgasm denial for months at a time).

The fact is, if your man is asking for this, he really does want it. He might be nervous and afraid of what he’s let himself in for, and when you start to experience the pleasure of having him like this (because he becomes a LOT more loving, attentive and considerate), you’re going to start to wonder if letting him orgasm ever again is really a good idea.

Look, don’t fall for the hype and nonsense you see in the forums. Get the real day-to-day TRUTH about orgasm denial and the male chastity lifestyle from a genuine couple who are living it 100%, 24/7… so, just…