Marriage is supposed to be the union that surpasses physical, emotional and financial commitments; it is spiritual because every man (including the woman) is a spirit that has a soul and lives in a body, meaning when vows are exchanged in matrimony, it is not just the hearts that are united but the intertwining of the spirits of both partners involved to become one spirit hence the regular statement in matrimonial circles – and the two shall become one.

Marriage involves two imperfect people who have mutually consented to be committed to one another irrespective of circumstance, individual flaws and economic challenges in the course of the life of both parties.

It is with this assertion that therefore makes the option of divorce a coward’s way out of any marriage relationship.

Every decision is a product of predetermined habits which have become your disposition in life. Since you made a decision (either by cajole, infatuation or by true love) to be joined to your spouse, you are therefore responsible for ensuring your marriage works.

And if you say ‘we are not legally married’, that means you are cohabiting. This is not a relationship you want as it has no basis to succeed, for marriage relationship is about responsibility, commitment and sacrifice. So, if you are involved in a cohabiting relationship, why not formalize the relationship for a proper protection even by law, otherwise quit the relationship while you still can.

Now if you feel like doing something about the dismal situation you may be in, why not roll your sleeves and get to work in your marriage relationship. Making your marriage relationship work starts with you, you need a paradigm shift, develop yourself in your areas of weaknesses, get help, never be ashamed to say sorry, thank you and please.

Divorce should not always be seen as a way out of a marriage relationship. You can still enjoy your marriage instead of enduring the marriage.

Your choices in a marriage relationship are a clear indication either of your wisdom or foolishness (no insult meant) in choosing a life partner, so when next your spouse demonstrates a strange form of mannerisms, know that is your choice displaying your level of intelligence or imprudence.

Therefore, the earlier you start work on cultivating the right attitudes in your own life as well as that of your spouse, the better for your enjoying your marriage relationship.

Life, even your marriage enjoyment is choice driven.