I used to hate the term “Cougar” for all the obvious reasons. First, it evoked images of Mrs. Robinson in a girdle and garters, smoke billowing around her alcoholic head as she seduced a vulnerable (but willing) Benjamin. Flash forward to leopard clad women over 40 showing way too much cleavage, voguing in 4 inch stilettos, hanging out at bars, guzzling wine and dragging home young prey. Every time the media interviewed me, I cringed, knowing the obvious questions would be asked: “Isn’t this just about sex?” “Isn’t this just about money?” I endeavored to explain to them that in my 20 years of research as a human behavior research psychologist and world’s foremost authority on cross generational dating and psychosexual imprinting (translation: Cougar and Cub dating) that they had it all wrong. The media is promoting what I coined “The Myth of Stiffler’s Mom” as in the film American Pie. Stiffler’s mom seduces a young man, yet he is not the 6 pack ab, GQ model type. He is mature for his age, an intelligent. He gets in her head before he gets in her bed. The younger men and the media who think the younger man/older woman relationship is just about sex or money have never been in a relationship with an older woman. If they had, they’d know the truth.

The facts are fairly simple, and I say these with a great deal of certainty, as this is a demographic of people I have studied formally for over 20 years. If you are familiar with the bell shaped curve, you can easily see that the bell shaped curve can be applied to just about anything in life. Let’s plot out the younger man older woman dynamic on it and see what we find: In the mid section of the curve we have most of the older women. “Older women” can be considered any woman in her 20’s and older who date younger men. The majority of these women who fall in the mid section of the curve are ages 40-50. These are Cougars. Women in their 30’s are Pumas. Women in their 20’s are Kittens. Pumas and Kittens fall outside the center of the bell shaped curve. Let’s say they are 1 standard deviation away from the Mean, to the left of the midsection. Women in their 60’s and older are Panthers. Let’s put them to the right of the middle of the bell shaped curve. There are fewer Kittens, Pumas and Panthers than there are Cougars; but for the sake of argument, they are all “Cougars.”

What is a Cougar? Many women take offense to this moniker, as did I, based upon reasons I have given above. People actually get angry with me for using the word in my articles and research. Don’t shoot the messenger. I did not coin the word and I did not brand it. Blame the media. They are the ones who want to make Cougars look like neurotic, caricaturist, boy crazy, wackadoos.

I really had a viceral reaction every time I heard the word mentioned, read it in an article or saw my fingers typing it onto my computer screen.

Not any more.

Here is what I have realized and here is what I have advocated to the thousands of members of my Cougar dating site: YOU define what a Cougar is for yourself. Do not let the media. your friends, other Cougars, younger men or so called “experts” tell you how to define yourself as a Cougar. There are basic ingredients that do make up the definition: an older woman who dates, mates and/or marries a younger man. That is the basic criteria. You don’t have to look like Courteney Cox, have Demi Moore’s money, have Madonna’s confidence, or Cher’s success to be a Cougar. People who say a Cougar is a “sexy, confident, successful, mature woman who knows what she wants” is leaving out the majority of women who consider themselves Cougars but who may not be successful or sexy or confident. In fact, she may be fresh out of a 20 year stale marriage, up to her eyeballs in debt and feeling insecure about those extra 20 pounds but finds that she is attracted to and open to a relationship with a younger man.

There are “experts” who will try to tell people that a woman can be a Cougar only if she is over 40. Not true. There are women on my dating site who are in their late 20’s who date men 7 to 10 years younger who consider themselves Cougars. Being a Cougar is less about your age, economic status, body type or confidence level than it is about your desire to date a younger man.

I really do work hard to set the record straight for the media; but they print the salacious sex and money angle anyway.

In my Ph.D. research project “Childhood Psychosexual Imprinting and the Effects it Has on Adult Male and Female Relationships Specific to Younger Men Dating Older Women” I interviewed over a thousand men about their desire to be with an older woman. Each man could give me chapter and verse about a “defining moment” in his life when he became imprinted with a desire to be with an older woman: a school teacher, baby sitter, friend of an older sister, mother’s best female friend, actresses on television and films; the list goes on and on. For these men, it was not about the Myth of Stiffler’s Mom. It was not a roll in the hay with Mrs. Robinson, it was a powerful imprint that has stayed with them throughout their lives and keeps them going back to older women time and time again.

I have interviewed men in their 30’s who have been married to older women who are looking for their next older wife. I have interviewed men in their 40’s and 50’s who refuse to date women their age and younger and opt instead for the more mature woman. I met a man who was 82 years old who told me,”I just married an older woman,” and then he added with a wink,”Sex with an older woman is always better.” 82!

Psychosexual imprinting is an area of expertise of mine as it relates to the younger man/older woman dynamic. The “psycho” part has to do with the psychological aspect of the imprint and the young man’s personality and how it is formed and imprinted upon. The “sexual” part is prima fascia obvious. Imprinting is a very powerful, defining moment in a person’a life. We all have imprints, some positive, some not positive. The younger man who has imprinted positively with an older woman will seek out and bond with older women for the rest of his life. It’s not a one time, flash in the pan kind of thing.

This is what the media does not understand about this dating dynamic. And it is not understood by many so called “Cougar Experts” who are jumping on a bandwagon to sell books and speed dating sessions. My research in this area is extensive, comprehensive and documented; which is why CNN refers to me as The Uber Cougar.

So, if you are a Cougar, don’t be ashamed by this term. It is not derogatory. It is not a put down. “Wear the paw with pride” as we say on my dating site. Define who you are as a Cougar and dispel the myths that are out there. And feel free to email me with any questions you may have about my research and this dynamic. Ageism is the last barrier we are breaking down in dating. Even if you are not a Cougar at least now you understand a little more about what one truly is…and is not.

Happy hunting!

In the modern age, children as young as five are begging their parents for cell phones. Most parents wonder when their child is the right age for a cell phone. That would depend upon the circumstances. When deciding if your child is ready for their own cell phone, there are a several things that you need to consider.

Most parents wish to buy their children cell phones so the youngsters can keep in touch when they are away from home. These devices are helpful if they need a ride and allows you to contact them in case of an emergency. And as frightening as it is, a cell phone may be your only contact with your child during a school shooting or a terrorist attack.

Another advantage of a cell phone for your teenager is the fact that she can call and let you know where she is and when the she plans to be home. The added feature of a GPS can ensure that the teenager is where she is supposed to be.

The only reason that may you want a younger child to have a cell phone is to enable him to contact you when he is not home.This may sound like a good idea, but the main place where younger children are when not at home is at school, and many schools are now prohibiting the use of cell phones on their property. So if you are purchasing a phone for a child who spends most of his time at school, you might as well not even bother. He won’t be able to use it there anyway. Another factor is the child’s age. If a child is under ten, he really shouldn’t be alone anyway, so he should be able to use the cell phone that belongs to the adult that is supervising him. So purchasing a phone for a younger child is not a necessity.

Another disadvantage of purchasing a cell phone for any of your children is the added expense. While you may carefully track your available minutes and rarely use your text message feature, children do not keep track of the minutes they use and some teenagers send as many text messages a day that their fingers will allow them to type. Your child may also download games onto their cell phone adding up additional costs. These practices can lead to you receiving an astronomical phone bill. That does not include the additional cost if your child loses or breaks his cell phone.

While some parents consider the extra independence that a cell phone can give a child as an advantage, it could be viewed as a disadvantage also. While it does give your child more freedom, it is a freedom to communicate with the outside world without your supervision. This can open the way for sex offenders to befriend your child without your knowledge.

If you decide to allow your child to have a cell phone, you may want to purchase a prepaid phone to keep the price within reason. You should also put limits on the amount of use and the specifics of what the phone will be used for. Also take the time to talk to your child about not accepting text messages from anyone they do not know.

Cell phones are becoming a way of life for most Americans. While a teenager probably needs one of these devices, a younger child may not. In the end, the choice is up to you.

Unrefined shea butter is a nourishing beauty oil, rich in vitamins A, E, F and essential fatty acids. In its raw unrefined state this butter retains all of its skin smoothing and rejuvenating nutrients to balance, repair and restore elasticity and youthful softness. This natural beauty oil is one of nature’s best kept secrets for healthy skin.

Karite trees, the source of shea nuts grow wild in the African savannah in the countries on the east and west coasts of Africa. Modern business investors, interested in the growing global demand for shea butter, tried to cultivate karite trees on plantations to independently source raw shea butter. However, farming karite trees proved unsuccessful because shea trees were found not to thrive in a commercial farm environment, and it takes up to 15 years for a karite tree to grow to maturity and begin producing shea nuts. So, the centuries oil method of hand harvesting and processing wild shea nuts continues today and is the way this raw unrefined product is currently produced.

Unrefined shea butter has a characteristic nutty, smoky scent that some find unpleasant. The scent disappears soon after application and the results obtained are certainly worth tolerating this earthy fragrance as the vitamin and nutritive properties of this wild crafted oil are unsurpassed in promoting skin smoothness and soft supple texture.

The best way to use unrefined shea butter is to warm a pea sized amount in the palms to melt the butter and gently massage into the face, around eyes and into the neck and decollete. Feet, heels and elbows also benefit from this nightly beauty treatment. Applying raw shea butter to these areas before going to bed allows it to sink into skin and work its magic while you sleep. The next morning you will be rewarded with skin that is incredibly smooth, soft and younger looking.

Unrefined shea butter offers many of the same beauty benefits of fancy (and expensive) creams. After experiencing the wonderful results from this pure, wild crafted oil, it will probably become one of your natural beauty favorites, your own little secret for softer, younger looking skin.

Numerous anti aging skin care treatments are being discovered everyday. If you are still using the same old regimen you have been using in the past 10 years, you are sorely left behind. If it works for you, go ahead and continue using your regimen. But the thing is, our environment and skin care needs are changing daily.

As time passes by, the Earth becomes more polluted. UV rays can penetrate better in the ozone layer now. You are probably busier now. These changes can actually speed up the aging process of our skin. If you don’t make the necessary changes in your skin care treatment, skin aging will catch up on you.

Now that you know this, you should consider switching to a more effective skin care regimen. Here are a few steps that can help you get younger looking skin:

Step 1: After waking up in the morning, brush your skin

Brushing is one way of removing accumulated dead skin cells. At night, your body turns over dead cells. They accumulate in the pores of your dermis. You can try other exfoliating methods like using brown sugar or using citric acid. However, brushing does not only get rid of dead skin cells. This method also helps improve circulation and skin elasticity. It also purges out harmful toxins that make your dermis look older.

So use a soft-bristled brush and brush away! Gently run the bristles using a circular motion. Do not rub too hard. Just lightly brush your skin.

Step 2: After taking a bath and cleaning your skin, moisturize.

Keep your skin hydrated on the outside. Your moisturizer can help replenish lost lipids and moisture. Choose a product that contains effective natural ingredients. Look for the ingredients CynergyTK, Phytessence Wakame and Manuka Honey.

CynergyTK has been taken from the wool of sheep. This contains a hefty amount of Keratin. Keratin is a protein comprised of amino acids. This is the key for the abundant production of collagen. Phytessence Wakame is a type of sea kelp that can fight harmful enzymes. In doing so, hyaluronic acid is preserved. This acid is essential for collagen lubrication. Manuka honey also has emollient properties. This ingredient can lock moisture in dermis tissues and keep your skin hydrated for a longer period of time.

Step 3: Drink about 4 glasses of water before taking your breakfast

This can help curb your appetite in the morning. It also facilitates better hydration in your system. Water is also a cleansing agent. It can help get rid of toxins and dirt in your system.

Step 4: After a long day of work, spend at least 30 minutes doing yoga

Yoga is a form of exercise. But this is also a form of spiritual cleansing. It allows your whole body to relax and release stress. Chronic stress is the cause of numerous health problems.

Step 5: Before you go to sleep, take GSE or Grape Seed Extract

This is available in supplement form. According to experts, this supplement contains a lot of antioxidants that can help fight harmful free radicals. This supplement ensures that your cells stay strong and healthy all the time.

A liquid facelift is a temporary cosmetic treatment which uses dermal fillers, as well as botox injections to restore facial volume, reduce wrinkles and rejuvenate the face. Known as a non-surgical facelift, it’s a cosmetic technique which uses botox that will help to reduce dynamic wrinkles and dermal fillers to restore lost volume, which together will create a lifted, naturally youthful look.

The loss of facial elasticity and volume can lead to wrinkles, creases and folds developing;

• Wrinkles – frown lines, horizontal forehead furrows and crows’ feet at the eyes. Also the bunny lines on the sides of the nose and the lipstick lines on the upper lip.
• Volume Loss – this tends to occur in the mid-face around the cheek-bones causing sunken cheeks and hollows beneath the eye area.
• Folds and Creases – lines from the nose to mouth, the naso-labial and marionette lines, the chin and jowl areas.

Over the years, our face will start to lose collagen and elastin and this contributes to sagging facial features. A liquid face lift treatment can achieve any of the following:

• Gentle lifting of facial features
• Reduced lines, wrinkles, creases or folds
• Getting back natural, curved facial contours
• A more rested, rejuvenated look
• A friendlier smile

Botox

Botox is a muscle relaxant, which gets injected using a disposable syringe with a very fine needle. Small amounts of botox get injected very precisely into various facial locations, which get chosen by careful examination of the muscle movements on the face. The injection will temporarily suspend muscle movement in that area, smoothing out forehead furrows, crows’ feet and smokers lines on the lips.

Dermal Filler

While dermal fillers are sometimes known as wrinkle fillers, they do a lot more than just smooth out wrinkles;

• They smooth out the deep marionette lines, or smile lines around the nose and mouth
• Restore volume to hollow, sunken cheeks
• Fill in the tear trough area under the eyes
• Add volume and enhance the lips
• Soften the vertical lip lines, or smokers lines
• Smooth out chin creases
• Restore facial contour

A liquid facelift will enhance the natural features of the face and smooth and tighten the skin. It will balance out the shape of the face using advanced injectable techniques, giving instant, dramatic results. There’s no downtime with this procedure, although you can take a few hours to relax, allowing the results to settle and take shape. There’s only a small amount of bruising or swelling and any discomfort is minimal.

Having fine lines around your eyes can make you look older than you are. That is why some women are in a full out war against these undesirable crow’s feet! Thankfully, there are some options out there that make it possible for you to get rid of these fine lines and wrinkles faster than you think.

It used to be that there were no effective creams or over the counter products that would actually work against wrinkles. These days there are plenty of formulations that can work well using science and nature in effective ways. Many of these are cost efficient as well.

Amino acids have been found to be especially effective against fine lines. They can even stop muscle movements that can lead to wrinkles. If you’ve heard of the expensive treatment Botox, you might be reassured to hear that this kind of treatment offers similar, albeit not as strong, results.

Coenzyme Q10 and idebenone have been found to be effective as well. They are antioxidants that can eliminate free radicals and stop the formation of wrinkles.

Other options include proteins such as eyeseryl tetrapeptide. These help boost collagen production and skin firmness.

The point is that there are many available options to eliminate fine lines around eyes. You’ll usually find that the formulations for eyes are different than what you would use for the rest of your face. It can be tempting to just use the same product all around to save money, but it’s important to realize that the area around your eyes is a lot more sensitive than the skin on your face.

It’s well worth your time and money to buy a product that is specifically formulated for eyes. Companies often put a lot of work into determining the proper ingredients that will eliminate problems like crow’s feet. It will also take away some of the trial and error period that you might have to go through from using the wrong products. In fact, you really can save money over the long run.

There are also things you can do to prevent and treat fine lines around your eyes in addition to using products. Some tips include:

When you combine these ideas with a chosen product you should start to notice that your fine lines and wrinkles start to disappear. Having fine lines around eyes can make you look older than you are, and starting effective treatment can literally take years off the look of your face.

Your delicate skin needs to be treated with the best products available to mankind. The skin is the largest organ of the body and plays a very important role protecting you from many environmental factors that can negatively affect your health. It is important to use only the best skin care products to maintain the beauty and health of your skin and that is why you should be using natural anti aging skin care products.

As you age your skin becomes less able to repair and rejuvenate itself due to the loss of collagen and elastin as well as the break down in the level of hyaluronic acid. The loss of collagen is very damaging as this essential protein helps keep your skin tough and firm. As you age your body produces less of the two vital proteins which lead to wrinkles, lines and sagging skin.

Replacing collagen and elastin has been done for many years using collagen laden products. Products made with collagen as an ingredient has been widely used by everyone wanting to improve the appearance of their skin. However science has proven that used topically collagen cannot be absorbed into the skin. Its molecules are too large they are unable to penetrate the skin thus unable to provide the healing properties necessary to keep your skin young and vibrant.

Natural anti aging skin care products are available in abundance, however most of them are totally useless because of the ingredients they contain. Many of them contain harsh ingredients that are capable of harming your health and the health of your skin. It is always recommended to read the label of any skin care products, especially those claiming to be natural and ensure that these ingredients are not used in it. Avoid chemicals such as: parabens, alcohols, mineral oil, dioxane, fragrance and toulene. They have been proven harmful and should not be used on your skin. Do some research and see for yourself.

Enhancing collagen is extremely important to the health of your skin. I realized it was necessary to do extensive research in order to find skin care products that would perform as they claim preventing me from throwing away my hard earned money.

After doing extensive research and wanting to make sure I was using products that were not only safe but also effective, I discovered a line of natural anti aging skin care products that lived up to their claim.

They are made from some of the most natural ingredients guaranteed to repair and rejuvenate the most damaged skin. The best part is they contain a specially formulated ingredient that has the ability to stimulate the natural production of collagen and elastin in the skin. This means you will see natural repair taking place. One of the special ingredients is known as Xtend TK. It has the ability to stimulate collagen and elastin production, stimulate the re-growth of new skin cells, reduce lines and wrinkles and overall naturally repair and rejuvenate the skin.

Xtend TK along with other natural ingredients has taken the skin care industry by storm and are giving results never before experienced in the anti aging arena.

To ensure you are using the best natural anti aging skin care look for Xtend TK on the label of any skin care product before you purchase.

When children move up from primary to secondary school, it’s become standard practice to give them their own personal mobile phone. The phone should be sturdy enough, cool enough and cheap enough, so if they lose it or break it, no harm done.

According to a survey conducted six months ago in September 2012, 75% of children in Great Britain 10 years or younger carry a mobile phone!

Kids have different mobile phone needs than their parents or older siblings do, who love to text each other (from about 10 years and above). Younger children love the music feature, camera, and large accessible buttons to make phone calls with. Internet access is probably not necessary at this stage.

The culture of mobile telephones among children has become quite a phenomenon. In the olden days, children used to carry portable transistor radios, a calculator for solving math problems and sometimes a small pocket camera. This is all changed. The mobile telephone has become an all in one lifestyle accessory, with a pretty carrying case and personalizing decorations like stickers, charms, and covers. It is not only a status symbol, they are highly practical. “Mom I’m at my friend’s house,” later to be followed by “Come home in a jiffy, it’s time to eat.” Ah, the joys of modern technology!

When it comes to financing a kids’ mobile telephone usage, the prepaid plan is recommended. Paying as you go discourages a sky’s the limit mentality.

Applications are another matter. Games can be used as a reward system for doing their homework, and parents now must control that the child doesn’t put the cart before the horse. Most schools require them silent while school is in session.

Improved technology has resulted in worsened communication skills. This is something that media experts are looking into, the long term effects of this digital generation. Proactive parents need to both embrace the new technology and encourage verbal communication skills for greater confidence and social skills.

Suggested mobile phones for children include the Nokia 100, Nokia Asha 201,

LG Optimus L3, Motorola Defy and Apple iPhone 4S. Each of these has its benefits, with the emphasis on functionality. The iPhone is the most expensive but is extremely user friendly for young children.

Moreover, prices for these technological toys have drastically fallen. What used to be a luxury is not a necessity. Each new wave of new technology drops the price for existing models, and we all know that kids don’t need the newest ones.

The advantages of allowing your children to carry a phone are many. First of all it is easier to keep tabs on them. It allows them safety – if they are in danger, they can phone you or 911 for help.

There are applications available which help you track down your child, like Sprint Family Locator. Remember that when you ask where they were and they only say “with friends!” Teach your kids how to text messages – “I’m at Diana’s house” and be responsible.

Are you afflicted with unsightly under eye bags? Since you have found this article I am sure you are. And you are searching for a safe and effective cure to get rid of these bags once and for all. I have good news since I have found the solution to your problems which is easy to use, safe and effective and won’t cause you to break the bank.

You probably already know what causes these eye problems in the first place, however if you don’t let me give you a quick rundown as to why you have these bags. These bags are mainly caused from the accumulation of fluid in the skin under your eyes. You will also see these bags when your lymphatic circulation is not functioning properly. This will need to be enhanced to prevent leakage. Eye bags also form when you have a buildup of hemoglobin and waste matters.

With all the above taking place you need a treatment that can address the root cause of the unhealthy skin underneath your eyes. Using a product that will only sit on the surface will not give you the result you are looking for.

It is also very important to check your lifestyle. Do you smoke or drink alcohol? You should try quitting or at least cut down. You should also drink 8 glasses of water daily and eat healthy foods consisting of fruits, vegetables, nuts and fish. This combination will provide the skin around your eyes with all the nutrient it needs to keep it firm.

There are special ingredients you need to use to get rid of eye bags. They must be specially formulated to eliminate buildup of hemoglobin and improve lymphatic circulation, while making the skin under your eyes thicker and less prone to damage.

I have discovered an amazing eye serum that works effectively to improve the appearance of the skin under the eyes and remove eye bags effectively. The ingredients that work to help with eye bags are Eyeliss, Haloxyl, Homeoage and Babassu. These along with other natural active substances will give you younger looking eyes without any under eye bags, wrinkles or even dark circles.

The ingredients will work to get rid of any problem you are experiencing underneath your eyes giving you brighter more luminous eyes.