Women will commonly ask, even unconsciously, what they seek in a man they wish to call their husband. Men will do the same regarding a wife. But for women they seek a particular kind of husband. They need a husband with potential: to grow, to adapt, to lead softly, someone who is already committed to working on themselves, and to be a man in an old-fashioned sort of way.

But there is such a fine line in all of this seeking. For those with husbands already, there is a temptation to coerce their man into becoming a sensitive-new-age-guy. This is fraught with danger, because no man wants to be coerced, just as no woman does either.

For those looking for a potential husband, perhaps the most important clue is identifying within the man they are interested in, the character traits showing them as committed to working on themselves. Are they goal orientated toward virtue? Do they seek to become better people as they grow older? Are they improvement oriented? Are they willing to see themselves as wrong?

POTENTIAL IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN PERFECTION

By far what is most needed in a husband is potential and not perfection. A woman’s intuition is sated more by the man who fails but has a heart to try than a man who supposedly never makes a mistake.

As far as husbands go, and wives features for this too, perfection is significantly overrated. In the realm of relationships – whether alone with ourselves, or, in this case, in marriage – perfection is unheard of. And if perfection is strived for, we should connect with it a sense of sinful pride. It’s wrong to want to be perfect or to expect perfection from our mates.

Perfection and relationships don’t mix.

The typical woman’s heart is melted by the sincerity of the man’s diligence to do his best. She, at her best, doesn’t push him; she never expects perfection. She learns not to groan in the face of his failures. She learns not to give up. Whilst her husband is trying, and shows potential, and is not harmful, she remains by his side, believing in him.

RECOGNISING POTENTIAL AND GOOD EFFORTS

A great many marriages can be enhanced simply through positive feedback; the recognition of good efforts where recognition is due. Perhaps the perfectionistic wife, who groans often, might dissuade her husband’s better efforts. He learns early on that the effort isn’t worth it. His potential may well have been quenched. The fire for effort in this husband’s heart needs to be rekindled by a supportive and encouraging wife.

The wife focusing on her husband’s potential, however, commends him for the things he tries, both little and large, for the intent behind his actions. A husband with potential is much more about intent and virtuosity than being perfect in every way.

When the husband with potential is recognised for the intent behind his efforts he is encouraged to continue to work on his self-improvement.

Women want and need a man with potential, who is committed to working on themselves; not the perfect man. Their intent and their efforts in the relationship are supreme; their results are secondary. Failure is not a game-breaker. Men should focus on trying first and foremost.

© 2012 S. J. Wickham.

Persuasion techniques can really make your life easier. Wouldn’t you want to get what you want with just a snap of the finger? Well, maybe not just a snap but you know what I mean.

Think back to your own childhood days and try to remember if any of the following seems familiar. You might have used them at one point or another.

Tears Will Get You Somewhere.

Tears can be very powerful. If you’re a girl, it’s bound to be easier for you. I imagine some guys cringing at the thought of having to cry to get what they want. If you’re one of those guys, then you can either choose to ignore this paragraph or try to understand the mechanics of it.

Crying softly usually softens people up. After all, they don’t really intend to make you cry. In order to get you to stop, they’ll do anything. Even give in to what you want.

However, keep in mind that using emotional persuasion techniques is selective. They won’t work on everybody. Kids often use this technique on their parents; but remember, there are also parents who don’t give in easily, so choose your targets wisely.

Take Advantage of the Reward x Punishment Tactic.

A lot of people use reward and punishment to get people to do what they want. But you can also switch it around to your advantage.

If you’re dealing with a person who is fond of giving out rewards, then try tapping into those rewards more. Be the one to request the reward you want to receive.

Do nice, little things for that other person; so when the time comes for you to do the asking, it will be easy to persuade them to give you what you want.

Persuasion techniques come in all shapes and sizes. Effects vary depending on the wielder and the person such techniques are used on. You are probably the best person to decide which tip goes to what situation.

In the book of James in the Bible chapter 4 and verse 8 it says to draw near to God and God will draw near to you, and herein is an important key that is also taught by the major religions. That is by repeating mantras and prayers slowly, softly, and silently you connect with and become one with what the name, word or sound portrays. As you do this you will sense a deep love, light, beauty, peace, ecstasy and an expansion of consciousness into new awareness and wisdom.

Utilizing this practice along with centering in your heart is a way to discover the love and beauty which lives within you. The more deeply you allow yourself to feel the love, beauty and light that naturally resides within you, the more you will feel tremendously calm, complete, nurtured, supported, secure, connected, comforted, and loved. Do not underestimate the importance or profound nature of this practice. This is the establishment of your connection and awareness with whom you truly are which has been right there, present with you all the time. By not having paid attention to it you have missed it. Now by giving it some attention every day, you will discover some amazing truths about your real nature and deep divine truth.

Many have found that repeating specific words and sounds can help open and integrate a person with their deepest spiritual connections. You may find yourself drawn to come words or phrases more than others perhaps due to prior religious training and associations. I suggest you try several until you find those that have the most meaning and effect for you.

Mantras are words or phrases used to facilitate transformation and spiritual realizations. There is value to the vibrations the sounds produce as well as the meaning and intentions behind the words and sounds.

Suggestions for Using Mantras

1. Use only one or two mantras in any given meditation session.

2. Repeat the word or phrase out loud and few times and then begin repeating it silently.

3. Even though you are repeating the mantra silently you will find it helpful to move your lips.

4. This process is often found to be most effect when done in the middle of the night or early in the morning.

5. There are often shifts or breakthroughs at 20 minutes, 40 minutes and 60 minutes.

6. While repeating the mantra intend to connect more and more deeply with the intention behind the words or sounds.

7. Utilize one or at the most two mantras for a particular meditation session. Repeat it silently to yourself and be aware that the embodiment of the mantra lives within your heart.

The realization of your divine nature and the Supreme Self is the goal of the mantra practice. Listen and attune to the qualities that emerge within you as you repeat the mantra. A message will reveal itself to you as you continue with this practice. Here are a few common mantras from various traditions that are simple and effective.

Mantras from Mystical Jewish Tradition

Elohim – (The highest Creators. A powerful mantra.)

YHWH (Yod Hay, Vod Hay. The Divine Father aspect of God.)

Kadoish, Kadoish, Kadoish, Adonai Tzebayoth (Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord God of Hosts.)

Western Mantras

I Am the I Am

I Am God

Be Still, And Know I Am God

I feel deep love

Buddhist Mantras

Om Mani Padme Hum (The Jewel [of compassion] in the Lotus [of the heart]. This is considered one of the most powerful mantras in the world today.

Buddha

Quan Yin

Christian Mantras

Jesus Christ

Ave Maria

Lord’s Prayer

Hindu Mantras

Aum or OM

So Ham (I Am He, or I Am the Self. This is said to be the sound as God listens to the breath of humans. When you breathe in say So, when you breath out say Ham. Let the breath lead the meditation and mantra.

Sai Ram

Om Shanti (mantra of peace)

Rama (Name of God. He who fills us with abiding joy)

Om Namah Shivaya. Salutations to Shiva. I bow (or surrender ) to Shiva.

Shiva is the Consciousness dwelling in everyone and everything. His form consists of sat chit ananda – Existence, Consciousness, and Bliss. Shiva is also sometimes seen as the destroyer-the one who destroys sins and impurities of those who repeat the mantra. Each syllable of this mantra has meaning. Namah Shivaya has 5 syllables which are the form of the 5 elements.

Na = earth; Ma = Water; Shi = fire; Va = air; Ya = ether.

A Concluding Word on Mantras

Of course there are hundreds of other mantras to choose from and you will likely feel the most comfortable in using ones that are based on traditions that are familiar to you, but you should experiment with others as well.

After you repeat the mantra for the designated time you have decided to do the mantra stop and remain in a peaceful still state or bring an inquiry to mind. Allow the consciousness of God to reveal itself to you in whatever form that emerges. Surrender to the stillness and allow yourself to receive.

Speak into the stillness and ask for more clarification or elaboration. Such questions as, “Is there anything important for me to know at this time?” Then be receptive to see or hear what arises. Periodically ask, “Is there anything else I need to know,” or “tell me more.” Allow the insights to bubble to the surface. They may come as flashes or glimpses. Sometimes they come as single words, sometimes as feelings, and at other times deeper insights unfold.

It used to frustrate me like hell (and as you are reading this then I am sure you feel the same) when you play a great approach shot but end up a club or so short of the green. Would you believe it you are now faced with a shot over a deep bunker guarding the front of the green with very little ground to work with before the pin! What to do next? Well the safe shot from there would be to play a chip and run to the side of the bunker into the heart of the green leaving you with a long par putt.

The alternative shot would be to take on the bunker with a lofted club producing a high flop shot with the ball landing softly onto the green. This would give you every chance of ending up close to the hole. If you are going to play this shot then your next reaction is to reach for the most lofted club in your bag, problem is you have a really tight lie on very short grass and you only have a Sand Wedge available – think again. I have learnt the hard way that attempting this shot with an open faced Sand Wedge can lead to disaster with the ball ending up in the bunker and your confidence in tatters. The problem with a Sand Wedge is that it is designed with a high amount of what we call “Bounce”.

What is Bounce?

Quite simply the bounce of any wedge is referring to the part of the club head that makes contact with the ground, effectively the club head will bounce off the turf and the angle that this bounces off is determined by the sole design. The higher this angle then the more bounce developed.

The high bounce on a Sand Wedge is perfect for Bunker Shots or open faced high approach shots where the ground is either soft or you have a lot of grass under the ball. A Lob Wedge can make all the difference on a tight lie as you have a higher lofted club with a lot less bounce which means the club will have more chance of getting under the ball to produce the shot you are looking for. Investing in a Lob Wedge can certainly improve your play around the green and ultimately take shots off your handicap. Don’t make the mistake of choosing one with a very low amount of bounce say 8 degrees or less as this can be very difficult to play with. A bounce of around 10/12 degrees will give you the flexibility you need, remember you want to have the same confidence in this shot as if you were hitting a standard pitching wedge.

Tantric massage is oriental sensual massage. A sensual massage technique teaches you secret of enjoying your intimate private moments with your partner.

You may take massage in a massage parlor to get our daily tension or to get relieve from acute back pain.

Massage can be a highly sensual experience for couples provided its practice In the right circumstances, with a softly lit room, relaxing music, and using some essential aromatic oils or lotions. Foreplay with tantric massage techniques relaxes the body, arouses the senses, and can bring you and your partner closer together.

In tantric style of soft erotic massage, you discover which areas have the strongest impact on your partner. Palms of your partners while massage back of your neck, scalp, solar plexus, inside of the elbows, hands and feet , private parts gives you a feeling of pseudo orgasm. It certainly isn’t just the most obvious erogenous zones that bring pleasure.

Why Sensual Massage is more effective relaxation techniques?

Licensed massage therapist normally uses towel and touches you with palm or forehand. In case of couple massage, you can rest your head on your partner’s thigh and this intimacy, warmth and loving touch removes all hidden pain abd stress from your mind and body.

As an intimate partner, you can massage areas that are not as comfortable if attended to by a therapist even if the therapist is a professional. For example, sitting at an office desk for long hours can create stress and tension in the muscles at the buttock area. Some gentle kneading with the heel of the hand can solve this problem. This is also part of a sensual massage as the nerves that cross this area are related to a man’s groin and a woman’s uterus. Sensual massage is closely related famous Indian kamasutra.

You can add variety by using various massage accessories that are readily available today. An aromated massage oils not only stimulate the endocrine system to release relaxing endorphins, but allows a smoother massage to be given as they remove friction between your hands and your partner’s skin

Are you always in bad mood because of a very hot workplace? Do you always feel dizzy, uncomfortable and greasy inside your own cubicle in your office? Is your home more of a discomfort rather than comfort zone because you could no longer stand the heat surrounding you? Maybe it is time for a big change. Cool the surrounding air for comfort and ease. Nevertheless, you are still worried because air-cooling is relatively expensive. Your dreamy state of the coolness of air softly touching your face will be a reality because cheap air conditioners are now available in the global market.

With the tight budget that most families have, an air-cooling unit in the house is almost a luxury. However if you are living in a very hot place that it seems that you can no longer work properly or you keep on swinging from one side of your bed to another at night, then having your home cooled is a necessity. So why suffer when you can have effective cheap air conditioners?

Cheap air conditioners can be a split system, ductless and even unit systems. These systems usually are efficient units as it directs cool air where necessary. Just like portable air conditioners, cooled air is used to the maximum. Another advantage is zone cooling. Since not everybody has the same preferred cold temperature, each room can have one unit set to the desired coolness, as cooling activities will not overlap from one room to another. You can also buy the number of units you need without the hassles of paying in excess. Therefore, you only pay for the units you sure will be used in your home or in your workplace. This type usually does not have ducts thereby saving you space as well cutting cost on installation.

Still dreaming of cool air. Dream no more and buy those inexpensive yet durable cheap air conditioners.

Do you remember way back, sometime in the 80’s finding a place to exercise that made the whole thing easy? The inches fell off. Every week when you got measured you lost more weight. The sizes just melted away. You felt like a million dollars with all your new found energy. You never looked better. Your husband didn’t even complain about spending the money. The results came so fast the system was addictive.

Traditional exercisers scoffed at the notion that exercise results could come so fast and without pain. The old saying “no pain no gain” was tossed aside in the face of the truth of thousands of women who achieved incredible success and loved to tell their friends about their fantastic exercise system.

This place was totally relaxing. Music played softly in the background. Every exercise table had curtains drawn around it for the ultimate in privacy. You could wear whatever was comfortable for you. Some women wore jeans and a T-shirt, while others wore their work attire for the day. You could come in to exercise after work feeling stressed and frazzled and an hour later feel so rejuvenated, you felt like you had a massage. The results you achieved were undeniable. Your skin no longer sagged in your underarms, your thighs lost their bulges, your legs became shapely again. Your face is sculpted, your abdomen flat. Gee, when you look in the mirror, if you didn’t know better, you would think you lost 10 years!

Who can argue with results? When someone talks about how something should or should not work, it’s just conversation. However, when actual results come pouring in by the thousands, you have to pay attention to it. It goes from being a “claim” to being a “fact”.

The basis of effective exercise stretches muscles, making them more elastic and flexible and by nature stronger. The tighter the skin clings to the bone framework, the more toned and streamlined the physique appears. Physical Therapy is based on using a repetitive series of particular range of motion movements to achieve the desired goal whether that is pain reduction, rebuilding a torn muscle or restoring balance.

The only effective exercise system in the world is the one you will actually use. It doesn’t matter if you have a membership at the most prestigious club, if you do not go there and exercise. Following an exercise instructor on TV is perfectly fine, if you can do what the instructor is showing you how to move.

Wine coolers, the little darling of the refrigerator world, began gaining popularity several years ago, promising to keep bottles chilled and ready to pour, are now a standard feature in most state of the art kitchens. This relatively unassuming appliance entered our homes and apartments, generating for us, more enthusiasm than most compressor driven appliances ever have.

And having welcomed the wine cooler into our kitchens, bars and offices we also began to open up another world, one where we could showcase our favorite wines. Now we, and others, can gaze into the softly lit interior visible through the cooler’s glass doors, and easily view the prized trophies of our collection.

While wine coolers may showcase specimen and cults wines, they are also judged on their performance. This appliance is more than just your average refrigerator. Features like individual compartments are important for cooling red wine, white wine and champagne separately. Keeping each type at its’ optimal temperature: (red between 55 to 60 degrees; white between 49 to 56 degrees; and champagne between 53 to 59 degrees) is necessary for preservation.

Another important factor in wine storage is to keep vibration to minimum so as not to disturb sediment. To achieve this, many wine coolers use thermoelectric cooling systems over the noisier and shakier compressor driven ones. Thermoelectric coolers are also more energy efficient and do not emit harmful CFCs.

And, to keep out the harmful UV rays, most glass door coolers feature tinted tempered glass doors. The tinted glass doors and all of the other features mentioned offer a nice way to store wine temporarily. Most small wine coolers on the market are designed for short term storage only (a few years). To age wines over decades, consider a more permanent storage solution like: building a wine cellar or buying a specialized wine cabinet.

Gold is, of course, valuable. But so are other metals like platinum and titanium. So what makes gold so special? What is it about gold that inspires such passion in the souls of men that wars have been fought over it, that is has claimed millions of lives, that economies have been based on it and that it has, since the beginning of history, been the embodiment of wealth? There are enough answers and reasons to fill many libraries, but the bottom like is that it is rare and it is beautiful, both in itself, as a softly glowing ingot, or when worked into pieces of fine art. Since the cost of gold does not allow for the production of large gold sculptures or other works of art, goldsmith metal art is to be found in the production of jewelry.

There are two types of goldsmith metal art. The first is the manufacture of what is called production jewelry – that is jewelry that is based on a design and then made in multiple sets, usually by a mechanical process. This may not sound artistic but the design has to be first made into a model upon which the finished product is based. The beauty of the finished product, no matter how good it appears in the initial drawings, is totally dependent on the quality of the model from which it is copied. The model is made by hand and the model maker is, without question, an artist. And not just an artist but one who combines is artistic talents with the precision skills of a watchmaker. A piece of jewelry is continuously admired and studied and the slightest flaw will soon be observed and will diminish its value.

The second and more commonly accepted form of goldsmith metal art is that of the special order or commission metal artist. This artist produces unique one of a kind items either based on his own designs or those given to him or developed in collaboration with a customer. The process of creating individual pieces of goldsmith metal art can take different forms. The gold may be melted and then poured in specially made molds from which the cooled and hardened metal will take its shape. More intricate designs require the metal artist to cut and shape the metal into extremely intricate and complex patterns involving a precision rare in other forms of metal art. Not only must the must the finished item be a thing of beauty, but value of the metal from which it is made means that nothing must be wasted or lost in to manufacturing process. Gold that is lost in manufacturing adds to the cost of the finished work without adding to it physically.

Since much of gold jewelry involves the use of gemstones, the maker of goldsmith metal art needs to also ensure that the way the gems are set in the gold are part of the design and also that the gems are securely held in place and will not fall out.