“Distance means so little when someone means so much.”

That quote should resonate within the mind and hearts of anyone currently involved in a long-distance relationship. Even if you are thinking about getting involved in one, that quote will save you a lot of time, which would have been wasted with doubts and uncertainties.

REPLACING THE MISCONCEPTION

This quote needs to replace the common mentality that “long distance relationships do not work” or even “long distance relationships are doomed from the start.”

With that type of misconception, it is no wonder why so many people seem to avoid this particular type of relationship all together. The problem is that the high number of failed long distance relationships seems to eclipse the growing number of long distance bonds that succeed.

The key to making sure that your long distance relationship succeeds is simple: hard work.

It takes hard work and consistent effort to keep the flame of a long-distance relationship burning brightly.

Yes, it is imperative to make regular visits in order to see each other whenever possible without making the other person feel smothered. However, that does not mean that you are off-the-clock when it comes to working on your relationship in between those face-to-face visits.

EVERYBODY NEEDS REASSURANCE

Your significant other is searching for the same thing that you are – reassurance. Reassurance that you still feel strongly about them. Reassurance that you are just as involved in making the relationship work as they are right now. Reassurance that you are going to do everything you can to make it work – regardless of the odds that claim it’s improbable.

Therefore, you need to put in the time, effort and hard work necessary to provide that reassurance on all levels. Why? Three reasons.

1) Law of Reciprocity: If you do it, chances are that he/she will reciprocate your efforts to provide you with the same level of reassurance.

2) Value, Value, Value: Who doesn’t want to feel valued and appreciated? Putting in the time and effort to make your relationship work – despite the physical distance that separates you two – will add value to your bond and make your significant other feel valued at the same time. At the end of the day, isn’t that what you want?

3) True Love is Cultivated over Time: A long distance relationship shares a major similarity with a short-distance relationship: true love needs time to develop. An unknown person once said that “true love doesn’t mean being inseparable; it means being separated and nothing changes.” This essentially goes back to reassurance – making sure that you and your significant other remain on the same page.

THE BOTTOM LINE

There is nothing wrong with having a long-distance relationship. Although a high number of these bonds crash and burn, there are still quite a few that are still flying high in the clouds of love. The difference between crashing and flying is amount of hard work that you put into keeping your relationship off of the ground.

In a lifetime one goes through various relationships right from the time you are born till you die, as one grows older maintaining harmonious relationships becomes vital in success at home and at work.

There could be multiple reasons for going astray in relationships, when a kid the nature of relationship differs than when one is married, as it is only after marriage that the actual change in relationships are found.

Suddenly you find a mother becoming insensitive to her dependent child, a wife pampering her husband to get love and affection and to stabilise herself in the household. These are essential points to understand. If the husband is dominating and the wife is threatened, the efficacy of chanting the Hindu mantra combination of Gayatri and Parvati improves the positive harmony and removes the negativity around it. Many men tend to listen to others and not to the wives, and begin reacting as per the words of others, whom they have been trusting and spending their time in their previous lives.

This also creates friction between the couple, to make sure this does not grow the chanting of the Gayatri Parvatri Mantra is highly recommended.

Om Kaathyanaaya Vitmahae

Kanya Kumaryaiyasa Dheemahi

Thanno Durgi Prajothayath:

This mantra is to be recited 108 times daily after worshipping Goddes Parvati and Goddess Gayatri, in case one does not have the photograph of either, you can start by taking the names or the Goddess Parvati Mantra Sarva Mangala Maangalye Shive, Sarvaarth Saadhike, Sharanye Tryambake Gauri Narayani Namostute. and the Gayatri Mantra

OM Bhur Bhuva Swaha Tatsavitur Varanium, Vargho Devasya Dhimahi, Dhyo yona Prachodyat. After which one should recite 108 times subjecting ourselves to the infinite power of the Two Goddesses.

In a few days the change can be observed, and after sometime this will culminate into total harmony.

Likewise for any obstacles in life the Ganesh Mantra proves highly efficacious. and for further progress the Ganesh Gayatri is a sure shot, try it and you will feel the difference. For the benefit of all the two Mantras are mentioned as under.

Ganesh Mantra: Vakratunda mahakaya, suryakoti samaprabha, Nirvighnam kuru mein deva sarva kayeshu sarvadaa.

Ganesh Gayatri: Om Ek dantaya cha vidmahe vakrutandaye cha dhimahi tanno buddhi prachodyat. This should also be recited 108 times to remove any hindrances in life both professional and personal, and a great way to start your day, you will feel infectious energy within you in a few days time. Please practice and feel it.

A lot of attention has been given to the type of person who sees others as an extension of themselves. In this case, someone won't believe that other people have their own thoughts, feelings, and interests, and are, therefore, individuals.

It will be as though other people have nothing going on within them and are simply there to fulfil their needs. What this will mean is that one will believe that they are entitled to treat them however they want to treat them.

One Function

After all, as far as they are concerned, the sole reason for other people's existence will be to fulfil their needs; nothing more, nothing less. So, in the same way that one wouldn't have to ask any one for permission in order to use their own car, for instance, they won't need to ask another person for permission if they want anything from them.

The only thing that they will need to do is to take what they want from someone, and this may involve using them or it could mean that they will just use something that belongs to them. One is also going to see themselves as the center of the universe, which will cause them to demand a lot of attention.

All Eyes on Them

One is then going to need to be the center of attention, no matter where they are or what is going on. They could have the tendency to talk over others and to talk louder than everyone else.

It won't be acceptable for another person to have their own life or to do things without them, either. What will be acceptable is for the people in their life to focus their attention on them and to make them part of everything they do.

An Energy Vampire

One way of looking at this would be to say that someone like this will steal energy from the people around them. The energy that they take will end up being used to keep their ego inflated.

They are not going to be on the same level as other people; no, they will be superior beings. Through being special or different, it will give them the right to behave how they want and to take whatever they want.

A False-Self

Someone like this could have a limit range of emotions, and may typically only experience emotions that are in alignment with their sense of superiority. If their view of themselves is challenged in any way or if another person doesn't respond how they want, they could end up being consumed with rage.

This is likely to be a defense against feeling rejected, helpless, powerless and worthless, amongst other things. Thus, as long as people do what they want and they are able to receive positive feedback, this side shouldn't come out.

The Other Side

What is also spoken about, though not as commonly, is the type of person who usually ends up with people like this. The person above is focused on their own needs and doesn't care about other people's needs; whereas this person doesn't care about their own needs and only cares about others people needs.

Their primary concern is then going to be to do what they can to fulfil other people's needs, overlooking their own. In fact, due to being focused on other people needs, they might not even be aware of their own needs.
Selfless

One can then come across as though they are only too happy to do what they can to meet other people's needs. Acting as if they are simply an extension of others is then going to be part of who they are.

Neglecting their own needs is going to be what feels comfortable, and this is most likely going to stop them from realizing that they are being taken advantage of. Thus, when someone treats them as though they are merely an extension of them, it is not going to stand out.

A Strong Attraction

If someone treated them differently, and focussed on their needs, it probably wouldn't feel right. Yet, when someone ignores ones needs and expects them to focus on their own needs, it is likely to be what feels right.

And, what one could also find is that if they were to end up in a room full of people, they would most likely to be drawn to someone who will ignore their needs. What this will show is that they will have been drawn to someone who is an energetic match.

A Closer Look

What is clear is that one lacks boundaries, they don't value themselves, and they don't feel comfortable with their own needs. Deep down, they might not even realize that they are an individual, as opposed to an extension of others.

Along with this, they could feel as though they are inherently worthless, believing that their needs are not important. Taking all this into account, one is then the perfect candidate for someone who is happy to use others.

Back In Time

What this is likely to show is that one didn't receive the kind of care that they needing during their early years. This would have stopped them for being able to develop a strong sense of self.

Perhaps they were brought up by a caregiver who saw them as an extension of themselves, which would have caused one to be more like a caregiver than a child who needed certain things to be able to grow and develop. As a result of being treated in this way, it would have stopped them from developing boundaries, disconnected them from their needs, and made them believe that their needs were something to be ashamed of.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

There are some people who will feel comfortable being in a relationship with someone who is not abusive, while there will be others who won’t. Therefore, if someone who can relate to the former was to end up with someone who is abusive, they would probably soon walk away.

And, if someone who can relate to the latter was to end up with someone who is not abusive, there is a strong chance that they would also walk way. This might be hard to believe, due to what they have been through in the past.

A Common Outlook

When someone has the tendency to end up with people who are abusive, it can be normal for them to be seen as a victim. Thus, they just happen to end up with people who are abusive.

It is then as though they would jump at the chance to be with someone who is different, taking this opportunity with both hands. The trouble with this viewpoint is that it doesn’t look into what part this person is playing in all this.

Outrage

If someone like this was asked this question, they could end up believing that they are being blamed for what they have been through. This will then be an example of ‘victim blaming’, and their inner world could end up being filled with anger and even rage.

What this would show is that they have ended up being defensive, which will make it hard to get through to them. In fact, it might make it impossible to do this, and this may mean that this person will continue to behave in the same manner.

Two Choices

If they were to carry on as normal, it is unlikely that their life will just change. But, as they see themselves as a victim and believe that there are people out there who want to victimise them, this is not much of a surprise.

Alternatively, if they were to take the time to reflect on the fact that they play a part when it comes to who they attract, they will be able to gradually change their circumstances. This won’t be easy, but what it will do is allow them to transform their life.

An Opportunity

So, let’s say that someone like this was to come into contact with someone who is different, and that they ended up in a relationship together. Part of them might feel comfortable with what is going on, while another part of them probably won’t.

Now, what can define what will happen next is how aware they are of what is going on within them. If they were able to tune into the part of themselves that doesn’t feel comfortable, it will give them the chance to do something about it.

A Distraction

What can stop them from being able to connect with how they really feel is if they get too attached to what is taking place in their mind. This part of the can come up with all kinds of reasons as to why this person is not right for them.

Even so, this will only lead to problems if they allow themselves to be caught up in what this part of them comes up with. For example, their mind could say that this person is not a good match, or that they are boring.

Running Away

If they were to get caught up in what this part of them says and to ignore the part of them that wants to stay, they might soon end the relationship. They may even end up going back with an abusive ex.

Being with someone like this will make it harder for them to feel at peace, but it will be what feels comfortable. Yet, this will give them the chance to see that a big part of them feels at home with someone like this.

Deep Down

If they were to stay with someone who is healthy and connected with how they feel, as opposed to getting caught up in what is going on in their mind, what they may find is that they don’t feel as though they deserve to be with someone like this. And even though it will be clear that this person is not a threat to their survival, they may find that they don’t feel safe either.

When they are with someone who is abusive, a big part of them is going to feel comfortable. Not only will this be what they believe they deserve, but being with someone who is unpredictable will – as strange as this may seem – be what feels safe.

The Ideal

Naturally, it is going to be far better for one to stay with someone who is healthy and to work through what comes up, than it will be for them to end the relationship and to go back to someone who is abusive. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance.

If they are unable to do this, they might need to spend a little while longer with someone who treats them badly until they are able to get to the point where enough is enough. What they went through with the person who was different will have made it clear to them that not everyone is the same.

Awareness

It will be as though a seed has been planted in their mind, and this seed will stay there until it is able to grow into something more, something greater. In order for it to grow, it will be necessary for them to be in a functional relationship.

Most couples will admit that it takes work to maintain a healthy relationship. During those first exciting stages of dating, everyone is wearing their best party manners. It can be hard to find fault with one another. Those minor character flaws might be perceived as endearing or quirky in the beginning. Six months later, they’re called perpetually annoying habits or unbearable irritants.

When two people try to build on that initial bliss, problems can and do arise. Compromise becomes a necessity, and the glaring reality of imperfection shines like a spotlight. Relationship experts say people are rarely emotionally stagnant, even when they are one-half of the ideal pair. Combine the routine life challenges with a few unavoidable surprises and the most stable couples can sometimes find that they need help.

Where do they turn most often for relationship advice? After confiding in a trusted friend, but before seeking full-fledged professional counseling, many will head straight for the bookstore’s self-help aisle. It’s an amazingly successful billion-dollar industry aimed specifically at doling out advice to the lovelorn, loveless, or heartbroken.

The business now targets relationship seekers, recovering divorcees and every other imaginable aspect of the mating dance. There’s a do-it-yourself book for everything relationships. Add in seminars, retreats, television and radio shows, websites and audio books and you have a full-blown empire.

To name the most effective relationship experts would be difficult and subjective; but a “Who’s Who” list has emerged over the years. Each has a unique style and a different claim to fame. Their devoted audiences are as varied as their credentials and techniques. From the conventional to the unusual, here’s a list of the world’s most highly recognized names in the relationship advice industry:

o Dr. Ruth Westheimer

The diminutive 80-year-old psychosexual therapist, known simply as “Dr. Ruth,” was one of the first people ever to bring frank discussions of human sexuality to the forefront and into the living room. Her radio show, Sexually Speaking, which started as an “after-hours” listener call-in program, first aired in 1980. This icon has since authored numerous books, hosted her own television show, launched a number of games and videos, and still operates her very popular website.

o Dr. Philip McGraw

“Dr. Phil” is sure to go down in history as a no-nonsense relationship expert and the epitome of personal branding at its best. McGraw emerged onto the national scene by making frequent guest appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show where he was an instant hit with the audience. His common sense approach to couples counseling, colorful euphemisms, and “average guy” appeal has earned the bestselling author a household name and status as the king of daytime television.

o Dr. John Gray

He first taught us that Venus and Mars were much more than planets and the mythological figures we thought they were. His relationship philosophy and advice revolve around one basic premise: that men and women are intrinsically different and the key to solving relationship issues lies in understanding and honoring those differences. According to his website, over 40 million copies of his Venus-Mars book series, printed in 45 languages, have been sold worldwide.

o John Welwood, Ph.D.

Welwood’s trademark style to unraveling the mysteries of intimate relationships integrates traditional western psychology with eastern spiritual wisdom. He spent his early years as a student of philosophy, including two years at the Sorbonne in Paris studying existentialist thought. In addition to being a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist, Welwood is an award-winning author of a series of relationship books. Journey of the Heart, Ordinary Magic, and Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart are among the most famous.

o David Deida

There’s no doubt this New Age relationship guru has his share of controversy. His bestselling book bears a title that practically jumps off the bookshelf: The Way of the Superior Man. One reviewer raved, calling it “an astonishingly practical guidebook to living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom.” Another summed it up as “misogynistic tripe.” But Deida’s biggest critics point to his lack of credentials, insisting he has no formal degrees from an accredited institution. Yet fans remain loyal. Deida’s spiritually based relationship seminars for men, women, and couples continue to sell out.

o Dr. John Gottman

Dr. Gottman is one of the most academically credentialed therapists on the list. As cofounder of the Gottman Institute in Seattle, he and his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, seek to help couples and have the institute serve as a training ground for mental health professionals. The media dubbed his laboratory at the University of Washington, the “Love Lab” because of his research in couple interactions. His scientific approach to forecasting marital success is remarkable: Gottman is able to predict with more than 90% accuracy which couples will make it, and which will not.

o Dr. Laura Schlessinger

“Dr. Laura” is a favorite for the most controversial psychotherapists to ever hang a shingle. Some say she epitomizes anti-feminism, yet after 30 years in radio talk show hosting, she is still immensely popular. Call-in listeners are familiar with her confrontational style of dispensing advice and her books are equally straightforward. Eleven of them have regularly made the N.Y. Time’s bestseller list. The first one, Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives, debuted in 1994. The Brooklyn native earned her Post-Doctoral Certification in Marriage, Family and Child Counseling at the University of Southern California.

o Dr. Gary Smalley

He is the founder of the Today’s Family organization and the Smalley Relationship Center, a multipurpose family and marriage-counseling center with a 14-point mission statement based in Christian doctrine. During the past 35 years, Smalley has authored books, conducted hundreds of marriage seminars, and reached conference audiences that now number in the millions. His famous award-winning infomercial, “Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships,” has been hosted by celebrities like Dick Clark and Frank and Kathie Lee Gifford.

o Dr. Neil Clark Warren

Many know Dr. Warren as the eHarmony founder and spokesman, but before launching the dating website in 2000, he spent 35 years practicing clinical psychology. After counseling thousands of married couples, he believed that there was a better way to find a life partner without leaving it up to fate. Years of collaborative research with Dr. Galen Buckwalter led to the widely publicized Compatibility Matching System. According to a 2007 Harris Interactive Study, 236 eHarmony members marry every day in the United States after being matched on eHarmony.

o Dr. Gary Chapman

This marriage counselor, Baptist minister and radio talk show host has authored more than 20 books since 1979. Of those, The Five Love Languages is his most famous. He contends that as givers and receivers of love, we each express the emotion in a different way. Chapman identifies those five “languages” as quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. Therefore, understanding a mate’s love language will lead to effective communication. It’s also the basis of his radio show, “A Love Language Minute,” which airs on over 100 stations throughout the United States.

Relationships usually start off full of bliss, fun and enjoyment, and there is no much better feeling than that ‘brand-new relationship’ feeling.

What are the things to do to save a relationship when love is falling apart?

As soon as you start seeing some signs of a failing relationship you begin to stress and might even begin acting and thinking irrationally– perhaps muttering to yourself, “Please help me save my relationship,” which truly does not help the circumstance one bit.

Sure, it’s good that you are acknowledging that you need to save your relationship, but only you know within yourself if you are holding onto truth or fantasy.

The Course in Miracles states, “It is still up to you to choose to join with truth or with illusion. But remember that to choose one is to let the other go.”

How you act now can make or break your relationship, so if you truly want to find ways to save a failing relationship then the following pointers might be useful to you.

Exactly what is the Problem in the Relationship?

If they aren’t resolved, all love and relationships will have some problems, but some issues are worse than others and these issues are the ones that can break a relationship.

Even the little issues need looked into at the source when considering things to do to save a relationship, even though they are small, they can build up gradually and become the cause of love and relationships failing.

The Course in Miracles further states, “The ego seeks to ‘resolve’ its problems, not at their source, but where they were not made.”

Speak to Your Partner about the Problem

A relationship is a two person journey and you can not resolve all problems on your own.

Do not simply try to deal with the issue yourself if there is a problem in your relationship you will need to sit down with your partner and discuss it.

By discussing any problems that you have then you can both pursue solving the issue and learn how to save your relationship.

Do You and Your Partner Still Love Each Other?

Love is a really powerful tool and if you both still enjoy each other, then you should be able to use that source to save your relationship.

If you can keep the above suggestions in mind, it is possible to save a failing relationship that has issues.

Love is a two way street and you both need to feel love towards each other and be dedicated to saving your relationship.

If there is still a twinkle of love, can a relationship be saved?

Yes, of course, hope is among the top of the list on things to do to save a relationship.

To save a failing relationship, first understand that all relationships will have some issues, however some issues are worse than others, and these issues are the ones that can break a relationship if they aren’t resolved.

To save your relationship and your love for your partner, it is essential to determine any issues and work through them together.

Conclusion:

By talking about any issues that you have you can both work toward further things to do to save a relationship and fixing the problems that so many other love and relationships just don’t address.

Have a willingness and readiness to do what it takes to save your relationship.

Remember, it is possible to save a failing relationship when in your heart you are asking, “Help me save my relationship.”

Simply keep in mind the above suggestions for ways to save a relationship.

To saving your relationship!

Even though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn't mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people's problems.

When this takes place, they could end up being seen as someone who is a selfless human being. Therefore, one will be neglecting themselves but they will still receive a fair amount of positive feedback from others.

Socially Acceptable

What this comes down to is that it is often believed that it is a bad thing for someone to focus on their own needs and a good thing to focus on other people's needs. This is then something that is black and white and that's all there is to it.

Consequently, it will be easy for the years to go by and for one not to come into contact with anyone who will tell them that their behavior is unhealthy. Now, this is not to say that every part of them will be happy with what is going on; what it is likely to mean is that the part of them that is not happy will generally be ignored.

Outer Directed

One will typically be focused on what is going on externally, causing them rarely pay attention to their own needs and feelings, let alone meet them. They may be in a relationship or they may be single, but there is always going to be people in their life who need their help.

If they are not in a relationship, they might have more time for other people, but then again, this might not matter. They are then not going to be employed by anyone to be there for others, but it will be as though this is their reason for being on this earth.

Two Sides

When they are around others, they could generally come across as happy and easy going; however, this could be radically different to what they are like in their own company. During this time, they could end up feeling down and even depressed.

Still, they could come to believe that this hasn't got anything to do with how they live their life. They may have come to conclude that it is due to a chemical imbalance, for instance.

Business as Usual

Ultimately, the pain that they experience when they are by themselves will be there to let them know that they are living in the wrong way. Yet, unless they listen to themselves, it won't be possible for them to make use of this guidance.

They will continue to place other people's needs above their own and to put their own life on hold in the process. So, even if they do have a fulfilling career, for example, they are unlikely to be doing as well as they could.

A Distraction

One way of looking at this kind of behavior would be to say that this allows one to avoid their own life. Ergo, if they were to spend less time focusing on other people's needs and more time on their own needs, it might cause them to experiencing a lot of pain.

Based on this, if they were to face their own pain and to work through it, their behavior would gradually change. This is then analogous to how someone can stop comfort eating when they no longer feel sad, for instance.

Another Element

What one is likely to find, if they were to no longer behave in this way, is that they start to feel uncomfortable. If they were to go a little deeper, they may see that they don't feel comfortable with their own needs.

They may believe that other people's needs are more important than their own, which would explain why they try to do so much for them. Being there for others may then be an indirect way for them to fulfil their own needs.

The Downside

Along with neglecting their own needs, they may also find that their behavior rarely has a positive effect on others. The reason for this is that they could do things for others that they shouldn't do.

Through trying to rescue or save others, it will make it harder for them to take responsibility for their own life. It might be more accurate to say that they will be helping to keep some of these people where they are – in a dependent state.

Way Back

If one was to look back on what took place during the beginning of their life, they may find that this was a time when they had to focus on their caregivers needs. Their primary purpose would have been to serve their caregivers, causing them to lose touch with their own needs.

This would have set them up to believe that their value was based on what they did as opposed to who they were. Pleasing their caregivers would have been the primary way for them to receive positive feedback.

Awareness

The years would have passed, and this would have changed their appearance, but they would have continued to behave in the same way. And, Instead of trying to please their parents, they would have tried to please other people.

In order for them to change their behavior, they will need to change what they believe about their own needs and they may need to grieve their unmet childhood needs. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Numerology, as it’s known today, is rooted in number mysticism from over two thousand years ago.

But the wise ancient seers wouldn’t recognize today’s numerology; the modern approach often involves bastardizing the discipline in an effort to make it sexy and marketable. This is true with astrology and other forms of metaphysical divination too.

Still, you can get an idea of human character and personal timing through basic number mysticism, which has withstood the test of time.

Everybody’s unique energy is symbolized by hundreds of numerology factors, forming patterns in the natal and timing charts.

Root numbers are balanced, over-balanced, or under-balanced. The symbolic energy in the numerology charts is almost always over or under-balanced, as balanced represents lack of challenges, and few, if any people like that exist.

Personifying the extreme–over-balanced or under-balanced–forms of numbers allows for easier understanding of the related energies. Below we illustrate traits and behaviors associated with each of the root numbers one through nine.

1:

One is largely about self-energy, it’s inward turning and very driven. Though you may see her as self-absorbed, it’s just the way her energy shines. You’ll appreciate her stellar effort and self-directed energy to make your partnership the best it can be. But vanity (not necessarily a one-oriented trait) or stubbornness, for example, with typical one energy can be a devastating blow to any relationship. The one exceeds expectations when it comes to helping other family members be their best.

2:

Long walks, hand-holding, thoughtful conversations, and sincere feelings are part of the two’s mode of operation. Unfortunately, she can also be duplicitous and easily in two secret relationships at the same time, all while professing her love of life-long monogamy. Go easy on the two because he’s very sensitive and gentle. He makes a great partner, if he’s living the high side of the two, instead of the low side.

3:

Storytelling, play-acting, lively conversations, and entertaining make your relationship with the three exciting. But you worry about the three during his bouts of depression. Three is either riding a wave of optimism and happiness, or struggling in the trenches of depression. Never down for too long, those sparkling eyes and bubbly personality make you wonder how she could have seemed to be down and out only a few hours ago. Emotional stability is absent from your relationship with the three, but there’s never a dull moment.

4:

You will appreciate the practical nature of the four, such as how much money you save through frugality. He’s always there for you, but physically, not emotionally. Life is a trade off-in this case you get consistent carnal pleasure instead of sentimentality and tender affection. Reason is the four’s strength, bringing a grounded and logical approach to all things in your connection.

5:

Travel is great with five, as long as you allow him to have his freedom on occasion. The five will tire of forever holding hands and dining at romantic restaurants. She needs adventure to deal with her inner restlessness. Shockingly versatile, he’s the partner you want for stimulation. He’s an agent of change, yet so much so that it may lead to a new partnership since the five isn’t one for life-long relationships.

6:

Like the two, six needs to be in a relationship, more so than most other numbers. She wouldn’t mind a law outlawing divorce. “There ought to be a law,” “It’s the right thing to do,” and “It should be this way,” are typical sayings of the six. He needs to let go of his dogmatic outlook on life and just let things be the way they are. To his credit, six is one of the most responsible root numbers and you can always count on him.

7:

Seven almost prefers analyzing and daydreaming about yesterday’s delightful romantic date, or a future one, more so than the actual experience. She is into the spiritual side of sex and casual encounters aren’t her style. In fact, she’s very concerned about the energy she picks up even from her close lover. She does a Spiritual Detox after each coupling, and then meditates on the experience. Seven may seem distant, but you won’t believe how well he picks up your exact thoughts as if he’s actually reading your mind like one of his ever-present books.

8:

A wonderful thing about the eight is that she figures out exactly how to play every situation to the advantage of your romantic partnership. She gains, you gain, you both gain. A terrible thing about the eight is that she sometimes plays every circumstance to her advantage, bullying, scheming, and running roughshod over everyone else to get what she wants. Eight is the opportunist, in good ways and bad ways. Eight isn’t into romance, but his focus on money and success helps your partnership enjoy life’s material pleasures.

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Nine may be more charitable to others than to your own partnership with her. She can’t help it; lending a hand to those in need is her nature. Live and let live is his motto. Try to possess the nine, and he slips from your grip. Nine is wonderful, while it lasts. She means it when she says she’ll always love you, even though she seems so impersonal and detached. Nobody loves as deeply and sincerely as the nine.

Although it takes time to gain a working knowledge of it, numerology is an intuitive discipline that allows you to get a better understanding of personality and personal timing.

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When two people get together and start a relationship, they can both have their own life. There is going to be how one person likes spend to their life and then there is going to be how the other person likes to spend their life.

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Through being together, certain parts of their life are naturally going to change, while there will be other parts that won’t. What is clear is that they won’t have as much time as they did before to focus on certain needs, and this is because they will spend a certain amount of time with the other person.

Adding Something Different

Still, this is not to say that being in a relationship will be something that will have a negative effect on their life. Some things may need to be put to one side and they might not have as much time as they did before to do certain things, but being with the other person will allow them to fulfil needs that were not being met before.

There will be the physical needs that they are able to meet, as well the emotional needs. They may even be at the stage in their life where they are ready start a family, so this is another need that they will be able to fulfil.

Healthy Dependence

And, through having someone in their life who they can depend on, it can make it a lot easier for them to achieve their goals and to be their best self. The support that the other person gives them can allow them to reach out for things that they wouldn’t have reached out for before.

What this comes down to is that no one is their own island; they need others in order to function at their best. Ultimately, these two people will be a team, and this is what will allow them to be stronger together.

Two Parts

Having said that, if they didn’t have their own life, along with what they do together, this wouldn’t be the case. This is why it will be essential for them to make sure they don’t neglect the things they were doing before they got together – that is, of course, unless it relates to something that is no longer suitable.

Their relationship will add to who they are, making it easier for them to perform at their best when they are not together, and what they do when they are not together will add to the relationship. Both parts of their life are then going to be important.

A Key Part

If they were unable to continue to pay attention to others areas of their life, their relationship would be radically different. But, the reason they can focus on others areas of their life, even though they are with someone, is likely be due to the fact that they have good boundaries.

Both of them will know where they begin and end, and where the other begins and ends. This will allow them to maintain their sense of self, while being able to share who they are with the other person.

Another Scenario

This doesn’t mean that there will never lose who they are; what it means is that this is not going to be the norm. While this is how some relationships will be, there are going to be plenty of others that will function differently.

There are going to be relationships where one person ends up doing what the other person wants them to do, along with what they think they want them to do. In the beginning they would have been two individuals but, as time went by, this would have changed.

Out of Touch

One of them is then going to act as though they are nothing more than an extension of their partner. Their partner is then not going to be another part of their world – they will be the centre of their world.

Their behaviour will have gradually changed to accommodate the other person’s needs, and this is naturally going to cause them to neglect themselves. So, as the days, weeks and months went by, they would have gradually become estranged from their true-self.

The Main Purpose

Their main priority, once they met this person, may have been to do whatever they could to please them. This is likely to have been something that they were not fully aware of.

Pleasing the other person will then have made them feel good in the beginning, yet there is the chance that their emotional state has changed as time has passed. When they are with this person, they may be used to feeling trapped, powerless, helpless, and angry, amongst other things.

What’s going on?

What this is likely to show is that they believe that it is not safe for them to main who they are when they get close to another person. Disconnecting from who they are and focusing on another’s persons needs is what will feel safe.

As one is an adult it can be hard to comprehend why this would be the case; after all, it is not as if they need this person to survive. Hoverer, the reason why they behave in this way as an adult is likely to be due to what took place during their early years.

Childhood

This may have been a time in their life when they had to focus on their caregiver’s needs, with their needs being overlooked. If they hadn’t of done this, they may have been abandoned or even harmed.

Being treated in this way would have stopped them from being able to develop a strong sense of self. In addition to this, it would have caused them to believe that they need to focus on others people’s needs in order to survive.

Awareness

Behaving in this way would have kept them alive as a child but now that they are an adult, it causing them to suffer unnecessarily. Their needs are just as important as anyone else’s needs.

If someone can relate to this, they may need to reach out for the assistance of a therapist or healer.

If one was to find out that a friend or a family member is going through a tough time, there are a number of things that they could do. They could end up calling them up, or they could go and see them.

Once they have made contact, they could the take the time to find out what has been going on for them. This could be a time when they will simply be present, giving the other person the chance to talk.

The Next Step

After this has taken place, the other person could ask them for their advice or ask them to share their thoughts. Then again, one could share their thoughts throughout the time that the other person is talking.

Towards the end of their time together, they could tell the other person that they are there if they need them. Along with this, they may even say that they will contact them every now and then to see how they are getting on.

Boundaries

What this will show is that one will realise that the other person is an individual, as opposed to an extension of them. It will be clear that there is only so much that they can do for this person.

If they were to over step the mark, so to speak, they would end up trying to do things that this person should be doing for themselves. Therefore, instead of assisting them, they would be disempowering them.

Other Responsibilities

Through being this way, it won’t result in one neglecting other areas of their life. They are going to be only too aware of what they have to take care of in their own life, so getting completely consumed in another person’s life is not going to interest them.

What is likely to play a part here is that one will see themselves as a capable human being, which is why they see other people in this way. Thus, regardless of what this person is going through, they are not going to be a helpless victim who needs to be saved or rescued.

Ready to Help

Now, this is not to say that one wouldn’t be willing to neglect certain parts of their life for a short while if someone they knew needed a lot of support. What it comes down to is that if they were to do something like this, they won’t see themselves as some kind of saviour.

Also, they will know that there will come a point when it is time for them to take a step back, to make sure that they don’t interfere with the other person’s life. It might have taken them a little while to get to this point in life.

Another Scenario

Alternatively, after one has spoken to a friend or a family member who is going through a tough time, they could end up telling them what they need to do. Ergo, regardless of whether they have asked for their help or not, they will give it to them.

Or, they could offer their unsolicited advice before the other person has even explained exactly what has been going on. The other person is then not going to be seen as a capable human being, they will be seen as someone who needs to be saved/rescued.

A Natural Response

If this is how they see the other person, and they might not even be aware of this, it is not going to be much of surprise for them to behave in this manner. This will stop them from realising that they are crossing the other person’s boundaries.

Other areas of one’s life are then likely to end up being neglected, in order for them to try to fix the other person. At the same time, one could be in a position where their life is not very fulfilling.

An Escape

Even so, they could present themselves as someone who is strong and has it altogether, only for this to be a facade. Deep down, they might feel incapable and as though they need to be saved.

Their need to try to rescue/save another person is then going to be due to the fact that this person reminds them of what they have disconnected from within themselves. Solving what is taking place externally is then a way for them to keep what is taking place within them at bay.

More Harm than Good

Out of their need to avoid themselves, they are not going to be able to see how destructive their behaviour is. Their behaviour will also be a way for them to prove to themselves that they are capable, with rescuing others a way for them to try to do this.

If the other person wasn’t out of touch with their power to begin with, they might soon end up this way after one has been around them for a little while. One can end up feeling empowered as a result of another person being dependent on them.

Awareness

If someone finds that they have the tendency to rescue/save others and that they find it hard to simply be there for others, it can show that they are carrying wounds from their early years. To change their behaviour, it will be vital for them to get in touch with the part of themselves that needs to be saved.

One way of looking at this would be to say that their inner child is carrying a lot of pain, and that this part of them wants to be heard. Through connecting to this part of them and grieving their unmet childhood needs, it can allow them to grow.

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This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance.