Do not think for one moment that a man is foolish enough to be manipulated by false flattery. The greatest compliment you can give a man is complete honesty. Yes flattery is honest, or else it could not possibly be flattering. Lying to him does not make him feel good about himself.
This is not about mindless flattery. This is about making a man feel good about himself.
Here are the top 10 ways on how to flatter a man. He deserves to feel good about himself.
Flatter Tip #1: Men are the hunter providers. Since the dawn of time, his life task has been to provide, and the harder he works, the better he provides. Let him know that you know he is there and he is the one that provides for your needs. This does not particularly mean that he’s the one bringing home the most money. It could be your companionship, or the rock that you lean on.
It doesn’t matter what it is that he provides to you. He has provided you with something.
There are so many ways to be a provider. He may provide some tender loving care. He may provide the best laughs. Let him know that what he provides is just right for you.
Flatter him by thanking him for being the man that provides for you.
Flatter Tip #2: Compliment his great looks.
We women spend oodles of time and an obscene amount of money since before we were grown pampering to our looks. Our reward is growing up with the confirmation that we are attractive to the opposite sex.
Imagine never ever receiving a compliment on the way we look. Welcome to a man’s world.
He doesn’t have to be built like the Greek god Adonis to have a great body. Certainly, if he is, you are doing him an injustice by not rewarding him by saying so. Tell him how great he looks to you. If you like his warm snuggly chest or his cute little boy smile, tell him. Flatter him, its a fair and just reward for all these times he looked at you and said “Wow.”
Flatter Tip #3: Pay attention, notice him.
If you noticed he has taken the time to dress just right for the occasion, tell him so.
Look at him, if he has taken the time to shave nice and close, let him know you get it. Perhaps he took the time to condition or brush his hairy lip, notice it.
This is not just physical either. Notice him if he looks happy or sad, and let him know you care.
Flatter Tip #4: Tell him how great he makes you feel
Every man I have ever been in a relationship with has striven to make me feel good. Whether it has been in or out of the bedroom, he has vied for my attention by trying to make me feel good. Sometimes this has been by simple gestures, and many times the first thing a man has done to make me feel good was simply look at me. I think a man deserves to hear how good he makes you feel. When he asks you “how was that”? Don’t turn around and chastise him for asking that question. ( I know, sure he’d have to ask, didn’t he notice I moved, and what did he think that noise I was making was) He simply asked “how do I make you feel” in his man sort of way.
Flatter Tip #5: Show him you trust him.
Don’t think for one moment he is flattered that you get jealous. He hates this. He needs for you know that he is a good and honorable man. I’m sorry girls “I don’t like you looking at that other girl, it’s all about me, me, me” does not convey any sort of positive message all. Many men will find your jealousy a complete insult against all the admirable qualities a good man values.
Flatter your man and compliment his values with trust.
Flatter Tip #6: Compliment his skills from time to time.
If he is an athlete, attend his sport competitions. Stand on the side line and shout his name, call him on and treat him just as you would your favorite star player.
If he doesn’t play sports, take some time to see how good he is at the things that he enjoys doing, and let him know who the star is in your book.
Flatter Tip #7: Let him know he was right from time to time.
It happens, hard to believe but that’s life. Sometimes he might have been right. Even those times he wasn’t really right, perhaps he might have had a point somewhere. Acknowledge this. It not only makes him feel good, its fair play.
Flatter Tip #8: Laugh at his jokes.
If he made an attempt to be humorous, he is trying to entertain you and would love to hear you laugh. Who cares if you snort when you laugh or sound like you’re about to lay an egg. Let it out, he earned the right to hear you giggle. And this makes him feel great.
Flatter Tip #9: Appreciate him and the things he does for you.
Not only is it right to flatter him by expressing your appreciation for the little things he does for you, it’s just plain good manners. Don’t just say thank you for the coffee in the morning, let him know how you appreciate this small thoughtful gesture. Flatter him by pointing a few of these little gestures out. His sweetness should not go unnoticed.
Flatter Tip #10: Love him. Simply love him for who he is.
Flattering a man, and making him feel good about himself is not submissive “man worship”, it is encouragement to bring out the best of him, and therefore reflective to bring out the best in you.
My motto is “what comes around goes around,” and I could sure do with a little flattery from time to time.