So does it really help? Will avoiding my boyfriend sometimes really get him closer to me? Most women feel that if they make it a habit to avoid their boyfriend once in a while things will get better in their relationship.

But you see before you even think about doing something like this you should first answer a very important question which is – Why do you want to avoid him? What are your reasons for doing so?

…Is it because you feel that he isn’t giving you the kind of importance you deserve?

…Is it because you fear that things have changed and maybe he doesn’t like you the way he used to?

…Is it because he just doesn’t seem interested in you anymore?

…Is it because he has stopped spending quality time with you like he used to do in the past?

I am sure you can list more reasons but the big problem is that there is a huge difference between avoiding him purposely and giving him space.

What you should rather focus on is giving him space, but if you avoid him expecting a certain outcome then you might only end up making things worse for you. Let me tell you why…

You can’t force him into doing things for you…

If you are thinking about avoiding him just because he isn’t doing certain things then you will only create more friction in your relationship.

It’s the wrong mentality to adopt because what you are really telling him is that – Unless he does XYZ, you won’t really stick around.

This also means that you are keeping scores which will further frustrate him. If you feel that something is missing in your relationship and maybe you need him to do something for you, then the best way to do that is to be direct and talk to him about it.

He won’t magically know what you expect out of him therefore avoiding him might not really work.

It can turn into a nasty game after a while…

If you get into a habit of ignoring him any time he doesn’t give you what you expect, then this can very well turn into a nasty game of manipulation after a while and will further increase the tension in your relationship.

…But does it really work?

Well in short, yes! It does work. If you start avoiding him out of the blue then he will definitely start to wonder what caused it and in the process he might even fear losing you due to which he will show an increased interest in you.

But again, you shouldn’t avoid him just because you feel that things are starting to get a bit dull in your relationship or you aren’t getting what you expect from him.

The only time you should avoid him should be the time when he wants some space from you, and men do need space from time to time. That should be the only time you should be away from him.

The big problem…

There are a lot of women out there who understand that if they avoid their boyfriend sometimes, things do get better. But here is the big problem with that – It doesn’t make things better permanently.

He might show an increased level of interest in you momentarily but once you fall back into the same old routine again, he might start taking you for granted once again.

Therefore, as I’ve already stated, the only best way to deal with this situation is to actually have a detailed conversation with him on this subject. You will have a very fulfilling relationship if you make it a habit to talk things out with him instead of avoiding him out of the blue.

Important points to remember –

• Never think that giving a man some space is the same as avoiding him. Never mix the two.
• Don’t turn your relationship into a game. Never avoid your man just because he isn’t living up to your expectations. Make it a habit to talk about your issues with him instead of avoiding him.
• Men need freedom once in a while, therefore once you sense that he is indirectly asking for some space; make it a point to let him have it.